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>>17766665

More details needed:

HOW did you fuck up?
Did you already apologize
How do you know her?
Are you trying to "Netflix and chill" this shit? (because that's what it sounds like--and that's not a great thing to imply after fucking up a first date)

>>17766669
tldr got along great, was too pushy for sex, now she must be conflicted about how she feels about me

she isn't ghosting me, hasn't blocked me, I need a way to break the ice and get her friendly again

I apologized via text by saying "Hey X I'm sorry if I got a little carried away back there it won't happen again" (a few hours after the fact)

She took a day to respond and said "Hey"
"Its okay haha"
Then the texts in the OP happened


We hung out on Saturday

>>17766669
We met at a house show

We hung out there before our actual date


I actually like her as a person and want to hang out and date

No, but I went from honor student in high school to complete peace of shit in college.

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OP here. I should also state that the reason I cried like a little bitch was because my asian parents are paying a shit ton to fund me, my brother is unsuccessful too so I feel a need to make my parents proud, my boyfriend is one of the smartest people I know and all my parents when to prestigious schools, never accomplished anything worth while in my life and never amounted to anything, and I just want to get out of here. How do focus and study? Should I whip myself?

Op read this, you can thank me after

http://waitbutwhy.com/2013/10/why-procrastinators-procrastinate.html

>>17766624
Nah, that sounds alright to me.
He's just close to her, that's aight.

>>17766624
LMAO takes him to doctors what a fucking nerd. what if they're super close because he almost lost his life when he was a kid when he suffered from head trauma after getting ran over by a car? i know a guy like that. shits not funny dude.

I think you're focusing on the wrong question here.
It doesn't matter at all if your bf's relationhip with his mother is typical.
All that matters, is if he's happy with it - and, since you're his gf, if YOU are happy with it.
If you both are, keep doing what you're doing.
Id you aren't, change something.

helium exit bag

>>17766573
Extreme sport.
The adrenaline masks the pain.

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In case you're serious.
Talk to someone, first.

don't stress it, she's an evil bitch

>>17766412
She's a frigid cunt who is manipulating you to make you feel bad.

Most people aren't cut out to actually be friends to one another. If you're arguing and she feels the need to say something to cut you down, she was just staying "friends" with the intent of doing just that to get even for whatever she blames you for.

Been there, brah. It sucks, but that's how it is. She's toxic and offers nothing irreplaceable in your life.

>>17766340
15 and he's already figured life out?
Get that man a beer.

>>17766340
Did you boost his ego by pretending that high IQ means shit?

Also what the fuck, he forgot sex.

>>17766355
I mentioned his IQ so you know its not that hes stupid hes just not trying.

If your anxious in general when not high then stay far from hallucinogens all together you'll likely have a bad trip and give yourself ptsd

It may give you anxiety as well, it depends mostly on the set and setting. Or you can become anxious if you think about it too much.

But I warn you, don't mix them, I had a few friends that did and they went bonkers

>>17765959
But I don't want to die without trying it. I couldn't even try a lower dosage? I don't plan on taking 2 tabs the first time or something. I'd want to take just enough to see what a psychedelic is like. Could that really give me PTSD?

>>17765971
There have been times where I smoked weed and kind of zoned out on my thoughts and it spooked me. Some weed effects to cause me to become anxious but I am not sure why desu. Feels like there isn't a reason, really.

He needs to grow a pair. There are people he doesn't know and it's simply their opinion.

What you need to do is apologize to him as much as possible and make it up to him in any way, because ultimately, this was your fault. Not anyone else.

There isn't any "do something" to do aside from apologize.

>>17765824
Right. I've apologized so many times already. He says it's all good not to worry about it but I still feel really bad about it and I don't know why I can't just let it go.

>>17765828

do some romantic guesture. have a threesome with another girl or do some sex act you hate but that he loves or just the traditional: surprise him by being all dressed up sexy when he gets home with his favorite home cooked meal and then ride him til he pops.

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>>17765437
Have you search for these?

>>17765437
Google "short men with beautiful women" and stop using that as an excuse.

If you can't get girls it's because you broadcast "You wouldn't really want me" in your behavior and attitude.

>>17765452
>when will they learn

>>17765039
> i just feel this is a total slap in the face to my mom.

You are allowed to say that to him, you know. Do that.

