I couldn't get it up

>>17776184
Maybe you arent attracted to her

Look into ED (Erectile Dysfunction)

That sounds like what's going wrong.

If it works fine while you're on your own, then the problem is just in your head.
Take your time. If she really likes you, she will be patient.

>>17776201
It worked on Sunday...

I haven't masturbated since...

>>17776189
I am attracted to her

>>17776196
this could be 1000 things, maybe I should go to an urulogist...

Stop jerking off, take a multivitamin (ideally with like 2000 IU vitamin D) to get your testosterone at optimal levels as well as other things that will make you all around more healthy and better at increasing blood flow and achieving erections, exercise (lifting increases testosterone, running increases blood flow and both lessen anxiety), a big part of not being able to get it up is usually anxiety, just being afraid of not being able to get it up kind of will make it a self fulfilling prophecy, so just calm down don't overthink it, you'll be fine, have some belief in yourself.

Seriously being healthy makes all the difference, when I was biking an hour a day, partially up hill, I had harder erections than ever and could last a while easily

>>7776213
Great. Don't beat yourself up. Also don't rush into banging her. Get comfortable with being nude and having an orgasm in front of each other. Don't be disappointed if your first time together doesn't last long, it will get better.

>>17776221
Yeah, maybe you are right, I haven't really exercised in the past 1,5 month because not much free time and too much studies, I used to go running around 10 km 3 times a week, plus home exercised sit ups, push ups etc.

Maybe this is it, my testosterone level is just shit. Plus multivitamins and vitamin D. Got it.

>>17776224
To be fair I already made her orgasm once, after my dick was soft for hours I just got her off with my fingers and mouth. Also I did have an erection for some minutes and I did started to fuck her but I couldn't keep it up... to be fair I was stressed as fuck at that point.

>>17776184
It happens, dude. You're doing the opposite of what you should be doing actually. You're obsessing over and worrying about it instead of just shrugging it off.

Your girl was chill about it. That's good, mate. I've had two girls up and storm out of my apartment on me because of it, which only made me worry about it more.

You'll be fine once you have one secsessful intorcorse session and get your confidence back, so don't even stress about it.

>>17776241
Seems like you need to get into the mood a little more. It's not just a mind thing for women but very much for men also.
Allow yourself to have your mind wander while you're making out. Imagine situations where she would make you diamond. Get into dirty talk. That might help you mute the thoughts about your performance.

>>17776266
Thanks mate, this is comforting. I shrugged it off whole day long, but now at the evening I sat down to write some homework for uni and all this shit suddenly blow up in my head.

Thanks, I will try my best not to stress about it.

>>17776281
Maybe the mood was also a problem. I only had sex with one girl in my life, and only a few times... So even thought I'm not a virgin I don't have much experience.

Happened the same with my ex-gf

>you don't have the butterfly bullshit?
Don't worry, it's not an indicator, you had it when you were really young when every slim women passed right by you so...
>It got smaller in the suck
The situation turned like if you were in the fucking doctor and the female was like doing a procedure, been there
>think you might be a faggot
No you are not, been there
>Think it may be stress
It wasn't, you are actually horny
>Then why?

It's mostly related with a mindset you had to protect yourself from the idea of not having a piece of pussy to fuck, dude think about this, you might be get turn on by traps and fat-subtier females, bushy japanese women, even cartoons, but you don't get up with the real thing?
>Your penis is working?
the answer is yes.
>Is there a reason to not like the woman when you got really on -and off- with WAY LESS?
no, there is not, it's not her and neither is your body.


It's your fucking brain, in my experience i had fixed it with
>my gf eventually liked me a lot
and once let me fuck her without a condom, wich helped so, so much. But i had to up my game with the pussy fingering and reducing the opportunities for "netflix n chill".
>Stopped masterbating everyday
>started going to the gym

I also had a LOT of trust issues it seems, the women is not going anywhere otherwise she would already have dropped you. I recommend doing more things with her and start really low.
Like both have your underwear on and do things knowing, both of you, you won't fuck that night. Maybe let her masturbate you and thats it, no pressure, just a handjob.

Just CUM

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Instead of making my own thread for this, I'll just ask here. My boyfriend has been under a lot of stress lately, from school and his job, and its been impacting his performance. Twice now he's become soft during the act, and no amount of stimulation can resurrect it. I try to be supportive, let him know I still love him and find him sexy. However, he's beginning to avoid sex because he's afraid of going soft. What can I do or say to help him? I know this is a sensitive issue for many men and I just want to know the best way to handle it.

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>>17776224
>Don't beat yourself

>>17776320
Oh my god thanks mate, you totally knew my thought step by step, like holy fuck, you literally guessed EVERYTHING what is going on in my head.

Maybe going from low helps also, I will try to fuck her like there is no tomorrow tomorrow, but if my pee pee still refuses to participate maybe slowing down is a good idea.

>>17776346
Just say nothing and keep being a good gf, you know males super appreciate random hugs with a lot of love and kisses in the cheek.

That kind of love just empowers us and make us feel like everything is in our control.

>>17776351
we austist must help each other.

>>17776184
Hey dude, this exact same thing happened to me. Almost the same circumstances as well, 21 and didn't have sex in maybe 1-2 years? We had our pants off and my dick just would not work. It clouded my mind the rest of the next day, but what do you know, it was fine after that. It really is your mind playing games on you. Since it's new it feels uncomfortable, but you just have to think that it's the 40th time you're having sex with her and not the 1st.