My boyfriend of a few months is going to a concert with a female friend. After I kept asking about her he finally said they had sex once shortly before we started dating. Am I right to feel jealous and uncomfortable with them hanging out?
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Yes. Fishy af. the fact he does that would be reason enough to dump him.
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Fwiw he told me he was her first which is why he's still hanging out with her, that he would feel like a scumbag for just stopping being her friend after he met me
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I personally would never get over that-
I would feel extremely uncomfortable
If my boyfriend came out with that I would probably be sick
How many sleeping pills does it take to actually kill yourself?
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i'd guess 3 or 4. be careful not to take too many or it might yield undesired results, anon!
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That's barley any
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Depends on your gender, height and weight.
On what pill your taking, empty stomach or not etc.
There's lots of variables and I would heavily advise against it OP.
t. med fag
I rarely orgasm when i sleep with the bf. Maybe once out of 20 times he fingers me or gives me oral (cumming from penetration is off the grid completely). It's not technique or physical problem. It's a mental block and i have no clue how to get over it already. Anyones has any experience with that?
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I meant i cum once out of 20 times he tries to get me off. Not that he only tries once out of 20 times we fuck.
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Convince him to give oral more often. Do you give oral to him? Blowing him often would make him feel more at ease about doing it more for you.
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>>17440681
That's entirely not the point. He gives me oral almost every time and he's pretty good at it. It's NOT a problem of technique. It's like winning the lottery if i cum from oral. I do, and the times i do he hasn't done anything different than the times i don't.
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Alright, this happened tonight and I need to seriously vent about this and I have no one to talk to regarding it.
Basically my girlfriend went 2 weeks away due to work and came back 2 days ago and I felt something was off. Yesterday while she was about to sleep in my bed I asked her what was going on and after a while she told me she had met this guy, nothing had happened, but she clicked with him and he was being a problem she was trying to solve.
We cried like babies holding each other and she said I was still the man she loved and the love of her life, and that she wanted to marry me, but she felt that it was hypocrite to be with me as if nothing was happening.
This other dude is texting her a lot on Facebook even though he knows me (badly) and knows I'm her boyfriend but they are bound to meet since they have a common university class.
She was crying so hard while she was telling me that her fear was that by telling me this she had sentenced the relationship to an end, as she thinks I won't tolerate the distancing and the lack of trust I'll begin to have for her. But I told her I wanted to be with her to help us get through this but she declined, saying that would only make things worse.
Basically as I was driving towards her home to drop her off I said I'd trust her to do the right choice, but if she chose to go forward with the other guy that it was over.
The thing is, this is the only girl I've ever loved, even when I was with other girls when we broke up some years ago I felt like comparing them to her and could never create a connection with them.
I have no idea of what to do, I left her home and we silently hugged while crying and that was it, I feel like distancing myself is the best thing to do at the moment and not say anything, but, at the same time I feel like distance could be the same as me opening up the road to the other guy and lose this relationship.
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>>17440647
It happens.
The connection you might have with a random dude doesn't compare to the intimacy and the deep feelings you have for your partner. It still happens to click with some random dude, tho.
I think she feels really sorry for her feelings, she seems genuine about it.
If she chooses to stay with you, she should cut contact with him and distance herself from him. It will take time for things to go back to normal, but don't make it a bigger deal than it really is.
Stay strong!
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If this weren't the internet I'd give ya a hug and buy you a few beers. I don't know what to say in terms of offering advice. I'm listening if you've got more you wanna get out though.
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Yo /adv/
I'm having a bit of an identity crisis? (for lack of a better name)
I'm a relatively sporty guy, I live in a coastal town in Australia. I'm involved with surf clubs and go the the gym all the time, I've always loved keeping myself healthy and I've always been had it easy with "good looking" girls. Where I live everyone (like 95% of people) are healthy and do some regular kind of physical activity so everyone is pretty much really fit.
The thing is, that I am only attracted to, I can only pop a boner for BBW/SSBBW girls (Chubby/Obese girls). I find them so attractive physically and its the only thing that can get me horny. This is a real curse for me for a few reasons.