>>17765044
he can't handle personal criticism well at all so that wouldn't be a good idea.

>>17765039
You don't know the whole story. The marriage may have been over a long time ago, and he went through the mourning process (for it) a long time ago. So he isn't necessarily cold, but just further along in the recovery process than you.

So I don't think you have a right to say it's immoral for him to be looking. You probably do have a right to suggest it will look bad to others and he should just look for a while and not go public with his recovery for a while.

>>17764889
Don't inject random shit, it would be extremely painful, even for a big guy, and it's not even sure that it kills you, you could just end up disabled.

Why don't you just jump off some shit?

Jumping off shit is a definite "it's all over". This guy wants someone to find him half dead because he too bitch to talk to soneone.

>>17764929
thats the vibe im getting too. just have a classic breakdown in front of your parents/therapist op instead of wasting perfectly good syringes and cleaning supplies in order to be noticed.

You're a moron.
You want to take 50k and get rich through investment, but also want to commit suicide and not invest any more into your life.
Give it to charity and just kill yourself.

>>17764760
>get rich
Kek, maybe if you start your own business.
Just go to SEA and fuck beautiful Asians chicks all day then anhero

>until 50,000 runs out
What? Why?
You know what the fuck I would do with that amount of money? I'd at least start a buisness or at least put some of it into long term investment. Fuck, id quit my job and day trade, getting up whenever i please.
Dude, don't blow off all that money. All that work. For what? Temporary pleasure? You could increase that wealth.

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To that guy that helped a girl with BPD cheat on her LDR bf.

You know, C. Her bf J, the guy that immigrated to the US. The guy that's supposedly really abusive and a real POS?

First off no he didn't immigrate to US, he was born there. Second, he isn't a real POS or abusive. He's really super nice and kind and loving and loyal and understanding. He has a feeling you are the reason she is there in the first place, right? You were the one to get her the job?

Your initials are JC, right?

J told me isn't mad or anything. He's not going to put her on blast or anything. Could you please talk to him? You can't believe a word she says about him. He's really cool actually. He has been going through a lot and is looking for some peace of mind is all.

Tell him before she decides to do something to him or to get one of her white knights to do something bad to him. He's kinda scared right now, he just sent me a long message about how someone was threatening him once before because of things she lied about.

Just cried after a really long day.

I love her so much, and the fact that we might not work out is nearly unbearable. I need her, and I don't want this to end. Please please please don't let this end, no matter what.

>>17764207
yeah... how long have you been together?

Wish I could help.
One day I went to deposit rent in person and the lady said I had a outstanding offer for a credit card. Some 10 minutes later I was talking to a personal banker, and after paperwork, I had a $800 credit card in 2 weeks. I had been with the bank since I was 18, so four years. Maybe that helped?

Also it might help to have a bill under your name. Like I said I went to deposit rent, and it was off campus house with friends. The internet and cable was under my name. So I guess I had established payment history, cause I always paid the internet full and on time

>I just graduated last year so no previous credit history.

That's the problem. Some credit cards have a minimum credit rating required, With no credit history, that means your credit rating is low. You have to start with smaller lines of credit to build your credit rating before you can qualify for better cards.

Also, possibly stolen identify - have you checked your credit reports?

>>17767217
>Also, possibly stolen identify - have you checked your credit reports?
that's scary. How would that work? I'm just under the impression that I just have no credit history, though I have been paying my government student loan since fall of last year if that helps at all.

Really I'm still kind of stumped on what this all means since I never wanted a credit card in the first place but reality hits since I'm eventually going to need a car or house loan.

I guess eventually I'll get it if I keep applying? I was under the impression that places like Canadian Tire would be desperate for customers though.

And what will you do after you run out of weed?

>>17767012
buy more weed nigga

you're all a bunch of shills for big pharma anyway, it's not like the Xanax a psych would prescribe OP doesn't cost money to refill too, with worse side effects. you people act like illicit drugs are so horrific, but the licit drugs are worse! Nobody's ever died from smoking too much pot. People have died from popping your psychiatric drug cocktails. Every single year.

"Go to a doctor", a phrase repeated often on this board, is code for "take more medication, crazy". Remember, it's okay when a doctor prescribes your life ruining drugs!

>>17766974

Weed can be fun. But I wouldn't treat a mental disorder with it, you are asking for trouble.