How do I stop violently shivering and spasming before fooling around with a girl. It's not that I'm consciously nervous, but my entire body shakes uncontrollably even when dirty talking. Every girl I've been with is concerned for me like I have a problem, but I have no way of explaining it.
Is this in any way normal? Should I ask my doctor about it? Why do I vibrate like this?
i'm almost 100% positive this is anxiety/nerves
>>17802309
Then what am I supposed to do? If I keep having sex will it eventually go away?
>>17802303
how many times were you molested as a child?
>be me
>meets a shy but 10/10 girl at a house party
>gets friendly with her and her friends
>friends say shes into me
>playitcool.mov
>texts with her for a few days
>makes plans to meet up
>all goes well
>meets her frequently for a few weeks
>she is still shy but interested
It's not awkward to talk but its not going anywhere further and shes still shy which makes it hard to make a move or tell if she wants me to. I see parts of the real her but i feel she isn't comfortable yet. What do now?
Do you often laugh with each other?
kiss her
>>17802272
Make plans to go to her house (and don't try to bang her) a few times, if she's at home she might feel more comfortable
My mum just found my vibrator!
Hi everyone, I’m furious/upset/embarrassed to have discovered that my mother has just been through my belongings and found some things I’m sure she wish she hadn’t seen!
Basically, I’m 20 years old & I’ve moved back home for a month or so as my rent as has out & I’m waiting to move into my new house on the other side of the country where I am studying. When I moved back home I had a lot of issues as my sisters who are 18 & 15 have taken it upon themselves to use my room (which I dont mind too much as I don’t really live at home) but since I’ve been home I’ve had zero privacy.
I’ve had them taking things & not giving them back (sounds petty but things I’ve worked for & saved up money for- please note I’m a broke student so can’t just be buying things for people to take! i.e shoes, clothes, handbags… even 2 bras haha!)
Being a mature person I spoke to my mother about this to no avail. She hasn’t asked my sisters to return what they’ve taken. I’m not so much bothered had they asked to use my things. What bothers me the most is that they have no respect for my belongings and I have no privacy.
To make it worse my mothers idea of solving the problem was to go through EVERYTHING of mine whilst i was out to see if i’d misplaced my “lost” things (i hadnt cos i’d already checked) & she went through handbags, my underwear draws, my memory box etc) just through personal things. She found my viabrator & handcuffs because I checked & they were gone. Which means shes taken them. I mean, seriously, I’m an adult & she’s just gone and done exactly what my sisters have done which has made me irateee!
I’m furious. I haven’t approached her about my things shes found/took. But she’s making me feel embarrassed for having them but at the end of the day I am an adult & she shouldn’t have abused my privacy.
I seriously cant take living like this any longer but I can’t move into my new house for about 6 weeks & its driving me mad!
Any advice?
If you're a guy you should be thanking your mum.
Have it out with your mother.
I remember when my mam searched through my bedroom because she thought I was storing/doing drugs there.
She found my stash of sextoys (collars, cuffs, etc.). Never searched through my room again.
>>17802266
haha holy shit. i'm sorry about your situation OP but it is kind of funny that she took your vibrator and handcuffs.
my advice would be to try and talk to her, but i understand how some people (parents especially) don't listen to their kids. they just don't think you're an adult and capable of making your own decisions.
I've been on and off from Tinder, and I've had occasional dates that I never pursued because I thought the girl was trash.
If you aren't Chad, how do you go about this app? Conversations can start out well but then die out after a couple of responses, or alternatively never reply, so the success rate is really sporadic
>>17802234
you are at a tremendous disadvantage just by being straight male on a dating/hookup app. it's even worse if you're not at least a 7/10.
your best course of action is to
>get the best profile pics you can make
>write a bio that's succinct, probably under 3 sentences
>lower your standards
>be prepared for countless rejections
>be prepared for a lot of boring/painful conversation from girls that are apathetic and expect to put in 0 effort
>be prepared for girls that flake on meeting last second
>be prepared for thousands of spam accounts
it's a numbers' game, most convos die out quickly
Almost every girl these dating apps look like aspiring prostitutes
I'm very bummed out right now. I had to sell my laptop last month because I'm poor. I really miss it.. my phone is capable of everything I want to do..
Except 2 things.. I feel like an idiot even mentioning these things..
It can't do omegle video chat..
And it can't do chatroullet..
These are my 2 favorite pass times.. I feel so alone and empty without access to those sites.. I'm so sad .
Just here to vent I guess...
Dont worry bud get your life together and buy another laptop
>>17802258
I don't think I will ever be able to afford a new one.. I had the MacBook Pro 15' with Retina display.. I don't think I will ever have one of those as long as I live..
>>17802305
buy some used shit for those 2 things?
I like to cut myself. I don't do it because it feels good or because I'm depressed or anything like that - I just like to do it because I love the look, smell and taste of blood. I also have been painting with it now for about 4 years. Additionally, I do this as part of ceremonies I perform as part of my religious faith, Odinism.
I know this isn't really normal, but is it something I should stop doing? I usually will do things like cut the bottoms of my feet or inside my nose so it's externally invisible or hard to notice.
My partner is really freaked out by it, but I've been doing this my entire life.
>>17802188
>>17802188
what the hell is wrong with you?
