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Quitting a stable job to get ahead. One step backward, two steps forward? 2016-08-09 02:46:29 Post No.17442680
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>be 28
>be obese kv
>want to turn life around
>have incredibly boring, stable job pays 30000
>cant even improve life at work because all ppl i work with are middle aged women with kids and im the youngest
>want to improve life, lose weight get into hobbies
>stupid boring job leaves me super drained and i have no motivation to do ANYTHING, believe me I've tried
>i have 20k in the bank and can probably last 6 months on this easily in order to pay bills
what do i do? i just dont have the motivation, the drive when i get home from work. i speak with toxic people. fat white women. already old people. i cant make friends at work. i have no friends and speak to no one my age.
but the stability is amazing. i could literally be there my whole life. i make about 30k and do almost nothing but browse 4chan all day.
thing is, its a random job i found from craigslist and there probably wont be anything else like this, as im a lib arts major and have no real skills. but i want to start my life over, and i cant start working somewhere else as a fat fuck with no confidence, i need to at least be presentable. but i wont get that way at the rate i'm going.
thoughts?
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You really shouldn't quit your job, even when you feel drained you should just force yourself to follow your goals/work on hobbies. Learning to balance work and life is one of the most important things you can learn because you'll hopefully always have a job, and any job will drain you to some extent. Don't allow yourself to just sit and watch TV, fucking force yourself to start doing shit after work
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>>17442680
1. Force yourself to exercise
2. Look for a hobby outside of the computer
3. Learn to cook healthy meals for yourself
4. Look for another job
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>>17442680
You sound like such a fucking bitch, op. You have the fucking nerve to complain about dicking around on 4chan all fucking day? And getting paid at the same time? That's exhausting? Dude I work a fucking labor job at a warehouse and come home dead fucking tired everyday and I still force myself to draw everyday and go to the gym. Fucking toughen up
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My girlfriend and i have been together for over 7 months. I absolutely love this woman and see a future with her, she feels exactly the same way. We both believe we have found our other half, our soulmate. Recently, she found out she was pregnant. She's unsure as to how far along she is but it can't be longer than a month. Neither of us were too careful when we were having sex, hence why it happened. She has told me that she wishes to have an abortion because neither of us are ready. She mentioned that she does want to have one but that the time is not right. Both of us are still in school, and young. I'm 26 and she is 24. I respect her decision %100 as to what she wants to do, and am will continue to support her even if she changes her mind. I don't exactly agree with abortions, but I see why people would want one. I would rather have the child but I have not told her. She has been shutting me out and said on multiple occasions that she doesn't want to talk about it and that she does not want to see me. I feel like I'm left out of and that my opinion doesn't matter. Everytime I try to talk to her it seems like I make her more distant from me. I am scared to tell her how I feel because I fear it will push her away even more and she will really not want to talk to me, possibly even leave me. I know neither of us are ready, especially since we haven't finished school, but I feel like we can make it work. I just feel like she will regret it for the rest of her life. I've read a lot about this and how women tend to break down even more after an abortion. The situation isn't perfect for us, but it never really is. I feel like we can raise a beautiful child and we might even regret even thinking about abortion. I feel like in a few years the child will be grown and all of the worries we had didn't even matter. So my question is, should I continue to hold my feelings inside and support her? Or should I voice my feelings and risk pushing her even farther away?
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I don't want to try and convince her to do anything she doesn't want to, it's her body and her choice and I understand that, but I don't want to live life knowing that what I said could have prevented something, not that I'm trying to take her decision away. I just don't know what to do. Or maybe you guys can see what I've been doing wrong.
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Like you said OP, the situation isn't perfect but if you two feel like you can make it work I say go for it. Maybe go balls to the wall and just tell her how you think you can raise the child successfully alongside her, there's nothing wrong with trying to convince as you do have some say in the matter. Say you will ultimately support her no matter what she decides and that you just want to be alongside her and if she's not ready she doesn't have to be. She could be distancing herself for multiple reasons, maybe part of her wants to keep it as well and is afraid you will leave. You'll never know until you talk, communication is key. Best of luck to you.
