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>>17384348
Stop

>>17384348
I give this thing a shot. Which would you rather do? Play pokemon go or be with your girlfriend?

>>17384353
btw, since she wants you to quit indulging in what amounts to a pretty healthy hobby, we can stop calling her your girlfriend and drop her off in the land of "that bitch."

Sorry your had a shitty date. Try again or start drinking.

>>17384350
Thanks Satan.

How common is it for dates to go bad?

>>17384343

Thats what happens with online dating, people are so desperate for a date that they manipulate who they're talking to into meeting up with them by making themselves seem more appealing. You can try again but you're young and unlikely to find a really interesting/good looking guy on a dating site at your age, the only people who use that at such a young age are socially awkward people who cant otherwise get a date.

You are young, go out with your friends and live your life, you dont have to force it, maybe if you are out and have a few drinks you will be able to flirt with a guy you find appealing and things could go from there.

>>17384643
heheheheh

"bump"

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>>17384340
Change your laundry soap yet? Tide and other strong soap is pretty aggressive.

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If you're just going to cry either way then go ahead and fucking do it.

It's what she would have wanted. She's your mom. She wouldn't care if you sound like shit. She'd care that you tried.

>>17384346
I'm not sure I will, but I just feel like shit because of it, and I''m completely unsure of what to do.

>get a medal
>don't have to leave the house
that's the choice

>would you marry a guy who wont be able to give his full self to you?
No, I wouldn't. These callings are extremely high and....well, you can transcend the flesh or you can't. That's what I have.

Honestly in that situation you should probably look to fellow doctors or medical workers for a relationship. Most doctors I know married other doctors precisely because they're the only ones who aren't bothered by most of your time being taken up by your work because they're in the same boat.

I know almost nothing about doctoring so I can't help much here, but I'll give my opinion. Change the order of importance in your second-last sentence so that you come first. You won't be able to accomplish much in work if you're killing yourself over it.

Second, my father is a doctor and worked many hours a day; I never got to see him until dinnertime but I valued the time I did get to be with him. He then took Fridays off so that he could be with his family more. If you really want to be in this kind of job, try to work fewer hours so that you can be with your future girlfriend/wife/family.

That probably wasn't helpful, but it's all I had to offer. Continue thinking about this, Anon, talk to more people, and be confident that you'll make the right choice.

Cut your balls off, put them in a shoebox with ribbons and tinsel, bring the box to her house, open it in front of her dog and while her adorable pooch nibbles on your recently detached nethers, ask her out you dumb son of a bitch.

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Ask her out to cafe/movies/whatever activity you both like. This age difference is quite trivial.

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Bitch my significant other is 20 fucking years older than me. Three years ain't shit.

Just ask her out you pussy.

Perhaps you admire a woman of strength. Maybe you're not supposed to approach her. Maybe the idea is to pussy out forever. Consider it.

>>17384290
She's a cute short girl who loves drawing, she's not the "strong independent woman" type.

>>17384314
So, the fuck's your problem? You've gone and gotten yourself on the predator style so, go do the prey thing. It's a thing. Go do it.

THE STORY
Now, that friend moved far away permanently for a job. Rationally speaking this isn't much of a problem in the digital age, but it still screwsme up a little and probably adds to my overall terrible emotional state right now.

For the past two and a half years, my friend has had a girlfriend (26 like myself) whom I've known for most of that time. They hadn't gotten along for a while already and now that he's left they've obviously broken up.

I've fallen head over heels for that woman almost out of the blue. I love her chill and gentle attitude, she's 10/10 absolutely beautiful on top, and she's in a shitty situation right now and I want to be there for her. Maybe it's been resting inside me since the beginning.
Or maybe it's not entirely my "fault". I first noticed it about a month ago when they had already broken up and there started being more contact between her and me, as friends. The way she acted towards me and the way we spoke together put a bullet straight through my heart. Many signals I believe I am picking up from her make me believe that she may be at least slightly interested in me as well, or that she might consider me once she has somewhat gotten over the last relationship.

I've told my friend about my crush and he says he doesn't mind and he's happy for me, so there's no love triangle complications involved. He even gave me a little generic advice. However...

THE PROBLEMS
The first issue is that I can't handle this crush reasonably at all. I'm not used to the rush of hormones and this vortex of rapidly-changing emotions and I'm currently a complete, hysterical wreck. As you can plainly see by this wall of text which is not even close to finished. I'm terribly afraid that if this doesn't work out, and there is a realistic chance, I might remain like this for the foreseeable future.

