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How long have you been together?

How many previous relationships have YOU had?

>>17801937
We have been together for almost one year.

I have been through two very serious relationships (one where I actually lived with the guy), and a few cases of dating that I wouldnt even refer to as a relationship (as in too short-lived).

I have had three sexual partners before him.

He probably does love you, but he's not sure what it really feels like to be in love.

That's cute that he trusts you like that, you should break his heart so he learns not to trust anyone and becomes hateful and bitter

>/co/

anyways, just ask her for a date. The worst thing that will happen is that she declines.

>>17801913
Sorry, I'm browsing /co/ at the same time and got it mixed up.

I'm not that affraid she would say no, I've been rejected before and I can deal with this. Thing that frightens me is fact she remains single for so long. Should I ask her about that?

>>17801940
No
Just go for it

tl;dr: My gf never stops playing Skyrim and it's starting to get in the way. What do I do?

>>17801898
1. acquire a second tv
2. obtain an immersive single player game
3. set these things up adjacent to her
4. play aforementioned game beside her while she skyrims (yes, skyrim is now a verb)
5. alternate which of you has to use headphones

this may or may not work for you, but i would love to find someone that would be content with this. i am the type that would rather spend downtime playing vidya than watching tv/movies 99% of the time, and it seems your gf may share this mindset

This is a hilarious situation

>>17801816

cringe

>>17801830

x2

>>17801816
Yikes. Your cute and your date idea sounds awesome, but...

You ought'a stop trying so hard, I don't know if she's interested...

>>17801749

Shave your beard. You are acting like you have dignity when you don't.

>>17801749
If you desperately need the money and can't afford to lose the job, do what they fucking told you to do, you idiot. Willfully violating policy on your very first day would make an incredibly bad first impression, even if they didn't fire you right away.

A while back, I decided that I wouldn't sell myself out for jobs. For example, I believe in a separation of work and personal life. If a company I applied to asked for some kind of personal information unrelated to the job such as access to my social media accounts as a requirement for the job, I would turn them down.

Have you been explicitly told that you would need to shave your beard as part of the hiring process? If not, I'd go in without shaving and see if anyone raises an issue. I so, I wouldn't even bother going.

Like you said, it's a seasonal job that likely won't result in a better position. It's not even worth much as far as selling yourself out goes.

>>17801652

If you're a girl you need to at least be a 5/10. Just simply show clevage and wear tight clothing and lonely nerds with more money than sense will donate to you easily.

If you're a guy, don't bother.

>>17801655
I'd say at least 7/10. OP, post pics.

You can do well without being cute at all by being entertaining or offering in-depth insight of the game you're playing. You know, that's how male streamers manage to do it.

If you're a bad streamer your chances of making a buck from twitch are REALLY low, even if you're really hot. If you're serious about it I suggest you figure out how to be a good entertainer rather than a pretty face. And I'll warn you that most people who try to make a living off twitch fail and those who succeed have to put a lot of dedication into it and they'll still have a pretty long period where they'll work on it and make nothing or close to nothing off it.

>>17801647

Why don't you pay for the installation?

>>17801649

All I literally have to do is get on a ladder, drill a few holes outside, and wire everything internally.

A day project at best - I don't regularly use powertools and would have to move plenty of things within a few rooms.

Moms house though - "YOU CANT DO ANYTHING UNLESS I SAY SO"

Such is life living in NYC. Rent is so high and I don't make enough to move out.

>>17801662
Also nyc here where u at?

>>17801605
Killing yourself.

Hang yourself with a white noose. There's your white collar career faggot.

>>17801615
What do you mean by this?

>>17801615
You seem a little upset. Has daddy been giving you bad touches again?

>>17801600
Work out your own securities with baby steps first. No one goes from 0-60 unless they can handle it. You obviously cannot.

>>17801616
What do you suggest?
Im a bit chubby like just a bit, just ordered more suplements so i can gain more muscle and start to like my own body more, maybe that would inprove me, tho that dont happen in 3 days.

>>17801627
Get comfortable with her. Let her know you wanna go slow, but dont tell her why. Do bjs or hjs first, before ya go on full fucking.

