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>>17519735
So, you're bi-curious.

Ask yourself; is it worth losing your relationship for a temporary and possibly off-putting experience?

Why is bisexuality such a hard concept for some people to grasp? You're likely bi m8, nothing confusing about that.
There is also often a distinct difference between emotions and lust. You're more emotionally drawn to women, but lust more for men. Lot's of people are like that. Why is it so important for you to pin down what you feel? Just accept it man. You clearly love your girl, but if it doesn't work out in the long run, maybe you'll find a guy, or another girl. Who knows, it doesn't matter. Just because you date someone doesn't mean you stop lusting after others, as long as you don't act on those feeling (i.e cheating) it's all okay.

I just want to stop these thoughts, they make it hard to enjoy my sexual life with someone I really care about. It's nothing she's done, it's my own feelings about myself that keep me confused.

Just brush it off who cares, you live with somebody shit like that happens. Just say you were sorry you came home early because you forgot.

>>17519737
that is true, thanks. i'm probably overreacting, it just felt so awkward

>>17519727
Sock on the doorknob next time.

>bareback
Anon don't be stupid. That's not a smart thing to be aiming for outside of a very seriously committed relationship.

Congrats though. Keep putting yourself out there and you'll get a girlfriend/lose your virginity/have all the casual sex you could want- whichever your priority is.

Yeah it usually all happens at once. Good job buddy.

>hugless

no offense but this one is making me feel better about myself
i haven't done any of the rest of that, but i've hugged someone before

congratulations to you though
use a condom
or multiple if you're both really horny

You did good! Seriously.

It's extremely difficult to compose yourself when talking to someone you have a crush on, It's the kind of thing that only gets easier with practice.

You already have more balls then a lot of guys your age, some women *never* get the courage to approach the person they like, ever.

Next time I'm sure he'll pay more attention to you, before you didn't exist, but now at least you are on his radar.

>>17519648
If you showed effort that's already good. You seemed nervous, most boys would think that that plus the effort would be kinda cute and would probably leave the idea of "do they like me" in his head. You sound like you did pretty good for a guy, I'm one and I know I'd be putty for that.

>>17519648
>girl walks up to you and goes hey were friends now
>things I wish would happen to me

Nah you did good that's actually adorable. Just ask him about himself and what his plans/interests are.

>he didn't call dibs
your brother got friendzoned and he's just jelly. I promise you he won't stay mad forever.

>>17519636
Thank you I appreciate the assurance. I really do love my brother but I think that what he's doing now is childish. Like you said hopefully he'll grow out of it

>>17519621
Though you don't have to I would leave this girl alone. She'll be gone one day and the bitterness between brothers not worth it. Be the bigger man OP. You older or younger brother?

>>17519618
tell her these things. If you've been together for 7 years it should be the kind of thing she's willing to work on. It's not hard to be like "I would like you to learn how to fuck better."

Also, She "can't" hold herself up or she "won't"? One of those things makes her sound like an invalid, in which case my advice would be pretty fucking insensitive.

Yeah, just tell you want to feel good too and ask if she could do whatever you think would help with that.

>>17519669
>>17519697

I ran out of space, but I have told her these things. When she gets it right, I tell her EXACTLY what she did right, but I don't think she gets it. I've tried directing her while we're in the act, but she doesn't really get what I'm saying then the moment is ruined, cause she gets caught up in her feelings of inadequacy. She doesn't take criticism well at all.

And when I say can't, I mean can't. She's not an invalid, but she can't apply inwards pressure with her thighs in order to keep them and thus, herself from sliding down till she's lying down. She's really not coordinated enough to do something like bracing for impact (this didn't sound so funny in my head) in a rhythmic manner.

She's "willing", but she also doesn't take failure or criticism well and if she doesn't feel like she can do it, she doesn't want to make the effort to. Because she hates failure, and hates the thought of being unable to satisfy me, which in turn makes her not want to have sex because "it's not good for you anyway".

I mean, I'll get this out of the way now and tell ya'll that she is overweight. I'm not in shape either, but she's heavier than I am, which she's already insecure about. The things she's unable to do are things she associates with smaller women, making it even harder to really get through to her what it is I need her to do, specifically.

If you can't tell, I've tried to have this conversation with her before, and this is how it went. Recently I've taken to just buying stuff in a sex shop. I bought some oral spray that makes you salivate for her, and so she didn't feel left out, some edible gel that makes your clit tingle. She had another mind-blowing orgasm, and I got...nada.

>>17519584
What makes you think a fatty will be easier?

Fuck sister

Get revenge and get laid

2 birds one stone tbqh senpai

>>17519606
Everything I've ever read on here.

>>17519578

They got that sweet Post 9/11 GI Bill now.

If you go Navy, insist they put your rating school in your enlistment contract. You don't want to be "Undesignated" and scraping paint off the side of the hull for 4 years.

YN is pretty cushy if you can stand office work.

It is definitely worth it. Pick a job that can transfer to a civilian one and don't join the Marines unless you're a masochist.

They pay for you to go to school while you serve and the g.I. bill not only pays for all of your school but your housing too.

figure out what you want to be when you grow up BEFORE you join your nation's fighting force. no one wants to babysit your punk ass. check or hold

The only other people who judge you for it are going to be people who know your marriage date but don't know how long you've been engaged for. They might think you got married because of the kid. I assume your families and friends all know you've been engaged a long time. So no one who matters is going to be able to judge you for it unless you conceive very early on. In which case rumors might be that the marriage only started because of that. Wait a month or two so the math won't work out if that's a concern. But really, talk to your partner. What matters is what you two want to do.

>>17519594
Everyone knows the engagement has been very long, since mid 2014.

