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>>17441993
I mean you could do drugs to decrease sensitivity, like liquor yourself up.

But there isn't much you can do otherwise. I would recommend you become the king of eating pussy. Get her to orgasm long before you even have sex and there will be little for her to complain about.

>>17442002
I really don't like the quality of sex with alcohol, and quit it completely anyways. I'd like a more permanent solution to PE if it's possible. I'm sure people have conquered it before.

We're cut from the same cloth, m8.
There's some fda approved numbing gel out there now, combine that with a condom and thrust away

I started wearing leather work gloves because my girlfriend hated them.

it scratches the shit out of them when you grab their ass and teets

>>17441975
File those things down a little and you're good. They can be rough to other people but it isn't like a deal breaker I've noticed.

>>17441967
Entirely depends on the jobs you are applying for and what you have a degree in.

However, in general, if i were choosing between two individuals of equivalent qualifications: one in state and one 5 minutes away i would easily choose the person already in town as they have a higher chance of being stable, having lived here already.

>>17441969
I wasted four years getting a BA in English, so it's only for the limited pool where that works

Still good to know, though. I'll focus more on areas around here and deal with being around my parents for more time, or take advantage of having friends that can refer me

since its all entry level stuff i would say yes they will likely be less receptive.

that said i just did the same thing a couple months ago. went through a temp agency and set up a job before i moved, then quit that job for a better one pretty quickly.

native commiefornian here

LA is shit for romantic travel

theres disneyland
there all those studios

sorry not from la

Bay area is more parks

>>17441978
Darn
We are already planning on going to the beach (she's never been) and going to hollywood for a bit etc, I guess I'll have to throw some movies etc in the mix

Why the hell do people come here on vacation anyway

Night clubs: Be it from trans in hollywood to disco in echo park, you can find a dance club for just about anyone in LA county

Museums: Bowers, California discovery center, the Getty, natural history museum, the list goes on and on

Concerts/music venues: From small places like the whiskey a go go to massive, to grant halls like Disney Concert Hall, to outdoor picnic like places like the Hollywood bowl, there are tons of famous venues to enjoy

Brewery/winery tours: SoCal has the most microbreweries in america. Eagle rock and smog city, in LA. Stone and Belching Beavers in San Diego, Bootleggers and The Bruery in Orange county.

If you feel like an 8 hour drive, Napa and Sonoma but if that's too far, Temecula is only about 2 or 3 hours away (as a package you can hot air baloon in the morning, and wine tour in the evening)

Food: California is known as a giant melting pot and nothing proves that more than our food. Los Angeles is famous for it's vibrant food truck scene. KBBQ Tacos and Carne Asada fries are pretty unique to SoCal food trucks. Philipes is famous for being the home of French Dip. Coipinno is born of California . Hop on yelp, name a food type, find a restaurant (Burmese food is a new favorite of mine).

Theme Parks: Disneyland, Universal Studios, Sea World, Knotts, San Diego Zoo

Hiking: Hollywood sign, Mt Baldy, The bridge to nowhere (which you can also bungee jump off of), Joshua Tree, etc, etc, etc,. There are TONS of excellent hiking trails in California.

The Pacific Coast highway: It's known as one of the most beautiful drives in the country. Hop in your car, stop by a random town, enjoy the ocean.

Shopping: South Coast Plaza in Costa Mesa and Del Amo Fasion Center in Torence are both in the top 5 biggest malls in the country

Beaches: Huntington Beach, Crystal Cove, Pfeiffer Beach (The only beach in the world with purple sand, but it's more norcal), etc

I literally hit the character cap before listing even half of what I could think of.

>Mom says I look like David Bowie's bastard son
You have nothing to complain about.

But seriously, take advantage of the hand outs when you can and realize that these only help you to reach your full potential. You'd be surprised there's some stereotypical white middle class looking fucks that heavily rely on scholarships/student financial aid to get through college. Besides, all that matters is how you emerge on the other end.

>>17441951
I mean I kinda see it, she LOVES him so I grew up on David. I have really happy memories of hearing "Moss Garden" every Sunday while I made my Grandma tea. I mean I'm 5'11" with the reddish/blonde hair that came from my Dad's side.

>>17441940
Cosplay as Kira and just yell quotes st people all day, that could nail the autistic Davis Bowie thing.

>>17441931
I am very curious to know how/why you stopped drinking.

>>17441931
i quit a year ago as well. i wound up in the ER and that was the wake up call i needed to stop finally.

went cold turkey on all drugs including coffee. except now ive got meds from the doctor for anxiety which are pretty damn good. gotta be careful with those.

why did you quit?

>>17441952
Ok i often had bad hangovers and did stupid regrettable shit when drunk. one night i started drinking at about 3 in the afternoon ( normal for me then) and just kept drinking more and more, faster and faster. i was on a death ride. going way over anything i had done before. 3 bottles of wine, half a bottle of whisky, bottles of cider, loads of cans. i just could not stop. i don't know how long i stopped up for that night. The next day my room was trashed, i had red paint everywhere, all over my body. my laptop screen was cracked and still on and i saw a video i had made. it was very VERY upsetting. i was saying to the cam that i was going to kill my self, holding a meat cleaver to my throat and crying. with my face painted red. in the video i was laughing then crying, i had totally lost it. so after seeing this i felt lower than i have ever felt before. and that's not all, i was used to hangovers. but i swear to god i was dying of alcohol poisoning. i could feel my life fading. at that point i stood up and said i would never drink again.

