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My parents hate me and the fact that i never go outside and socialize. Told them that im going out to drink with friends. They were so proud... i have no friends. I have been walking around town for three hours now, cant even sit as every place is occupied with other teens that are getting drunk and having fun. Holy shit i feel like that dude who slept in empty parking place in his car.
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>>17382134
Do you want friends?
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>>17382145
I want to not have asperger and anxiety
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>>17382134
Well, a little walk is healthy, you could've done worse.
>>17382225
And I want to have 5 million euros and colder weather. I bet if we keep wanting the stuff very much, it'll happen!
At least anxiety is something you could work on; starting with a therapist.
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Negative/toxic people 2016-07-22 16:21:21 Post No.17382080
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Hi,
i'm currently discussing with a guy who emptily criticizes some people (pokemon go players :3), i tried to discuss with him, saying how his arguments were flawed, etc.
I haven't even defended pokemon players, as i don't really care, just questioning his reasoning.
He doesn't really read what's written, just shovels some shortcuts or insults (this game is only for kids, you are all puerile, i'm soooo over this i can't understand why you play that...).
- criticizes
- unable to give any argument
- doesn't really read anything you write
- throws ad hominem stuff to belittle you
- always showing how superior, adult and responsible he is
- like a hipster, he's always better than you
I still continue to talk to him as i see this fascinating, yet i don't understand what triggers him, as i don't know much about him. I want to understand that type of persons, as i meet them quite often (i'm in France).
I thought i could handle his flawed ideas with socratic questioning, but he doesn't even read much. He doesn't even seem to troll people, as we are talking in private.
I am binging "negative people" and "toxic people', i don't find much, it's only about how to deal with them, not WHY they act like fags.
My current theory is that they have insecurities (why would you bully people if you already feel strong?), but i still haven't found much litterature about that, except some newage counseling articles.
- do you know accurate resources on those people?
- can you enlighten me about that subject?
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>>17382080
Pokemon Go is for losers. Go get a life and listen to that guy for once, he´s right about that shit game /thread
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>>17382541
>game that makes people go out FOR ONCE is for losers
Fucking useless couch potatoes
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>>17382080
Who fucking cares? The dudes an asshole. Those aren't unique or rare. There's no special hidden meaning or deep reasoning.
So I made a brief thread yesterday, and I want to expand on it. I was unhappy at home, sold everything, and went traveling so I could die somewhere.
My survival instincts are kicking in, and I'm fighting against them. I am too scared to return home. I've been writing my stories. They include memories of:
- molestation
- being beaten by much older siblings (hospitalised)
- drunk, emotionally abusive parents
- neglect, no food, sleep deprived etc. through youth on a regular basis
- getting my ass kicked by groups of teenagers and adults as a kid
- teachers screaming in my face, frequent gratuitous punishments because of my siblings (bad apple bad bunch)
- teachers trying to fail me, reporting me for 'cheating' and 'behavioural misconduct' to try and anull my work
- ostracised for being homo
- many close friends and family betrayed me badly at 18
- failed heavily by a medical system that seems to have no time for me, run the same tests over and over again making 0 progress
I am scared, my brain is trying to rationalise going back because my survival instincts are kicking in, but I can't go back. That's not a choice. I'm too sick to live on my own, but I won't go back to the abusive household that made me feel this way. If I weren't sick I could just make a life for myself, but I feel utterly robbed of any hope or promise of improvement. What do I do /adv/?
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>>17381861
alcohol helps
just do it
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>>17381875
This is what I'm telling myself. It's better than going back. But part of me is melting down at the same time.
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Knowing where you are would help.
Obviously, this is beyond our abilities to fix, but we might be able to point you to some ideas/resources
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>24 with no real job experience
>Can't go to college anymore because not enough money
>Job applications are feeling hopeless
>Actual experience is too old to be worth a damn
Any advice, I don't want to invest in a rope
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>>17381792
I filled the last 5 neet years of my resume with saying I was a freelance painter of Warhammer miniatures and that it taught me to always be precise, responsibile, have a time plan and sticking to it, never missing deadlines.
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>>17381792
at least you have a dignity
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Join the military.
