Please help

>>17926865
I've been in those sort of relationships. They make you feel like such a dick and asshole out of crappy situations. After months of being with them, you believe everything they say because they're you're "number one".

You done nothing wrong, bro. Some girls are just like that.
Sorry to hear of your dad's friend, op.

>>17926865
she sounds fucked up to me.

I know what you mean. But, the situation's like this. For the last month or so, she's been really stressed out, she was always getting sick, she had some sort of muscle spasms and she felt bad in general. She was on sick leave the last week and she felt much better after it. She got a new job also, three days ago. We both concluded that it was because of her stress that she was feeling ill. For new years she did a was really off the chart with drinking and getting high. Now she says that what if it strikes again with the spasms and whatnot. I told her, what about my family, they had a rough time already dealing with this today, what if they can't handle it anymore on the funeral, what if someone collapses or something. I told her that i need to be with them the whole day. And still, she wouln't understand.

>>17926913
What be necessary for her to put forth effort in support of you?

When you love someone, you ask yourself
>what can I do for them?
not
>what can I get from them?

You know this, because you're a giver. You're not going to fill her and turn her into a giver. She's a taker. You know it. Circumstance has made you stand up for what's right for once, and she didn't give a shit. In fact, she's using an unfortunate situation to try and push you further into her domain on control.

She did you a huge favor by giving you an out. Take it.

>>17926865
> She broke up with me because she thought a didn't care enough for her.
Sounds like a weird reason.

>She had no real friends
Oh, I wonder why!

>She always kinda guilted me if didn't come or couldn't come.
That's manipulative behavior and isn't fun and games if she's serious about it.

>She immediately got mad and said that I didn't care about her and that I'm a piece of shit for leaving her alone
Kek. If a family friend dying, what's a good reason? She sounds entitled as fuck.

>Am I the one who's the "bad guy" in this story ?
Not a bit. Most guys who make similar threads actually did something to fuck up but from the sound of it you did absolutely nothing wrong.

>I'm kind of a mess myself here
Be happy, nigga. You didn't lose anything of value and won more personal freedom.

>For new years she did a was really off the chart with drinking and getting high.
So she's not even overly bright, damn.

Thanks for the support, guys. Really needed to talk to someone. I think I need some time now to reevalute my whole fucking life, it's kind of hard to come to terms with this whole situation. It's been a hell of a day. Thanks for the support again, really appreciate it. Love ya all.