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I am supposed to change my life almost 180 degrees around soon - I will be going to a completely new town for me, that I don't know at all (and I'm terrible at walking in new places), I wiill be living on my own for the first time in my life with some people that I don't know in a rented flat. I'm basically going there to get my 3 semestres Master degree (already got a engineer degree in a smaller town near village that I have been living all my life) and I am scared shitless anons :(. Never been scared so much, even when I was being bullied physically and (mostly) psychologically in school. I don't even want to. I can't even bother and look for a room to rent because thinking about it makes me wanna puke. I don't even want to create THIS post too, but oh well. I know that this will be a disaster, I constantly sit in my room since March of this year, rarely going out, I literally don't know how to conversate with people, how to interact, I don't know where I'm supposed to go to take classes, guys - I think I'm in the deepest shit you can get :(. I want to cry but at the same time I feel so dull that I don't have ANY emotions.
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Go take a vacation OP,
put some stuff on a backpack,
get good at searching for hostels,
couch surf, living off of laptops and riding public transit,
getting use to talking to new people.
You don't have to go crazy far,
if you have like a thousand dollars that's enough to wander for a month or so.

If you can do that,
moving someplace new is not so scary.
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>>17443663
I have literally almost no money on me. I just spent my last $50 on GTA Shark Card.
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how are you paying for school?

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Is this a credible way of dealing with stress?
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>>17443626
Yes.
I'm guessing you refer to shit like yoga and meditation as non-credible.
just don't fall for the memes ^
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Do sports regulary!
Have sex regulary!
Eat good food regulary!
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On the chart, yes, on the field, no.


Worrying is overthinking. Thinking about not thinking is still thinking. In turn it'd be easier to just learn meditation and get a grip over your mind.

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How do i increase my popularity? Im a shut in loner and i have no friends.
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>>17443455
Just do what everyone else wants you to do.

Alternatively you can be a loner and do what you want all the time.
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Take risks, desu, fight with your gut to do something out of your comfort zone, like talking to so and so.
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>popularity

So you're one of those types that think getting your name known everywhere is a perk?

Post your info here or at >>>/b/

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19 year old college fag here. How does one make friends and shit when you're both ugly/off-putting both physically and in personality?
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i dunno
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You change one or both of those things
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>>17443358

Well, I'm preparing to work out regularly again once I start going back to college so I have a steady routine, so the physical part will be eased.

But I have a really bad babyface problem that, even when I was pretty skinny from all the long-distance running I did, wouldn't go away. Hell, my step-mom told me that I looked like a 14 year old. I haven't tried focusing on lifting, though, so that might work.

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Alright long story short, me and chick super into each other. I didn't smash when I should have. Then she acts pissed and has to go back home AKA 1000 miles away. She still texts and snapchats but nothing sexual. Is she still interested or is she just being nice. If she is how can I get the sexual tension back so next time I see her we can pick up where we left off?
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Update: I went for broke and texted her on snapchat that I want to taste her and asked her what we would name our love child lol. I know that sounds like too much but if I would have said that to her in person she would have liked it. But now since she is far away and I feel like we are drifting apart I went for broke. Was this dumb shut I delete my snapchat account so she never sees it or should I tough it out and go for broke
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>>17443345
>>17443364

Just go radio silent and prepare better for your next showdown. There is nothing for you to accomplish over text/images.
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>>17443364
Go hard or go home I say

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My gf might be pregnant. She doesn't know my real name and I met her through tinder through a burner phone. She's the religious type so abortion is no possibility. No way she could find me.
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How is she your gf then?
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>>17443245
Because she doesn't fuck anyone else and calls me her boyfriend.
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>>17443247
I fail to see a problem.

