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>>17776184
Maybe you arent attracted to her

Look into ED (Erectile Dysfunction)

That sounds like what's going wrong.

If it works fine while you're on your own, then the problem is just in your head.
Take your time. If she really likes you, she will be patient.

>>17776118
How stupid everyone is.

People who go to college are just as dumb as people who don't. Every person on the planet wants to find some reason to look down on the others around them, but we're all pretty much the same deep down.

How stupid young people are and how smart young people think they are.

This is hilarious, honestly /o/ might be able to help, you'd have to power it with the engine running, making it a fairly technical question

How is it hilarious? Do you think its a dumb idea & that i shouldnt do it?

Electric stoves are shit to have even in your house, mate. Get a microwave and a travel sized propane bbq grill.

Sounds not good to me. Give him the ol' dissaponted talk.

bad? I dunno
Retarded? Yes

Momentary pain is a bad motivator. How old is he?

>>17776066
I'd understand it's a rite of passage, and it's going to happen at some point in his underage lifetime, and while that might be a direction for certain children, I do not believe I'd force that punishment upon my own.

Chances are he'll potentially become addicted to the large amount of nicotine at once, and have one hell of a time breaking that addiction, and be a smoker for the rest of his now much shorter life.

But, if he's able to break the addiction at an early age, good on him, and you taught him a great lesson. But, it can go sour.

>>17776061
>Is it possible to run away to a giant city like la or NYC with nothing and figure something out?

Possible but unlikely. Do you have any real skills or talent?

>Please I need to be a celebrity
Why?

>>17776061
Cool. Make a documentary with your phone camera called, my life as a retard

>>17776067
Because I've been playing music ritualistically and obsessively since I was very young and got an autistic obsession with it.

It just recently came to my attention that you need to be in or around a major city to even have a chance at being noticed for a chance to do anything.

Op here:
He also said they belittle the fuck outta me, and that I should drop this all and forget about it.

Bump? I really need help here...

>>17776054
Why would they even tell you then.

No. You were already iffy enough about her before to break up with her. Now this extra thing will strain you even more.

>>17776050
How long were you together? Why did you think it wasn't working out?
Perhaps she wanted something different and it took sleeping with a black man for her to realise this. At least she didn't cheat on you.

If you both want to get back with each other, fine, it doesn't make you a cuck. But like the other anon said if you felt iffy, perhaps you should take more thought into it

>>17776050
once you go black, we dont want you back

your student loan is 124,000? holy shit

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>>17776020
>12 4000>>17776025
>your student loan is 124,000? holy shit
I snuck in an extra zero. The student loan is approximately 106,000 Norwegian Kroner, which becomes 12 332 Us Dollaroos according to google.

>>17776020
IMO you should liquidate the index funds and pay down your loans. We have had an amazing market run since 2008. We are long overdue for a recession. Cash out and get a guaranteed return of 5%+ by paying down loans.

Drop the PC budget to $1000. Price/performance drops off past $1000. My $1200 build from 5 years ago still runs games like Metro 2033 just fine. My 7950 was a beast when new, and still gets the job done.

>>17776019
Black out her face and post a pic and I'll tell you.

t. Working girl

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>>17776040
she wears this but its a bit more bleached out

>>17776040
Please be in London.

Dunno what there is to do. You can't change people and I am testament to this. Just leave the house if your parents are incompetent. It is what I'm trying to do now. I wish parents were built into you so you didn't have to be dependent on two potentially damaged people to teach you how to live.

>>17776028
I have another year to go before I can leave and I've realised now that they've gone abroad how much I prefer lone company. I can actually study with real efficiency instead of constantly worrying whether she'll ask something ridiculous midway through a project like 'i loved your grandma... i really did'

I mean for fuck's sake, either I become a complete sociopath and use them or I go through some depressive episode which they'll probably ignore.

All my other siblings are majorly depressed and mentally fucked, my parents of course refuse to take any responsibility. Reassure me that they're "handling it" by giving teenage and cheap advice to them, forcefully ruling out any of their own intuitions

>>17776012
Oh your parents I'm betting are clueless as to the actual nature of our global culture of self centered ego mania.
What country are you in?

Just talk to anyone you see that you are attracted to. Stop being scared and just say hello. It really is simple, but it's going to take some effort to get yourself used to doing it.

>>17776044
>ake some effort to get yourself used to doing it
i dont wanna be seen as a creep. I dont really look super good either.
Im a nice guy though.
im somewhere around 6/10.

Email?

>>17775992
Ask yourself, 'what would a man do?'

Then ask yourself, 'am I a man?'