>>17801598
you need to look after your mental health and well being. if you live a happy life and build confidence in yourself, situations like this won't induce so much anxiety. or, at least you'll be able to remove yourself from the situation in an appropriate and graceful way.

>>17801602
Well my biggest unhappiness is tfw no gf and it's the reason I'm trying to become more socially competent. It's kind of a vicious cycle.

I should add more detail. I'm pretty sure the biggest stressor here is guilt. I feel really bad when I fail to provide a friend with a pleasant afternoon or when I make the host feel bad that I left early. People notice my anxiety and I can see on their face that it bothers them, I feel so bad that I get even more anxious.

I think you need attention from others. How is your group of friends? Do you have a boyfriend or girlfriend?

>>17801565
back in high school I used to think that the only reason I'd start doing badly in school was actually because on a subconscious level I enjoyed the idea of working my way to the top, so I'd end up sabotaging my progress whenever things would start to look good. It was a way of spicing up my life with more emotion, I guess.

I'm still not entirely confident if that was the actual reason, but it might apply to you.

Also, the main reason I even opened this thread is because that pic of goku is really fucking cool.

>>17802500
>>17801565

I can relate to this.

I think that to an extent you're what you want to be, but you don't chose what your desires are.

You're in the friend zone by the sounds of it. You already asked her and she never followed up. If she was interested she would have followed up.

Save yourself some time, and work on a new girl.

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>>17801301

>>17801301
>>17801314
How do I change this? Get out of the fz?

Imagine being raped in the ass by a retard. It's the same kind of unpleasant experience. You deserve it but it's highly inappropriate.

You're retarded. End it all, now.

>>17801089
But men aren't designed for that. Its biology 101.

Any good advice /adv/?

>>17801051
Your logic is faulty.

Let's say you are short and all those other things. That does NOT automatically mean you will be a failure. (Google "short successful men," "ugly successful men" and the like).

It MIGHT mean that you will have to be more determined and active in achieving what other guys might find easier.

But isn't it the more logical move to take your "handicaps" as motivations to work that extra harder to achieve, instead of using them as excuses for not even trying?

You may or may not fail in life. But find another excuse if you do.

>>17801074
>Let's say you are short and all those other things. That does NOT automatically mean you will be a failure.
Sure, but it does mean I am much more likely to be a failure.

>It MIGHT mean that you will have to be more determined and active in achieving what other guys might find easier.
This also.

>But isn't it the more logical move to take your "handicaps" as motivations to work that extra harder to achieve, instead of using them as excuses for not even trying?
It's not more logical. It's other people who put these handicaps into place. Who punish me for them. And I should just accept it?

>>17801079
No, don't accept it. Fight back. Win in spite of everything.

Living well is the best revenge.

You probably dodgeg a bullet there OP
Girls that threaten to break up are generally unstable people. Better end it before you are completely trapped

I would just say that she might be triggered (hate myself for using that word) by special occasions. My mom is the same, except I can't break up with her. And this greentdxt happened like 12 hours ago

>few days ago
>mom days big party on Saturday
>tell me to check bus times
>we live a minute from bus terminal
>I tell her 230
>she gets out of work at 2 so fine
>calls me at 1 as she left early
>says were leaving at 130 instead
>panic cause I need to shave shower etc
>tell her I'm ready at like 125
>she says no we wont make it
>she says I said 230
>I get pissed and tell her I'm going to pharmacy
>I go get my wallet and she's rushing me out the door saying we go for the 130
>YOU JUST SAID 230 BITCH

She also flipped out cause I was wearing a white hoodie with a light stain. Like no one is gonna care. But she's done this her whole life with special occasions

>you're wearing that? Ugh
>don't forget to bring the present!
>WHERE ARE YOU WERE LEAVING

Other then that, we hardly ever argue. But its guaranteed for a special occasion. If its too much for you, break it off.

>>17801042
Do you want to keep her?
You did the right thing by letting her go regardless. Her threatening to leave is some stupid power play shit. When she comes back, and they usually do if they have been threatening it for a while, she will most likely be better behaved desu.
Realistically your going to have to deal with some stupid girl shit no matter which woman you are in a relationship with. So the real question is if you want to deal with having a girlfriend right now.