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>>17800169
Don't try too hard to hit on people if that doesn't come naturally to you, don't force it. If you see a girl eyeing you, you can just go up and say hi, introduce yourself, etc. Otherwise just have a couple drinks, maybe dance a bit, it doesn't have to be a big deal. If he ditches you and you've had enough, you can just head home

I'm not a big fan of clubs or crowds either, but it doesn't have to be a big scary thing, just keep it low-key and don't try too hard

Get drunk? That usually helps me tolerate that kind of situation.

>>17800187
Thanks for the advice man

>>17800193
This also does help when I go out with him, but I usually end up feeling like complete shit when i realize "oh hey no one's paying attention to me why am I here why am I so fucking undesirable, blah blah etc."

>>17800147
What do you think you want to do? Also you just don't get into uni automatically as well as the armed forces

Getting into the military is a great choice if your heart is in it. Even if your military career doesn't take off, you can go work at Frontier as a vet and get tons of union benefits.

>>17800151
See thats the thing, im too autistic to know what i want to even do, but i filled and sent out application forms and talked to recruiters for both the Army and Airforce, so i have a chance at getting into what i want (which i dont' know what that is)

You can't bullshit your way out of a math class, and you can't bullshit about the way elements react.
So yes.

>>17800095
But I already do well in calc, physics and chemistry courses.

>>17800093
>humanities and literacy
Literally useless, who the fuck cares you're safe.

get a job faggot

Sooner or later in life you're going to have to learn to work hard.

Try to find something you're good at, and learn to make money from it.

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>>17800071
Wow ive got the same problem , fagget.
You and i have three possibilities
be a bum
get a job
suicide
right now im a bum but im gonna get a jobsoon

I have schizoaffective. I take zyprexa and resperidol and prozac for depression.

>>17800016
that seems like a good time... how long have you been on them? what are your experiences and why are you the way you are if you wouldn't mind me asking?

>>17800025

Ive been on meds about 10 years. I used a lot of pot and alcohol, started off bipolar but social anxiety morphed into psychosis and voices.

homie i'm doing grad school after i graduate this spring. chemistry. i have a 2.9 gpa but i think i'll be ok.

i mention this because you'll be ok too. you sound stressed. don't stress about school. it's really not that big of a deal; after a certain point you can't tank your grades that much since you just have too many credits. if you're almost done -- which i assume since you're weighing your post-undergrad options -- put schoolwork on the backburner a bit. talk to classmates, get some finals study groups together, go drink afterwards (if you can). bam, friends.

as for the girl thing you seem to have some major issues. don't stifle your fuckin feelings dude that's not healthy. take some fucking charge if you want a girl. i'm not gonna say some redpill bullshit but if you literally make yourself be confident you will be successful

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>>17800007

> alk to classmates, get some finals study groups together, go drink afterwards (if you can). bam, friends.

I have many friends who I see often, in my class and in the college, but I don't like any of them that much. I have a couple of good friends from way back, but I don't see them and I don't know how to fit them into my life in a lucid way, other than meeting with them once or twice a month for a brief catch-up and a few joints.

Also, due to the problems I mentioned before, I can't maintain friendships with girls, as talking to them makes me feel extremely anxious, and my inability to relate to them and their interests makes me feel angry at them (yikes I know that sounds Ted Bundyish but it's the way I am).

I wish I could make better friends sometimes, who I could talk with about more interesting things, where there would be a sense of collective direction and where meeting new and interesting people was possible, but currently my social milieu is a dead end, and due to inertia and entanglement I can't break away and start from scratch, and besides, my probability of finding interesting or odd people would be just as low.

I'm hoping in Grad School weirdos will start coming out of the wilderness. At least people who read literature other than self-help books reeeeeeee

>>17799996
Now that I've had some time to think about it, maybe my severe block from forming real relationships with women is the most salient and pressing of my problems and I should see a therapist. The inability to relate could be a rationalization for a more fundamental problem.

I'm trying to find a Lacanian psychoanalyst now - even if it doesn't work, at least it will be a fun ride.

Time will be the only way to "purge" those feelings from yourself, the only thing I can recommend is to be by other friends and try not getting yourself into situations where all you can think about is her. You need to distract yourself by working, being with friends, doing something athletic etc.

