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My life is a waste, I'll probably kill myself sooner or later. Probably within the next few years.

Ive been an NEET autist virgin handholdless contactless semi mute depressed apathetic shutin guy that's almost about to hit 30. My survival is due to autismbux, but for a long while kinda seems like a waste. Im not doing anything worthwhile and I don't have any thing to look forward to.

>>17787072
It gets better guys. Challenge yourselves to see what's really going on. Push yourselves, even if it hurts. It hurts now, so that it won't have to so much in the future.

5 years on and off as a NEET, never off my parents dime. The whole thing was living a total lie, sweeping shame under a rug. Pretending not to exist around their friends, around our family. Acting like I didn't know how much I'd made my mother cry by being such a failure.

I only got out of it by forcing myself to take a part time job as a barista, after a long bout of idleness and depression. The job hurt. It was stressful and humiliating. It was a high volume store, and the business of it was overwhelming. I'd come home from it and lay in bed for 2 hours just to feel all the things I'd shelved while at work. People looked down on me, talked around me as if I wasn't there, said how sorry they felt for me behind my back. Shift managers would fuck with me and intimidate me because I was meek and they were stressed. I got juggled from position to position, but managed to be a total fuckup in every single one. I wanted to kill myself a lot.

But there were good people, too. One of them helped me get a full-time position as a baker someplace else. It's enough to be independent, which I have been for about 4 months going strong. Things are alright now. They got better for an autist like me. You all can pull yourself out of this hole, too.

>>17788101
We've got someone in the group who's 39, and another who's 28. Most of the rest of the group is in their mid/early 20s. There's a lot of people in similar situations to you all finding their own way through life. You're not alone, Anon. And if you like, we have a lot of really good resources in the Pastebin devoted to dealing with anxiety and depression.

The biggest thing to remember though, and it sounds silly to say but a lot of people forget it. Change only happens if you're willing to take the steps to change. You don't have to rush in over your head, and you don't have to change your whole life at once. Tiny little baby steps are best when you're in this situation. Build on one small success after another.

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Check out how to fix almost anything if you'd like to hear a bit more on what I'm talking about.

>>17799983
Diversity for its own sake is stupid. The best person for the job should always get the position without any regard to race. To hell with quotas.

>>17800006
>The best person for the job should always get the position without any regard to race.
Unfortunately in a free market society, if one race starts to have the better positions (earned or not), others will start to prefer them or view others of the same race as better for the job than others (like India to tech support), which screws over others trying to apply.

What part of the university are you working?

Hard sciences, engineering, computers? Don't worry too much.

Also out in the real working world, the diversity thing isn't a real concern.

Why do you care about your mom so much?

>>17799970

Not sure if troll thread.

>>17799978
99% of adv is bait

>>17799767

Which area are you from c: ?

>>17799770
I'm from Massachusetts.

>>17799773

So am I (; I'm a trap c:

>>17799693
toenails are small and funny

>>17799693
...do you wanna tell us something about your friend, or are we just supposed to guess what they're into? Gifts are supposed to be personal and you've given 0 information

>>17799703
I know, anon but in this case I don't want anything personal really. Just some random funny things as I said, something silly to put a smile on the other person's face.

Why the fuck you would have 3 children with 10 years of not having a job in the first place??? You're disgusting

>>17799597

I know the feeling, can be pretty terrifying having to face someone and let them be aware of your relative failure.

Just look for work as a labourer, attempt to finish your trade.

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WTF are you me?

I've been back at work for a few weeks now - it's a shit show and I've spilled a lot of spaghetti but

my advice is to not give a fuck and just do it. No one is the wiser. For all they know you were in prison or CIA, protect your neck and never let em see you sweat.

>>17799580
lol im a guy & do this constantly,, stop being such an insecure secure little bitch fuck lmao

Many girls are awkward people and poor communicators

Mostly they are just afraid of coming off as irritated or angry.
It's basically the text version of a polite smile.

>>17799538

Who cares, she's your boss. Not your girlfriend, just pull your weight and mind your business.