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>>17442668
>I've read a lot about this and how women tend to break down even more after an abortion
Then you've read a lot of bullshit.
Most women are relieved after getting an abortion.
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I am a 24 year old male who just realized that I'm probably a pedophile. I was molested when I was very young, and I told someone about this once and they turned the event that happened to me into a fapping session. I've been messed up ever since.
I would never touch anybody, but I'm definitely getting turned on by loli stuff. I think I'm mostly bored of porn in general, so taboo stuff is exciting. What do?
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Don't act on it. Don't look at CP.
Loli porn, sex stories and 3dcgi are the closest you'll get.
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>>17442666
Kill yourself, 100% serious.
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>>17442666
Hi satan, this thread gives me a feeling of deja vu.
You should probably just get dogs to lick your jibkies while you touch your boipussy
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How do I end my panic attack? 2016-08-09 02:40:15 Post No.17442664
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How do I end my panic attack?
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I had a panic attack earlier tonight which lasted over a full hour, my dad was up with me calming down but now he's gone to bed and I'm freaking out again, I can't stay in one spot for too long, my heart keeps racing and my body temperature is really weird, I keep shivering even though I'm hot and then I'm cold then hot again. I just want to fucking sleep
The worst part is there is nothing in particular that I'm anxious about, my mind is just working against me, how do I stop this? I need help
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My mind feels like it's vibrating
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Controlling your breathing helps calm you down during a panic attack
https://youtu.be/xI3sVuH7rms
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>>17442664
What happens when you try stretching, like yoga? Connect yourself with your body a bit, loosen up, since you've got this tense-ball thing going for you.
I'm sorry you're going through this, OP. Panic attacks suck. This will pass. I promise you.
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how do i get more confident
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You should try to get out there,find a new hobby.At first you are gonna suck but try hard and you will get better at some point.That will make you feel much better.If there is something that you can do to improve your appearce do it for example a diet or exercise more. Also finding a new style sometimes helps too.Keep in mind though that it's gonna be a long process and you will have succeded when you don't really think about it.
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>>17442639
ruin your social standing completely so then you will have to either
a) die
b) stop caring what others think
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>>17442639
just b urself :)
Seriously, though. If you want to be confident, you have to be satisfied with yourself. What do you think will make you presentable?
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I've suffered from anger issues since I was a child. A few times, when my anger reached it peak, I would literally white out and break things in half with my bare hands like cabinet doors, electronics etc.
When I turned 13 or 14, I learned how to deal with it. I don't know how, I just knew something I was doing was working. I still got angry, but nowhere near that angry. I'm 22 now, and although I've had close calls I've never felt what I felt tonight. I was in a verbal altercation with someone close to me when they threatened me. I knew they weren't going to act on it, but in that moment I felt one of the scariest things I've ever felt. I felt this bottomless pit of pure rage inside of me. It felt expansive and never ending, like it had been accumulating since I was a kid. I don't really recall what happened but I know that I grabbed the person physically but I stopped myself just short of doing anything.I dont know what made me stop, I know that at the time I felt like I could rip their fucking body in half. I felt GOOD. I was ready to fucking murder a close friend in cold blood over a petty argument simply because they knew every way to push my buttons to get me to that point. I literally visualized how I was going to do it as it was happening.
This pit of rage is what I'm asking for advice on. I never knew something like this was boiling inside of me. I knew I used to have anger management issues but now I know it never went away and the full extent of it. About the time that I started to actively control my anger is when my depression started. I dont know if I can attribute this to it but it seems extremely likely its what caused it.
I'm honestly really fucking scared at this point. I can tell it has no source, no meaning or point to where it comes from. It's just THERE and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can stop myself the next time I open it.
Sorry if this is poorly written or sounds like an edgy 13 year old fanfiction.
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This might seem stupid and unrelated, but what kind of music do you listen to?
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No I get what you're getting at.
