how do i stop being an attention whoring, broken, despicable, manipulative sociopath? i will do literally anything for attention and love from anyone who will give it to me. i lie to people to make sure they don't find out how i really am so they can't stop loving me or giving me attention. im always portraying myself as abandoned and alone and neglected and even though its partially true, i know im just doing it for the affection it will get me from people. it always ends with people abandoning me (for good reason) which makes it even worse.
attention and affection are like drugs for me and i don't know how to stop being like this.
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>>17439489
Its called being female
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Is this attention seeking hurting people in some way?
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>>17439507
i would say so. i lead people on to get affection out of them. if its someone online, i will almost immediately send them selfies because nearly everyone says i'm attractive and i know it will latch most people on to me for at least a little bit. i have a boyfriend and while i haven't cheated on him, i've come dangerously close multiple times, and i don't know what i would do if he left me. he is my life. i lose friends i know cared about me because i cant stop.
its just i can recognize this pattern of behavior but its feels harder to stop than a drug addiction and i don't even know how to start. if i don't get attention from people all day, i start to feel like im worthless and like im a failure and seriously contemplate suicide and start to drink or even sometimes go out and relapse on painkillers.
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I learned how to drive two years ago but I avoid doing it because I always get really nervous and start to imagine all sorts of accidents; how can I get over this? I really need to start driving soon.
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honestly its a matter of your pic, I was the same way but it really does get easier the more you do it. Accidents happen, but you should remember that everyone else on the road wants to avoid an accident just as much as you do and not to make you complacent at all but I've made a lot of mistakes on the road and never had an accident because others were being careful. In turn I've avoided many accidents that would have been the fault of others by beind defensive myself.
Also when I first started driving to work I was still living at home and my dad would drive with me the first few times, that helped. Now I drive an emergency vehicle every day and its no big deal at all, if I can make it so can you because I was extremely nervous to get behind the wheel for a long time. I mean hell I didn't even get my license until I was 25 because I hated driving so much.
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i was always terrified and still am even though i've been driving daily for a while now, but the one thing that got me to go on the highway for the first time alone was going to drop off/pick up a medication i really needed but couldn't tell my parents about because they'd freak out over how dangerous it was (ambien lol)
so yeah the best motivation to get over it is that you have to do it anyway
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>>17439498
Thank you for responding.
I tend to drive in empty parking lots (my cousin drives us there) so my fear stems from the other drivers; it got worse when a close friend got into an accident (not her fault, the other person turned onto a one way street) and her daughter is now a vegetable
How long did it take you to find someone hou really connect with /adv/?
Ive been on a few tinder dates and met alot of women. However, ive never really met anyonr that suits me. I dont care for sexual relations with strangers (ironically i crave sexual attention) as it just doesnt give me satisfaction to have sex then say goodbye as im not experienced enough.
Where/how did you meet your S/O /adv/?
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>How long did it take you to find someone hou really connect with /adv/?
On my first go.
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>>17439495
Details?
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>>17439505
What do you want to know?
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yo /adv/
how do i stop being such a fuckup.
pls help
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Thanks guys.
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how am I supposed to answer this question in a meaningful way with literally 0 context
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I work in an office and my job involves a lot of writing. I have had this job ~2years and have been struggling with it a lot.
I have ADHD and take longer to do things than other people. I'm doing my best, but it feels like my mental energy is limited. After a day of work I'm just depleted. Anxiety and depression also make it hard to focus because I’m thinking about wanting to die all day or w/e.
I want to leave my job and be a freelancer. Chances are good that I'm fired anyway for a few reasons (I haven't been doing well because the mental bullshit just caught up, and I told my manager I need a different position with less writing…it doesn’t exist).
This depression is tainting everything. I can't tell if I'm thinking clearly. Do I just feel like there's no hope for me to do this job because I feel like there's no hope in general? Am I self-sabotaging? Or is this job actually bad for me and I should leave? I can't tell.
Will post a couple more details that didn’t fit.
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More details:
I'm good at what I do and people like my writing and my creativity, so I've gotten to stay for a while, even getting a nice raise last year. I've won a company award, I get praise from clients that looks good to the boss, etc.
But it's killing me and like I said, now I'm not only getting things done late, I'm not doing them as well. because i need a BREAK but we get very little time off and it just means double the work before i go. i'm always catching up so i can't take off.
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I'd love to talk to anyone who has similar experiences. I do love working (though not writing about subjects that bore me) but I'm scared I'm like, unable to work at all, because I'd be too disorganized to manage the freelance projects anyway...
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Can no one help me? Is there really no help for me as my manager has implied?
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What do you get the man who has everything for his birthday?
People keep asking me what I want for my bday but being a responsible adult I already have everything I need. I have no wants either.
