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>>17772947
Some people think it's hot, some people think it's weird. But people have different opinions in bed as opposed to everyday life.

Worst case scenario, you can just "let it slip" one day and judge his reaction.

I had a girl who was in to the whole be dominated thing. And we talked about it like adults do.
She wanted to call me dady but i find that super fucking weird. Eventually we settled for Master. It didn't give me instant ED, and bring up flashes of me teaching her how to ride a two wheel bicycle, and gave her the sub mentality she needed.

>>17772947
my real father died when I was 7 and at 10 my mother remarried and could never call my stepfather, dad though he filled the role and love him with all my heart. I slipped and called my bf by my stepdads name when I came onetime. I told my bf it was just because I was talking to him earlier that day, not that I masturbated to him since puberty. I would love to call my bf stepdaddy but afraid he'll put it together because that time I said his name.

Maybe he's just not a texter.

Or maybe he's gay.

also, i saw him on the favorites section on a classmate's phone who has told him she likes him:(

>>17772944
>i am stupid
yes, yes you are stupid and also
>you need to be 18 or older to post

either gender:
Why do white people love Wayne Brady?

>>17772929
Because wayne brady makes brian gumble look like malcolm x

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EG0wQRsXLi4

>>17772911
How do I move from casual chit-chat to something more substantial with a girl I'm texting? I don't really know what to say, I'm totally inexperienced with this.

Maybe it's a deeper issue, I'm like this with everyone.

Depends on your definition of decent. Typically, people posting shit like this tend to have laughably high standards, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt.

Either way, the answer is literally everywhere. Though it's usually ill advised and you have to be somewhat skilled to pull it off, you can cold approach any chick you think would be interesting literally anywhere you want.

But, since you're in college, ahem, clubs, classes, dorm halls, campus events, dining halls. You don't seem to like the party types, that's perfectly fine, you can try hitting up coffee shops, game stores, book stores, whatever you're interested in, and find someone with a mutual interest.

If you're lazy/desperate you can always try online dating, however in my experience you're online for a reason, and that reason being you have some sort of major red flag that keeps you from dating the real way. (Spoiler alert, usually it's because you're a single parent or really obese.)

>>17772848
Well decent like, has graduated high school in some normal subject like economy for example (many girls in my town just go for shit like hairdresser or cook because its easy and they are lazy af), didnt have more than 3+ partners in before. Idk if its high but sounds like average to me. Im graduating high school this year (19yo) and plan to work right after that. I dont want to do online dating, I always saw it as you said, something for desperate people with major red flags so no thanks. Mom said I should try library. Is it possible to meet girls in cinema? How do I pull it off if Im mostly loner? I cant just come up to a girl and tell her to be my gf can I?

>>17772848
>coffee shops

How do you approach a girl in a coffee shop?

Maybe because you're only the security, why would they be polite with you? They want to do business with your client and it ends here. They might be suspicious too, who knows?
You can't really know that they're extremists beside talking to them, even though they usually wear long beards, shave their mustaches, their pants goes middle leg and wear the kamis (the long dress?). But that doesn't mean they are extremists, just that more extremists are fashioned this way.

>>17772583
Well they are both clean shaven.

Being polite is usually part of business. Not matter if you are directly or indirectly involved. Who's to say I wouldn't want to make an engagement ring one day and think back on who I know to buy a diamond and want to skip my Client as a middle man and buy a diamond directly from them. It's not like he had to go out of his way to answer a question or he was busy. Hes watching TV in the back 90% of the time

>>17772611
Based on what you've said, there's absolutely no reason to assume they're any kind of extremists or threat to national security, lol. They're just a bit rude, and they don't care enough to be nice to the security guard.

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>>17772390
Wanna change results?

>>17772390
it even says on the site that only a medical professional can diagnose depression properly and that this test is not for this purpose.

there is no reason to think you would drag a therapist into this, its his job.
if you think you might have depression ask a psychologist to diagnose you.

>>17772320

Man, if you don't have the time to make the change and drugs won't work, then just go to work half-sleep this one time and then get working on it.

dubba dose of nyquil, set your alarm, and then you'll be good for the rest for the rest of the week naturally. Just go to bed at a normal time after you get off work that first shift.

bump for interest

>>17772023
I'd fuck her. 70% of affairs lead to relationships not falling apart but in fact getting stronger. Isnt a cool thing to happen but let's be honest you aren't really anything but a consenting partner at this point. if it wasn't you it would be Joe fantastic down the road. Just don't expect it to turn into anything other than sex and you are golden.

>>17772032

Yeah I have no desire to date her or anything. She has 2 teenage kids so fuck that.

I bet 10 years ago she wouldn't have looked twice at me. She's still gorgeous. Amazing what women will do when they are get a bit older.

I'm concerned about her using a fling as ammo against her huband. I don't want any comebacks on this if I go for it.

>>17772032
>70% of affairs lead to relationships getting stronger
whats your source?

>>17771460
She only sees you as an emotional rag OP, dump her sorry ass. Do not feed her, let her suffer.

If she brings any emotion into the discussion, cut her off completely, make her learn what she did wrong. She didn't take into consideration the needs of her partner, so therefore she deserves a harsh lesson on reality.

