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If you weren't preparing for STEM in high school, why the fuck would you think you'd do well in College?

Look into a trade if you can.

>>17766429
I was doing alright for the last four quarters with it -- I have been sustaining As and Bs on average. This quarter, I just became so disinterested that I'm expecting to see two Cs, maybe even fail. I just don't care anymore. All I can think about are literature and art and gay shit like that and I can't be fucked to do or think about anything else.

Not comp sci. Anything but comp sci. It's as useless as an archeology degree unless you can program or have literal, genuine autism. You're already in debt so try and get something out of it, something that pays. Anything ending in 'of the Arts' is totally useless, not "useless" unless you've got a doctorate, and even at that point it's still not worth it.

P.S. "passion" is a meme designed to trick young idiots into pursuing their adolescent, idiotic dreams as a holdover motivator until they learn about the real world. Anyone taking it seriously after high school needs a harsh reality check. Yours is student loans so try to be ready when that hits.

>>17766379

half of your issue is you make each gender out to be some homogenous robot group all running the safe software.

girls are diverse. you are not the first choice for 99% of women. most men are not. yes, you are lower on the desirablity totem pole.

but so are a lot of women. if looks are whats important to you then sure, by all means, drop out of the race, cuz you arent going to get a hottie with a body when ur a nottie with a 'please put a bag over your head'.

but look around and you'll find plenty of ugly fat people (both men and women) who are in a relationship with one another. they more or less settle for someone who is compatible personality and lifestyle wise. the sex isnt great, but they still have it.

what does that mean? well it means you should still lose weight and attempt to put on muscle, cuz you'll at least get better girls than you could score now. you dont look ugly, just not hot. i imagine losing that weight in your face would make you a lot more manly, as would the right haircut, shave and maybe contact lenses.

you will still not be able to compete with the top men but you dont need to. you just need to look for women you are compatible with (both aesthetically and emotionally) and go from there.

I hope this isn't a troll.
You have less success because you are a 25 working at wallmart with an appearance that you can do a lot to improve but choose not to.
If you lose the weight, get a better job, and present yourself better, you will see more success. Never stop improving and you will find that things will go your way.
Few people are 'standard ugly'. If you work on your appearance you can be attractive and interesting even if you will never have a meme Chad appearance.

ngl you're height is a good starter, dont lose hope ok. Just get rid of the beard some may like it some wont, it does age u tho. Try some other sites like the money subscription dating websites they defo get u dates so thats worth seeing thu. Orrrrrr join something like a club or anything where u r made to socialise and create links from there. Maybe charity work, or signing up for a french course, taster sessions on things. That will enable meeting new people. Just get some really fuckking good aftershave too women love thatttt, I know that for a fact. Plus you're huggable

please kill yourself

>>17766378
>(not for sexual needs)

... yeah right, really convincing
And if it's true that might be even creepier

>>17766378
Take this to /r/ they'll be a lot more willing to help you, you Lil perv

If genital involvement and kissing turns you off, then what exactly gives you a boner? Perhaps you dislike touching body parts that are responsible for internal fluids or excretion? Are you tits kinda guy? Do you like ass?

You seem to not hate being love, but if all these things are limiting you, it'll be difficult to suck it up and get over your feelings, but not impossible.

>>17766318

im the same way. i dont like penises or vag. penis is better than vag but i dont want to stick either in my mouth.

oddly into buts, so there is that, but yeah. its okay.

>>17766335
>>17766335
I like lots of things, dirty talk really gets me going and I like the female form. I prefer tits, yeah, of all sizes, and I enjoy having sex but only when I don't think about where my dick is. Yeah, I think the fluids and stuff really gross me out, as does the sort of "unnatural" form of genitals, like they don't quite seem the same as the rest of the body.

I've been able to just suck it up and deal with it for the most part (I just CAN'T give oral no matter what I try), but I get really insecure about whether or not I can ever be a good partner when I'm so sexually disturbed...
>>17766350
I find butts appealing but not the asshole, like that's where shit comes from, lmao

Congrats on the new place to keep this /adv/ related I advise you get ant traps and towels ppl often forget those when moving

>>17766196
amaazzzinngggg your can whore that place up too.

and lie to him as much as you did to me.

Fucking christ... you are crazy, legit.

>>17766305
Nigga what

have dental insurance
that shit costs like $4 a month if you have a decent job

Dental insurance is pretty cheap but has a limit per year. Have her try to get the insurance now, then have her use up the coverage limit before the end of the year. The limit resets in the beginning of the year so she can get work done from now until December. Then have her continue what she needs done in the beginning of January.