1. Hardly any BBWs live anywhere near me, I've looked around and most of them are in Sydney which is still a trek.
2. As soon as I climax, I am instantly disgusted by the idea of liking BBWs, this would cause so many problems if I had a real BBW in a relationship.
3. I can hardly have any normal sex with any other "normal/hot/attractive" girls, (I have to imagine BBWs or something to climax)
4. I really want a long term girlfriend (But I hate everything about the lifestyle of your average BBW, the junk food, the inactivity the general helplessness these girls have)
I mean I could date a BBW and workout with her but that means she would grow more unattractive over time by loosing weight?
5. My peers would judge me harshly for accepting a BBW, this isn't the USA/UK where these girls are common. I have Britney Spears as my phone wallpaper to deter suspicion for christ's sake.
So what do I do? It's the worst type of curse for a guy like me.
>TL;DR Guy whose whole life revolves around sport and activity is attracted only to fat girls which go against almost everything I stand for.
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I'm a plus sized girl and I lift weights and eat healthy food and hardly any junk food, it's just that I eat a LOT of healthy food.
So maybe you can still find someone you're compatible with?
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>>17440604
Plus Size is what I want to be attracted to!
But my desire goes far past what is generally classed as "Plus Size". I'm kinda only attracted to like the REAL obese girls.
Like girl in the pic related is like the smallest that can turn me on, and I know that she isn't that small.
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This. I'm pretty similar. I don't like sweets and hardly eat fast food/cook everything from scratch. I run and lift but i just have an insatiable appetite so i eat way too much. I know why i'm fat but i honestly don't care enough and love eating too much to actually lose weight. Not every fat girl automatically only eats mcdonalds and half a pint of ice cream and slobs in front of the tv all the time.
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I was reluctant to post here because I'm probably just being touchy but long story short
I have a half asian bf, and I'm white. We've been dating for 2 years.
Recently he has hardly paid attention to me, stuck to his computer, I've told him several times that I wish he would spend time with me more and he was really guilty and said he would, and he didn't. Also trying to hide things on the computer from me when I'm near.
Although he doesn't do a very job and its obvious.
I noticed he is obsessed with asians (he is proud of his asian blood) most of his friends are asian and all of his porn is asian.
He hardly has sex with me now and would rather masturbate to-ofc- asians.
He keeps going on about "slutty white girls" and how they are disgusting but doesn't say anything to when the same thing applies to asian girls.He also said to his friend after a previous white ex that "I'm only dating Asian girls now"
I feel like shit as I will never meet to his expectation of this 'cute asian girl'
and as much as he says that I'm perfect and he loves me I just can't get the sickening feeling that Im just some girl he's keeping for the sake of it. I love him to bits but I feel worthless at this point and I don't now what to do.
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>>17440589
Leave him. Done
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To me what isn't a dealbreaker is that he has this fixation on Asian girls. What is, is that any dumb fuck with an ounce of empathy would understand that as a white girl, hearing your own boyfriend trash white women takes its toll on your self esteem. If he does not get that he is either a functional retard or an asshole who does not care about your feelings, or tries to neg you into disproving his stereotypes and feeling inferior. Either one would be a dealbreaker for me.
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Have you told him all of this or just the first part?
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Feeling fearful about my relationships 2016-08-08 10:10:24 Post No.17440582
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Hi /adv/. I'm currently seeing this girl. She's really nice, we enjoy our company together and I find her really cute and sweet. I would want to take our relationship further.
However I have feelings of doubts that is brought upon by my past relationships. I've been in situations wherein it took me months before I was able to move on. Not only that I've had experiences when my ex gf had a failed suicide attempt just so I won't break up with her. She's already mentally unstable and I kind of blame myself for what happened to her.
The thing is I'm afraid that the new relationship we are forming might end up like the ones I had before. I've been to 5 relationships already and all of them ended pretty badly. I'm starting to think that I am not deserving of having a healthy relationship and I should just give up even though I really want to have a family of my own in the future.
