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>>17799708
How hard have you been flirting with her? If she sends you all this stuff without much effort, she's desperate and crazy. So maybe fuck her once if you really want it, but not if she knows where you live, lol

Take what you can get it say.

I think you may have to seriously reconsider this life choice here

>>17799677

Ah yes, I'm also out of shows to watch on Netflix OP

>>17799677
Dude that actually really appeals to me. The u.s. Army has too much beuracrecy. Are the Kurds Muslims ?

>>17799670
what did she say

>>17799715
She said "hey".

I didn't recognize the number so I asked who it was, and she said it was "anonette". So I asked what was up and now she called me and is just chatting to me about random shit on the phone, while I'm typing this.

I'm so confused.

>>17799721
probably wants your dick idk

if you are ever in the same area hit it

If you're going to be this autistic about relationships, just forget about it

>it even worth having a girlfriend
if you guys actually enjoy spending time with each other then yes.

>And when is a good time to consider the girl you been dating your girlfriend?
Every relationship is different. Best idea is to ask her if she wants commit to a relationship when you feel like you want to commit.

The reason you hear people complain about relationships and dating is because it often takes a lot of trial and error to find someone who works as a partner.

>>17799666
i call upon the MODS in attack mode, use BAN ATTACK.

>>17799652
I was "popular" in high school, and it was fucking exhausting. It kind of sucks to have a lot of friends. I know I'm bitching about something that most people think they want, but it's true. Maintaining a friendship takes effort and compromise, and I honestly think that a tight "social group" is often a pretty toxic thing. Or mine was, anyway. I liked most of them as individuals, but one or two motivated drama-lovers can turn the whole group into a petty, competitive, backbiting organism.

I kinda just let most of those friendships die off through neglect through college and afterwards. I'm 26 now and I have like 3 real friends. I'm much happier this way. Quality >>>> quantity, without a doubt.

I agree with the first poster. Keeping up with friends is exhausting. Weekends you have to pick which friends to hang out with and turn down others. You have fucked up drama that you have to deal with. You have to sometimes buy drinks for everyone because someone else did the last time. You'll have friends that stab you in the back or hit on your gf right in front of you. Then what do you do? Punch him? Laugh? That kind of shit. I don't mind being a loner. It suits me just fine.

>>17799694

>it was fucking exhausting

mah nigga. Being popular, having wide social circles, and a busy romantic life is actually taxing. It got to the point for me where at the end of a week filled with social events id lie in bed for a whole day feeling incredibly depressed and tired.
Also when shit really goes down in your life most of these people wont be there for you.
It's definitely better to have a small handful of good friends, who will be there in the long run.

20 miles is not far.

>>17799575

Distance is not the right metric (20 miles is more troublesome if you don't own a car or if you live in a high traffic area); the time needed to travel is a better one.

I would be willing to do up to one hour one way; more than that would need specific justification.

>>17799575
Well my boyfriend is 10,000 miles away, so I guess that'd be how far I'd go. I like travelling, too, so it works

Hey its not his fault kids need to form a psychological bond with their parents, if they werent in his life he had no choice but not to care

> to the point of having no affection whatsoever towards them?

But what's the point of caring in his case? He grew with other people, basically they raised him instead of his parents, and the sole fact that that woman gave birth to him does not oblige him to care in any way.

>>17799555
Does he care about his aunt and uncle, at least? Look, if his parents were neglectful and unaffectionate, how is he supposed to feel affection for them? It'd be a red flag if he HATED them, but if he's just indifferent I totally get it

>>17799533
Do you have this problem with most people, or just your girlfriend?

>>17799535
>>17799535
most people

Holy shit, you described the thing that happens to me with most people, after some days i got not a single thing to say, i forget most things that happened in my life holy crap

well how long has she actually been on it?

>>17799431
12 days

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>>17799966

These urges are p common I think OP. Our generation was kind of conditioned to always be lusting over the next new shiny toy.

For me I just try to consider what else I could or SHOULD be spending the money on instead. If you have the money and new tech makes you happy, don't be guilty about it. I guarantee you most people are like this to more unreasonable extents, always having to buy new clothes every couple months and what not.

I try to keep things in perspective. If i'm going to use it everyday for work or top priority passion project then I will upgrade. but if it's a tablet or tv, something that doesn't need to be upgraded for a few years, then i'll deal with the slower hardware because all you need to remember is the dial-up days and imagining your current phone blowing your 13 year old self's mind.

>>17799343
I still feel guilty for spending so much on tech that I'll probably replace within a few years anyway. On the other hand I never treat myself to anything else so I might as well spend my money on tech stuff. I'm rather young and have a son so of course there are better things to spend money on but still, it feels nice to be able to treat yourself to something you really want once in a while.
The problem is how often you treat yourself and/or get the urge to do so...
>>17799371
I'm currently looking at a new monitor and although I use my PC a few hours per day and I'll have the monitor for several years the price/day ratio isn't very high but $800 is still a lot of money.
I've come to my senses and will probably get it when the price drops. I guess it's a pretty healthy way of looking at the issue though.

Bump for prosperity

gay

>>17798923
I think a lot of what drives us would disappear. We're indirectly motivated to do a lot of the things we do because of our hormones. Take that away and we lose the drive to even want children, let alone any other sort of lasting legacy.

>>17798923
It would be exactly the same shit except I'm not masturbating everyday.

>>17798923
I'd be with someone for solely their personality?
Isn't that like the only answer to this?

Don't jump to break ups immediately. Try to work out the problem.

Women usually don't like to hear logic or harsh truths. Just tell her that you'll still be there by her side or she deserves better. Or try to get her mind off it.

I'm in the exact same scenario, only difference is that she's 19.

She's young man. She overreacted. Talk to her and explain that saying stupid shit when you're having a conversation is rude and should be avoided. Hopefully you can teach her a thing or two about communication.

Sometimes people don't want to hear the harshness of the world and you gotta choose what matters to you more, having them around or the truth.

>>17797163
It's an influence.

There's not some magical gay gene or mental damage behind it. It is purely societal influence. I'm guessing you watch tv, listen to music, and generally indulge in pop media. Even if you don't, your friends do. And the homosexual influence is real. People like you pick it up without realizing the when where why of it and feel like something is wrong with them.
It is your environment and your habits within. Opinions atop opinions atop opinions atop opinions, mostly secondhand. Stop hating yourself. Stop hating gays. Open your eyes and see the influence.

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>>17797163
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-OGd4gplxQM

>>17797180

99% sure i wasnt influenced by anything.

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>>17792316
i was so certain that this girl at my uni was totally as into me as i was into her. I really never felt this connected so someone since my ex whom I dated for 3 years. we talked alot and had dinner together, then when i told her how i felt she was nice about it but said she had a bf (idk if hes here or back in her country).

my problem isnt that she did or didnt, my problem is why im do i get so attached to people i want to date even when i tell myself i shouldnt get so invested in the prospect. why do i expect everything to turn into some big thing (not every girl i talk to of course, i mean just prospective people).

I honestly wish I could be more into just hooking up with people like my best friends back home are vs expecting every girl I'm super into to turn into some emotionally investing couple thing. I honestly wish I could just pick people up at like a coffee shop or the gym rather than trying for some long term end game or something.

Sorry if it comes off as more of a blog than an advice, I guess my question is just, what do you think of this and what should I do to fix all these problems up in here or if I can even fix them.

>>17792328
http://vocaroo.com/i/s1nY5dKzM1H6

I'm super outgoing and have lots of friends offline but every time I try to Skype or talk to someone from 4chan they don't even reply.

what do