>>17766212
Also, since she only has cavities and nothing serious like a root canal or a crown, it won't be as expensive

anyway that didn't deter her at all. this whole thing went on for a couple years. she even wanted to meet even though we live halfway across the country from eachother. I'm not really sure looking back when it stopped or why it stopped and it may have been my doing (I honestly don't really remember my memory is a little fuzzy as it's been a long time). from my best recollection I was going off to college and just dropped the game thinking I would meet some nice girl and actually fall in love (which I thought happened a couple times but didn't looking back on those relationships). i guess in my mind I really liked her a lot but considering the distance and circumstances never considered any kind of a relationship a potential reality despite connecting with her like I've never connect with any other girl (I've had several gfs since then). also it felt the idea of meeting a gf/bf online felt so weird for the time and thought nobody did that. anyway I went back to the game after a couple years had passed and saw she was playing too and at first she was extremely friendly and happy to talk to me but when I tried to ask her about how she had been she just kind of ignored me. I tried a couple times later on different days and she still gave me the cold shoulder so I felt that was that and did my own things.

anyway what I'm wondering is should I send her a facebook message or something of the sort? I've thought about this a few times over the last few years and I'm just afraid it will seem really creepy and stalkerish so I shake the idea and forget about her for months but without fail like a bad relapse one night randomly I will have a dream about her and it will all come back. It's not like I think about her day in and day out. I literally never think about her until I'll have a dream and then the next day or two it may linger on my mind. I've never seriously considered it and probably haven't even thought about her for a year but had the dream AGAIN last night and that's why I'm here. i honestly had a major crush on her then and not sure if she felt similar about me or just felt I was a super close friend but the second she would ever sign on the game or AIM she would be ecstatic to talk to me and we would literally tell eachother everything even things we kept from our close friends. even to this day I remember quite a few of our inside jokes.

here's the thing she never deliberately gave me her facebook even though she wanted to trade but I didn't have one then. only way I found her today is because after one of those dreams I curiously googled her old AIM name remembering she used it a lot and sure enough her deviantart popped up. and even on that page today there are still pictures she uploaded from back back then of just us hanging out in the game.

I'm only worried it would be very awkward to hit her up 8 years after the fact but we were just so close for nearly 2 years spending almost every night up all night with eachother. I've just never connected with someone else on that level. BELIEVE me when I say I want to just drop it and get it out of my head but I can't because in the back of mind I always wonder what if?

so should I just take the leap and do it and if so how do I do it without seeming like a mega creep? I'm not even expecting or looking for a relationship I would just like to be in touch again ya know? I really just wish I had kept a way to stay to in touch back then. I mean she literally feels like the girl version of me. it's weird because we've never even actually met but I just get this gut feeling about her I can't describe and feel like I related much more to her than I have any of my actual ex'es. I can't even believe i'm sweating this so damn much.

I guess my main point is I really want to reconnect with her given how close we were but if doing this will just make me seem creepy I rather not do it at all and preserve the memories of all those good times we shared.

okay sorry for rambling on. truly though for anyone who may be reading this thank you a ton for the time and advice. I'm not the kind of person to reach out but this is something I would really just like some outsider perspective on.

>>17766119
The ugly guys tend to have fucked confidence, so to save embarrassment, they pick the easy way out. Or maybe you have certain qualities only certain people dig after all.

Post pics or at least describe yourself as objectively as possible. (Don't forget personality)

>>17766119

psot pics of yourself so we can understand the mindset of guys looking at you.

>>17766119

They reject YOU? How does that work?

>>17765998
I was going to tell you to get a sugar daddy, but you specifically said no. Unfortunate, as that's by far your best option, if you're decently attractive.

>>17765998

rich guys dont need skype dates, they are rich enough to have real dates.

>im up for anything
>EXCEPT FOR ACTUAL WORK
>OR ANYTHING LIKE PROSTITUTION LOL

so free money?

>>17766006
Yeah I thought the same, but the only ones I looked at were more along the lines of "We have to fuck twice a week, and I'll give you some monthly allowance"

I don't know, that's not something I would like personally.

It really sucks there's no way to borrow such large amounts for surgery, they should put medical loans a lot higher

>>17765982
You don't need to prove or disprove anything, nor do you need to talk about something that discomforts you, specially if it's something best left behind.

Tell her to knock it off.