I listen to mostly hip-hop, RnB, Electronic, Indie rock. Typical normie stuff, sometimes some uncommon stuff if im feeling it but usually the regular.
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We'll iv had anger issues, among other problems, as far back as I can remember. I've always listened to heavier music, my mom always thought it made me angry but it was actually very therapeutic for me. Hearing the aggression in the music kind of allowed me to vent my own anger and frustration. It really helped me deal with alot of stuff and gave me an outlet for everything i was feeling. It allowed me to keep my emotions in check well enough to keep me from seriously hurting someone and I know without a doubt I would not be here now without it. I know bands like cannibal corpse and deicide aren't exactly everyone else's cup if tea but maybe try listening to something not quite as heavy but still aggressive like slayer or some other band liie that. This may not help you, maybe I'm weird or maybe it doesn't work for everyone but I'm just telling you how I was able to deal with it personally
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I know /adv/ (and everyone in general, really) hates cheaters, and I haven't cheated on my boyfriend or anything, but I feel worried that I will. My first few boyfriends when I was a lot younger cheated on me and I feel like it sort of shaped how I view relationships, and I get the urge to cheat now - maybe in a 'if I do it first I won't get hurt when he eventually does' kind of way?
I'm not sure what I'm asking specifically, does anyone else feel the same way? How do you deal with it?
Or on the other hand, for those of you who are in trusting, committed relationships, how does it feel? Like what does it feel like to not even consider being with other people? Or do you consider it but just know you would never act on the urge/thought?
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I've never considered being with other people even though a couple of my formative relationships ended with the other cheating (learned I was the side fuck in my first real relationship when they disappeared. Learned later that they got married and I was the "experiment" to see if they were ready to commit).
I was very suspicious and jealous at the beginning of my current relationship, but I eventually saw how my suspicion was hurting them and eventually just came to the conclusion that if I'm the best partner I can be and they still cheat then that's on them. After a while I stopped worrying about them cheating and just accept that they are in for the long haul (getting married in January after dating for 5 years).
I think being with someone for a long time, or dating with the explicit intent to eventually marry, staves off urges to cheat. The goal is to be with only them, so you don't plan on seeking others out. If you're not ready to be committed then I think that people are more likely to cheat.
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Cheating is a habit, like anything else. Its a form of escapism for people that want commitment, just not the actual commitment part.
The key to committed relationships is not never considering being with other people but understanding that trust, integrity and the well-being of your partner is more important than a quick hump with some asshole who doesn't even care about you.
As adults we spend our entire lives rectifying the things we want to do with the things we know are right.
You can't spend the rest of your life punishing your boyfriends for the shit your ex boyfriends did when you were younger. Get into the habit of justifying cheating and lying now and you'll reside yourself in your older age to never feeling safe and secure in a relationship.
You'll spend your entire adult life running from relationship to relationship, never settling into a home in fear that it will be someday taken away. You hurt someone, they hurt you, you move on. Its a very sad existence.
Commitment is not jumping in a pool. Its a constant decision that you make every day. Its not being sure but trusting anyway. Its cutting yourself open and trusting the person you're with not to tear your guts out. If you don't take the risk, you'll never get the reward. There's no way around that.
If you have a habit of only dating guys that cheat on you then there's something wrong with you emotionally and you should seek therapy.
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>>17442526
I was cheated on twice and the poor guy I dated next got punished for it when I cheated believing it would happen again and like you I would do it first. I felt even worse and I hurt a decent guy because of my own selfishness. I stayed single for 4 years before I trusted myself enough to make a good choice, was willing to commit to one guy and respected them and myself enough.
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How do I talk to her? 2016-08-09 01:43:02 Post No.17442510
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Hi /adv/, I just matched with a girl I know on Tinder. This wouldn't normally be a problem, but there are a few factors which I believe complicate things.
First, we're family friends, so I don't want to be too forward in case it makes things awkward between our families.
Second, I've spoken to her quite a bit in person, and I got the impression that she wasn't interested in me.
