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Chapter 2

Oh, I started to visit her too, and that little "support" transformed to something hard to confess from today's perspective. We started kissing and stuff, but it was a shame for both of us to treat it as it is, so we stated that have invented the brand new "uberfriend" form of human relationships. Sure.

In October that guy sent me an invitation to have a snack with him. I got frightened but accepted. Having a snack was more like Q&A because he just asked me questions like 'How many times did you see her in September?' and writed down all the answers [what].

Anyway he organizes The Final Show and breaks up with her. Right after that she told me something: she actually had some mental problems connected to digestive system, and because of that stress she stopped eating.


She only lived with her mother who actually did't giving a shit about her daughter, so when daughter gets literally punched in the face by some psycho, oh well thats okay. Same for stopping eating.

Chapter 3

God damn, by January she got her anorexia. My mind just exploded. I asked some serious series of questions connected to appearance, beauty and self-respect - and just got shocked: "every day I wake up thinking I've become a little bit closer to perfection" - you got the idea.

Note: I don't give a shit about apearance at all, honestly. But I can imagine how important it is to respect your body - it is not that difficult: you just don't hate it.

But after I learned more about anorexia and stuff I got that such person just doesn't see itself like the others do. So I was like at dead end, I did't know how to cure it. She doesn't listen to me, her mother is blind and all of her few friends are social hipster normies.

February, I'm at school, coming down the stairs. Notice that very guy, my old friend. He came here to kick my ass. Actually he kinda succeeds, my nose bleeds. Some teacher calles the police, they come and get us both. He screams and yells like psycho. Parents come and take me, try to explain it to them, not a big deal, mom.

Literally the next day got the panic attack. Thoughts: "He knew she is a weirdo, he couldn't change that, he got mad, he beated her and - I'm going to run that cycle as well". Shit, I didn't want to. By that time we've already been each others soul. I wanted to help but a) i freaking didn't know how b) she freaking didn't listened to me, like, at all.

Chapter 4

Note: she became treat me like god-like person. It is difficult to explain. She started to say things like "I'll do anything you ask me to do" or "My desires and dreams are just dirt comparing to your wishes". That made me nervous, I tried to fix that - but unsuccesfully.

We were going to pass exams to enter university at the country we met. So I was casually studying, while she got mad at that point. During Feb and Mar she was just sitting at home and trying to study -> got exhausted -> slept for two hours -> repeat. I don't know what my plan was, it seems to me now like by that time I've just given up. Her apearance has changed a lot, she dyed her hair red (like, actual red).

In April, something died. We entered "hello-howareyou-good-bye" mode. I didn't have room for her hopeless situations in my head. And she, as she said, didn't want to bother my genious hard-working mind.

Uff, [almost] final episode. That very guy from the beginning of the story posts a screenshot of her messages on his wall. Actual dates, April 2016. She beggs him to come back, because he is the only person she could ever trust to. Don't ask me why I read that.

- Umm, hi, what is that? - Oh, that? Nevermind - God dammit, wtf is that? - I dont wanna to busy your head with such unimportant things. - ...

And then I learned she has been brought to ambulance three times in April, because of extremely massive exhausion. Wow, cool, thanks for sharing.

She asked me to meet and discussed - but I was pissed off and paranoid about him coming on that meeting with her.

Because if before that moment my panic was realted exclusively to him - now it is certainly connected to both of them.

May. Short phone conversation. - If you don't want to continue this relationship, you can end it right here. - Great, I wonder why I'm doing it just now but not earlier.

Next week. Panic attack, falling unconscious, crying for two days.

>list only good things
>somehow expect us to know what's wrong with you
Well, if I had to guess, I'd say it's probably the fact that you're fucking retarded.

If girls don't like you, how did you get into a relationship before?

>be me
>summer break
>haven't done shit
>friend says he has some bomb ass weed
>I go to his house to get lit
>houstonwehaveaproblem.jpg
>nothing to smoke out of
>sees empty mcdonalds cup
>decide to make it into a bong
>get random pieces of metal and melt them together to make a mouthpiece
>fill cup with water
>insert weeds
>smoke that shit
>[email protected]
>little sister walks in
>fuck off fat cunt
>high but not that high
>decide to take a walk
>mom drives up next to us
>mfw
>she is oblivious to my state of euphoria
>close one
>we get back home
>realize that was some shitty weed
>realize that the mcdonalds cup barely worked
>hey look its my bowl
>are you fucking serious
>oops
>mfw

As a minority woman, I think you're absolutely retarded for a) stereotyping us and b) thinking somehow the fact that we're a minority means we're nothing like white women.