The second issue is that I'm second-guessing her signals. Simply sitting really close together, I've seen her do that with other guy friends (and it made me jealous). But then, some of it makes me a little confident, like tucking her arm into mine while walking, or texting me about how she likes me complete with blushing emoji. We've watched a movie together at her initiative. When we're among friends, she treats me no differently than others, and I can understand that if she feels anything for me she doesn't want to put it on display, but on a purely emotional level it makes me insecure.

The third issue is that I may already be coming off like a clingy idiot. After the movie I've asked her out for ice cream, and she's called it off twice. I then probably came off like I was bugging her to spend time with me, and I apologized for that. She says she's not mad, and she says she's been postponing it due to stress. I have no reason not to believe her, as I'll explain below. But this didn't really put me in a great light.

The fourth issue is a thing that I feel we're incompatible about and which I'm horribly afraid is making her like me less and less, even as a friend. My friend, and her, and the entire circle of acquaintances I've slipped into via them, they're all passionate weed users. Not me. I can't afford to even sample it for fear of having a drug test happen to me at my job at any time and getting into trouble. On top of that I've never really trusted my brain and mind to handle it well, just like I don't drink much alcohol at all. On the other hand, when she's with friends, she smokes and drinks pretty heavily, at least from what I've seen, and she can handle it.
Now of course, she's chill about it, and it doesn't come up when we spend time by ourselves. But since we watched the movie we've only ever been together in a group. And every time I'm the sober, odd one out. Of course I drink some booze to keep up at least a little, but I don't even like doing that much. And when you're mostly sober among high people, the experience for me is mildly amusing at best and pisses me off at worst. This, then, leads me to grow silent and clam up like in the worst of my autistic teenage days.
This got really bad yesterday. She invited me and kept offering me drinks, only for me to keep refusing and somewhat dampen the mood. Now I'm scared she's started to dislike me for it.
I can tell how important the experience is to her, and I would never think to try to talk her out of it. But this is a thing that I believe is pretty central to her way of life, and something I don't think we can ever share properly, even as friends.

>>17384212
A-anon, y-you're a pilot... O-oh uhm h-
I mean yeah you little faggot haha grow a pair haha oh man

>>17384212
The fuck you need one of those for?

I mean, besides wasting my time with one of the most inane questions on the planet, you could at least get yourself to the bathroom and ask yourself why you need a girlfriend.

>>17384212
It depends on what kind of person you are. Just keep fishing. All bitches are crazy, but you gotta find one that's crazy for you, know what I mean?

No. /fit/ is it. rip your torso up in the gym and you'll be president of the united states in no time.

>>17384210
nigga rock those nipples
dont be scared nor insecure
It'll make u unforgettable with the girls u end up being
if it bothers u an insane amount get them removed

>>17384223
>It'll make u unforgettable
extremely true

You have the dilemma.

One the one hand, Don't Get Fucked
On the other hand, F U C K.

You must make a decision.

Do it. You'll regret it forever if you don't.

>>17384180
We have to be fair. He could totally ruin his life by getting overinvolved in the party scene, reference every party-boy memoir ever.

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Don't be a oussy and tell him he needs to man up and stop sneaking his obssesive loser gf into a house that wasnt even his. Disrespect.

>>17384162
Why does she even bother you so much?

>>17384162
First, he needs to apologize to the people who took him in for not being able to respect their rules.

Then he needs to have a conversation about his relationship with his girlfriend.

You, on the other hand, have two options:
>stay the fuck out of it
>tell him to leave

>>17384122
Have you tried the police instead of the university? The university has an interest in keeping these things quiet

>>17384134
this

I haven't. The uni appointed me a lawyer. I'm not sure what would happen if i went to the police and desu my memory of the night is so fogged up now I cant really remember the details properly beyond knowinng what happened :/

>>17384120
I think it's not possible to tell. But even if that's the case, I don't know if it is that much of a big deal. Just reason m8.

>>17384120
They are. They're your parents. They have an agenda. Go along with it or build a career upon defying your family. Good luck with that.

>>17384127
>Just reason m8
How thought? Hard to know without actually working in a certain career.

C'mon guys, give me a hand

>>17384109
if she says she likes a lot of attention i wouldnt worry with being being "too needy/clingy"

I do shit like this sometimes, or I used to, back when I was dumber.

How does she thing you're being needy and clingy? Chance are you were being a bitch. That's the bitch's job. Don't do the bitch's job. Seriously.