Do you think it's possible that she just swiped me right to say hello? This girl is the girl of my dreams, I cannot envision a scenario in which this isn't a joke. I was planning on playing it off that way, anyway.
How can I approach whether or not she actually is interested in me without being a total autist about it? I'd like to be subtle if possible so I don't spill my spaghetti everywhere.
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it's tinder, there's a 99.9% chance nothing's going to come from it, just say whatever the fuck you want
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>haven't seen you in a while, lets grab some food and catch up
Obviously don't sperg out in person and profess your undying love or some shit, but just see where it goes. The longer it stays on the tinder app, the worse it's gonna go for you.
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not OP but i just got tinder
im swipin like crazy and im gettin no matches
how do i even do this
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Firstly I want to say for the first 3 years of my relationship i have never acted or had reason to feel insecure in my relationship.
However recently I have shown a really insecure side of myself to my girlfriend and it's making me sick and has been bothering me a lot. About a month ago she thought she wanted to break things off after 3 years together because she was unsure of her life but quickly changed her mind on the matter and remains adamant she wants to be with me, she claims it was more to tell me about her feelings and better our communication then to actually break up. I took it pretty badly and felt sadness for about a week despite us staying together, every now and then i get fleeting insecure thoughts since this occurred which i usually brush away, I know she has picked up on this and constantly reassures me without me saying anything, but recently i noticed she felt a bit cold and distant for only a matter of days, i panicked and over analysed everything and sent her a massive message basically saying how i dont think i make her happy any more and other insecure shit, i was hoping either she would comfort me or break up with me so i would at least have an answer, but she just got really annoyed saying how she has felt like she is constantly trying to prove herself to me and show me how much she loves me and shes been constantly worried about my thoughts and insecurity since a month ago when we nearly broke up.
I regret sending that message really badly and don't know what to do from here, we have moved on for now and I apologised about it and told her it was because our almost break up was still fresh in my mind but that i would try to move on from it and feel secure.
I just feel like less of a man for showing this side of myself to her, and dont want her to have lost respect for me, insecurity is such a strange feeling.
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If youre taking a break from the relationship give her some space, more than likely she'll come back, give it one month let her live her life and you live yours, if you can't take it, go get her back, she'll more than likely be feeling the same way. You can't constantly show her that side, it's annoying, same if she were to constantly want to hear it from you. Play the good ol' "away game" quit being up her ass and she'll come crawling back i promise
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We're not taking a break, we're just moving on from here, i've promised myself im never doing anything like this again and any time i feel insecurity building im going to ignore it because i know its me being stupid. I guess all thats really bothering me now is that I showed such a pathetic side of myself to the person i want to spend the rest of my life with, i dont want her to think any less of me.
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>>17442506
I think you are justified in feeling insecure in the relationship because she started this shit by wanting to break up. That would take anyone time to feel secure again and it's bullshit for her to lose patience when it's her fucking fault. Lesson for you OP is you do need to toughen up and stop letting this piece of shit you call a gf play with you like this.
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Smoking without getting caught 2016-08-09 01:39:35 Post No.17442500
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Smoking without getting caught
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Sup /adv/.
I used to be a pretty heavy pothead and I'm about to get back into it. I live with my parents and out of respect for them I don't want them knowing about it. I plan to smoke away from the house, storing all of my stuff in my car.
>how do I walk back in the house acting and smelling sober
>how do I conceal the smell of weed in my car, both the smoke smell and the smell of the sitting bud
Thanks in advance boys and gals
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if your parents aren't the type to barge into your room, blowing smoke out the window usually works fine
your car will smell like weed if you smoke in there regularly, unless you take great pains to air it out after every session, which you probably won't cause you'lll be high
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You must be at least 18 years old to post here
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You are so fucking cool
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I met this girl and we got together for a couple of weeks before she had to leave but we met up again a couple of weeks later. She wanted to come to my country but then something came up and she couldnt and would maybe be able to come a few days later. In the end it wasnt possible a few days later either. Looking back on it now I was probably a bit too eager for her to come and I feel like i may have come on too strong. The reason I was eager is because i knew that if she didnt come i would be really bored at home alone because i had planned the trip with her. My question is should I say to her "Im sorry for being too pushy" or should I just leave it and continue texting normally?
