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I think I need ongoing help, not just a few weeks of therapy. I think I need to have that system in place, even if it gets slowly phased out, but I don't know how to seek that system.

I just want to have enough strength to build my life.

Not much to be honest. Thank the Tories!

>>17384164
Oh, so there's nothing? I don't really have close people to help me through this either. I guess if I'm completely on my own I should just use an exit strategy.

Things just aren't gonna get better.

>>17384075
Find that one thing. The thing that consumes you when you do it. The thing that allows you to think of nothing else but that thing. For some people it's playing an instrument, or running, shooting, kayaking, spirited driving, motorcycle riding, fucking papercraft. Everyone has a thing.

Do that thing until your fucking eyes bleed and then keep doing it until you're tired of it and then do it some more. Throw your pain into it. Use your pain. Master your thing in spite of your pain.

>but I'm sad and I don't like anything
Fuck off. I was like that for an entire year once. Whole year. Waste of my life.

Either that or wallow in self pity until you're 45 years old, single, prediabetic, fluent in Japanese, and living in a studio apartment.

Or find something that hurts worse.

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You embrace it, as feeling pain is one of the few things that reminds you that you're still a human being

>>17384107
N is that you?

Anyway OP, what these people said. It's hard, but you know, it's worth a try.

Plus, you should read Marcus Aurelius' Meditations. I always come back to this book when a strong emotional pain comes to me.

really anything can be a deal breaker. but really if a person makes you happy overall, is it worth dumping them over petty things? also, what makes you think you don't have habits that may irritate your partner that they may overlook because of your positive qualities (>implying).
pick your battles senpai

>>17384061
I have straight up asked them if I do anything that bothers them and they said "no", which made me feel like shit.

The thing is, I've been through a 3 year relationship before where I didn't get oral. It was fucking miserable. I would read about how other people love giving oral, etc, and feel so much resentment.

It's pretty much a situation where I'm having fun right now, but in the long run, if certain things don't change, we will both be fucking miserable. And I don't know if I should hold out hope that they're gonna change.

>>17384069
well if it's that important to you, then you simply aren't compatible, you would be justified as to leaving them for something you place emphasis on.
also has she given you reason as to why she is withholding oral? do you have a poor diet? do you not was yourself?
does she expect oral herself?

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>>17384043
>Go where women hang out.
>Talk to them.
>Get number.
>Arrange dates.
>Fuck her.

Not that hard.

tinder
also start working out instead of being a lazy cunt, you'll have a better chance actually getting matches, senpai

>>17384048
>Go where women hang out.
>Talk to them.
Need more detail here. I live in florida by the way. Any ideas for where they hang out?

hopeless bump

>>17384037
u already know the answer to the majority of ur questions
it probably won't work out
ur girl has issues
i just dont get how u got with her in the first place
let alone fell in love
if u do decide to be with her then distance urself
u cant and should not engage in emotional dependance on a person that garners no sympathy/empathy

quiet people have the loudest minds...
She could have add, autism or even dyspraxia. I have these things too and if it wherent for a cenrtain group of friends I wouldn't have known how to communicate it doesn't come naturally. Maybe you could talk about it with her that you are concearned. Most introverts want to open up but just dont know how to. Butdont dump her before trying to help her. A relationship is like a house when a lightbulb breaks you dont buy a new house you change the bulb. :)

>>17384036
Try looking up on Google
See them all and combine them to make up your own.
Also you can look up other books

Give us an idea of what the story is about so that I may help you...

Suh dude.
>Basically Earth, different universe and time because wow aren't I creative.
>Police force split in two in the country that matters
Fuckin' America
>Renaming it later because new world
>One side of the police likes using non-lethal force only
>Tasers, rubber bullets, tranq darts, the works.
>They are only given tasks where the situation can be diffused easily
>Other side uses lethal force
>Sent on situations that can't be diffused easily.
>Hostages, gunman, whatever
>There are 5 main people I want to focus on
Twins
>One sister is super energetic, anger issues, and because its the future and I like the concept of splicing from batman beyond she has a spider qt3.14 gf
>She is okay with lethal force
>Other sister is happy go lucky, never gets angry, and only uses non-letal force
>For that matter, she doesn't use force at all