With this new girl what's troubling me is because she's only 20 and I'm already 28. She might get bored in the future or there may be factors that we can't control that might lead to its end. Bottom line is that I am already fearful.
I'm not getting any younger as well and it makes me wonder why my relationships don't last. I blame myself and I learn from my wrongs but it was not enough to make my past relationship last.
So any advice will be appreciated /adv/. I'm want to welcome the future with open arms but I'm still troubled. In the past what I did to cope up with my bad luck in relationships was develop new skills, spend time to improve myself like working out, and I still do most of them today.
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I got you.. but I don't know if I have useful advice - just able to relate really..
Turning 27 this week and really optimistic about a first date this week haha (as in.. please, please let her be 'the one'! - I'm so sick of everyone's bullshit)
Had 3 relationships that haven't lasted that long.. distance/different stages in-life/not feeling it... sigh.. At least they all ended amicably (i think) - but since all of them said something along the lines of 'you are a great guy and you'll find someone better than me cause you deserve it'.. I really doubt myself - I mean.. the common denominator is me no?? Further, lots of first dates that never went anywhere - not good matches/no chemistry I guess.
Other than the constant self-improvement, like yourself, and branching out... the only thing that allows me to not be absolutely crippled by the fear of 'things never working out' is that men have lots of time to sort this thing out. A cousin and a family friend of mine got married at 40 and 38, respectively, to women in their late 20s.
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>5 relationships
What have been the common themes so far? What did all (or most) of the girls have in common? What did the breakups have in common? What stuff repeats in each relationship? It can be you stuff, her stuff, behavior stuff, opinion stuff, personal history stuff, interaction stuff, sex, money, friends, free time, fighting, helping, secrets, needs, positive, negative, neutral, whatever. Any aspects that fit the category of "this shit keeps happening", say what those are.
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You too if you like
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>22 years old
>Been NEET for a few years
>Moved away from friends two years ago so I don't have much contact with anyone now
>Never bothered finished learning how to drive because I'm too much of a pussy
>Don't want to go to College because I don't even know what the fuck I want to do ontop of having no way to pay the inevitable debt
>Having trouble finding jobs because I have no prior experience except for volunteer work one time years ago, been a NEET for years, and haven't continued to pursue education beyond highschool
>Can't enlist in the army or anything like that because I have asthma
What the fuck am I supposed to do? I want to get out of this hell.
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You could try marriage scamming rich old women.
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Go to Alaska and try to survive the winter. If you manage to do it, and you decide you wanna come back, many people will hire you after hearing that you survived a winter in hell. I speak from experience.
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become a monk/nun. real human beens are not happy.
I need to kill myself but pure helium isn't really easy to get by these days.
Will gas sellers just sell me pure industrial helium/nitrogen/argon if I request it? Is it possible to hook up these bottles to a flow regulator or would the tubing just burst?
Pls no normie answers like "it gets better lol".
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Self bump
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Avoiding not telling you to kill yourself, just make a noose and hang yourself. If you're worried about the pain, your goal is to die. You can handle a few minutes of pain before death.
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>>17440599
I don't have a beam to do it from. And I wouldn't want anyone to find me while doing it in the woods.
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I learned that people love compliments. I feel bad for not complimenting enough when people deserve it. And worst is when I don't compliment 100%, I say other nitpicky things...How do I show real gratitude for everything people do? I don't want to manipulate people but I think I enjoy it when they like compliments, even if they don't show I don't know anyone who dislikes a sincere compliment (not a fake one used just to flatter them)
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Speak words at them
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>>17440489
Yes but how do I make the words?
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>>17440495
With your brain and mouth, expressing what you're feeling.
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Ridding of my gaming addiction 2016-08-08 09:09:17 Post No.17440483
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I have an gaming addiction that I developed during my childhood, it still my addiction to this day
I want to achieve more goal in my life rather than sitting at home, sitting on my computer chairs but every time I do something productive one days, the next days I play games to let off stress or to relax.
