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So I'm currently very much in love with this woman I've been dating for almost two years now -- it's getting rather serious. She's amazing in every way, and makes me feel loved and cared for more than ever before.
However, I've been struggling with my sexuality for the past four years of my life, but have only dated girls thus far. Sucked a guy off once, and still not sure exactly how I felt about it.
I have a lot of lust for guys, but no emotional desire -- and for girls, its almost the exact opposite. I love my girl emotionally, but sexually it's kinda okay -- not the worst thing ever, but sometimes I feel like there could be something better..?
I have a gay friend who's always low-key flirting with me, and I've tried to distance myself from him since I've fallen in love with this girl, but he keeps popping up and "joking" about us experimenting. He keeps putting these gay desires back in me, even though I try hard to get them out. Recently he said he wants us to try fucking because even he's confused, but I turned him down. But I still get these rampant gay feelings..
What should I do? I love this girl, but I'm also so confused as to what I actually like..
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>>17519735
So, you're bi-curious.
Ask yourself; is it worth losing your relationship for a temporary and possibly off-putting experience?
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Why is bisexuality such a hard concept for some people to grasp? You're likely bi m8, nothing confusing about that.
There is also often a distinct difference between emotions and lust. You're more emotionally drawn to women, but lust more for men. Lot's of people are like that. Why is it so important for you to pin down what you feel? Just accept it man. You clearly love your girl, but if it doesn't work out in the long run, maybe you'll find a guy, or another girl. Who knows, it doesn't matter. Just because you date someone doesn't mean you stop lusting after others, as long as you don't act on those feeling (i.e cheating) it's all okay.
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I just want to stop these thoughts, they make it hard to enjoy my sexual life with someone I really care about. It's nothing she's done, it's my own feelings about myself that keep me confused.
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>>17519848
OP btw -- chrome kept giving me "connection errors"
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>>17519848
Well, you can't. Sorry.
I really mean that.
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>>17519848
When I have unpleasant thoughts, the most effective way of dealing with them has been not to fight against them. That will only make it stronger. Acknowledge it, then move on. Like "I'm having this thought. OK." Before you know it, a different thought will come up and over time the unpleasant thought becomes weaker and weaker until it no longer comes up.
You say that your friend encourages these thoughts. For the goal of weakening these thoughts, it would be useful to limit your contact with him.
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