It is you again? Man, I told you like 20 times, you should've asker her out, it appears she is fed up with hitting on you and getting nothing on return.
I think your chance has passed, maybe she will be fine tomorrow, who knows, I would act cautious with her from now on if I were you.

If things normalise you should just ask her out for a drink already.

>>17799559
technically she's just a supervisor since there's either the GM or one of the two assistant managers there each shift. idk.

>>17799576
She probably is, but it's like a switch flipped out of nowhere and she was pissed off.

I'll see about tomorrow, but idk. I'm gonna tread lightly, that's for sure. I mean, why would she be pissed in the first place? If she was being 100% obvious about any signs of liking me, I wouldn't not know what to do in the first place.

This sucks. I fuck up almost everything in my life. I'm just gonna not ask her out and be depressed about it every day since that's all I'm good at doing.

Not with opiates, but I have a serious alcohol problem I've actively been trying to kick out of my life this past year.

I can't say I can relate because my issue is very different from your issue, but just keep in mind that the end result will be worth it. You'll have a better outlook on life and won't have that addiction nag prodding at you all day every day.

The best motivation I've found in my situation is not to do it for others, but to do it for myself and my own self-improvement and a better, longer life.

Do your best, Anon. I don't know you but I'm rooting for you.

>>17799537
Thank you for the pep talk, I realize it'll be worth it in the end but it's easy to lose sight of your end goal when your brain isn't working like it's supposed to.

>>17799521
Dunno about the physical withdrawal, but as general "recovering from addiction" advice - It's not enough to just stop taking the substance. You have to replace it with something meaningful, you'll need something new to occupy all this free time. Start figuring out goals and plans for your drug-free life, or it will eventually become impossible to shake off that "nothing to do, might as well get high" feeling. You'll need to keep yourself busy and occupied.

One thing I personally found REALLY helpful - I adopted a dog. The dog needs to be fed twice a day, on time, and walked twice a day, on time. He depends on me, he needs attention and affection. Sometimes it's easy to say I don't give a shit about my own life, but it's hard to not give a shit about my dog. He makes it easier to avoid my impulse to shut down and disappear

Well...how did you fuck it up?

>>17799525
I was paranoid and a beta cuck so she lost interess. Also I got her mad and she got her "little revenge" by kissing another guy when we were out with some friends. After the kiss she gave me that look like "yeah I did it cunt" and I got so fucking mad that I haven't talk to her in like a month. God dammit what a cuck I was.

>>17799536
Also I was paranoid and I thought that she was just being friendly and shit. I got to call our dates just some "friendly meetings" and never made that step to kiss her or some other shit. Basically I was a cuck.

>>17799377
been done before, it's illegal.

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>>17799384
i don't really care about getting v& myself

and exploiting pedos is better then being one

p03 witnessed
(we would be doing it via bitcoin and hiding behind proxies so we don't get v&)

backstory? i don't know if you guys are dating or if she is zoning you

>>17799375
We're dating, and it's very passionate. We are (were?) utterly in love with eachother and so cutesy all the time. Then today she tells me she's getting bored and it's just something that happens, but she still loves me and wants to continue dating me.

>>17799387
That just means the butterflies and "magic" are gone. Just continue on dating her and do something romantic every now and then. How old are you?

I mentioned my circles while at the doctor's office once. They said something about poor blood circulation. so sometimes I give them a little massage.

They come if you don't exercise, are stressed, don't get enough or have too much sleep, or have an imbalanced diet. Find out what you're doing wrong and rectify it.

>>17799346
Can they get better or has the damage been done?

same here, i almost killed myself and they gave me neetbux, had them for 3 years now

>>17799311
I applied for Social Security Disability benefits, but I was denied for not having worked for long enough. Getting some neetbux would be a lifesaver...

>>17799377

try what this anons doing

Chance of a lifetime, my man. I'd take it without a blink.

Dated a 23 year old for a few years at the age of 16. It worked out alright. It's not reputation suicide if you get her a fake like my ex did and she plays along. Anyway, best relationship I'll ever have in my memory most likely.

He told a couple of his friends and it was funny because we saw Scott Pilgrim with him. (Features that exact age gap.)

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