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So me and my girlfriend of 5 years split up 3 months ago or so and had been having a back and forth. The reason she left me was because my depression was growing and she was feeling so strained. I could understand...we both have our problems. We had made a promise to never up and leave each other but that was broken. Even though she told me she wanted to work it out, she changed her mind at least a few times. I have abandonment issues and this is my worst nightmare come true. I had been under a tremendous amount of emotional turmoil because I love this girl with all of my heart. I still do...After she had changed her mind yet again about us, I had lost it. I went overboard and was extremely suicidal. I almost jumped off of a dam, but I couldn't bring myself to it. In the end I threatened her life which is the only single act of aggression I've ever shown towards her in 5 years. She called the police on me and I was locked up in a mental ward for 4 days. Currently I'm in intensive therapy and I'm still having trouble accepting what I have done. The guilt and shame weighs on me every day. I had completely ruined any connection between us with this. She took me to court and has a 3 year restraining order against me. Despite her only wanting a year, her parents convinced her to try for 5 and we luckily brought it to 3. Now we go to the same school and I'm afraid of how I'm going to handle this situation. I don't know what it's going to be like to see her with another guy, I think about her every single day.

Fucking help me, I can't bring myself to get over her because she was the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. But I know that she would never want anything to do with me again. How can I stomach something like that when I was ready to dedicate my entire life to us.

I don't know, I guess I'm just on here venting because I feel like I can't talk to anyone about this.
cont
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>>17443203
You need to get over her. I know it's not easy.

There are parallels between your story and mine, but once I saw that my ex was interested in other men besides me, that was it. I was more or less over her. It hurt like hell, but I'm okay now.

I was only holding on to her because I felt like maybe she still wanted to be with me, and I didn't want to burn the bridge completely by seeing/being interested in other women.

But she clearly isn't interested, so fuck it. I'll give my love to somebody else.

I don't really know what else to say but you do need to move on. Talk to new people, make new friends. Talk about it in past tense. It's not something that's still happening now - it's something that happened, and you're in a different place now.
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>>17443203
I just hope in some sense you read this, C...and please not take it horribly. I never got a chance to fully apologize for the things I said.

I have never thought I was capable of any of that. When you love someone so much, desperation makes you do stupid things. It's a shame that the punishment had to come this far but I also want to thank you for giving me my rock bottom. I have been trying very hard these past few weeks to better myself in therapy. I have realized a lot of things that were issues that I never gave any thought to. I still miss you and everything we had. I don't know why I am so self destructive and created this situation. Maybe it was my way of stopping the back and forth from happening again. Either way, I think about the pain I caused you and it brings me to tears every time. I would give anything to be able to say sorry to you in person.

Just...god damn...sorry can not even begin to explain how I feel. There are no words for these intense emotions I feel when I think about everything that has happened. You might not ever see this but who cares. This is as close as I'll get to being able to give you some apology.

I said the meanest and rudest things to you when all you were trying to do is figure what you want. It's hard to accept the rejection of me when I've had nothing but acceptance from you. I don't think I was wrong in trying to mend our relationship, who wouldn't try to do that if they truly care about someone? I'm so god damn sorry for making you so scared. I feel like a complete monster and it makes me want to kill myself. I couldn't live with myself if I ever hurt someone as badly as I did you. You are so sweet and innocent and we grew so much together. Aggressive love is hard to control because I want nothing more than to be in your arms again.
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>>17443215
Thank you, anon. I have been trying to talk to other people and become more social because I am very spaghetti filled. Although I have only been met with severe disappointment. Girls are so very mean...
The main problem is that I will be dealing with the consequences of one mental breakdown for 3 years now. It only makes it worse that we go to the same college.

I'm starting to develop panic attacks just thinking of the situation at hand.

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I need some advice.

I met this great girl online. She's fantastic. However, she is severely abused and mistreated by her family. I'm pretty sure she has PTSD. Definitely depressed. Suicidal.

Let's just get past the obvious concern. Not a catfish, she is in genuine need of help. I don't care if you do/don't believe me/her, let us just assume for the sake of advice, what I should do next.

I want to help her. I don't have a whole lot of money, but I will do what I can. I can afford to cut some corners and make some sacrifices. This is not my first time helping somebody in a similar fashion or in a similar situation.