>inb4 fat
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Relationship Red Flags 2016-07-22 12:59:50 Post No.17381707
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>Not much into drugs and rarely drink
>/fit/
>Dating girl all together 2 months
>Girl doesn't drive because of a DUI
>Girl says father was an alcoholic
>Girl only 100lbs
>About 2 weeks in girl says she took pills to stay up late
>Makes excuses not to talk about it
>Make joke about weed
>Girl gets defensive and takes joke seriously
>"Don't tell me not to smoke weed"
>Find a rolled dollar in girl's room
>"it was just from a party we had"
>Refuses to talk about it, or coke in general
>Girl mentions she's going out with some friends to the bar next weekend
>Argue for a week about how she refuses to talk about her drinking or drug habits
>Girl drinks Saturday, Sunday, and has at least a few beers here and there during the week
>No idea how much she actually drinks, how fucked up she's getting from weed+beer, or what she does during the week
>No idea how fucked up she is getting
This is all over the course of about 2 months
I'm not against drinking, or recreational drug use, I drink once every week or two, but how defensive she gets and refusing to talk about drugs has me pretty worried.
The extent of what I asked was pretty much 'don't get blackout drunk' and 'can you at least say you won't stay at someone's house', which she never really agreed to and why we argued for a week about her not wanting to talk about it
Are these red flags justified and should I just break it off, or am I overreacting as someone who is health conscious and has bad past experiences with drugs?
>I don't really want to break it off but she has no intention of compromise
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Alcoholics/druggies are some of the most irresponsible and unreliable people out there. I used to be one. Your red flags are justified. Get out now before you get seriously hurt.
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These are all justified reactions.
I dated this chick when I was younger, and here is how it went:
She would do her drugs behind my back, and would drink alcohol on days she could, A) not afford said drugs, or B) not find someone to sell her said drugs.
That is literally the only time she ever drank. Oh, if one anecdote is not enough: I've had 2 parents, and 2 other friends who were the same exact way.
Alcohol is cheap, drugs aren't. You can always get alcohol, you can't always get drugs.
If someone is defensive over recreational use, it is not stigma, as they have clearly bypassed that fucking hurdle by doing drugs with friends (in your case, anyways). Now it's more about her addiction being discovered.
I am speaking with 100% certainty, that your girl is having some addiction issues. With that said, I've based that on my own personal experience with drug abusers.
My ex started with weed, moved on to pills (I do not buy that weed is a gateway drug, however) and graduated to coke. Coke became expensive, and heroin was cheaper. Her addiction grew and heroin was no longer cheap, but meth was. Read: wrecking ball.
I would give her an ultimatum, get help or get the fuck out. My ex drained my entire savings and I have no idea until I went to pay rent. Don't wait until she destroys your life in her process, anon.
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>>17381731
>I would give her an ultimatum, get help or get the fuck out.
There's no compromise in regards to that stuff - she says me asking her to slow down is me trying to control/change her
How do I stop flirting with people I have no interest in?
This sad fat girl texted me again and I'm starting to feel like doing this shit makes me a complete asshole.
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>tfw no sad fat grill that texts me
so lonely
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>Im texting him and hes not responding, what an asshole.
>We were texting but he is not interested, what an asshole.
>He gave me what I wanted (sex) but he doesnt want a relationship, what an asshole.
If you are not beta, you ll always be considered an asshole. Its their defensive mechanism kicking in, so that they dont have to accept that "Im not what he wants" or "Im not worthy of him".
Do whatevr of the 3 you feel is more right. It wont change the aspect of others torwards you. Also flirt is a non-stop thing. Flirting keeps your life interesting even if you intentions are not to fuck with the other person.
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>>17381611
As long as you're flirting isn't leading someone on, why fucking stop? It's a great way to build interaction and learn the opposite sex.
Tell ChubbyMcGee to fuck off, and "Hey, I'm just a flirt, I didn't mean to lead you on."
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Hello, fellow /adv/enturers! What are your pathetic habits? C'mon, spill. I'll start.