>>17775992
Just be dead honest and stern in your delivery to your gf about every single thing wrong with her friend, and end with this is why I'm leaving you

Then leave

>>17776008
I think a man would say that he is not dealing with bullshit from some bitch and would cut ties or continue under the condition that said bitch doesn't have a place in the relationship from now on. I refuse to blindly tolerate more crap just because I love her. She needs to get her act together as well if she wants things to work. It just annoys me that this whole thing happened once we got together. Once I became a serious competitor for her time that is when the bitchiness set it from the friend.

>>17776010
This is pretty much my game plan but if she is honestly willing to change in practice then I might continue however the chances of anything working are slim. People around me saw the problems I've mentioned but I can only do so much. It's a shame but I can't go chasing after a girl that says one thing then does another.

Rather than trap yourself, just leave him and move out.

This is the best decision, the legal route is just more stress

>>17775966
I realize the legal route would be added stress and ramifications for both of us. That being said, he's done a LOT of damage to me over the years. A lot. If the relationship holds no value to him, I would like to go the legal route. Mostly as closure and some kind of justice for myself. I truly don't want to hurt him physically, emotionally, legally, nothing. I just can't move on from years of emotional and now physical abuse without some kind of feeling of things being just. Maybe I could have some respect for myself if I follow through.

>>17775972

>i really dont want to hurt him
>but i cant move on without hurting him

you do want to hurt him then.

and thats fine, but maybe just say you want one free punch in the face before moving out.

Basically I feel like an unwanted burden on my parents and am trying to move out and have a job starting next Monday but life is bleak. We are very poor but my parents keep justifying supporting 8 people on less than 25000 pounds a year with the fact that Indian people earn pennies. Good for the Indians but I live in England and shit runs on money here and they can't support such a huge family. They do not believe in birth control actully I don't think my dad knows what a condom is. My retard grandmother is living with me and she cannot speak English after 25 years of living here. I am surrounded by idiots and either want to kill them all or find a place very far away that I can retreat to for my miserable life.

My older brother is a NEET but my parents enable it. He is 26 and never worked never finished his studies nothing just believes his parents owe him something in life and I am disgusted by them all. They used to be good people and still are in some ways but the lack of emotional support and constant mockery and essentially emotional abhse since I was 10 has changed my views on them. I stay in a very small room with no bed and the wallpaper peels off the wall and shit. I sleep on a mattress. I feel unwanted. I am 18 and did not ask for this life.

Someone please advise me on what to do. I have accepted I will never have loving parents but it leaves a big void in my heart. I feel extremely depressed and whatever money I have I spend on weed so I can feel happy for a few hours a day.

It's not the drug abuse that made me think like this. I understand weed can fuck with the mind but my mind is golden compared to my bumbling religious family who believe in waiting till death for the real happiness in life.

I know they were both emotionally neglected in their youth but WHY did they choose to continue the cycle.
Please help.

>>17775942
don't call your grandmother a retard you fucking ape. Language gets harder to learn for the elderly. You need to get an education to get a job and get out of there. That's it really. Don't be a bitch about it either you cunt.

You judge and belittle everyone in your family, but the reality is that you have accomplished nothing and have no right to call them idiots or anything.

You could save your money, move out, learn the real struggles of adulthood and trying to survive on your own, and probably learn a little reapect back for your family along the way. But instead you spend your money on weed and cry and moan like a child, because that's what you are.

Don't take this as a personal attack. Take it as a wake up call to start growing up. If you want to change your life, only you have the power and will to do that. Get working, get saving and start making your own way in life. When I finally was able to do that, I developed a much better relationship with my family.

>>17775926

a therapists gives therapy. they talk about your issues and work through them. you dont need any illness or even trauma to need to see a therapist, they are simply there to help people who are going through social / emotional issues. in some cases they are basically just advisors. i recommend them, but you have to be careful to find a good one.

>social worker

this is someone assigned by the state to do something, so usually it means you're poor, abused, or a child in a bad situation. this is not what you're looking for.

>psychologist

psychologists act a lot like therapists, but their focus is more on figuring out if theres a specific phenomenon. i dont recommend them cuz even if you're fine they'll take a minute problem and blow it up to be a mental disorder and treat it as a disorder instead of the problem in front of you.

for example you may be sad cuz your mom died and instead of talking you through the greiving process just assign pills to correct the hormones.

counselor has many definitions if you're in school they kinda just 'counsel' you but i havent heard of anyone seeing a counselor outside of school unless its like a marriage counselor. or a drug counselor

>>17775931
So I'm not looking for a social worker, and a psychologist doesn't sound helpful.

That leaves therapist and counselor. I am unsure of what to do with my life, though. I don't know if I want to continue college or what, but I also have broader emotional problems. Should I see more than one person?

>>17776886
>I am unsure of what to do with my life
>I don't know if I want to continue college or what
what's your age and what are you going to college for?