>>17802200
I'm not trying to be edgy. Again, I just like the way it looks/smells/tastes etc.
>>17802201
That's what I'm trying to figure out.
How do i get more comfortable about "showing off" my body (namely when having sex)?
I'm already exercising and trying to lose some weight. But what do i do till i reach my goal?
Pic is the closest i found to how my body looks atm
My bf tells me i'm beautiful, but i feel monstrous. This is taking a big toll on my confidence and i don't want that anymore
>>17802138
look at lots and lots of pics of ugly women
Can you send me a pic at [email protected]? I would love to see.
>>17802138
read the /fit/ sticky
if you read it already, put it into practice
if you are already doing that, keep doing it, your doubts are only a temporary hindrance
>be europe fag
>dropped out of college by choice
>considering joining the army
I dropped out of college because I hated it and realized that I chose a wrong course. I always had an interest in military stuff and at one point I almost enlisted. They accept enlisting in April and serving time is 9 months.
So is joining the military a bad choice? I think I would like it, even though it's gonna be really hard, of course.
>>17802136
>I think I would like it
Before GRU goes to work on you.
>>17802148
What's GRU? Why?
>>17802153
I wouldn't worry about it.
A relatively qt girl asked me to become """""friends with benefits"""""
I don't really like sex but I don't wanna bum her out
help
lol do it
Don't be a pussy, unless you're religious
do it you twat
i have only clues, no idea how to get hard proofs. any ideas anons?
what kind of data do we have currently, anon?
change in behaviour, cold, distant, sex became ritual no initiative from her, only small chat (kids, shopping list, etc.) lot of time spending messaging.
if you really want to know and you're absolutely sure ypu want to "cross the boundary": keyloggers, screenshots of whatever you can from their pc or phone, ask your phone provider for messaging and call histories.
>have a group project presentation due
>2 of my groupmates drop
>the last two are dickheads I don't want to help
>teacher won't allow me to work alone
What do I do?
Work alone just don't care about the others
>>17802064
Be a rebel and make your own presentation. Put only your name on it and present it by yourself. If the teacher asks why you did it solo, tell him/her that your group members are dickheads.
Disclaimer: May not work if your teacher isn't chill
>>17802212
And get F if the teacher isn't chill
I'm so tired of thinking, crying and missing him. It's been a year since we broke up and I still feel like shit! I'm so fucking tired, it's making me miserable. What do I do to feel less like shit?
I can't even masturbate without crying like a worthless piece of shit.
I know it takes time but it's been a year! I can't bear it anymore, I just want to live my life without problems!
how long were you together?
>>17802053
Slightly more than a year and it was a long distance relationship.
Its just a pigeon. Settle down, man.
This is actually really hard to talk about because it's embarrassing, but I need help. I'm 30 year old guy and my room mate of the last 6 years is 33. We've known each other since high school, and he's always been aggressive, but I'm actually beginning to fear for my safety.
He's hurt me in the past to the point where I've had to go to the ER, and on Thursday he punched me in the neck and threatened me with a machete. I called 911 and he ran out the back door. The cops caught him a few blocks away, but I didn't press charges. I didn't want to mess his life up by sending him to jail. Now he's more angry than ever, and I really don't know what to do. I don't really have any place to go, so my options are limited. He has a bunch of guns and knives, so I feel like my safety is actually in danger. What can I do?
>>17802031
You should've of pressed charges, man. Clearly that man is a psycho. You either run away or prepare to defend yourself.
Sounds like you need to move out.
>I don't really have any place to go, so my options are limited.
Then you should probably make some. Find a cheap place that is looking for a room mate, or move out and advertise that you need one, take a loan to do it if you have to.
Pack up when he's not around, and leave him a letter saying that you wish him the best but that you can't stay there anymore.
>>17802042
>You either run away or prepare to defend yourself.
Run away is starting to sound like the most logical. I'm not trying to die over this.
>>17802049
Thanks. this makes sense. I'll just kind of stay in my room and avoid him until I can find a new place and then try and slip out quietly.
How do i get smart?
>>17802004
read none fiction
>>17802004
Be fit, be healthy, study.
>>17802007
>none fiction
heh
Is getting into PC gaming a bad idea?
Obviously this corner of the Internet is the wrong place to ask this question, but I'm starting to get second thoughts. I've been saving money for months to invest in a good first rig but as I get closer to finalizing my purchase, I feel hesitant. It's that same feeling of apprehension before you do something you know is bad for you.
I'm 24 and falling a bit behind in university while balancing a part-time job, but I'm also starved for fun and haven't played videogames for 4-5 years. My only computer is a Thinkpad that shipped with Vista. Any advice would be appreciated.
dude, as a long time PC gamur (I was building these things years ago when I was in gradeschool) just avoid at all costs
I'm 24 and I'm just about on my way out. Theres nothing left here for me anymore.
If you can control your time on it and are one of those people that can stay the course and just wants to play games from time to time then yeah go for it, but if you think you might end up spending your whole day on it without thinking twice, I'd recommend staying away from this hellish hobby
I am with the other guy - it's kind of like getting into drugs. Most people are trying to quit, why would you start.
>>17801982
>>17801986
appreciate the opinion, guys. I study electrical engineering and thought building/tinkering with a pc might have been a fun project but I do lack self-control. I'll look into another hobby.