Tl;dr why cant you fuck your gf of 2years

>>17441937
Dude please, you're not helping. Do not derail. I really need a solution, except the bullit.

Get on a antidepressant like buspar

>>17441921

She's trying to save your life, you fat fuck. Jesus Christ, this attitude pisses me off. You're literally Cartman, and it's not cute or funny in real life

Trust me youll need ti change your diet sooner than later or you will get a bunch of health problems in rthe future

>>17441921
Continue eating the food your mum makes, you'll thank her when your old. Ask her if you can have a special day to eat some sort of junk food or something.

If you absolutely need the job to survive (as in, not die) then i can offer a bit of advice with juggling the job and full schedule.

If there's any possible way to drop ur hours AT ALL, do it. Dont sacrifice ur first semester at uni. More likely than not u wont be able to get a good gpa since it would be ur first time with a loaded schedule like this. Uni classes and HS classes are very different. Uni requires FAR more work and effort. Don't fuck up the first sem cuz it's an uphill battle after that.

>>17441926
I didn't want to mention this in the OP but I suppose it's important

I don't need this job, at all. Not for my food needs or anything else and not for college. I have college paid for already in full. I did this because essentially I'd feel worthless otherwise. It sounds abundantly stupid, but masochism is my only redeeming quality.

I want to experience pain and I want to experience life.

>>17441942
Am I delusional? I could get into it but basically I do a lot of things to fuck myself over and I think it stems from an inferiority complex directed at some guy. If anyone wants I can explain further but for some reason he's just stuck in my mind.

>>17441881

It it's something loud like metal or hard techno, earplugs may be useful. What's the artist/band ?

Enjoy OP.

Expect to have fun. Bring earplugs if you like, better to have them and not need them than to need them and not have them. Dress however you feel like; if it's fun to dress up do it, but nobody cares what you're wearing. My personal advice is get there early and be up front, it's more fun that way.

People will be paying 100% of their attention to the band, none to you, so you can relax and have a good time.

>>17441881

Depends on the artist, are you a fan? Are you not? etc. Bring ear plugs! I always lose my hearing at live shows so it's best to bring them regardless. Dress like you normally do. Depends on the setting, get a drink and relax.

>literally plan go to expensive store often
>spend lots of money so that one girl can interact with you for a few moments
>know nothing about her
>no stated reason to assume she's interested

She probably has a boyfriend. Stop pouring so much energy and money into your weird obsession with a stranger.

>>17441810
No guts no glory. Just ask her out next time you see her. This happened to a friend of mine when and that dude is now her husband. You never know until you try.

>>17441833
>>know nothing about her
I know plenty about her. For instance: she is hot.

>>17441862
Good point. At least I'll save myself some money if she says no and bans me from the shop.

>>17441809

So what are you asking exactly? Is your problem the lack of sex or are you seeking for conformation that what you're doing now is okay, or what? Isn't this something you should discuss with her?

>>17441816
When I ask her she just says that she doesn't want to do it yet. I am asking if anyone has any similar experiences and give me some light to why is this happening and what is going on in her head. As much as I ask her and try to discuss the matter with her she just says I don't want it yet.

>>17441809

Keep making out and heavy petting, OP. Practice, practice, practice. You'll get better at it, she'll get hornier, and eventually you'll fuck.

It will likely be awkward the first couple of times, but it gets better. And the more turned on she is the easier it will go.

As long as you are happy with your gf, respect her as a person, and enjoy spending time with her, it sounds like you are on the right track.

Also, it is not unusual to be a virgin at 20. In truth most adults lose their virginity in their early to mid twenties, while a much smaller percentage become sexually active early, around ages 12 or 13.

This skews the average to around 17 or 18.

Honestly, it is much more difficult for people who lose their virginity at a younger age. They have to deal with all of the risks and complications of an adult sexual relationship with none of the emotional, mental, or physical maturity.

So you two are right on schedule. Enjoy each other and have fun.

>hang out with girl for months
>don't ask her out

You spaghetti'd a long time ago, friendo.

>>17441876
We hung out/talked for 2 weeks, then she left to a different country for a month. She just got back, is this still spaghetti?

>>17441902
If you haven't said "Hey want to go out sometime?" then it's always spaghetti.

>>17441777
Break up.

>>17441777

>rating everyone on a scale of 10

Please tell me you cringelords don't do this in real life

anyway - You're wrong about this girl, she DOES care that you have a girlfriend, it's the whole reason she's attracted to you. It's an ego/validation thing. If you were single, she'd want nothing to do with you. She just wants to prove to herself that she's hot enough to take you away from your girlfriend. Once she succeeds, she will lose interest and leave you. Oldest story in the book

>>17441798
Nah, I use Black Philip's 1-30 system.

(waste of trips, desu)

>>17441758

have you considered just asking? generally no, its not considered rude. just say 'hey is it cool if i bring a seperate tent for me and my gf?

that being said, laying in piles is half the fun of going camping. it bonds you in ways you dont expect.

>>17441762
The people I'm going with are not people I want to be laying in piles with. They are my girlfriends friend group, I'm only close with one of them.

Why would you all sleep in one tent anyways? That's fucking gross with so many people in an enclosed space. It's perfectly natural for people camping in a large group to bring separate tents for couples etc, I don't see why this would ever be a problem