Does the "No contact" rule actually work or is it just a meme?
>>17798559
Its very hard, and thats just for me going off of cutting contact with a girl I like who has a boyfriend now. I still have very strong urges to talk to her but I have to keep reminding myself that I am only getting in her way and making myself look like a childish desperate idiot who begs for her attention when I try to start a convo knowing she is either with the guy or talking to him.
>>17798559
Whether it works or not who knows but mate literally what else can you do that will benefit you?
Well being an annoying desperate loser won't help.
The best thing for you and possibly your relationship is no contact. An ex of mine got back to me after years wanting to get together, but I said no because I found someone better.
Which should I get?
>inb4 neither
http://www.brookstone.com/pd/Limited-Edition-Ariana-Grande-Wireless-Bluetooth-Cat-Ear-Headphones/320538p.html
>chome sides are fingerprint prone, white may get dirty easier
>the white is more feminine, I like the LED colors more
http://www.brookstone.com/pd/wireless-bluetooth-cat-ear-headphones/317857p.html
>doesn't have as nice of an LED color selection, older so may not be as well built
>matte black makes it to be cleaner most likely
Don't get either. Those things look totally ridiculous in real life.
>>17798550
Did you read my OP?
>"inb4 neither"
>>17798550
Also, I should add I'm not going to be wearing them in public.
These are just to use at home on my desktop.
I'm waiting to order a Blue Yeti for my setup until I decide which color headphones to get.
How do you stop loving someone? I fell in love with my best friend and there's no way we'll ever be together. If there's a way to salvage the freindship without the shitty feeling, or should I just abandon (friend)ship?
Why won't you ever be together?
Same here. It's just that i love her so much and im not really a pussy but i simply don't want to lose her. I don't care about that friendzine shit. I just want to see her smile everyday. I love you so much dammit
>>17798502
>>17798528
Too bad. Even if you really love her and it's not only a crush, when someone doesn't love you back all you can do is move on.
Go out, meet people, and realize having someone actually love you back is way better than a one-sided crush.
My dad hasn't shown me any proper affection, especially not in person, since my parents got divorced (16 years ago).
Basically, I don't dislike him as a person, but as a Father I couldn't hate him more. He's nothing like me, he's super rich and hasn't even tried to contact me for about 11 months (the longest conversation I've had with him within that time is about 10 minutes long).
Now that it's Christmas time, I don't know what I should do, this is the first Christmas where I've realised how much I dislike him (my brother and I visited him last Christmas, but he ignored us most of the time). What should I do about a present? Do I just act as though I "love" him?
>hasn't even tried to contact me for about 11 months
Sounds like a shit parent.
>as a Father I couldn't hate him more.
>Do I just act as though I "love" him?
No. Would denying your feelings and lying to yourself make you happy? I think not.
Let me ask you this: What do you want out of this relationship with your father? Affection? A phone call once in a while? An apology for all the times he wasn't there?
>>17798491
We pick our friends but we're stuck with our family. Has it occurred to you that the person you are now is a near-stranger to him as well, someone he can't relate to whatever feelings he had for the child he last had much to do with 16 years ago? What you experience as his coldness might just be his awkwardness at knowing how to relate to this adult or near-adult you have become.
Instead of pining for the loving daddy you lost 16 years ago, see what kind of man-to-man relationship might still be open to the two of you.
Your mom was probably a gold digger who tried to catch a wealthy man with a baby.
You should dislike your mother.
Tell your dad that you wan't him to be a better dad. Man like and respect straight truth. What ever you do, DO NOT FAKE anything, your mother played that game and lost.
>Be me
>Highschool, get with chick, got to have have undergaed sex
>Not a pedo but found it thrilling and glad to have done it
>Stay with chick for 5 years, shes really submissive and lets me do anything
>Sex all the time but shes like a 6/10 so
>Opportunity arises in first year of relationship to have threesome with two other chicks
>Obviously take it
>She never finds out
>Year later we break up for a month because she crazy, depressed bi polar etc
>Get with 10/10 ginger girl (pale skin, freckles, small tits, pretty tall, very skinny, basically opposite of GF)
>This is basically my ideal, we bang a few times, get anal and rimjob
>Shit dont work out, get back with GF, she missed me alot
>Finds out through friends that i got with other GRILL
>Makes her more eager to please me, financially as well as physically
>Get lots of gifts, sometimes the ginger girl bakes me cakes aswell
>GF tries to outdo her all the time, better gifts
>Year passes, ginger goes to uni
>GF is in uni also
>Starts to get depressed again
>Another year passes, we are in 2015/16, i go on holiday in january and cheat with a sweedish chick
>Nothing gets found out, have a pretty good year, less gifts
>This september GF says she is too depressed to be in a relationship and breaks up with me
>We were together 5 and a half years
>Now single, go to the pussy market (club)
>Fuck a greek chick and a blonde chick
>Last night i met this redhead who plays violin dont know why but that turns me on
>Meeting her today
I dont need any advice i just felt like sharing how great my life has been
Pic related, kind of looks like new ginger
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I think deep down you do need advice...why would you need to share about some girls you've fucked in your life..do you need some kind of validation...what's really going on?