>>17800410

well for the most part, minority women TEND TO HAVE a couple differences. Especially when it comes to dating and family involvement and shit.

Also, I am not stereotyping a whole race and gender. I said some, not all. I know their outliers. I am a outlier myself.

You should meet some more 'minority' people in general because it sounds like you have some misguided perceptions about what 'minorities' are like. You'll be surprised to find that these 'minority' women aren't as different as you think they are.

Forgot my question.

How do I stop spinning out of control? All I do is dwell on whatever made me angry.

>>17800381
>>17800450
>Punch your pillow punching my pillow fixes everything

Well, it is November. Listen to some Black Metal. Face the darkness and strengthen your soul to face the coming Winter.

Why are you having sex in the first place if you're nervous about it? I'd recommend you figure out why you get nervous about it in the first place before relying on drugs.

>>17800378
If I'm feeling good, weed helps me relax even more. If I'm in a situation that makes me anxious, weed heightens that anxiety and makes me painfully awkward. I'd just have a drink or two. Or maybe, you know, have sex with people you actually like, and trust, and feel safe with

>>17800399
I'm nervous because of a past history of being told I was repulsive by boys, now I can never really believe that a boy actually wants to touch me

I'm used to masturbating by myself.

>>17800408

>have sex with people you actually like, and trust, and feel safe with

That's a luxury

>>17800347
You don't. To me, bondage is as boring as cosplay. Yeah I like spanking and hairpulling, but I've never understood the point of costumes or bondage.

I just enjoy vanilla sex.

>>17800347
Dude, if she's willing to play along and indulge your fetish sometimes, you should do exactly the same for her sometimes. It sounds like her fetish is plain old vanilla sex. Don't judge or try to make her change. A good relationship is give and take, not two identical people enjoying identical interests. When it's her night, get in character and do it the way she likes it

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>>17800347
She's willing to give your fucked-up kink a spin in terms of trying it out, but it sounds like she's not into it.

What if she was into you wearing a butt plug. "I rubbed your asshole a little bit, why wont you let me jam this peg in your ass?"

She dipped her feet, sounds like she's not into it.

Maybe you should sit down and talk to her about it. But seeing as how you referred to her as "my girl" you're either a teenager or she's just some skank you fuck on the regular. Sit down and speak clearly about what you want or find someone else.

>>17800325

Stay away from the crazy. And just in case you were thinking about fucking her... again, stay away from the crazy. Also she might have a VD.

Think about what this says about YOU as a person that you are interested in putting yourself in this persons life. Do you have a saviour complex? Or are you just a cruel person looking to exploit her weakness?

On that note, she probably has BPD and is a chronic attention whore. The cringy behaviour is all a ploy for attention from people and you fell for it. She is most likely lying about prostitution.

>>17800353
Oh trust me, she makes it a POINT to tell me she has BPD and sends shit about having "manic episodes", when she lived here (she moved away) she self diagnosed herself with autism and was infatuated with me. I didn't ever plan on fucking her. I put myself in her life because I am fucking alone. Nothing interesting going on. I do expect that she is lying, but it's hard to tell through texts. I don't think I have a saviour complex I just was concerned if she really is doing that. I will admit that I am exploiting some of the messages for the absolutely autistic things she says. So... idk. I'm not a great person I guess.

>>17800353
>She is most likely lying about prostitution.

The rest of your post probably has merit, but even attention seekers have limits. I'd be interested to know when she dropped this is conversation (i.e., right away vs. waiting weeks). If she dropped it early in their interactions, THEN I'd consider attributing it to her being attention-seeking.

>>17800320
what's up?

>>17800322
The 4th dimension. Here, nothing is up down or side to side. We are a flat plane of existence comprised of beings which can only comprehend 2 dimensional objects. Although you may see a cube, you will only see squares at a time, never inside and outside all at once. In the 4th dimension you can see the 3rd as a piece of paper, like a panorama of everyrhing that is and will be, inside and out.

How long does one hold onto an axe to become master?

