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>>17769424

you need to take a close look at what you're saying.


first and foremost

>she friendzoned me

ergo, you over invested and had romantic feelings. she claimed to see you as a friend at best, but in many 'friendzone' cases, they dont like you as a friend even they're just too 'nice' to boot you from their lives.

>i doubt she thinks of me at all

if the above stuff WASNT true, then this statement would be pretty silly still. you are are making an assumption.

>i dont think this one woman thinks about me
>therefore women care less about men

again, she made it clear that it was YOU in particular she didn't like. but even without that, you're just assuming and then generalizing an entire gender.

>womene have so many dudes chasing them

i think a big problem is that you're also asking everyone else to generalize their feelings on an entire gender.

while girls tend to be more pursued, you make it sound like they have to like each guy who pursues them. they dont. remember that when you pursue someone (Regardless of gender) you are forcing yourself upon that person. not in a bad rapey way, but you are the one insisting you be a part of their lives, because you want that person.

they are under no obligation to be a part of your life.

imagine if a fat ugly girl came up and bugged you every day and she was annoying on top of it all and you were just too nice to tell her no and then she went and said
>MEN DONT CARE ABOUT WOMEN CUZ YOU DONT CARE ABOUT ME

>what is the truth here

the truth is that you're ego centric. you have your feelings and if they arent reciprocated you take offense, when in reality you are pushing yourself on others and saying that your love is worth something.

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Sorry anon, but the truth is that no one really cares about you unless you're a woman

>>17769440
Op wasn't asking if women are obligated to care. Of course nobody on planet earth is obligated to give two shits about anyone else. Whether they should, that's a different question.

>>17769371
What's your husband's position? Does he know your relationship with his mother? What does he says? Does he want his mother to be with you on Christmas? Did you tell him that you don't want?

>>17769371
If she won't even speak to you directly and makes you feel bad, you shouldn't feel obligated to spend christmas with her. Tell your husband to grow a pair and not let his mum control him.

>>17769397
We talked about this a while before hand. He knew I did not want her to come this year. I said, maybe next year we can do Xmas there, but with the newborn baby, I don't want the added stress.

Her birthday was Nov 2nd, and I fulfilled my wifely duties of buying a nice gift for her and sending it. Before I sent it, I told my husband, I know this is going to make her want to come down here, and I am not ready for it right now. In 2017, okay?

But she started pressuring him and then calling my family members, who then called me.

I told him, sure she can come down, but how about before Christmas. She blew up.

He has a real issue with his mother. I would call him a mother's boy. He is from Boston and I heard that is very common there. He has strong feelings of both love and hate for her.

His parents got divorced when he was a baby and she never even dated after that. He is her only kid, her only son, and there is an extreme amount of psychosexual tension and the mother is very jealous and hateful towards me.

I just want to feel comfortable at Christmas, and I gave birth recently and I think I deserve that. The timing is just bad.

Find anew older dude who you respect and befriend and learn to emulate him. Find out how he came to overcome different obstacles and what motivates his behavior. Then follow suit.
Kind of like WWJD, but with a real person.

>>17769369
I've already sort of done this. I played a lot of sports in highschool and I guess some of my coaches sort of filled the father figure role. Jesus Christ.

Not raised by a single mother, but my dad died when I was young.

Don't fall for the surrogate father meme, you can be your own man. We live in the information age and any "manly" tasks like changing a tire, fishing, using power tools, etc. can be learned. I've met a few pussies raised by single mothers and the fatal mistake they always make is just not trying to learn. You need to be proactive and take weekends to just learn how to do shit.

pleasure without work shrinks your pleasure center.

if you were meant to 'enjoy life' as in, ONLY enjoy it, then conflict wouldnt exist, we wouldnt feel stress.

ergo you are meant to enjoy life... and also suffer.

I work every day towards my dream and goal with will hopefully bring me even more happiness.

You need to struggle to appreciate the rewards of life.

ill be real real here

are you ugly/fat?

>>17769345
>don't feel comfortable with it

Just smirk as if you were being given blowjob.
Plus you are going to university right? plenty of time to grow into a better person.

besides its gonna be alright

you're at the very least 18

you can go to university/get a job and start a new life and noone will know the aspie you were

>>17769299
Hahahahaha I know exactly what you mean! When I was at university it happened many times to me to have weird ppl bug to me! They could never stop it! They are retards who went to uni and they think "oh it's time to socialize!lets find a guy that I like to be friend!" And then they stuck with you. To me it was even worst,cuz I am girl,I was studying computer science and I was the only girl there. It was so fucking annoying. But after the first weeks,I started being rude to those retards,so they stopped talking to me!what a relief! You should do the same. If you want to be more kind,just find some excuses to avoid them,like you want to stay alone to study something,or you want to talk to the phone etc. after some time they will get the message

>>17769375
I'm being rude to him constantly

He went to wc and I knew he could hear me so I started talking behind his back with few other guys, if any other person heard that they'd beat me but the guy just came back, he said something like "you know I heard you right?" I felt so relieved because I thought he will stop talking to me but not even an hour passed and he came back like nothing happened

>>17769299
He's definitely into you, OP. Maybe just give him a hand job he'd go away.