>>17798466
I'm glad for you.
Feel like giving US some advice?
I raged a lot playing Overwatch today, same as I've been doing for ~4 years in different games, and I decided to quit gaming.
Since I discovered Counter-Strike, most of my life has been spent watching/reading about or playing videogames. Just sitting idly watching Twitch streams or trying to improve in a game because I wanted to get the feel of being good at something, although I know skill in a videogame is worthless.
I've always known that it's something bad for me, and I want to actually quit it for good. I just uninstalled all the gaming related stuff from my computer, boommarks, files, images... everything. I'm tired of being asked what my hobbies are and trying to hide that I spend 12+ hours watching and thinking about games that are of zero use in real life, just as a form of escapism.
The problem is... now what do I do? I guess I could start studying more, reading literature, watch a movie a day... but somehow I feel dread of it, like I'm already bored. I've become too dependent on gaming as a hobby. Anybody has tips on what to do now? How not to relapse? Things I could spend my time on now?
Force yourself to do it. Make a routine. Also go outside, get some fresh air.
That's me too. I think I might negate the feeling by getting deep into something else that can be competitive. I'm choosing industry because of the money and gaining the ability to be productive and improve things.
It's because video games are a very easy form of pleasure, they're very easy to sit at for long periods of time trying to get better, and they desensitize you to other hobbies, so trying other things feels boring and uninteresting.
The only way is to have discipline and ween yourself off them and focus on something else you're interested in. You have to do whatever it is (reading drawing making canoes) reliably day after day for awhile to get yourself in to the habit of doing it every day. The longer you go without vidya the easier it will be.
At least that's been my experience. I still play video games but I no longer have that urge to play them above everything else. I used to play some competitively and always wanted to play pro but never had the proper opportunities (internet, mostly) and eventually had to admit to myself it wouldn't happen. Since that realisation I still like training and getting better but I don't devote my entire night to playing. I just focus on enjoying myself.
So about gen-Z and what kind of world awaits us in 2020. Yeah...
What?
>>17798433
>hurr durr born in le wrong generation millennials are soOoOo dumb xDDDD
You're the only problem, cunt
The majority have turned idiots, yes.
or guide me how to do it without being hurt in the process
2011 gf left me for another man and in a very brutal/hostile way. Fucked me up emotionally, went full beta, single since, etc.
fought hard to reconcile, would still be preferred but realized long ago that wont happen any time soon.
avoided showing anger/aggression during it, and in years since just gave her space, but always made sure to reach out with a passing "happy birthday", etc. I cared/care about her despite all this, would prefer for us to be on okay terms with one another.
with that said - start of this year she got in contact out of the blue and dropped all hostility. her excuse for contact was obviously bs. never any apology or explanation why the change in heart, but I was glad to have it. she was/is still with bf, showed no interest in being back together, etc
we associated decently, rough start but it smoothed out quick, just light casual chit chat for an hour or so online once every few weeks for a couple months - she had a vacation trip, agreed to talk when she came back
well, since that trip she has refused to associate again, that was back in August I think. I reached out a month or two after her trip with a short hello, marked "seen" but no response. Left it alone until thanksgiving where i sent quick "happy thanksgiving" message. same thing, seen, no response.
questions:
1 why the fuck would she come and be nice to begin with.