>>17800286
You're fucked homie, and not in the way you want. It's great that you're in love and all, but love don't pay the bills, and love ain't gonna touch your cock. If you can't leave, then you're stuck with what you've got. There's no magic bullet. Someone can't transition and imagine that everything will be the same afterwards.

>>17800286
what the fuck?

>>17800326
How insightful.

Take her to fun places, bro. She may be watching tv because she's not getting enough endorphins during your time together.

I had a problem similar to this with my ex, I called her out on always using her phone when we're together and we had a conversation about how things have gone downhill.

It may be a warning signal, anon. Talk to her, like really talk to her, and see what's bugging her.

People need to make sacrifices in order to make relationships work. Why haven't you tried to talk to her about that? This is the biggest problem with this board. The first sign things aren't working out and they come here to complain and ask for help instead of talking to their partner. Seriously, sit her down and talk with her about some possibly concerns and solutions with how she's been acting and treating you, and if she doesn't begin to reciprocate and start meeting you in the middle then you need to leave her.

>>17800227
You sound like an absolute bore, if I were you I'd be trying my damndest to get her attention. throw banana peels at her from the other room, make a running commentary throughout her favorite show, steal her phone and throw it on the roof, stand in front of the TV and pull your pants down, whatever. She's obviously dying for some entertainment!

You didn't go wrong, it takes two to tango, but here's a couple of questions you can use to keep the conversation going

>what have you been up to today?
>any plans for the weekend?

Depends on who you're texting:

If you want to date a girl, don't text her like a friend.

>Text girl you like "hey what's up?"
>She says nm, u?
>Don't say not much, make yourself sound busy and high social status. "Just hanging with some friends. You staying in tonight?"
>She says "yeah just gonna watch netflix and eat some chinese food."
> You say "I love Chinese food, we should go out for some sometime soon!"
>She says "I'd love that!"
>You say "When are you free to get together?"
>I'm free tomorrow
>"Tomorrow at eight sounds great then, meet me here *chinese place*"

See so you set a definite date then stop the conversation. Don't even text her you're on your way the next day, just show up at set time.

Always be interesting and try to keep it at this: You ask two questions, then the next response you let her ask a question. Two for one, keeps her engaged and you don't sound too inquisitive.

In between the day of the date and the texts, don't message her. If she texts you ignore it for a few hours or just text her the next day "hey sorry, my phone was dead all day yesterday. Left my charger at home. Looking forward to tomorrow!"

>>17800221
You can talk about anything, but you gotta talk about SOMETHING. Don't start a text conversation without any purpose in mind at all. Even if you're just telling a story about your day or asking about hers, you gotta have some kind of plan or point

Also, we went to McDonald's, and got nuggets....

She ate 16 ketchup packets.

WTF?

Is this shit normal for girls?

Let me guess - she can smell EVERYTHING?

Definitely pregnant

>>17800545
Strangely, yes. She has been noticing smells that I can't. And usually I have a strong sense of smell.

Wasn't aware that was relevant.

Have you ever actually been sexually attracted to someone? As in you actually want to have sex with them? Or are you attracted like finding them aesthetically appealing and/or considering getting into a relationship with them, without any sexual aspect?

>>17800200
Well that's the thing. I have been sexually turned on by a person's appearance, but that's sort of as far as it goes. It's like I prefer to admire them from a distance.
As for relationships, the only time I've felt really close emotional connection to a good friend of mine (a straight girl).
Maybe I just don't like people...

>>17800192
Don't fall for the fucking randos meme.
Don't believe what you hear about people's crazy sex lives and how fulfilling it is.

Find one (1) you like and stick with them.
Wanting to fuck around before you have someone to be with is putting the cart before the horse.

>>17800181
well you aimed yourself towards this image board, so ya know you got that goin for ya

>>17800181
Meth
Cured my similar problems.
Also not as addictive as they say

>>17800339

This is a joke

>>17800177
You can show it to me. I know the struggle, I can only really show people that know me so I feel like I'm always getting the response they think i want to hear.

>>17800201
Honestly, I'm starting to think people are either too stupid or too impatient to enjoy literature anymore. I don't consider myself a great artist by any means, I just think meme culture and the collective hivemind has ruined the creative field. Maybe I'd be better off making music. Then you wouldn't have to worry about having to make an audience exert the slightest bit of energy.

My degree @ the community college lead me to believe 4chan is NOT the place. Short attention spans here.