TL;DR:If I came on too strong should I say sorry or just try to avoid it and talk normally?
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*My question is should I say to her "Im sorry for being too pushy" and explain why or...
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What is wrong with you. She probably hasn't even thought you were coming on to strong, and even if she did we have no idea what you said, so don't know whether you were over the top of not. Just talk to her like a real human bean.
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I dont remember exactly what I said but I know I said that it kills me that i wont see you for a year now. (shes going away soon and this was our last chance before that)
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I'm 19 and I live with my parents in texas. I'm a full time pizza delivery driver and I'm taking 3 classes in community college, do I qualify for welfare? Pic unrelated
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Probably not
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>do I qualify for welfare?
How the fuck would we know that?
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No. mayyybe food stamps. don't be lazy, go look it up. It varies state to state.
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This is a longer question than most /adv/ threads but please just bear with me here.
Back story, I have an addiction of pretending to be a girl online. It’s no harm for anyone involved, and I actually see it as a booster for my social skills as I think it’s giving me a good basis on what a girl is thinking when I talk to one, and It's the only real talking I get to do as a neet shut in.
About a month ago I meet a new guy called Brendan. He never asked for nudes which was weird but I would only guess he was just one of those guys who just wanted someone to talk to. He messages me nearly every day for four weeks, which was incredibly longer than usual, but I kind of felt a bond with him, maybe sexual, I don’t know. I’m straight, I think. He made me feel like a real girl, not just a camwhore.
Two days ago, I wake up and my phones not on my desk. I spend an hour searching around my room and I ring my mom in case she’s seen it. She said her phone won’t charge so she just wanted to use mine while she was going to the shops because she’s always scared in case she gets mugged. She gets home and tells me she got a ‘call’ (kik message) from someone so she opened it thinking it was me
>it was Brendan
She fucking saw everything. She sat me down to have a ‘talk’ about my girl persona. I’m in tears at this point and I tell her it’s not something sexual. After an hour of crying she tells me it’s okay if I am more comfortable as a girl, and that I need to see a therapist to help me with these feelings. At first I thought she was being mad but now that I think about it, I am a girl. I don’t know I just want another opinion on this. Is this just gender dysphoria? I would ask /lgbt/ but I want cis opinions too. I have a cute face and I’m skinny. My mom already said she is happy for me to take hormones if I want to.
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Get a job you pathetic neet.
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Get a job you pathetic neet.
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>It’s no harm for anyone involved,
Yes it is you dumb cunt. You are tricking people into thinking they are having a relationship with a girl. Either stop doing this pathetic shit and get a job, or kys.
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what is a good,easy to learn type of self defence? 2016-08-09 01:21:41 Post No.17442448
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what is a good,easy to learn type of self defence?
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Basically the title,i want to learn it at home through the internet,i also want it to be good if used as self defence.The self defence part is crucial.
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I literally just answered this in another thread not 30 minutes ago you impatient cucktard.
Also, you'll never learn a physical skull online, you need am expert to make sure you're doing it correctly or you'll just end up hurting yourself and getting mugged.
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*skill. Fucking auto correct.
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In order from most to least effective
>avoido-chun-negro
>lip-zip-fu
>gun-shoot-maga
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I am a 24 year old female who just realized that I'm probably a pedophile. I was molested when I was very young, and I told someone about this once and they turned the event that happened to me into a fapping session. I've been messed up ever since.
I would never touch anybody, but I'm definitely getting turned on by loli stuff. I think I'm mostly bored of porn in general, so taboo stuff is exciting. What do?
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>>17442437
I'm 26 but I look like I was 14, are you interested?
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>>17442451
I imagine myself in the victim's position, not the one violating the victim. I don't get boy pedophilia.
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>>17442465
as long as you don't act upon it, it should be fine.
Also don't ever mention this to anyone irl.