Is there an alternative way to replace my game addiction?
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>>17440483
Keep it to weekends for now and save up for a therapist if you want it completely gone.
Because of the nature of gaming, it is an INCREDIBLY hard soft addiction to drop. Unlike smoking weed which is just a fun high with plenty of draw backs, modern video games give you rushes of multiple internal drug releases. You get all the sensations of real life success and adventure without ever having achieved either and there are no distinct physical draw backs to it either.
So really, if you keep it to a weekend activity ONLY, it should help you open up time during weekdays and, with a bit of discipline, force you to make choices between seeing friends and playing vidya.
I'd -strongly- recommend against playing MMOs though. They do all the above with scientific deliberation and also allow you to see friends. This will mean they'll easily dominate entire weekends and make choosing friends over vidya a very unbalanced choice.
Good luck OP.
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>>17440501
Thank anon but another question
What other entertainment or hobby that can replace game for relaxing after I did what I wanted/need to do for today or stress reliever after a hard day working?
Also, I'll give that weekend gaming a try, starting today.
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>>17440501
Please listen to this anon.
I was fresh out of high school, and my sister introduced me and my mom to an MMO. We all became heavily addicted.
Instead of asking me to get a job/life, my mom would just have me contribute in ways that benefit her in-game. Like farming in-game monies so she could buy mounts.
It was such a vicious cycle. Wake up, vidya all day until bed. Rinse, repeat.
I had to move out to break free, because there was no incentive for me to do anything other feed my fantasy. Now I'm in college and things are much better for me personally and professionally. Most of my gamer friends (who I have on FB) are still very much addicted to the game. I suppose they lead healthy lives, but I sure as shit would not bet on it.
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>Want to get my bachelors in Biochemistry
>Always had above average grades in school
>Got lazy my senior year and decided not to worry about uni
Fast forward
>21, part time job, doing absolutely nothing
>Live with grandparents, my 3 uncles, my mom and two brothers
>My mom lives off food stamps, and my grandparents are retired
>I absolutely want to go to school, but my closest school would cost $36k a year
>Am taking 4 CC classes right now
>Applied for FAFSA, got granted $1300, which is barely anything
How can I pay for school? Should I just join the military to get the bennies?
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Get a job.
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>>17440469
Kill yourself.
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>>17440473
>I want to go to college.
>college costs money.
>how do I make money if I can't get free money?
It's honest advice, idiot. I worked to earn money for college, then worked part time to go to full time college. It's not uncommon.
Join the military if you want though. They aren't blowing smoke up your ass when they promise all those perks or anything. Not at all.
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Has anyone ever improved their sex life by overcoming their porn and fapping addiction?
I'm a 28 year old man and I seldom have sex (it's been a year) because I never pursue women and I never pursue women because of performance anxiety. I believe it's caused by porn or at least fapping way too much.
This sounds like me
http://blogs.psychcentral.com/sex/2012/05/abusing-porn/
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I feel you need to strike the right balance. Too much jerking and I know I won't be able to get hard for the girl. Not enough jerking and I know I will blow my load in minutes. Just the right amount of jerking and I can fuck the girl until she cums and then I can cum whenever I want.
I also get performance anxiety too when I'm with a new person. I've had sex with a lot of women, but whenever I'm with someone for the very first time, my mind is going a million miles per hour and I can't get my dick up. I'm usually good to go the second time we try to have sex (at a later date) but I can never get it up on the first try. In my case, I think it's a comfort thing.
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>>17440460
This shit sounds like me too, but the article is off kilter for me because I don't have anyone to be fucking at the moment.
It's hard for me to stop masturbating when I've been single for two years and don't really see that changing any time soon. (Not for lack of options but mainly because I don't like anyone that way that I can feasibly date.)
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For me it's delayed ejaculation, I can get it up but it takes ages to cum or sometimes I can't.
>>17440492
I'm attempting no fap at the minute to try remedy this, It will be one week tomorrow but every day I've been looking at porn and edging myself because I'm addicted. I've decided to stop doing that.
