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>>17441370
someone will fall for this

>>17441370
are you from USA?
There are none of those people where I am

>>17441378
No, I'm form eastern europe, small country, a little backwards

Which makes me even more enraged that these pussies thrive

Omg you creep

So lemme get this straight.

>You saw a girl. You didn't really speak to her you just saw her.

>You kept checking this girl out and she noticed and got uncomfortable

>The group acts cold to you and then you leave

>You manage to find the girl you kept checking out online

>you send her three messages. she doesnt reply to any of them

>you think theres a chance she secretly likes you and is playing hard to get

She's not interested dumbass.

Move on to someone else

>>17441365
Now, about school. I went to a crappy primary school until I was 6, after which my parents decided to educate me at home. My education has been one of the few good things about this bizarre system. My parents actually paid attention to my education, and although it meant I was cut off from the outside world, I did get very good grades in my GCSEs (exams we take when we're 16 in the UK). The immense stress of my life, however, meant I didn't perform so well in my AS levels (we take them when we're 17), so I've decided to re-take them. I'm currently waiting for my new and hopefully improved results to come in. Anyway. My isolation from the outside world has left me bereft of social skills and life experience. I am utterly useless in most social situations, and I often fear interaction with people from outside the family, even cashiers in the supermarket. I haven't seen a psychiatrist (My parents wouldn't let me), but I can recognise that I have serious problems. I go through frequent "bad" phases (Usually lasting for a few days, and interspersed by "okay", but rarely "good", phases of similar length) in which I am a total wreck. (Part 2 of 3)

>>17441367
I have next to no energy, and I spend as much of the day as possible in bed. I lose all interest in the activities which I enjoy in my "okay" and "good" phases (such as reading about history and current affairs, going to second hand bookshops and studying foreign languages), and generally feel unable to do anything but binge eat (despite which, I'm somewhat underweight) and watch porn (a habit I've had for several years, and which I desperately want to kick, but can't). During some of these phases, I even contemplate suicide. These "bad" phases, combined with my lack of social skills, would probably prevent me from holding up a job for long, in an imaginary scenario in which my parents actually let me get a job. I also go through phases of intense interest in Islam (a religion my parents despise and fear), and would probably be able, with the complicity of my sister (who also dislikes this isolated lifestyle), to get to a mosque. Although, that said, I also go through phases of intense interest in the extreme political right. If it's at all possible, I sympathise with both. Call it doublethink, if you will. I've managed to acquire a cheap pay as you go phone, but I don't have anyone to talk to on it, because I'm not allowed to have friends. What do I do with my life, /adv/? I'm on the verge of having a total breakdown, and I'm frightened of what I might end up doing. (Part 3 of 3)

>>17441371
First thing, remember you can leave whenever you want legally. You're an adult now. If your parents threaten to enforce your isolation with violence of any kind don't hesitate to use that phone to call the police.
Second, it sounds like you'll be able to get into uni so at the least that will give you freedom if you get into one outside of easy transit range from your house. It'll be a huge jump in freedom, be carful to not do anything too irresponsible.
Third, social interaction is a learned skill, if your parents will allow it you should try to get in touch with a group on Skype or similar digital communication platform.
Finally, your ups and downs are to be expected in your situation and you are absolutely not alone in feeling the ways you do. Hang in there, get sun and exercise, find new people to talk to(if possible), and stick with your hobbies and fun activities even if they feel like they've lost meaning. As for religion I'm not personally fond of Islam but I know many people find meaning and peace through religion. Never choose a religion because your parents hate it, choose the one that seems the best. Good luck OP, I know you can get through this!

>>17441357

there is no real right or wrong.

it boils down to what you are comfortable with and how desperate you are.

there is no magical solution that makes you jealous. you either trust her or you dont. you can go in with the belief that she will eventually betray you in some way, cuz lets be real most relationships feel this way in the end regardless.

but if you think you'll be more frustrated than not then consider just not dating her.

>she cheated FOR YEARS on her previous long term boyfriend

So I take it you don't want a monogamous relationship?

>>17441362

give me an example-- what ex dynamics were you comfortable with in the past, and what weren't you? with past GFs, i was only concerned that the situation was equal, e.g. we'd keep the same kind of exes. i've never had on-and-off again exes who i kept fucking, which is why this seems particular bananas to me.

>>17441364

the circumstances were complicated. there was entanglement with her bf at the time due to property they owned, plus he had a ton of medical problems. he was abusive and she was pursued. it was pretty fucking terrible for everyone. i might have done the same thing in her shoes.

>>17441318

Well if it isn't wax what the fuck is it, genius? Your brain leaking out?

I have a similar problem and it is wax. Just go to the doc once a year and they can clean it out. In japan they have guys who can go in and pick the wax out with tools like a little bird cleaning the teeth of a hippo or some shit. But murrkans can't have nice things. Use aquaear or some wax removal shit because it is wax ya dingus, unless you think it's moths or bed bugs crawling up there.

>>17441318
Go to a doctor. I am going to an audiologist myself soon cause my ears are a bother. A professional knows far better than you and could likely fix the issue if it isn't critical.

>>17441427
it could be a tube in the ear not opening,you fucking idiot.

>>17441283
pics first then help

Grab his dick

>>17441283
>and I have no one in my life to turn to for support.
You have us. Now make with the pics.

