I keep making really frustrating errors to do with common sense at my weekend retail job. It may be scanning gift vouchers incorrectly, sending the wrong item down from the warehouse, or all manner of similar mistakes that suggest a common sense deficiency. Today I had to grab my manager to bail me out after I scanned a guy's vouchers incorrectly - afterwards I overheard him discussing my blunder with another manager and how "it's only anon" who makes these kinds of mistakes.
It's so frustrating - it feels like I have locked-in syndrome or something, where I just encounter these mental blocks and make frankly retarded errors. I'm also appallingly slow at picking items when I'm in the warehouse, and often cause a huge backlog of orders to get through when I'm delayed. I feel genuinely depressed and nihilistic because of this - it's got to the point where I feel so humiliated every time I go into work that I barely feel anything and am totally used to it. I'm a walking disaster and I'm guessing all my colleagues cringe when they see me rolling into work. What the fuck is this? Dyspraxia? Or am I just plain stupid? How do I live with either of these things? What caused it? How much do my co-workers despise me?
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how long have you been working this job?
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>>17385069
Maybe you just hate your job
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>>17385125
Since last September.
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Having fun vs self-betterment 2016-07-23 17:20:11 Post No.17385056
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I'm 27 and I have this galling thought that I've wasted most of my life.
Throughout my school days I just played video games and didn't socialize much. I went to college and got an MA in the field that has very little practical application - it was a cakewalk, and most of the time I played vidya and partied with people from my dorm. After graduation I found a dead-end office job that pays little more than the minimum wage where I live, and I just stayed in the loop: sleep -> work -> video games -> repeat. I have no experience, no practical skills, and my degree is useless, so finding a better job is essentially impossible. About two months ago I decided this can't go on. I gave up on video games, and instead picked up guitar, hit the gym (lost 8 kgs / 17 lbs), and started learning Japanese. My condition is better, I feel more healthy, guitar is fun to play, and a new language can increase one's value in the job market... but I think I've lost something important.
Emptiness is all I feel now. There's this strange void in me that remains unsated no matter what I do. There's much more going on in my life now, but every single day I feel unhappy and detached. I crave to return to my old self, which I feel to be the proper "me", rather than a rendition of my attempts at bettering myself which I've become. Giving up on guitar, Japanese and all that healthy lifestyle I've enforced upon myself is what I want, but what I know to be a bad choice.
I can't decide if I should keep working on making myself a better and more valuable person despite it wearing me down, or return to an unambitious me that's got no future ahead of him but is happy with himself and content with life.
I know I have to make this decision for myself, but any input would be much welcome. Happiness or self-betterment?
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Balance, nigger.
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>>17385056
Don't force yourself to keep up hobbies you don't want to do for the sake of improvement. Instead, do hobbies you like and you'll improve automatically.
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>>17385056
You may be dealing with a sense of existential dread. That void you describe is incredibly common and why people turn to things like religion.
I would say that it might be a passing feeling and you will feel better about it soon, but has it been going on for a while?
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My boyfriend wants me to go to a family party which is outdoors and it's 90°
I said yes a week ago
Due to my face breaking out and realizing it is outdoors I no longer want to go nor have the confidence to go.
I'll sit there sweating. My hair will curl and my face will melt off.
if I tell him I don't want to go he'll act like I'm rude and i don't care about him?
Should I tell him no or should I be a good girlfriend and just go?
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u made a decision, u have to deal with it. schould have thought about it before xD btw. who cares?!?!
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Go. You agreed before-hand. I'm sure they'll have some way to keep cool.
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Jesus christ you sound like a shit woman.. Oh no poor mee so defenseless you amature. Sun hat matching dress with plenty of spf and bug repellent. You sound like a self centered twat.
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>want to suck a dick
>no idea how to find a local one for NSA
How do you start being a cockslut, /adv/?
I want to try it once and if it's fun, make it a regular thing.
I don't want reciprocation, I just want to make them shoot in my mouth
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Literally just say I want to suck your dick and it's ggs.
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are you a dude?
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>>17385061
Yes. I prefer girls, but real relationships are a lot of work and I don't have one right now.
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I need some serious advice. One of our family's friends is consistently flirting with me whenever we see each other and it's getting increasingly awkward.
