Anxiety of penetrative sex

I have the same issue, OP. Lurking for advice as well.

Yall are puttin the pussy on a pedestal

>>17934181
get some viagra or something

If you can go for multiple rounds don't even worry about lasting longer. I've practiced for years to hold it and it's nice, but when I go for a second round my gf is usually sore, so I'm trying to untrain myself back

Regarding the anxiety performance, try edgind during other activities and cumming in her, even if it only takes you a few pumps. This will help you build confidence that you can cum in her and lose the anxiety gradually.

Condoms suck too but if you're stuck to them, the best you can do is get really sensitive and aroused before putting it on to compensate.

>>17934202
Doesn't sound like a long term solution
Would one go with it help or detriment my situation, I'm not sure

>>17934211
So I guess you imply getting her on the pill?

Put the condom on and then put it in her mouth - might have more success getting your erection back that way.

At the end of the day though you're probably psyching yourself out. I guess I can't say much, I couldn't do it the first time either and I stopped going out with that girl sometime after.

I was finally with someone else when I was 25. I was lucky that she was a bit more experienced and knew how to seduce the fuck out of me. She also didn't care about a condom and I just slid into her raw. It was actually uncomfortable as fuck and actually kinda painful since I had mild phimosis but for some reason my dick stayed rock hard anyway. I basically just fucked her doggy style (gingerly, on account of the pain). She was moaning and doing the whole thing but I just couldn't concentrate at all. I stopped after a few minutes. We did it a couple more times and dated for maybe 6-8 months.

I didn't fuck again after that for another 2+ years and it was a bitch the first time with my current gf as well. I got her hot and horny by telling her how I wanted to bend her right over her bed, but I had a hell of a time penetrating and, again, it was uncomfortable as hell the first time.

Moral of the story, don't worry too much about it. She's your gf, not a 1 night stand - you'll fuck again and again in the future and you'll get better at it.

>>17934232
If you can, yes.

However I know some women aren't eager to do it for N reasons. So try your luck, but also take your time getting used to condoms.

Also it won't solve your problem. Not using condoms is mostly about sensivity and convenience, because you won't have to stop for that. But sensivity wise, if you are able to penetrate without it, you'll blow your load like you're the flash.

So you can't think that just not using condoms will magically solve everything. Be in peace with your cumming pace first. Then you'll be able not to care about pre ejaculating in her when you're able to penetrate.

>>17934211

Even that doesn't work all the time, from my personal experience. I've tried fucking my gf all the way to the point where I know I'm going to cum within the next 10-20 pumps if I don't stop and I pop out with a rock hard, dripping cock. I quickly grab the condom, slide it on, lube it up, and then... start to go soft because I interrupted my rythmn. Because of that I start getting distracted and stress and go softer even faster...

I'll have to roll off her, cuddle for a bit, then think back to how she was begging to pound her puss just a moment ago, get hard again with the condom on, continue.

>>17934181

Boy, I wish I had your fast-cumming problem when I was with my first gf. She was a no-vaginal-penetration-before-marriage girl and it would take forever for me to cum. She was eager to please but her hand and fingers would cramp up.

>>17934271
It's purely anxiety. You're so worried that you'll lose your erection putting a condom, that you lose your erection putting a condom

I know it's hard because I had performance anxiety after starting on anxiety meds (ironically), but you have to break this cycle at least once. After you perform fine once, it's much easier to focus on that one time you did it and repeat it.

>>17934255
It definitely feels like this, like I'm too much in my own head.
Probably psyching myself out. Can't break out of it though
But this does help a bit, might try it out, thanks

>>17934270
I'll try to get comfy with condoms, but if that doesn't work out, then I'll suggest the pill

>>17934282
Hey I guess everyone comes with their own round of problems

>>17934288
Certainly feels like it, but I just can't seem to get out of that for now

>>17934333
The way I managed was like I said: getting near it and cumming inside fast. Screw it. But I hadn't used a condom for years by this point.

Maybe try condoms with taste, so she can blow you with it on. That might help you get used to it, since you'll be using it in a situation where you know you're 100% functional.

>>17934181
I'm on the same boat. The prematureness is some kind of on/off thing for me. Sometimes, if she is wet enough, it works for quite some time and I can control it better if we have sex regularly. You body adapts. There are condoms with a substance that numbs your penis a bit. It's a double edged sword, though, it helped me sometimes getting over that "first time in while" sex.

My problem is that sometimes, when I have to stop to take a condom I just lose my boner or that sometimes while having sex I get the feeling that my penis is getting softer and then I can't shake the anxiety and go full soft. I know it is in my head and hopefully not a medical problem. But I feel bad if I can't satisfy her and I realized it build pressure for her. Currently the relationship is strained and I think she might break up with me (which is a topic I discussed on another thread) but I can't shake the feeling this is some part of that insecurity that is going on between us.