>>17384047
Cont.
>She likes to talk things out but because of this she is never sent to anything super crazy, just simple tasks
>The mom is someone I want to make very broody, and very vengeful
>Think of Boss from MGS5
>Very strong, bold, and goes on situations that are serious with the daughter.
>The dad is sorta like war veteran who is an alcoholic nowadays
>He doesn't get shit faced on the job, he takes it too seriously
>He killed in the war, he saw friends die, which is why he is against lethal force
Then there is the thing I want to spark the split up in the force.
>The Son
>The son I want to be a pretty cool guy, gets along amazing with people but still has flaws and shit so he isn't a piece of shit.
>Helps both the sisters at all times
>Tells sis1 to never lose her temper how sis2 does
>Tells sis2 to fight for what she believes in
Now for the part I have trouble with
>I want him to die in a way where it was either a sniper, terrorist attack, anything, that causes all this
>Dad starts drinking more, mom loses all of her joy, sisters are trying to hide the fact that it is horrible

To me, it seems like she really meant it and that you have a good chance of going out with her after a while. Give her the time she wants, don't get too worried about things, and I'm sure everything will be great! :)

>>17384011
Alright, I'll wait for her for as long as she needs, then. Thanks, anon!

Damn. For some reason, this hit me in the feels. Like said, give her the time she needs, but keep in contact. Good luck Anon.

>>17383986
How old are you, and how old is he? If you two are in your late teens-mid 20s, there's going to be a serious maturity difference, and that will definitely impact the relationship in a negative way.

The man is supposed to be the older one. People figured this out thousands of years ago.

>>17384016
I know of plenty of couples where the female is older, and they don't have any problems. These people include couples who have been married 25+ years

Get a god-tier lawyer to draw up an abusive prenup and postnup (because prenups are thrown out regularly; postnups seal it better) that would absolutely fuck her but do nothing to you if you two divorce. Tell her that she has to agree to those terms if she wants to get married. If she says yes, you can get married and not have to worry as much.

Either that or enjoy watching her marry someone else.

Ask her why she even wants to get married in the first place.

>>17383943
>she has known i have no intention of ever getting married but apparently "thought i would change with age"
Tell her she was wrong, and you were completely straightforward and honest with her.
Then do what this guy said >>17383948 .

"I admire your persistence, but I'm never fucking you. Ever."

Tell them to go away. Who cares if he gets angry, that's his problem. "Please stop. I won't change my mind, but thank you."

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>>17383937
"I think your a sweet guy but your not my type, and besides you deserve someone who will love you unconditionaly."
Is that so much compassion that you couldn't come up with that on your own you bitter cunt?
Also Would it be such a fucking hassle to give him a chance in the first place??

>>17383921
Did it. Asked how her night is. She said "Bad now that I looked your face"

Tried to fight back tears, hope she didn't notice.

I-is she the one anon?

>>17383934
OP here I'm high af and I lol'd

>>17383921
>Keep going one level higher every day until you find her
I've never seen a grocery store with more than two stories. That's really only two attempts, tops.

Who the fuck am I supposed to looking for anyway?

>>17383859
Many times you can't. My neighbor bought a ton of food right before a snowstorm, and got put on the terrorist no-fly list for "stockpiling food." The only reason he found out was because his friend, who works as low-level CIA secretary, told him.

That pencil is very good looking.

>>17383862
Tha hell? How is that even legal? Figures a fucking Muslim under investigation by the FBI can buy a gun but not a guy who buys a lot of food. I just got a new drivers license, would nt they have known if I had something funky going on?

This is probably a troll thread, but fuck it if it isn't.

How are you Christian?

I want to believe but I can't.

>>17383846
Why would you want to cut porn comply out of your life? God doesn't give a hoot if you look at porn.

>>17383851
I was raised a Christian. Around middle school, I doubted God. I went on this crazy anti-God spree. Then I started looking for the truth, only to find out there wasn't. Things only went downhill from there. My life got worse and worse, until finally I was about to kill myself. I was going to drive my car off a mountain that Friday. The day of, I entered the church and screamed and flailed, since I was going to die. In the midst, I heard a voice, "Be still and know that I am God." I was immediately filled with a sense of peace and purpose ever since.

That's why I believe in God.

Do you have a truck fetish or a grimy AIDS ridden gas station bathroom fetish?

>>17383842
So are you sexually attracted to 18 wheelers or what?

>>17383842
so this is the guy my friend said was fucking his truck hmmm

You're just really fucked up lol. This needs professional help

>>17383832
You're foreverially cucked and condemning yourself to being the ultimate beta

>>17383905
How the hell am I cucked for trying to not get cucked