>>17441220
>Can post on the 4chins
>Can't contact ambulance
>Can't text friend for help

Good luck with your new stump.

Use Skype to call 911

>>17441231
My phone is disconnected. Didn't you read?

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>cont.

Seeing as how this is a long distance relationship, I find it important to make time for the other person and maybe try to do something together every once in a while. I suggested one weekend that we watch the new Bojack Horseman together since we both love the show and she agreed. Well the next day I ask if she wants to watch it and she said that she is already done with the season. I was pretty pissed and said I was upset because it was supposed to be something we do together. She did not seem to get this point and instead argued that she didn't think it mattered because if I watch it later then we will have both watched it and the end result is the same.

I honestly don't know what's going on in her life anymore. Things have become tense and I'm always in a depressed mood when I think about her.

So, that's the situation. Feel free to ask some questions or just straight up give me some insight, because I don't have the energy to try and think of a solution to this anymore.

>>17441197
so you expected her to leave all her friends and family and move to LA and she would have no job. Not because it's you but seriously why would someone do that? I know people do but rarely does that work especially since you have never lived together before.

>>17441207
Not a fan of giving ultimatums to people but it's all right to give yourself one. You're upset, you should be able to talk to your girlfriend about your feelings at this point. Tell her that you feel neglected and that there's some distance between you two that wasn't there before.

If she cares she'll make an effort. If she doesn't she won't. And this is where your ultimatum (break up or stay) comes into play. Don't try to think about how or why things turned out the way they did. Just act and react.

Good luck.

Anyone who gets triggered by anything is retarded

>>17441181
Use guerrilla mail as be an anonymous co worker and send them the message that what they're doing is fucking stupid.

>>17441181
If ALL of your co-workers are doing this, then I suggest you go back over your employee handbook. Maybe they have to, as a matter of company policy. More to the point, maybe YOU have to, as a matter of company policy, and gave been in noncompliance without knowing it.

Why did he turn into a "douchebag?" Have you tried directly telling him that he's acting like an ass and pissing everyone off? That's what real friends are for, sometimes you need someone to be real and set you straight

If you have to seriously question a friendship, it's probably time to end it.

Best to not be a bitch about it though. Just be too busy to catch up, avoid where possible.

>>17441164

I see you're avoiding yourself in the "everyone" hates him

Do you hate him? If you don't, then stay his friend. Don't give a fuck about what other people say.

>>17441163
*she thinks that I'm whipped

>she teases you
>plays the brat
>you don't forcibly have your way with her

She wants you to dominate her. Next time she does that, act accordingly. Go for her boobs or ass, and when she denies you, TAKE IT.

If you would have just lifted her and thrown her into the bed you would have had some hot sex sex.

If you don't like it, tell her to fuck off.

If you do like it and have an hour to kill, destroy her.

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>memphis rap

Whats your favorite tape?

You shouldn't have hosted the party without her permission especially if you knew she didn't like it. The fact that you left your facebook open and didn't even conceal the evidence makes you either carless or incompetent.

She dumps you its on you. You need to stop being childish.

>>17441150
>gangsta rap
kek

The issue isn't that it's so bad that you threw a secret party. The issue is that you went directly against your girlfriend's preferences for -her own home-. You literally proved to her that it was a mistake to give you a key to her house - which obviously has the faith that you will look after her home the way she would want it, and not abuse your power there.

I don't see what you can do, you fucked up, apologize and hope that she can look past it.

>>17441137
She's a fat hoe. She thinks that there is a 10/10 prince charming who will come and sweep her off her feet because she deserves it. Maybe. But you know what happens to fat hoes? Their husbands always end up checking out other biTches because a fat cow substance gets boring.

Mean to say no substance. Also being okay with an unhealthy body is not a good thing. I don't know when this world became okay with the idea that being a fat fuck is okay esp for a female. It's Fucking disgusting. A lot of them have self esteem issues and will plague with constant questions for reassurance.

>>17441154
I get the whole not minding what people think or say about you, but her saying she looks "bomb as shit in my pics" is kind of a head scratcher. It just seems like she doesn't know what she wants. I mean, I know that she likes athletic guys and whattnot but if she knows that she can't get a guy like that at the moment, why does she turn away guys that show genuine interest in her? I don't understand females that do these things. Like, yeah you're pretty and all but you're clearly not really pretty if you can't pull in those kind of guys. It just really shows how skewed the dating scene is and how much easier some females have it. If you know that you're "basic" why do I have to go all out just to be with you? I'm not going to drop a lot of money on you if you're not willing to put the same amount effort in a relationship.

>>17441130
Why does it bother you? Do you have something to hide?

>>17441130
Have you talked to them? Why do they?

>>17441133
>Why does it bother you?
Because it's my personal phone.
>Do you have something to hide?
Doesn't matter.

>>17441096

Do nothing. You met a stranger and had a good night. For fuck's sake, don't obsess over her and turn into a stalker. Just go out again tonight and meet another stranger. Don't be thirsty, it's so fucking unattractive

>>17441100
i don't connect with people very well :( I was honestly pretty happy to have met an attractive girl that: a) I could stand to be around and b) enjoyed my company enough to seek it

>>17441106
She is eight years younger than you and lives abroad.
Don't get creepy. Let her be.