I've explained to her I have no interest and asked her to stop but she continues to do it, and I honestly don't know what to do other than just avoid her, but even that's difficult because a lot of the same social events I go to she is at, and I don't want to just quit going anywhere for this.
What does one do about people like this?
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Tell her no in public if she makes a fool of herself flirting in public with you when you have made your feelings clear.
That or tell her she is a whore or desperate for attention but be expecting a kick in the nads.
I have to ask, is she like this with other guys? Are you sure to someone else this would be seen as flirting? Ask friends or family that is present and witness this flirting on their opinions of what is going on and get them involved to get you out of it. If you feel like you need to keep a record (if the flirt denies flirting) confront with witnesses and tell her flat out to leave you alone, thank you but no.
You could drop hints she is harassing you and the legal implications if this continues.
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Act unattractive. Put her off. There must be something she finds revolting in men in general, so just try different things.
Complaining about girls your own age you like, and come across as pathetic and needy - but be aware of any awakening motherly tlc.
It would help if you provided us with your own and her age.
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>>17384999
Not to my knowledge. She seems relatively one track minded in that context.
>>17385006
She's 22 (maybe 23), I'm 20.
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Femnons, how many hours you sleep? 2016-07-23 16:20:26 Post No.17384954
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Femnons, how many hours you sleep?
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8: My sister is watching movies
10: She's playing games
Midnight: Still playing games
2 in the morning: Listening to music
3: She falls asleep
4: Goes in the kitchen to drink a glass of water and back to bed
8 in the morning: I wake up and she's already dressed, cooked and had breakfast, meaning she got up one hour before.
She creeps me out because I can barely function without at least 9h of deep undisturbed sound sleep per night and she's getting by on 3 or 4h of catnaps per night.
Genuinely worried here... Female metabolism is like that?
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The important part of sleep is the REM cycle, which is the deepest part and most valuable part of sleep. A person will drift in and out of REM sleep throughout a typical 8 hour night, usually in 45 minute cycles. But people who don't get to sleep often drop into REM faster, allowing them to get enough rest to function.
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It has nothing to do with being female or male. Everyone is different. Some people just require more/less sleep.
I need a good 8-9h to feel completely refreshed but my husband only sleeps 4-6h and gets really restless if he stays in bed. My sister never goes over 6h either.
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I know a lot of people that are fine with anywhere between 5-7 hours and some that need st least 8. Durig summer I'll wake up after 6 hours and feel alright about it. It really just depends on the person.
But, 3-4 hours seems very little. I've never met anyone who's okay with that little sleep.
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>Be 22
>Have webcam/phone sex with a bunch of women on chatroulette and omegle.
>I can suck my own cock by god!
>I'm too busy with school/work to meet women so I just cam for my kicks. Even do phone sex. No complaints everyone acts like I'm Dolemite or The Fonz.
>I'm a virgin but on the phone/web I'm Ziggy Stardust levels slutty.
>Meet cutie from School
>She's slept with 2 guys... One was black..She lost her virginity at 17.
>I know feel insecure. I know I could probably rock her like a hurricane yet I feel self-aware.
What do I do Anons? I really like her as a person, but all I can think of is that black dingus in her mouth. I feel like if I'm guy number 3 we have a good enough chemistry nobody would complain yet, I feel bad that I've never done much in real life...
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>I can suck my own cock by god!
please describe
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Oh it's not big deal, I mean I'm in the 9 inch zone so I can get my tongue/lips around my own cock easily.
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It's not as great as you think anon, it makes your back a bit sore, especially if you climax.
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It's all over now /adv/. My dream of a happy marriage with the love of my life since college will come to an end.
My wife is already at an advanced stage of cancer. She's already unconscious and the doctors have already told us that she won't last this week. I still can't accept it /adv/. I mean it wasn't suppose to be like this. We were suppose to grow up old together and all that.
I feel that if the doctors are right, I will pretty much go to a downward spiral. I've lost other relatives in my life as well in the past and my wife was there to let me deal through it but this time it was her. We have a 5 year old daughter but I barely knew her. I'm not really into kids and I don't even know how to take care of her. I am at a loss and I don't believe I can give her the future she deserves if I am alone at this.
She was supposed to get better but she wasn't responding well to treatment even though I was there taking care of her and all that. Our financial situation is also at an all time low. I was partly at fault because I was the one who decided for her to go for alternative treatment first before she follows what the doctors told her to do.