>>17799981

Same boat

You just kind of keep going and try enjoy yourself when you can

Been like 4 years for me

Been almost 20 years here anon.

You ever heard that line about how God split one soul in two and until you find that person, you're always missing a piece of yourself?

That's only true for the ones who leave you. That will always be the piece of you you're missing.

>>17799961
bump

>>17799961
so nobody knows how to do this

>>17799961
piece of shit board

>>17799882
I remember reading a few of these threads on this board before, and they all said the super hot Asian escorts on the back pages are usually scams.

I can't really help more than that, good luck!

>>17799882
Your hot Japanese prostitute is going to be a middle aged Vietnamese sex slave.

>>17799899
>middle aged
dealbreaker.
>Vietnamese
I know a bit of nipspeak, should I try to carry conversation in Japanese to figure out if they're fakes?
>Sex slave
Don't really care desu. Everything has consequences and if you fail to prepare for them, that's on you.
>>17799892
thanks senpai. I'll be vigilant.

>>17799832
Post tattoos

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>>17799832

>conservative culture

Ti che dura? Imu poxui na tvoi tutairovki.

>>17799854
Cпacибo Bлaдик))

So her mom completely opposes her dating boys? Or is it just you in particular? Has her mother met you yet (you mentioned it but it wasn't completely clear)? What exactly does she prohibit?

>>17800144
This, explain more

>>17799830
How old is SHE?

>>17799824
I'm in a similar boat, I think I'll do it tomorrow if I manage to scoop together what little courage I have.

How do you plan to do it? I'm really shit at these things, but I was thinking along the lines of telling her that: I have a massive crush on you, however don't really know how to deal with that but most importantly don't want to creep you out with this.

I know it's shit and a little bit apologetic, but I'm thinking that it would give her two very clear ways of reacting - either the obvious choice that I'm hoping for, or in the other case, she could 'retreat' and simply say not to worry, you don't creep me out, blahblah.

Thoughts? Better ideas?

>>17799852
One thing I will say is you should never try to sound shy. Girls love confidence so be as confident as you can be. Ask what's she's doing tonight/tomorrow and if she says she's not doing anything take her to a decent restaurant. Doesn't have to be 5 star but don't bring up fast food. The more confidence you show the better your odds.

And be clear that you plan on considering it a date and not just two friends meeting together. Made that mistake before.

>>17799897
Thanks for the input. I'll see her tomorrow evening for a gym session with friends, so I'll try to grab her after that and talk to her in private.

She also isn't just a new acquaintance, but someone I've met 2 years ago, and she's been quite touchy in the last weeks - which I've never seen her do to someone else, so that gives me a bit of confidence. Also I know for a fact that she's never been romantically involved with anyone before, so I'm not fully convinced that the straight and direct route for the romantic dinner is the best one; but I'll definitely consider it.

People in general are very selfish. After being used all of my life and having dealt with other people's problems and playing the role of "the clown", I completely gave up on making new friends and stick with the few I have. I havent been in a relationship in forever because I devote myself to my achievements. I constantly work on my car and get better at my programming major.

I have never been happier than having seen the people who used me catch STD's, gain beer-guts, and live in poverty after "daddy's money" ran out. I never lived that life and I am upset that I spent my time trying to impress them at one point when now they beg me for money.

If someone's worth keeping around, I'd know.

Its nice being able to act like your true self on a normal basis, however. No one to impress or answer to...

>>17799801
Live well and stay the fuck away from this person, someone who thinks like this is toxic and you don't need that drama in your life anon

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>>17799801
>So i'm just a casualty of war?

Assuming that pic is yours: Nah and don't let it beat you down.

People who allow themselves to get into relationships and then break up with others based on a feeling of love like that aren't the brightest bulbs and are bound to get themselves into a really shallow one. The idea isn't that shit,it's that you get along and are open to each other. You probably understand that but not them so it's their loss.

It can be, but for many women it sucks. Rubbing your clit while it happens helps

For me, penetration is the highlight of sex. Yeah I love to cum but nothing makes me more happy than my guy pounding me.

Is it not good for you? Some women just like clitoris stimulation to feel good.

>>17799726
It is pleasurable for most women, at different degrees.

>Sorry, I can't

was it that difficult?

>>17799723
I'm autistic.

>>17799737
Try and not mention that when you tell him you can't.