>Lay in bed
>Pretend to talk to people I know
>Have fake conversations
>Cry
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>stay up til 6am playing vidya and browsing 4chan
idk why. I'm too tired to even enjoy being awake, but I don't want to go to bed and be alone with my thoughts while I wait to fall asleep. usually when it's this bad I would put on netflix and fall asleep to some old tv show, but my router is being a dick and I haven't gotten round to getting a new router yet, so my wifi is pretty much useless.
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masturbate to people gaining weight. not so much pathetic, more creepy than anything. best part is that i have an eating disorder as well lmao.
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>procrastinate; give myself excuses to not doing things that i ought to be doing right now
>i.e looking for a job, making my website, etc.
>wallow in bad memories and let them control what i do
>stop talking to certain people when i remember the bad things they did to me in the past
>allow myself to think up things that will never happen and live in that daydream instead of doing things in reality
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Was wondering if you guys had any good tanning tips. I've been trying to get tan for a few months now using pic related. I'm wondering if maybe I'm just not in the sun enough? The websites I looked at for advice all said I didn't need to tan myself for more than 40ish minutes every couple days so I've done that, and over time increased the amount of time I stayed outside, but I've barely made any progress. I'm wondering how often and for how long a pasty white boy like me REALLY needs to be tanning to make any significant progress.
I'm not even trying to get really dark or anything I just don't want be a pasty motherfucker anymore...
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>>17381394
Git gud anon
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>>17381394
Just get a spray tan. You're risking skin cancer by doing this. Also, uv is the main cause of wrinkles.
And, in some countries it's 'beautiful' to be pale. I love my milky white skin!
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>>17381394
Just find reasons to be outside. A friend's pool, mowing your grandmother's lawn, running, literally anything that will put you in the sun for a few more hours per week.
Be sure you practice proper skincare whole doing this, though.
Alternatively there are skin darkening lotions you can get. Be sure you use gloves so you don't get extremely dark hands while applying it though.
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What does adv think about polyamory? Would you consider it for the one you love?
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Degenerate and a terrible idea on a practical level as well.
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Nothing inherently "wrong" with it, arguably. But it invites soooooooooo much trouble and usually is indicative of some incompatibility or flaw in a monogamous relationship that is patched with another person. so much denial in that community too, just stay away
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full of aids and ugly people
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How to get a girl like Knives/Ellen Wong? 2016-07-22 04:24:27 Post No.17380834
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How to get a girl like Knives/Ellen Wong?
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>Watch Scott Pilgrim again
>Realize Knives is essentially my dream woman
>Starting college at 21
How do I go about meeting a girl as attractive or like her? Ellen Wong or Knives both are fine.
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Hang out at the engineering campus or the performance arts area?
Statistically speaking, I think that's where you'll find Asian girls.
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>how to get an asian girlfriend
wow it's like every thread ever, you unoriginal fuck. I'm sure you're the only white male in the world who has thought to himself, "Hmmm you know what kind of girl I want to bone? ASIAN ones. Yea, I think I'll go fuck me a chink girl!"
>Ellen wong or Knives both are fine
I'm sure you're a fucking retard for saying that
sageing and don't bump by responding to this post, because i won't reply.
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>>17380852
Ohhh somebodies upset!
As an adult, if I tell someone I want to blow my brains out of the back of my skull, and they try to get me help, can I legally turn down help if I do not give consent?
If they try to take me somewhere, it would legally be considered kidnapping right?
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Hmm, as far as i know
They can take you to an hospital for mental disorders, even if you are an adult, a senpai/friend can say that you are going to harm yourself, and you are not mentally sane.
so, if that happened, it doesnt matter if you are an adult or not, you are out of decisions.
Even if you are wondering or something
Please dont...
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>>17380830
It really depends on how far you have gone and the state law, but yes you can legally turn down help.
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>>17380840
I don't see why it's such a big deal.
>>17380841
What do you mean how far I've gone?
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Does the need for companionship/love ever go away?
I'm a 23 year old virgin and I was wondering if it'll ever fade or disappear.
I've tried some drugs before that kind of numbed me enough to not care but I'd rather not ruin my health with those.
