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Three weeks ago I posted on /adv/.
I'm a 27 year old virgin, with a decent job. When I was 21 I committed to staying single etc. as avoiding relationships and rejection led to my mood being far more stable than before.
I'd been having after work drinks sometimes with a girl from work, it was fun etc. She text me asking if I was single. I didn't respond. Two days later she text apologising for being inappropriate. Again I didn't respond.
I'd asked /adv/ for help removing myself from the situation as I don't ever want to have a relationship and I certainly wouldn't have one at work, risking people finding out my inexperience and appearing weak.
In the end I never responded as I really didn't know how to respond, yet stay outside of the relationship paradigm.
Today I was back in the office for the first time since these texts. When I walked past her desk it was clearly awkward.
How do I fix the situation and return to having enjoyable after work drinks, yet keep my commitment to never being involved in relationships?
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>>17926944
Are you comfortable with lying? Just say: "Sorry, I'm in a complicated situation with someone. I'd prefer not to talk about it right now."
Keep in mind that she might have been hanging with you because she liked you, so maybe she won't want to hang anymore.
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>>17926948
Not really I don't want to get entangled in a web of lies.
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tell her "hey sorry I didn't reply. My last relationship was shitty and I wasn't sure about jumping so soon into a new one"
She'll understand...But make sure you really don't want to be with her or else you'll blow your chance
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>>17926999
But that means lying. If she asks any questions about this fake relationship I literally will have no idea what to say as I have no experience in this arena.
Also this kind of response means I then get trapped into having to deal with "relationship stuff".
I never had the upside from relationships, I shouldn't have to deal with the downsides.
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>>17926975
a "web of lies" lol, sure
stop overthinking it, just use what anon told ya. Its a great white lie and she will get the message without you having to explain with great difficulty what kind of a person you are.
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>>17927038
But what about:
"Also this kind of response means I then get trapped into having to deal with "relationship stuff".
I never had the upside from relationships, I shouldn't have to deal with the downsides."
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If she asks for details just say you don't want to talk about it. Job done.
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Just tell her starting a relationship with a coworker is a bad idea. Drinks are fine though.
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Nobody waste their time responding in this thread. We gave OP advice last time and he ignored it completely, he'll do the same thing again. He's clearly mentally ill.
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Not this fag again
>asks for advice
>rejects absolutely everything out of hand
Literally everyone in the other thread told you to respond to her and how. But you didn't and now it's awkward, who could have possibly predicted that? Oh wait we did, so fuck you op you refused our advice now deal with the consequences.
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>>17926944
Maybe you should just be honest with her, and honest with yourself. Why are you afraid of relationships? How much do you love you?
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