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>>17439453
I'm the same. My Mrs gets me experiences, eg fly a plane, go in a helicopter, swim with sharks etc
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yeah I was the same way, but one of my friends got me this
http://lemonbrat.com/collections/hoodies/products/dinosaur-hoodie
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Get those fireball throwers OP, they sound pretty fun
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hitting financial hardships and need to decide what to do
i got my bs in nursing but it's worthless since i never passed my nclex
i worked as a security guard but everyone got laid off not that I mind since I was making 10 bucks an hour
is there any decent job I can get with my 4 year bs? Bank teller or something?
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>>17439433
Nurse Roleplay Hooker
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can you do your nclex or whatever again?
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>>17439451
i tried it 4 times
i get as many retries as i want but yea i'm not banking on that working out
Okay /adv/ this morning we had to put down our 14 year old black lab. Ever since the appointment this morning my 15 year old son has been sobbing. He's locked up in his room and hasn't came ou since we got home. The main thing that's surprising me is that he's the one crying and not our 8 year old daughter. I want to calm him down but I don't know how or what to tell him. Any advice? Side note, my son has autism (Asperger's to be more specific)
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>>17439430
>my son has autism
Must run in the family
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>>17439430
Sleep.tight.pupper
You can set the house on fire OP, I'm sure that'll get him out.
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>>17439441
>implying anyone runs in OPs family
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What do I say? Help
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>>17439426
"I can put a new one in your throat with my dick"
Bet you wont pussy
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>>17439429
Why the hostility?
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>>17439426
>Good thing you don't need your voice to suck my dick
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How to stop fapping to disgusting femdom shit?
It really turns me on, but at the same time makes my soul shudder.
What made this fetish so imprinted in my brain was probably the huge taboo aspect.
I always liked to find new disgusting porn, it made my dick hard by virtue of being so disgusting, taboo, sick and vile.
I detest the idea of being a loser and strive in life not to be one. Things like dignity are important to me, I guess.
For this reason the humiliation, cruelty, the concept of being made to do disgusting things gets me very aroused.
I don't like it. The idea of femdom itself perhaps isn't that horrible. But I keep being drawn to the sickest shit that drills a big hole in my soul.
No fap isn't especially healthy and I know that after not ejaculating for weeks I would start thinking about all this femdom business more often out of horniness: imagining it with the girls I know etc.
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>>17439420
as a general rule of thumb if you arent willing to cancel your internet service than you arent actually willing to quit porn
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>>17439420
My advise is to get over yourself. It's normal. If it interrupts your life this much, the probably isn't fetishes, it's your lack of other shit to do.
Get a hobby.
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>>17439431
Dude, I don't even fap and watch porn much. I fapped 2 times yesterday and it was an exception as normally it's like a few times a week, and it was less often before I decreased my SSRI dose
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How do I stop being jealous of my friends achievements and goals? 2016-08-08 02:08:30 Post No.17439404
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How do I stop being jealous of my friends achievements and goals?
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I mean seriously, I have absolutely nothing to be proud of, and everytime I see someone talk about their amazing achievement I just get super depressed and jealous.
I hate that my friend already started a family, I hate that my animatic for my senior film didn't get a bunch of wows and laughs like the really talented people in the class, I hate that one of them is already making money off her content, I hate that my previous best friend from high school is cooler than me and everybody knows him better than they know me. I didn't even have my own identity with him, everybody just assumed that whatever I do, im just there because he's there. I mean was it so hard to believe that I actually wanted to play tennis on my own?
I'm fine on regular days, but jesus christ, anytime somebody comes to me about their great achievement especially when it's something I'm after, it just reminds me how much I need somebody to constantly inflate my ego just so I can function. I can only suck it up so much before it starts bothering me to the point I can't even do regular things, and I clearly just can't go up to my friends and say give me attention,worship the ground I walk on once every month.
I don't even know how I got like this, I wasn't supposed to grow up like this, but somehow I ended up here.
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You mean envious, not jealous.
Dumbass
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Envious.
But how do I fix this though? If its not a problem now, It's definitely going to become one later on. I mean what if by some magic,a girl convinces her self that she likes me, and I go through with it. It's gotten to the point where absoultely everything I do is a disappointment to me, art, work, school anything. Nothing feels like an achievement unless its something nobody or very few people can get. Surely this is not a healthy mindset.
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Life has no meaning, so laugh at those fools who try to achieve things, hahahhaha.... Ha... And then just waste away your life doing nothing like me.. Hahah
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Hello /adv/, my last thread was meant for /fit/, but why not do one here? JuiceFag checking in, I'm 14 days into my juice fast and eating no solids. I'm down 15 pounds so far. Maybe you neets who want to boost your health and confidence could try it. Ask me anything! Ditch the tendies! I did this a few years ago and lost 45 pounds in 2 months, so inb4 fuck you, you'll die.