I just can't accept this /adv/. I'm crying and I pretty much will do anything in order for her to live.
Pic was from our favorite childhood movie. It just hurts so much. Seeing her suffering hurts so much more.
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Hi OP
It's all over for me too now /adv/. My dream of a happy marriage with the love of my life since college will come to an end.
Bitch cheated on me with multiple guys just before the wedding, I discovered it by accident and cancelled it all just before.
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What advice are you looking for exactly?
Implying that what you say isn't copy-pasta or plain out lies, tough luck.
Life's a bitch ain't it.
https://youtu.be/0wgVW8E0wU8
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>>17384924
Land before time, great choice OP
I'm really sorry about your circumstances, and hesitated commenting since I have very little idea of how to make your situation better, but I hope you can push through it and not lose the willpower to give up.
Your daughter will be impacted, but this holds true for all children that grow up without a certain parental figure, and it is not your fault by any means. Focus on yourself for now and spend time with your wife while you still can, find some people in your life to confide in such as friends, etc. I wish you good luck.
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How often do you guys visit nolstalgic memories, whether it be in your head, or physically in real life?
I find myself thinking about it at night the older I get, and still will sometimes plug in my N64 to play Banjo Kazooie, Zelda, etc. Ive beaten the games to completion, but I still log in just to walk around and go to different stages to listen to the music or just enjoy the state of mind it gives me.
But at the same time I'm really depressed that I'll never have the experience again, and it really bums me out. Is reminiscing unhealthy?
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Constantly. I live in the past. All I listen to is 80's music. My hair and clothes are 70s style. I play 90's videogames. I'm only attracted to girls with vintage hairstyles.
I'm pretty sure it's not healthy.
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>>17384918
I only visit the past for nostalgia if I'm already in a happy mood. Otherwise like you said, it would cause depression if I try to relive it.
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Apologies in advance for the fuckin essay.
I have a weird relationship with nostalgia.
I'm under no illusions about the nature of time. I don't believe in the concept of "the good old days", and it pisses me off when people glorify the past as if their personal golden age wasn't rife with its own era-specific problems. Things get better and things get worse; the majority of people who do this tend to use their childhood or teenage years as a reference point, which are always periods in their life when they were affected almost exclusively by personal issues and didn't have to deal with the realities of the world in general.
However, I'm still guilty of indulging in a shitload of nostalgia myself. My fondest years were the late 90's, and I miss so much about them. Even though I can appreciate and be thankful that technology is objectively better today than it was then, I still miss CRT TVs and computer technology that made people lose their shit if a single spec was measured in megabytes in triple digits. I miss TV shows that made questionable design decisions like pic related. I miss the way toy commercials were presented. There's a shopping mall about an hour's drive from me that stands in my mind as the embodiment of how I remember the 90s, and I haven't been there in over 16 years. I want to go back just to put my memories of that era to rest.
I think when people complain about how the world's gone to shit and it was better way back when, they're not complaining about the world itself. They're lamenting the fact that the utopian illusion presented by their youthful ignorance was destroyed. I think we're all guilty of that, to some extent. I certainly am.
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Hey /adv/
So considering i havent had any classes since the start of july, and I won't up until september, I have been doing anything else besides jerking off 3-5 times a day to porn and my ex girlfriend (which is a problem in itself) and playing video games.
Just recently my room got renovated and I haven't used my computer in a few days, and that hasn't really done much.
It made me realize I was masking my problems by abusing video games, but I'm still sitting around, sleeping, jerking off, watching videos and posting practically all day on my phone.
I've started bodyweight exercising a bit ago and it hasn't really contributed to anything, besides energy and partial stress relief.
How exactly do I break this cycle ?
I suppose depression, self-loathing, insecuritied and anxiety are a given.
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What do you value in life?
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Find a gym and go lift. Improve yourself and everything else will fall in line; the cycle will be broken!
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go out
OH WOW YES ITS THAT FUCKING SIMPLE WHO WOULDVE GUESSED IT?????????
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Hello /adv/,I'm contemplating suicide since many months because of my weed addiction, please give me any advice regarding deaddiction,.Thanks! and I'm sorry if I'm shitting this board.
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How tf do you get addicted to weed?