She lives in the US, and I live in Australia. She has said that she would gladly move here and stay with me, so that I can help her get going here. But she is paranoid about her family from stopping her from leaving. They have sabotaged her plans to leave multiple times in the past.

The current idea is that I will fly to the US to meet her, and we'll fly back to Australia together, so that she can feel some sense of safety.

Obviously there are different bridges to cross once she is here. i.e. Visas, permanent stay, etc. I'm a NZ citizen, so if it comes down to it, we can relocate to NZ, and if necessary t b h, I don't care if I have to marry her to give her citizenship, so she has a safe place.

In the past, I helped a guy leave Singapore. Depressed, suicidal, would have offed himself within a couple of months of performing National Service (mandatory over there). I helped him flee, gave him a place to stay in another country, until we figured out the next step. He's in Australia now, studying.

I'm not sure exactly what I need help with but, this is a serious endeavour, and any help/advice would be greatly appreciated. I also struggle with depression. I've recently been on an up (relatively), and things have been improving. But if I lost her - if she killed herself - I would be devastated. Giving up is not an option.

What do you guys think?
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>>17443201
I don't know how fast this board is, and I really don't want to lose the thread.

I need advice, help, or at least words of encouragement. I feel like an idiot for wanting to dump all this money on a girl I met on the internet.

But desu I don't have anything better to spend my money on, I want to help people. I have so, so much love to give, and about 8 months ago I lost the only person I could give it to.

I'm a little bit of a hopeless romantic, but I'm genuine.
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Anybody? Bumping cos I'm leaving work and don't want the thread to die.
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Pretty sure you're being catfished mate. Where in aus are you? I can come slap some sense into you if you'd like?

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I'll get right to the point: I'm a double amputee just below the knees. Unless I'm around home, I wear prosthetic legs. When I wear long and baggy pants, things are usually fine. If I'm wearing shorts, or anything that gives away that I've got no legs, the people around me immediately shift gears and I'm then treated like I'm completely incapable of doing even basic tasks on my own. When I'm just living my life, I'm fine. But for example if a grocery store clerk pretty much refuses to give me my groceries, and instead insists on carrying them to my car for me, I know they're doing it because he sees me as a cripple.

It even extends to the people who are close to me. I've actually had people stop my boyfriend to talk shit to him if I'm carrying something near him, and he isn't.

Am I forever condemned to long baggy sweat pants? Or is there something I can do to get people to stop looking at me like I'm pic related.
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>>17443199
How long have you been a double-chop, Halfie? As a lifelong cripple, I have advice but I need more info.
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>>17443216
Since like 2 years. I've no memory of not being this way.
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>>17443218
Do you have memory problems or something?

Anyway, to the advice. Ables will always treat you like an idiot if they're inclined to do so. When you're born with it like I was, you learn how to deal with it in classes (dunno if halfies have classes but we eyeless do.)

Short and sweet, get used to either being that crippled bitch or come up with some polite shove-offs and hate-fuck your boyfriend to get your frustrations out. My wife and I do the latter. People see the cane and glasses, assume I'm an idiot and look for a tin cup, I politely defuse the situation with self-effacing comedy, and then my wife and I get our hate fuck on (she HATES when I'm condescended to by people.)

Take the nice ones in stride. Take the mean ones out with a verbal (or not) sucker punch.

Good luck, Halfy.

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Last night I woke up, took a piss like usual. I felt a sting, a sharp pain in my dick but nothing bad. Back to sleep.
Today I woke up, took a piss like usual and felt a slight pain in my dick like last night, and the last few drops were a brown. Not the whole piss, just like the last couple of drops.

Anyone know what it might be? It doesn't hurt otherwise and never had this pain before.
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Kidney stone passing.
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Btw, this better not be you, Peter...
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Are you overweight, familio?