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>>17439384
14 days only?
Gtfo
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>>17439388
>14 days only?
I'm on day 14. I plan to go a full 60 days.
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A comment from the earlier thread, "Why don't you juice yourself you fucking faggot"
Because if I juiced myself then I couldn't drink the juice. Duh.
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How can I stop getting over the urge to fuck other people?
In every long term relationship I eventually get bored of same, same, same (person). I'm supposed to be engaged now. I'm still very physically attracted. Our sex life is not boring, but I think I'm going to get desensitized (I am to porn also).
I go through phases where the thought of cheating is constant, even with people I don't think are as attractive because I want someone new.
I haven't cheated and I want it to stay that way. But when you're supposed to marry someone and stay with them forever...I'm afraid the urge will get overwhelming in a few years.
Surely the urge is natural, but how to control is long term?
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You don't.
Monogamy in terms of sexuality is a social construct, not a biological one. Humans are naturally attracted to what they're attracted to, and nothing is going to make the urge to fuck someone else go away. Plus, there will always be that appeal of the unknown/undiscovered that tugs at you.
A good step for you might be eliminating pornography, so you stop internally comparing your long-term gf with internet sluts/other girls, both physically and sexually.
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>>17439371
Look man im going through the exact same fucking thing you are describing. The way i see it as a man that feeling Will never go away. But it takes a real man to control it and when you love a woman you will, for her. It is something you got to practice and get good at as any other thing in life. But you must be sure to want that for the woman you are with. Basicly you are down to three options
1. You love a woman and are willing to be a fucking man and control your urges for her.
2. You discuss with her to have an open relationship wich will lead to resentment on one side of the party even without her or you speaking up about certain issue.
3. You find yourself a woman with who you are able to or ar willing to control your urges.
It will be hard and it Will take time and practice but if you love her you Will be able to work on it. It does not get easier but you will be able to deal with it
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>How can I stop getting over the urge to fuck other people?
You don't. With time you gain maturity and perspective. Perspective is what separates us from children and animals.
We spend our entire adult lives rectifying what we have to do with the acts of instant gratification we encounter on a day to day basis. What we must do from what we want to do.
I like my car but I think about taking out a loan and picking up a Porsche all the time. I like my job but I consider quitting and becoming a full time musician all the time. As much as these things sound great I rectify my choices with the trajectory of my life and decide accordingly, despite the fact that my momentary self wants nothing more than to drop it all and do what I want.
Every one of these decisions is a calculated move. The most we can do, especially as married men is decide where our future lies.
Sure, a new vagina would be cool. A different pair of lips around our dicks, but will these women support us in our time of need? Will these one night stands, flings and hookups help raise our kids? Prop us up when we feel defeated? Be at our side when we're sick and dying?
Being faithful is the price we pay for the overwhelming amount of support our partners give to us. At the end of the day you must choose whats more important, the life long support you receive from someone you've dedicated your life to or the momentary excitement from having sex with a different woman?
I can't say which choice is the right one for you. Only you can make it. All I can do is encourage you to widen your scope beyond the act of sex. Sex is just sex but the implications are much larger.
Decide what kind of man you want to be and stick to it. Worst case scenario, you pay a little bit extra every month for that HD porn subscription. Men spend 90% of the time not letting our dicks ruin our lives, this is no different.
ok /adv/ I need help, so basically my phone had water damage since I jumped into a pool with it a few days ago like a retard and basically now I've accepted that its dead, what can I do now since i basically have no phone and I don't have insurance on my account with tmobile and its on the jump plan, I'm pretty much new to all of this
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help me pls
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Nothing you can do about your current phone. But you can go to Best Buy and get a prepaid phone for t-mobile or a nice unlocked for a cheap price. Then just ask t mobile to move your service to the new phone. Or if the SIM is the correct size just put it in the new phone.
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buy a new phone
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First time at /adv/. I've been addicted for years, and stuff got weirder and darker and I'm literally at the point where there isn't worse stuff. You should be able to work out what that stuff is. Any advice on how to stop being such a degenerate?
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>>17439318
have you considered just not having an internet? having an internet connection in your home isn't as necessary as you might think.
>but hten i wont get free tv and 4chans
decide what is more important, right fucking now.
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>>17439321
I wouldn't have much else to do in my free time, live in a shared house so it will always be there and eventually I would just succumb to it and reconnect
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>>17439332
then you have already decided that you arent going to get over addiction.
you dont entertain the idea of finding the hobby, you dont even pretend that you could surrender control to someone else. you already know that you will succumb, you have already DECIDED that you dont want to change.
this is the path you are choosing to be on. good luck with it.