>>17765982

decide whats more important, the relationship, or having her understand.

cuz you might lose her in the process.

if the relationship is more important, simply try to let it go, dont bring it up, and rant to a friend when she forces itl.

>>17766023
>>17765996
Thank you both. It's about what I figured. Just bugs the hell out of me when she does it.

That depends do you find studying the law and learning to manipulate it interesting bc if you answered yes than I have good news for you

>>17765956
this. im doing law part time and i personally hate it but its a great career if you find it interesting. Law requires a lot of studying if you actually want to get good grades, and reading law is extremely tedious. im doing criminology with law at university, its 75% crim, 25% law. though i dislike law, i go to quite an average uni so i can bull shit it with out much studying.

>>17765956
I love studying law and I'd imagine I'd love practicing it too, but as far as I know being a lawyer is more than just that.

Things I don't think I'l handle or like in the slightest are
-The fucktons of paperwork
-Corruption
-The chance that I'l starve due to not having cases/clients

Yes.

>>17765882

yeah but there will likely be other issues.

This is possible but you have to put in real effort in order to keep a relationship going well. Lots of ppl are too self-centered and think only about what they get out of a relationship instead of what they bring to it with compassion strength and love you can make a relationship work

>>17765876

uh, stop parking in front of cottage 64 then?

nevar

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its very much common sense.

Do you live in cottage 64? If so, keep parking there. If not, stop parking there

Will you listen to me? Are you hard headed? Then no. Are you not hard headed? Then yes

But she got a new bf while we still hung out talking of getting back, never told me until recently to get my cat and because she said she was "afraid". Basically a month after they started dating they went on a 2 week vacation abroad, as we used to do. And she doesn't wanna talk to me anymore. She says she forgives me for my outbursts, but still says that there was too much pain with me and she let herself feel angry at me since before she was too "afraid".

Am I the problem here, or does she have issues? Or both?
Is her new bf just a rebound? Think she'll contact me once her anger subsides? (No contact started just two weeks ago, though we broke up several months ago. We were hanging out for the first few months)
Is there any chance of me having a relationship with my condition? Will all girls leave me once they know my burden?

>>17765869
>>17765872

any story that takes more than one week to tell tends to not have a single 'bad guy' in it.

your issues are your own, and you try to make it seem rougher than i tis.

you mentioned PTSD, and then you mention rough childhood.

even if your childhood was rough, true PTSD would overshadow that.

I'm not saying that either of those are false or untrue, but the point is you are trying to paint yourself as broken as possible. and when you open with

>ptsd
>rough childhood
>IS IT HER FAULT?

really its no ones fault. a little bit of both your faults, but mostly, no ones fault.

you guys dated. things went south. you broke up. you tried to get together, but it wasn't going to work. this happens all the time, even without ptsd and rough childhoods.


>will future girls break up with me once they know my burden.

many will. some wont. most will find a different reason. break ups are natural, and most people break up becuase of incompattibility.

the truth is most women want to be taken care of. im not sexist, im not pol or r9k, its just a very basic and understandable social dynamic. women have a very 'shallow' support.

they make up for this in many other ways. they take care of men in a very different way, one that many would argue make men feel more fulfilled.

but ultimately women want to be taken care of. if the guy gets super depressed, you are a burden to her and she should leave.

if the girl gets super depressed, you need to man up and support her through this.

its just the way our social dynamics are at the moment, so most women (not all) arent going to want to be with you.

some might, they're out there, but all relationships end so dont focus on something that lasts forever.

>>17765893
>you guys dated. things went south. you broke up. you tried to get together, but it wasn't going to work. this happens all the time, even without ptsd and rough childhoods.

Is that how it actually looks? I might naturally have bias in thinking that she kinda didn't try to get back with me, she didn't really wait for me and just got with someone else and pretended to be doing it so she could get my cat (who really didn't like her that much even) and because she was "afraid" of me...

also can anyone answer this;
>Is her new bf just a rebound? Think she'll contact me once her anger subsides? (No contact started just two weeks ago, though we broke up several months ago. We were hanging out for the first few months)

Because she was there during my worst, I still love her and always will despite what she might have done which seems manipulative to me.

>>17765781

waiting for whatever the problem is to kill you.

>>17765781
If you are going to kill yourself, please before you do protest in front of medical insurance company. Go on the news. You might gain support and decide not to do it. Or if you're really committed you can go out like a boss and set yourself on fire on live TV or some shit.

>don't have insurance
Obamacare doesn't look like such a ripoff now does it.