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I've been slowly trying to brute force my social anxiety and awkwardness away by accepting more social invitations even if I don't feel like it. Occasionally I have success enjoy conversations and togetherness but usually my instinct was correct the whole time, I didn't feel like I wanted to be with people because I didn't have enough energy for them. What I mean by that is, I get hit by a giant wave of apathy and the only thoughts I can find are "I need to get the hell out of here and find a place where you can relax." My expression gets serious, I have trouble making eye contact or bringing up topics. If someone asks about my behavior, the result is often an anxiety attack.
I know I need to keep pushing my boundaries to grow as a person but how do I avoid situations like this or at least handle them more gracefully?
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>>17801598
you need to look after your mental health and well being. if you live a happy life and build confidence in yourself, situations like this won't induce so much anxiety. or, at least you'll be able to remove yourself from the situation in an appropriate and graceful way.
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>>17801602
Well my biggest unhappiness is tfw no gf and it's the reason I'm trying to become more socially competent. It's kind of a vicious cycle.
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I should add more detail. I'm pretty sure the biggest stressor here is guilt. I feel really bad when I fail to provide a friend with a pleasant afternoon or when I make the host feel bad that I left early. People notice my anxiety and I can see on their face that it bothers them, I feel so bad that I get even more anxious.
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>>17801620
What about being anxious in a social situation or leaving a social situation makes you think bothers people? Why do you feel responsible for providing a friend with a pleasant afternoon? What do you think will happen if you fail to do so?
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>>17801699
Listen to this anon this is top tier therapy right here for free
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>>17801699
I want to feel like I can succeed in those things. I'm scared of looking bad.
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