Plan B is NOT contraception. It's an emergency method to get rid of a potential fertilized egg cell. Which means it floods your girl with hormones causing severe cramps that artificially stimulate her womb to puke out its contents. It's hard on the body and not something to do for a night of fun.

Just talk to her about possibly getting on the pill or getting a IUD/variation, if she doesn't want that accept it's something for another time.

>What is the most surefire way to prevent pregnancy?

don't cum inside her

>>17769243
You don't want to do it on the last day of her period, you want to do it on the first or second when the flow's highest.

But really, you should talk to her about contraceptives. A vesectomy is the nuclear option but there's paradise on the other side.

When women break up with you they've been thinking about it for way before the breakup actually occurs.

>>17769234
But I broke up first, as she grew distant/stopped having sex/ just came back to mine to sleep. She was a wreck, and we stayed friends until she started weaning me off, while i said i wanna get back

so... she was gonna do it anyways? fuck me

Well you should be happy for her, or did you want her to be depressed?

>>17769224
Talk with them over the internet and first establish an emotional connection before trying to take things further?

>>17769224
Asexuality is acceptable these days.

>>17769224
You don't seem to have that big problem,I mean that you like some girls if they are unique enough for your tastes,but they were taken,that's why you didn't try for a relationship. I think that when you find a decent free girl,everything will go great.
Also,do you have any stress?

>accidently stealing

sigh. What happened?

>>17769221
Explain how you got caught stealing ? how was it an accident ? What did you steal ? What happened after ? Just sayin a few lines no one can help you

>>17769221
>accidentally stealing.

Are you black or Mexican?

Yeah, she's probably still wrecked to some degree from the failed relationship. Knew you had some degree of chemistry since she made out with you, and thought at worst you could be a good rebound to pick herself back up.
But maybe got cold feet for one reason or another. If I wanna give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she's a good person, maybe she realized it'd be kinda shitty to use someone like that, especially if they had genuine feelings for her

In all honesty, she's the one who cancelled. Social rule dictates it's her responsibility to reschedule, that's the polite thing to do since she rudely had to cancel (even if for valid reason).
I'd do nothing, and probably just still keep my eye out for other ladies. If she wants you, she'll come to you. You have zero obligation to chase someone who's that wishy washy.

You need to drop this chick.

She's probably using you for validation or something.

>>17769204
OP here, that's really good advice
I'm seeing her anyway every day at uni, I'll just act normal and see what happens

>>17769165
Rarely does an opportunity like this come around. Take the chance anon, plow that milf. Become your best friend's dad.

>>17769165
You don't really respect your friends, do you?

>>17769165

yes, go for it

No? But it's fucking weird to ask about this on an anonymous advice board.

>>17769086
No he's a CUTE. If you don't want him, I'll take him, no homo.

Funny desu

You know her too so you are just as bad

If it was damn near any other situation, I'd tell you to not tell her.

But, because she's your FUCKING NEIGHBOR you might have to face the music, or she'll find out a harder way a bit down the road.

You could either, break up with her and hide it.
Tell her and go from there.
Move out ASAP and ghost your neighbor 100%
Or hide it, and hope it doesn't blow up in your face down the road.

Keep in mind I'm very biased cuz I'm not in your position..

But personally I think you should be honest, tell her, and say you feel awful and didn't mean for this to happen, and be compassionate.
Tell her you love her, and that you'll respect whatever decision she makes, and that you regret ever doing it and even though you totally didn't even remember you did that because you were drunk - own up to your mistake and say you know you're at fault.

It's hard, but you put yourself into this, please please be a man and own up to what you did, despite how "hard" it is, imagine how hard it must be for her, but she deserves to know and have a choice, It's the right thing to do man.

>>17769062
>Move out ASAP and ghost your neighbor 100%


I was considering this, Think I'm going to. It's going to be a hassle and a half but might be a the answer

She told you exactly what the problem is. You're too meek and expect others to tell you what to do.
So take charge.
Make a move.
If rejected, move the fuck on.

>>17769043
Sorry. Roommate sent it to me to make fun of my misfortune.