2 why the fuck would she suddenly flip back to being a silent cunt to me
3 how should i react? Pros/cons?
obvious answer is move on and ignore the cunt - frankly Ive been so docile in these last 5 years with her shit I'm about sick of it, and really want to unleash on her, shed fucking deserve it, BUT she still has a very strong ability to hurt me emotionally, a hostile reaction from her would probably fuck me up.
lets say I DO decide to let loose, tips on most effective/safest way to avoid my own emotions getting damaged while still getting it all out??
jesus block her and stop being a pussy
fucking millennials
>>17798430
I love how 99% of the faggots in adv think "forget it and move on" is the answer to every problem
>>17798427
probably had a fight with her bf and decided to chat up her ex to give her a sense of power and control.
just accept that you're garbage to her and start forgetting. just let it go. she is obviously too shitty to matter. obsess over someone/something else or another insecurity you have, honestly anything but wasting another second of your thoughts on a bitch who obviously has no interest or concern for you.
So I've partied with this extremely attractive, RUSSIAN/UKRAINIAN girl several times. I've been told she's kind of a prude. Almost all of my friends have tried to snapchat her/text her or whatever and have failed. I'm the only one with her actual number.
It seems like she might be into me. A few of my friends say it seems like it. She gives me lots of compliments, touches me a lot, and when we were riding in the car I must have had my arm on her or around her half the time. Given that she's a prude who has never had a boyfriend, and constantly declines my friends invitations to do stuff, how do I proceed? She said we should snowboard last time I saw her at one of these parties, but I know that she may have been saying that just make me feel good. FYI pretty much every guy wants her.
Do the snowboard stuff.
>people who don't do things with randos are prudes
>>17798415
if she's the type of prude that i think you're talking about...
unless you're going to marry this woman, she is not going to give up her values for your fugly poor ass. you don't think rich and equally attractive guys tried to bed her before? she probably sensed that you would make a good cuck husband and is trying to reel you in.
so while it looks like you have a pretty good chance to date her, don't expect to bed her until you bend the knee... and always expect her to push for marriage.
and even if you were to marry her, unless you are her disney prince with lots of money, she will eventually cheat or just go batshit insane. a woman with her standards and values will only want perfection... which unfortunately doesn't exist.
Long story short,
>Best friend is female
>Not attracted to each other but she has boobs so Platonic cuddling
>Comes over after having sex and wants to snuggle
>Tell her to fuck off
It seemed like she didnt get why this wasnt okay. I said some pretty harsh things instead of explaining because I was disgusted with her. But Im wondering if I should have tried to be more understanding because sometimes its like women in general dont get certain things.
Stop cuddling.
She doesnt owe you anything.
You don't owe her anything.
Set boundries.
>platonic cuddling
I'm sorry, what? The last girl that told me that it was "only platonic" ended up getting my dick thrusted into her for 2 days straight.
Let me guess, she'll let you platonically eat her out too, right?
Drop her.
She wanted to cuddle after having sex with someone? That's pretty gross Tbh. But you shouldn't be cuddling with her anyways.
So, i am gonna go out with this girl, she fucking loves me, she is really obsesed with me and i do not want to ruin it, my friends told me to be myself but also not really be myself, i fuck a lot of girls which are all whored out, i do a lot of drugs and get into bloody fights, my friends told me to not talk about that with her, which i aggree, it is not the best thing a girl wants to hear, on whores before they thought it was cool but this girl is different and i like her, my friends told me to be funny, which is not a problem, litterally everyone laughs on my jokes even when they are not that great
so if you can give me advice on how to keep the conversation going with that girl and what to say to her it would be nice
also i know my english is fucked up, i am not from england
also if anybody has a similar situation post here if you want
>>17798408
keep asking questions about her then shut up and let her talk.
do not tell her stories of fucking and fighting
>>17798412
questions like
>>17798412
also dont i need to have stories of my own to impress her with something
Greeeen text time
>So last Wednesday My SO and I had relationship break down
>For various reasons; Her health, Her living with me, Her shitty job and the way that she treats me
>After nearly 8 hours of discussion later
>I agree to give things one last chance
>She agrees to going to see a doctor, staying with her folks for a while, sorting out her job and giving me some much needed space
>She saw a doc the next day, turns out she has severe depression and anxiety
>I had to drive her to the docs because she was having a massive panic attack
>Few days roll by, im trying to be supportive as well as getting the space I need from her
>we talk somewhat, she seems to be doing better
>She asks if we can talk about her coming back, I offer to go out to dinner and we can talk about it after
>Dinner goes really well, however she was really pushing coming home
>I tell her I don't feel ready to let her back in yet
>Tell her I was sorry, but I didnt feel ok with it yet
>She gets super angry, not like a verbal abusive angry, like silent, jaw tensed
>She comes by, grabs some stuff, silent the whole time and then leaves
I feel like that might be it, idk how to feel about it. I guess my question is, did I do the right thing? Standing my ground? Or should I have let her come back? Considering her current condition?