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Is there an actual problem with being a virgin at 22 years old.
My brother is doing well socially, gets along with girls and guys just fine. Has a lot of friends, he'd be considered a normie to you guys. But during my time here I keep seeing threads over and over again here of people expressing how upset they are at being a virgin of 18+. Is it actually that bad? I never worried about my brother, but after constantly being exposed to posts like this I almost feel worried about him now, and I never have before. He's never had a girlfriend. He's never kissed a girl. He's had crushes on girls so he's definitely not gay.

Is the whole complaining about being a virgin at 18-25 just a meme here? Are they just sexually frustrated retards that have the need to express how inadequate/lonely/depressed they feel everyday on here for not having sex? I need to know.
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Let's put it this way: the people here aren't exactly the healthiest mentally, nor do they have a representative outlook on life.
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>>17443142
MOST guys that age are consistently horny and would like to have sex any time it's offered. That doesn't mean every guy is that way. I've always had a low sex drive. I only want to have sex with people I feel a deep connection with. It takes a long time for me to feel that sort of connection with another person. I've had sex with 2 people by the age of 25, both of which were in long term relationships where we didn't have sex until many months into each relationship. Sex just isn't a big deal for me. It feels nice, but only when with someone I truly care about.

If your brother is happy and enjoying life, don't worry about it. It's pretty weird you're even thinking about your brother in that way. Don't you have your own issues to worry about?
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>>17443142
>Is the whole complaining about being a virgin at 18-25 just a meme here?

Yes. Some people just don't have an interest in it while a lot of kids here base it as some kind of metric to success or wizardry.
It's just getting your dick wet. Simple as that.

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Any femanons here that wouldn't mind giving their two cents on Rodgers pre-shooting?

Like, by all he means he isn't terribly unattractive and could have possibly been nice so I don't see why he wasn't able to score at least once by the time he was 20.
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I should have clarified that this is all in the hopes that I can personally avoid anything this guy did from your advice

(You know, besides being a murderer)
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>looks means everything
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You know that personality plays into attractiveness, right? There was nothing in his personality that was even remotely appealing.

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I'm 27 years old and I have no friends and no girlfriend. I feel like I will never have lifelong friends or get to experience the normal things that people do in their 20s. I'll never be able to go on roadtrips with my bros, or just smoke pot and hang out and make cool shit with them. And I won't know what it's like to be young and have a cool, cute gf.

I wasn't able to have this kind of life due to a lifelong battle with mental illness. I feel like there's no hope left. I just go to work at a job I hate with middle-aged people I do not relate to at all, and then come home and sleep because I'm so exhausted from work.

I've considered suicide for the last 10 years. Sometimes it's only in the back of my mind, sometimes it's all I can think about. Right now, it's all I can think about. I'm beginning to make plans to kill myself soon.

Anyways I just needed to write all of this out and share it some place where it can't be traced back to me.
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man I can really relate to all of this, I am practially the same.
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>I wasn't able to have this kind of life due to a lifelong battle with mental illness
What attempts have you made to deal with this?
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Is mental illness an acceptable reason to kill myself? I think normies will understand.

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I wasn't able to apply to College for the Fall semester, should I apply for the Spring and summer semesters instead or wait it off until next Fall? I'm 18 for one more month if it helps.
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Here's a little trick; go to community college on your own dime, maybe one or two night classes. Never tell the four-year universities about it. Do better when retaking those classes, reduce your stress while boosting your GPA.
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>>17443060
>Never tell the four-year universities about it.
Doing this can get you kicked out of your university

Unless you have something better to do go for spring and summer, there's no real benefit to starting in the fall other than staying in the mindset of going to school.
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Get a job in the meantime and bang out spring and summer. I took a year off cause I needed money and signed up too late for my summer courses. 3 months wasted.

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How do I keep creating, even though I'm terrible and unmotivated?

Things have been near-impossible since I dropped my ADD meds. It's like I don't know who I am anymore.
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Apply your current knowledge to new styles of music or forms of art or however you create. It can be refreshing to start with something new.
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>>17443059
I don't know how.

I'm an illustrator btw.
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