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>>17923668
I'm too ugly to even get rejected. Girls on the street immediately pull out their phones or look at the ground when I walk by them.

>>17923668

I was at a house party with a friend of mine. He walked up to a girl standing on her own and started talking to her like it was nothing. I figured screw it, i can do this. I went up to a girl near me (not that i was particularly interested or attracted but i wanted to give it a shot). I made eye contact, smiled lightly and asked "Hey, what's your name?" She responded with one word "No." then walked away.

fin

the pain you feel after a rejection for some girl you've never even been in a relationship with is fucking nothing compared to the pain of a break up with a woman you've had a loving relationship with

"rejection" is for teenagers

Any outside outlets going to his apartment? Overload it if so and trip his breakers.

>>17923631
Point a speaker into a vent that goes to his apt and play one of those ten hour YouTube videos of like gentlementlemen or something.

How the hell do you do that without raising any suspicion?

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Listen to her speech, watch her behavior, learn about her self-respect, and look for women from 2-parent families.

Burn the coal, pay the toll.

What's a coal burner?

>>17923624
A girl who has sex with or dates black men, I think. I'm not 100% sure myself.

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Speak to a mental health professional, for one. That's probably the best place to start.

Also, incorporate exercise in to your routine, as awful as it is. Something you won't run away from, like a daily walk. Daily walks are part of most therapies for neuroses, and are very helpful in combatting emotional disturbances. It also acts as a buffer in your endocrine system, helping to minimize rapid changes in your hormone profile.

>>17923648

Resources arent available to me, interaction with the people I care about results in them moving away from me.

I'm aware of my issues on a superficial level, maybe even deeper, but theres no easy fix and I need to treat some of the symptoms that are crippling my ability to live in the short term.

Theres no point in talking about it on a vietnamese sewing board, I need some surface level fixes/tricks though, if any ya'll know anything?

I'll have to look into walking somehow, I dont have a lot of good ways to do it where I am atm but i've been doing a small exercise routine in my home every other day.

Thanks sir

>>17923573
>I'm the typical Pisces

Stop believing in voodoo magic first of all


>how to stop caring about things and people so much? Does it just come with more experience and disappointments?


Imagine it this way. Yes, this is true
>most people are selfish and don't care about others too much.

Most people only find a handful of people who they come to care for and about in an entire lifetime. From ages 16-26 a lot of people only gain 1-2 true friends who will last them their life. Meaning to say, it takes a lot of filtering through bullshit and shit people before you find those you can connect with. You have been going at it for a fraction of the time, so it makes sense you havent found someone to connect with. But you will, keep trying, it isnt instantaneous or easy for anyone.

>>17923611
This is supremely good and wise advice, OP.

Ultimately, surround yourself with people who love you, and you can't go wrong. Family, 1-2 good friends, and you'll be among the luckiest people on earth.
Build your own family, OP. That's how you foster love and caring.

>>17923611
I don't actually believe in it. It's absolute bull for sure. I just said it cause I have a lot of the traits and it might be easier for people to understand where I'm coming from.

And yeah I get that. I do have true friends I've met over the years and they're great.
It's just that I'm at a point in my life where I'm living in different places for work so I kind of have to interact with new people in a new city or be isolated. But I have trouble dealing with all the shit and fakeness that comes with making new friends. I wish I knew how to be more balanced and not let people in too quickly. I'm starting to feel so exhausted of it all. I either have to buckle up and be more like them or be alone.

no chance op judged by the text

seems ambiguous
on one hand, she messaged first so thats a good sign. on the other hand, she kind of ducked on giving an exact time frame but she could just be legit busy. too early to tell right now OP, just play your cards right and see how this goes

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Also, every time I've seen her lately she has been really dressed up in make up and sexy clothes. She came to my new years toke sesh really good looking and she used to never wear make up around me.

>shemales
>pegging
>femdom

>questionable
aha
ahahah
AHAHAAHAH

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Yeah, he's bi, a sissy, or just really fucked up addicted to kinky porn, and needs to keep upping the shock value to get off, I would say.

Poop and snuff is probably next. Might want to tell him it's gross and he needs to stop making you feel like a dude.

>>17923501
yeah, i get that a lot of guys are into these...
and i don't really mind. but it is all he can get off to anymore. that's why i'm starting to be concerned.