I just feel like her acting happy at dinner was just a farce to come back home and that she hadn't really addressed her issues...
>>17798402
You are probably right. 3 days, one doctors visit and the underlying problem is solved? I think not. Maintain course, OP.
>>17798413
Thanks, that's pretty much where I am at right now.
She also started seeing a therapist today. So I think I should wait a few sessions and see what happens.
man w/ depression reporting in
to be clear, the issue is -she- doesnt treat -you- well, generally speaking? Not just "we both fight and argue non stop"? she didn't have a list of complaints on her side?
either way, my thoughts:
-Depression is a bitch. your decision to create and later maintain distance from one another - be it right or wrong - is going to worsen her emotions. Not telling you you're a bad guy for it, just that you need to be aware this -will- make it worse, and probably in a progressive manner as time goes on.
she very well could have decided to stamp "fuck you" on the relationship and that's the end of it, but if shes actually got depression this can and probably will swing heavily to and fro. If you actually want to try and salvage things, it will be important to try and discuss the arrangements made and come to some form of compromise with each other. she wanted to come back, you said no. Perhaps you can compromise by making dates to make sure you spend time together daily etc, as a sign that you're not just pulling the rug out from under her.
the most important advice I can give you, is to try and find compromising solutions for any and all issues from this point forward. if she does not like something, try to find a middle ground solution to help curb the negativity.
Not doing so will allow her depression to take over more and more, and if that happens, it's all over. not because she'll leave, but because the problems you have will wrosen from it and -you- will leave.
/adv/, as much as I love my job, I still look forward to the weekends. But now I've been offered £480 to work for 12 hours tomorrow
I don't really need the money, but at the same time, all I'll probably do tomorrow is wake up late, do the groceries (that I can do today), and play on the PS4 or something
What would you guys do?
>>17798349
>What would you guys do?
I would not go to work, but I despise my job.
Just work.
>>17798349
I would go to work without giving it a second though?
What is your job that you've been offered 480£ for 12 hours?
19 here just started uni, never had a gf because shy and awkward
I decided to give tinder a try, managed to not be an autist and went out with a girl
She has a great personality, we really have a lot of shit in common
She is fat, but is working on it so I thought I'd stick with her
Now this being my first gf I hoped to find a fellow virgin (she's 18) or at least someone with a short dating history
the more I get to know her the more I find out things about her past that bother me.
She first had sex at 12 and might have been raped, dated someone 8 years older at 14, used to cut herself daily, still does sometimes
I don't know what to do now, I'm not sure if I should stick around, Something inside me always hurts when I think about her sexual past,and I tried to get over it but I start getting depressed
She seems to have changed now, and is probably the nicest person I know, shit she kind of reminds me of my mother, but I'm not sure if I could ever ignore her past
what should I do?
Should one
A: Stick ones dick in crazy
B: Never stick ones dick in crazy
Be friends if you have/want to, but chances are that she's more trouble than she's worth.
>>17798484
Thing is I'm afraid I won't get another, after barely finding her. She's not that crazy now, it's her past I can't get over
Run....
So I matched with this girl on Tinder and she's coming over to my place on friday to hook up, problem is I'm a virgin (I'm 19 if it's of any relevance)and I don't wanna make a fool of myself infront of her due to my lack of experience, so I'm trying to gather as much information on sex until friday
So far our plan is for her to come over, drink a few shots (counting on this to calm me and make me a bit more loose) and get right down to business
>tl;dr give a virgin some advice on how to sex
>>17798329
Dick in pussy
>>17798329
I don't get how tinder works to be totally honest. I don't get how getting laid works without having any game.
Do you know any game at all? Otherwise you two will just sit there talking.
I guess it happens though. I've heard of people with zero game getting laid through tinder. Not quite sure how that works. I know if I had zero game (I am extremely attractive though) they wouldn't do anything with me.
>>17798329
Be over powering after a few drinks dont make it ockward just have a few get her havin fun and giggly then get stuck in
Chicks like to know whosboss so after sum kissin start taking her clothes off dont wait 4 her to do it herself or ull be there all night potentially...then once she knows its D time just try n enjoy...recommend lickin her out to get your bearings lol