>>17771484
Well were already split so yeah, I feel she's a good person but holy shit does she need guidance, I want to help her figure out some of her issues in life. She did call me crying this week, she was definitely looking for comfort, which I didn't give her "i look in the mirror and I hate myself, so ugly and fat!". She said she's always wanted to have sex with another female, even when we were together so this part I believe. Here's what bothers me tho, we were together for about 5 months and her 'love' for me was almost obsessive, however, after about just a week or 2 after starting up schooling for cosmetology, she fell for this chick (who might not even be bi/gay) That just seems unreliable, uncommitted, and wreck less.

We've fucked once after breaking up, and honestly I wouldn't mind continuing this as long as we're both single.

Does there come a time where you let your girl/ex do this?

>>17771525
You don't. If she isn't willing to commit, she doesn't deserve to be with you. Better to cut your losses OP. She will simply use you again once she fucks up again.

Give her a test to see if she is really worth being with you. If she fails it, ditch her.

I understand you want to help her, but if she doesn't get her own shit together of her own volition, she isn't going to do it at all. You have to put her to the test and see if she is really that serious about the relationship with you, if she isn't do not bother anymore.

Bump ask for details, anything, looking for some kind soul to give me advice or comfort.

The important ones you should be thinking about are your twins. They need stability. They need to see what a healthy relationship between adults is like. You need to start by setting the example. She is already with someone else that means she doesn't truly love you. This choice she has given you is a false one. She made it when she started seeing someone else. You have to accept it and move on. Begging makes you desperate and is a turn off. Show her what a responsible mature man is like. You have to cut off the relationship as a girlfriend/wife/ partner and work on the relationship as co-parents. It will be hard work! But go to your family members or friends and stay with them for a bit so you are not in the same house and figure out a custody schedule-preferably something legally binding so she doesn't run off with them. You are man enough to have kids, you are man enough to be a fucking awesome dad. Once you've got your shit together, work on yourself. You need to find confidence and improve your self-esteem. Go to the gym, or just plain walk for a half hour. Start small and find the one workout or sport you like and go for it. Wanted to learn how to fly a plane, take a class. Wanted to learn how to cook, take a class. Wanted to get a degree in something check your local colleges and their financial aid. If need be, talk to a therapist and build yourself up. You will make your kids proud when you are able to see in the mirror the great man you have become. When she sees how much you are focused, driven, confident, and successful, she will want to come back. Don't take her back. She will have to prove she is trust worthy as trust is hard to gain and easy to lose. You may find that if she ever even tries to get back you may have found love with someone else. There are many women in the world that will see you as a hardworking father and will want to date you. Good luck my friend. It will be a tough road but worth it!

>>17771124
Thanks so much, I did not expect such a well thought out message, I Had That SMALL THOUGHT of my kids and how I'm forgetting about them, so they should be my number one priority, and thanks for resuming that idea, guess I just needed to hear it. You think it's a false promise, my instinct tells me otherwise but maybe I can't think straight. Also the kids have been taken care of when it comes to a custody agreement, I get them the weekends.

She's not mad at me she's just done, her words.

>>17770921
Bump.
Help a bro out. I'm out here doing some oorah shit in 29 palms (IE wanting to jump off third deck) and am 99% sure my baby mama is back home fucking jody boy.

>>17770921
"Hey wanna do that again?"
"Do what?"
"That"

some shit like that. vague as fuck but he might spill the beans. I'm thinking about thos Beans

"i cant stop thinking about the last time i saw you desu lol"

theyll be like why

"because of the sex"

then theyll reply like wtf or oh ya and youll know

Autism evaluation in six days

What things do you neets recommend telling the doctor? He told me what we would talk about, but that was two months ago

>>17770301
Write down a list of things you think are relevant to bring up and add to it as you think of more. Take the list with you.

I´m having a hard time getting out of bed. I rarely get up before two in the afternoon only to stay up until like four in the morning. I just can't seem to break this habit. Does anyone else have the same problem?

>>17770091
I've been waiting to die for months. I'm not depressed or anything but my life isn't going anywhere. Relationships never stick around for long. My talent for my field is slowly running dry. I feel my mental health detoriating.

I feel like I'm dying a slow death. And by the time I do, no one will remember me.

Why did I fall for her? Why did I fall so hard for her. I literally never felt like this about a girl. I think about her day in and day out.

Even though she probably doesn't feel the same about me, I can't shake the thought that maybe it will all work out, and we'll be together in the end.

What the hell is up with people who stop being friends because they want to get laid?

She is several fucking states away from you and LITERALLY has a cucking fetish.

>>17768349
You're right it is bullshit. They need to be payed fair wages. Not here in America apparently. We need to give them more money on top of the meal. I still tip, so I'm definitely a part of the problem. It's just the way the culture is. We need a solution, but I don't know.

>>17768349
You maybe don't realise this but waitstaff usually have to tip out for every bill they have. For example, if you spent $20 at a restaurant the waitstaff pays a portion of that to the restaurant (so they can tip the cooks and the management).

This means that every time you don't tip, they pay out of pocket for you to be there. If you were someone's only table of they day they would owe money to the restaurant (not counting their terrible wage they may have made over the few hours they were there).

It's a shit system but I don't think hurting the staff is going to change it.

>>17768349
It's a shit system like so any anons before me have pointed out, I'm not here to give you money, I'm here to eat, shit, I can go up to the counter order the food myself, bring it to my own table and take my dishes to the same counter without a waiter, the hole system is set up to let restaurants make as much money as possible without having to pay the waiters anything

>>17767001
None

>>17767001

It's not about weight (because you don't look fat) is about body fat percentage. It depends what do you want to accomplish/look.

>>17767001
It stopped being funny the last 3 times, fuck off.