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>>17923458
He didn't turn around or anything and continued to talk with his brother but crossed the road as fast as possible. I ran across the road and followed him for a little bit and eventually came to my senses and walked home. In that moment I felt totally euphoric and as happy as I have ever been, even now I can totally remember how it felt. He reported the action to the school and to the police along with all of my messages (inappropriate/lewd, saying how I would love to fug him and [spoiler]mutilate[/spoiler]) and the school took action against it.. I can't talk to him again or I'll be expelled and get a criminal conviction (according to them, that is.)
And so, I seen him today, for the first time in 2 months and my emotions are running wild. We got back to school, it was lunchtime and I was walking out to buy lunch and I seen him walking in. He looked towards me with an annoyed expression and then turned away immediately and kept giving me glances back. It made me feel really nice that he cared enough to look back at me, even though he shouldn't. Well, anyway.. I feel as though it's just a matter of time I do something impulsive again and possibly get a conviction / ruin mine, or his life.
I have extremely super strong feelings for him that won't fade over any amount of time and spring up randomly that I want to get rid of. I've tried everything that I can that isn't consulting my parents about the issue (reporting it to the vice principal/referral to a counsellor) but they can't give me the support I need to overcome it, or rather I do not believe I can overcome it and I am going to end up raping or harming him.
pls help and I am terrible at writing in paragraphs

>4.5k word
Damn. That is quite literally just a little shorter than my final English essay I spent a whole week on.

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>>17923475
I put much more effort into it than I would an English essay. It's about a person very important to me, after all...

>>17923390
I guess that "virgin" is one of the worst things you can put on your checklist for the perfect girl, because if you're out your teens it's going to rule out so many girls it becomes pretty much impossible to find one. Also, it will only get worse as time goes by.

No one can tell you how to feel, but you would at least make things a lot easier on yourself if you could get over the whole virgin thing.

>>17923415
I am 19 and she is 18. I could realistically find a virgin, but I don't know if that's really what I want.
I feel like all my problems would go away is she were, but I also don't want to, or I am afraid to leave my current gf because she is pretty much perfect in every other way

forgot to mention that I get constant headaches because I think about it all the time, and I can't even enjoy time together

guys cmon there is a line here they are knocking

Don't flush

>>17923418
And make a mess too. Shit all all over the place if you can

>Can you build significant/non-work friendships as a 30+?
Looking at my parents' friendships and friendships of people I know who are over 30, apart from your kids' friend's parents, most of your friends will be friends you made when you were younger.

>>17923367
This frightens me so much. I'm 29 and the list of friends who I consider really good friends and keep in touch regularly has been shrinking exponentially since I finished college at 22.

It's hard to make new good friends when you're not "forced" into being social situations like seeing people in a classroom every day

>>17923412
I'm not saying you can't make friends past 30, but it's definitely much harder to one you're out of school. Once you've had kids, I imagine it gets easier because, like I said, your kids' friends have parents.

I've also read most adults have only one or two close friends anyway

>>17923356
>Well, I hope you'll put me on the waiting list if you become available then. ;)
Oh my god

>>17923356
A good way to never hear from her again 2bh

>>17923369
>>17923375
Oh well, I guess I'll write her off. What would be a better way to reply?

The question isn't is porn bad for you, the question is porn bad for YOU? Only you can answer that, and you lying to yourself. For me, porn is bad because it turns me into an insecure recluse.

>>17923332
*You'll know if you're lying to yourself, not "you lying to yourself"

Yes.

It is for me anyway. Porn has ruined my life in many ways. So I stop watching for a huge chunk of time, have a weak moment now n then, watch a video or browse some stupid app. Meh.. more harm than good.

>>17923285

Bump

>>17923285
You look like you should probably be asking tumblr these questions, not 4chan.

>>17923285

If you have a strong attraction to this person and are interested in trying to date then approach them and try asking.

But first you should probably deal with your current relationship. Nothing wrong with ending a relationship to try out another, especially if it's going downhill.

>>17923217
I feel like that's a bad reason to go into a career. Besides, don't you become a detective through the police, not through law?

I may be wrong, but I thought that Criminal Justice was for lawyers and shit?

>>17923224
According to the career profiles on the colleges at my area they bundle things like "Private/Police Detective" and "Forensic Science" and "Judge" all under Criminal Justice

So I dunno if there's been a change between details or the colleges in my area don't really bother with details like those at least for the reasons I'm looking at it for.

Not going to lie, studied criminology and law because of that reason (but with Perry Mason novels instead of Sherlock Holmes). Obviously it's nothing like how it's portrayed, but I enjoyed it anyway.