I used to be really depressed about being like this a few years ago but it's gotten way better and nowadays it's just something that gets on my mind when I have some alone time, that's why I'm wondering if it'll just keep fading away.
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1. You can get used to just about anything.
2. The less desperate you are the better your chances of actually starting a relationship, if someone eventually catches your eye.
3. You're in your early 20s. You have no idea what your life is gonna be like, it's barely started.
So, you'll either be alone the rest of your life and fine with it, or (much more likely) alone and pretty ok with it until you meet someone who likes you. You're fine either way.
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>>17380598
It comes and goes, you'll see friends with their gf's or 2 people making out on the street and think, 'I wish I knew or had that' but so far it never really goes away, not that I noticed.
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>>17380598
well the thing with love is why not..unless youve been hurt. so no, it doesnt go away.
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How to Drink More Alcohol 2016-07-22 01:04:29 Post No.17380343
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How to Drink More Alcohol
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Hey guys
I was a complete failure socially in high school but I'm trying to turn that around by joining a fraternity in college. I've been rushing and got a bid at a good fraternity last week. This weekend I'm going to be rushing another one just so I have some options.
My problem is that I never drank in high school and can't handle alcohol very well. For example we shotgunned one beer and I had to kind of be quiet in the corner and breath really slow and deep and spit a lot to prevent vomiting.
So I guess my question is: how can I drink more without becoming ill? Is there any substance I can take to make myself less sensitive in the stomach/aesophogus or suppress my gag reflex?
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>>17380343
Why do you gag? Or feel like vomiting, for that matter? One beer shouldn't make you nauseous. Do you really dislike the taste of alcohol?
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You shotgunned a BEER, of course you probably never done that before, so you sat in a corner like a bitch trying to keep the EXPANDING alcohol/suds down.
Just drink and shut the fuck up.
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>>17380349
I like the taste, I guess it just was a lot at once? IDK man I'm asking for tips
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/r9k/ is starting to eat at me 2016-07-22 00:30:58 Post No.17380264
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/r9k/ is starting to eat at me
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Holy shit /adv/. I don't know what it is about that fucking board but holy shit.. that fucking board has ways of liking wriggling its fucking tendrils into your brain and influencing how you think.
For example, I recently read a thread on /r9k/ that said something along the lines of "All those 20-25 year old females you like? Yeah, they have probably all sucked at MINIMUM 2-5 DICKS while you have not even had a girlfriend yet"
That shit hit home real hard. It makes me wonder how I can even keep up with these women my age if I have not even experienced a basic relationship.
What sucks even more is I know that guy is right. He is right about the fact that as women age in their 20's they become more and more sexually experienced. I mean how could they not when people throw their dicks at them 24/7?
I am not even really mad about the sex part, I am more mad at the ease of which they can acquire these experiences.
FUCK that fucking board man. I never use to think like this. FUCK!
Now its hard not to consider "How many dicks has she sucked probably?"
Anytime I meet a new girl, the first couple of thoughts go like this "Oh she is pretty, I want to talk to her. She almost seems too pretty.. she has probably has seen many dicks. I can't compete." Then I bail out and don't talk to her.
HELP ME
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Well the dick part is a little simplified but I feel the same way I guess
People around me are just much more experienced socially and emotionally and I feel I've missed the boat and have no way to recover
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>>17380279
I understand how you feel. I also hate that there is such extensive dating capital needed. Like no woman is going to want to date a dude with no car and doesn't have his own place. I live with a room mate and it seems women don't even like the idea of that while they themselves live with a room mate.. The hypocrisy..
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Dont browse /r9k/. You are influenced by people around yourself. /r9k/ is full of the worst parts of the internet. The deranged, the forgotten and the lonely. Leave and purge your mind of their thoughts.
>>17380285
This is a good example of comments to ignore.
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My girlfriend has never had the experience of cumming before. I've flicked the bean for half an hour straight, using all the tricks I know and i cant make it happen. I hear its really hard for some girls to cum at first. Any pointers? What can I do too her that would feel extra good?
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>>17380199
never cummed too, and I gave up
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>>17380199
Have you tried tongue fucking her?
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>>17380207
Have you attempted any over the top methods before giving up?