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Because it becomes habit for a void. You will have to stop as the first 2 weeks will be hell. Plan distraction s that would fill that 2 weeks.
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>>17384874
I'm just wondering because sometimes I'll smoke weed everyday, sometimes I'll stop for months. I don't get how it could be addicting?
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How to convert a guy that I like into mormonism and marry him in 3 months? 2016-07-23 15:42:14 Post No.17384855
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How to convert a guy that I like into mormonism and marry him in 3 months?
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I met thi nice conservative guy,and I am single at 23! I want to get married soon,and I think that this guy could be it.But he isn't a mormon! How could I convert him,date him and marry him in the spam of 3-6 months? I am getting old and want to have lots of children with this guy
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Suck his Dick everyday
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That is gross. Ugh. We are not even married!!!!!
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>>17384855
You think we are smart? Only Mormon guys use 4chan
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I need some advice lads (picture unrelated)
I already tried asking the literal faggots on /lgbt/ but they probably think i'm some sort of troll since i didn't get a single serious response. I'm in a bit of a predicament, and the gist of the matter is i don't know what i can do to help a friend of mine. And here's what happened, with a TL;DR at the bottom.
Biscum here, but please hear me out. Recently, i've started going to the gym after a long pause, and a lesbian friend of mine started tagging along with me to get back in shape since she let herself go a bit and thought it would be a good idea to have me train her. To cut a long story short, after some opening up and sexual tension she literally went full daddy issues on me and confessed she wanted to be dominated hard but couldn't find anyone and feared that her current, femmy gf wouldn't even get close to doing the job, so as any free biscum and good friend would have done, i offered myself for the job since, surprise surprise, i like dominating people and going overboard with that (not many people are into that where i am, so i take what i can). Anyway, after a gym session one day, we were back at my place, having a good time and things got heated pretty quickly, and by the time i was fingering her and had her calling me daddy i thought i had it in the bag, BUT NOPE, she broke down crying and i had a gut feeling i knew why. We stopped and haven't spoken of it since, but i can tell her she's not as carefree and happy as she was before, yet i can't do shit since she won't open up to me about the problems she's having. What the fuck can i do to help her?
>TL;DR: Biscum that fingered a "lesbian" with daddy issues, she broke down crying and hasn't been the same since. WAT DO?
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let your dad fuck you up the ass
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Your advice is appreciated and has been noted :^)
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>>17384821
... You fingered a lesbian, going against her sexuality, allowing her to cheat on her partner, and possibly re enacting her molestation...
Shit op you fucked up bad.
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Do guys actually care if a girl is a roastie or not?
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Yes
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Maybe
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So me and my gf has been going out more then a year now. And we have a realy good relationship although its long distance....we had a fight and where i normally keep quiet and just say what needs to be said, i lost it this time and told her what i though...where im the one that always have to say sorry and feel bad after every fight and where im the only that tries and makes plans to see eachother and everytime i have a plan she shoots it down...she studies and works at the same time and some nights we rarely talk...which is understandable...but out of the blue she says we need space to think about what we want and for some alone time....and in my head that means breaking up so i confronted her about it....and she says that its not about that...and ya...its difficult to beleive...phoned her today again and she says its about me not trusting her and about what i said in our fight....i said i dnt have a problem with her taking a break because she said it not about breaki g up its just about needing time alone...but i dnt knw...i think me and her have alot of potential in our relationship and i just dont want to lose her and what we have even though its long distance.....please help
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Long distance is hard. How often do you meet?
You have to learn to not be too clingy. It's not for everyone.
Right now I'm long distance cos my gf is a few hours away to take car of her mum. Lucky we are both well off so it's only an hour flight but it's still hard.
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>>17384694
It deppends on whats going on...we see eachother with a period of 2 to 3 months. I cn become cling but im working on it. Dont want her to get the feeling that im not worried about her or that im not there
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>>17384700
My gf and i have an agreement that as far as I can tell we are both happy with. We never go out without the other past 12 if tis not for a special occasion like a bday party or something. We let eachoher know where we are if we are partying, just as a safety thing.
Some people don't agree with this, but the fact is if you are at bars and clubs past 12 what are you doing if your not looking for a hook-up? Dancing? Neither of us are big dancers.
If it's just drinking or chilling at a friend's place that's all good, just not clubbing.
This has worked pretty well.