There's a lot of supposed benefits
http://rebootblueprint.com/10-powerful-benefits-of-quitting-porn/
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Hey /adv/.
I have IBS among other problems (tinnitus, depression, anxiety, etc.) and every few months it appears something new pops up.
I'm seeing a therapist and psychiatrist, plenty of doctors, have been to the ER a multitude of times.
But that's just the basics. Let me get to why I'm here. I know there's not really anyway to "cure" IBS. I feel awful pain constantly but no one can figure out why, and I'm banking on the thought of suicide.
My problem is that I live in the state of Florida, and in Florida someone with authority such as a police officer, doctor, therapist, etc. can involuntarily put me in a mental ward (look up Baker Act). Therefore I cannot speak to my therapist, psychiatrist, or doctor(s) about my actual feelings without them saying "Oh you're a danger to yourself, fuck off to a mental facility for at leastt 3 days". The last time this happened, my stomach was in so much pain and they put me on so many drugs I'd never taken it made everything worse, and it cost me a shitton of money.
I'm 18, and the worst part is I want to live. I want to experience life. I want to get a job and go to college; but yet I don't want to live my life in constant pain. It's a burden.
I'm in a long distance relationship (yes, I know, it's a stupid decision) but she claims to love me for who I am and doesn't let my medical issues get in the way. Yesterday when I was about to pass out I told her about my mental state and how I wanted to kill myself, and things have been rather cold, but she assures me she still loves me. She, my close friends and my mother are the only thing keeping me alive.
The only available way to kill myself is by ODing, but after reading up on it, it seems extremely unreliable and I'm scared of it failing.
How do I unfuck myself? How do I get myself in a better mental state? How do I talk to someone about my mental state without getting shipped off to the loony bin? I'm all over the place.
What do I do?
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I forgot: I'm adopted, I've known my real mom for about a year or so now, and I recently fucked up relations with my biological family after they caught my sister cracking a dick joke. This lead them to yelling at my sister for about 2 hours because they thought I was a pedophile that wanted to fuck my sister. My stepdad tried to put on this tough guy act, so I told him to, in short, fuck off and quit pretending like he plays a part in my life, and to quit pretending like he knows how to treat women (he spanks my sister 'jokingly', verbally abuses her for just about anything, her weight, her taste in music, etc. I've seen it in person) and my bio mom threatened to call the cops on me. This gave me a huge panic attack, and even after trying to tell my mom about my condition, she and I haven't talked since then. How do I go about re-establishing a relationship with my biological mom?
I'm going to pass out now so if this thread 404s by the time I wake up I apologize for not answering questions.
And if you've seen a post on here about a guy with IBS before and it sounds oddly similar to my situation: Yes, I am most likely that same guy.
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>>17440443
honestly I had no idea IBS could be this bad and effect a person's life this much to the point where they consider suicide
shouldn't the hospital just give you a prescription for pain medication at least?
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>>17440487
That's the problem with IBS. It's extremely tricky to deal with, it might make my pain/symptoms worse. I'm trying to get antidepressants soon, but it coukd fuck my stomach up.
How much are you put off by PDA?
Bf and i are dating since a year and we can't seem to keep our hands off of each other. We make a conscious effort to not overdo it, but as it seems, it's still way too much. (we got told to "get a room" by friends fairly often...). I'm embarassed to think that we might act way over the top and make other uncomfortable witheout realizing it. What's it with people that have to have constant body contact? It's weird, because i never was like that before i met him and i also think that if we wouldn't try to hold back, we would just make out 24/7.
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A year isn't that long for a relationship, so that isn't surprising. Once you live together, it tapers down. Especially the older you get.
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>>17440446
Well, problem is we do live together and we are already mid to late 20's...
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>>17440450
Like I said, a year isn't very long. Good for you though. My wife and I used to be the same way, until maybe year 3 or 4 of dating. We are still affectionate in public, but not so brazenly. Finding someone you are comfortable with like that is great.