I just wonder if people will think "jeez couldn't they just wait the extra 4 months"

I really don't think I can wait any longer

>>17519631
I doubt anyone who's close to either of you is going to be thinking that. It's the people who don't know you well that might, but really fuck them. They're not the ones who're going to matter.

>>17519554
Poo in loo

>>17519554
say it's some shisha-like Indian shit or that your secret Indian waifu sent you her armpit hair or simply that you ordered something unrelated to India but you found it to be cheapest in India

>>17519554
"Just some computer part I found was cheaper in India" if your mom knows nothing about computers, there will be no further questions.

Also, lol at the weeb above

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I get the feeling you're a chronic fapper. Make it your goal to not fap for say 7 days. More if you think you can handle it. If you can do that you should feel more motivated and also feel more in control.

Note that I'm not saying to this because of the crap the nofap retards say. I'm saying to do this for a very short time period to help you with the specific issue of control.

>>17519743
Right on the money

But how do I find the self control to avoid fapping?

>>17519537
What issues do you feel will be alleviated by the transition?


I'm already 24, so in terms of pulling it off in terms of becoming a believable female is probably out the window at this point, right?
>Wrong, i know people who have transitioned as late as their 30s who are indiscernible from the gender they transitioned to.

>>17519545
Trans to me is a weird thing, because I don't know how women even experience the world, so I don't know for sure what would even be alleviated. It's mostly self image issues, and how the world sees me. I don't see my inner thoughts changing much, and it wouldn't matter much, other than that awkward time where I still would look male.

It's classified as a mental disorder for a reason. It's not a thing you just frivolously choose to do. Those who develop gender dysphoria struggle greatly with it. Get your head out of your ass.

Talk to him, but be pretty loose. One thing you could also do is split lead a bit, like taking breaks in vocals to take lead a bit then switch back, I did that and helped my "band".

>>17519524
Maybe find a bandm8 who takes his craft a bit more seriously.

Your guy admits he's lazy. OK, fine. Don't try to change him.

>>17519524
I'm like you, I don't see the point of doing something if you aren't doing it well or working to be better so you can do it well in the future.

What's the point of just fucking around?

>>17519413
Why not confront her about it? And if it doesn't improve or if you're too much of a pussy to to do it then break up with her.

>>17519424
I have and she says she will try to do it more and she's really busy

Whenever we talk its after work and she fucking falls asleep while we are talking

No talking during work

Or the morning

Ive tried to break it off but she seems to care about me but she just will not fucking talk to me more often.

>>17519437
If she actually cares she'll make an effort.

Ever since, girl1 has been super distant and super shady. I would try to kiss her or be with her, tell her to come to bed but she stayed away. She confessed that she read my stuff and told me to make a choice, either I told girl2 and she wasnt my little secret or the fucking around was over. I told her I didn't really think that would change much other than feed her ego and that girl2 regardless of what happened to us didn't deserve to get heartbroken over nothing.

We parted ways for a day but it was hard and then we met again. She told me she wanted to keep going but that it was really hard for her to pretend everything was ok. We kept going for a week but this time on top of her being distant I noticed she was texting someone which she never did in over a year because I could tell by how emotional she got that she was attached to me and didn't look anywhere else. I often brought it up and told her I'm a shitty situation myself and that I didn't mind her seeing someone else but to be honest with me.

Women have a thing of pretending everything is fine, even when asked multiple times until they finally admit the thing you mentioned first was what got them upset. This was the same situation and I kept asking her why she was distant and texting someone else while I was in her house waiting for her to come to bed.

Ultimately we had a fight one night and I left for her brother's room because she was texting the guy and kept saying that she's texting but not in that way, and she came crying and asking for me to come back to her room to talk. It got pretty emotional and we made out and we sort of patched things back together. We talked and laughed and she wanted to make things work and she told me that I was funny, smart but the worst thing about dating me is that she wouldnt be able to find someone better looking. Obviously it was a great stroke to my ego and I forgot about her texting the other guy.

The next morning I had to leave early but I told her to leave a key under the mat so I could go to her place. I did and went inside, since she wasnt there I looked through her stuff and found a diary.

In the diary she said that on friday she pretended to be upset at me to see another guy. That she met with him and took him to her place and that they made out, he sang songs on the guitar for her and that they were hot and heavy but didn't fuck. I saw this and was heartbroken. She said he told her to come with him the next morning but she said no and they kissed goodbye.

I was sad because she was the utmost important person in my life and now that I lost her I don't know how I'd keep going on.

I wrote her a note and put it in her diary, asked her where to leave her keys and got all my stuff and bounced.

She kept asking me what was going on and I just told her I remember so many things that now made sense seeing as to how she's been shady lately and that I've become "that guy" that she had to dump because she wanted to pursue a new relationship. The night before when we talked it was a year of us dating and she cried a lot during the last couple of days because she kept saying that I didn't want to choose her over girl2.

She didn't know I knew about the diary so she said "how dare you say accuse me of such things/I'm not that kind of person, i have never even hung out with him I haven't even seen him, I've been telling him no to make this work but NOW THAT YOU'RE BEING WEIRD" and she did the typical try to blame it on the guy so she's guilt free kind of thing.

Then I blocked her from everything and she got upset and she texted me saying that I was immature and that I disappointed her so much that she didn't want to talk to me anymore. She told me to have a good life and to not text her ever again.

I imagine that she went home (maybe not if she used that excuse to finally see the other guy and fuck him) that night and saw that I knew everything, and I haven't heard from her since.

I miss her alot, but I've been played. She was dishonest, and I'm sad because she's not what I thought she was and couldn't even apologize or give me closure. I'm debating whether or not I should unblock her to show that I'm waiting for something from her or what to do, but there it is. That's my story.

I want to hear what I did wrong, and what I should've done. Do you guys think this is over, what should I do?