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I think you need to slow down. Take a break from dating.

>>17519138
It's healthier to have sex than not, so I thought people would just understand that we're young and keep it relatively light...You know what I mean? What's so serious about it anyway? It's not like I suggested I want a wife or something.

This probably sounds naïve. I spend a lot of time inside.

bump

I'm pretty sure anyone here who is older and has been dating can give some input, if you would please.

It sounds like she's just kind of a flaky person in general, and you'll never really be able to repair the trust in this relationship. There's nothing in your post to indicate she ISN'T telling the truth about this, but in your gut, you feel like you can't really fully believe anything she says. Right?

I mean, does she need a new weed connection, or did she already have someone to buy from before she met "David?" Or does it even matter, at this point? Do you really want to stay with an untrustworthy pothead who already broke your heart?

>>17519085
He will shove his dick so hard on her she'll be seeing the Star of David the whole week.

>>17519038
>and if I can use the 3rd as grounds to have them pay for new ones
I don't see how the third amendment is relevant to this situation.

>>17519047
Unlawful siezure. The fuckers took my plates even though the vehicle is registered, and I was sober

I live in Missouri btw. Not sure if that helps. Google isn't helping either

>>17519016
What are you qualified in?
Did you make choices that makes leaving home easy or hard?

if getting out of your toxic living situation is the only goal then joining the military is probably your best option

No, I'm a complete loser

>>17519012
Ask your lawyer Brendan Fraser, though I heard meme lover 3 has a position open for you

you can, but you can expect it to be contested. how successful she'd be in contesting it, idk.

>>17519012
I'm pretty sure you could just write in your will that all of your money goes to your kids. It will be in a locked account until they're 18. So no, not really unless you donate everything away before you pull the trigger.

>>17519007
I know that sleeping on your back is better for your shoulders and organs, but I'm not sure about posture.

Best advice I can give is to make it a conscious effort to have and maintain a good posture.

When I was a little guy, people would compliment me for my posture all the time which fuelled my desire to maintain it.
After 9 months in my first foster home, I lost the will to maintain it and with my will, went my posture.

The only way I know of maintaining it is to have the will to do so.

Perhaps investing in an ergonomic chair to use while on your computer.

I'm not sure about your money sitution, but you might also benefit from certain mattresses and pillows which promote spinal health.

Working out, especially in a public setting, can promote a good posture due to the "proper form" of exercises.

The "proper form" of every exercise I know exists to reduce injury on your body parts and allow a setting for for you to make the most gains. Given that your spine is an integral part of the motion in many exercises, "proper form" could be helpful for you in promoting a good posture.

Consciously straightening up will give way to it being automatic if you stick with it. Keeping up good posture will strengthen the muscles it uses, but anything that increases core strength in general will accelerate the process.

It's hard to suggest exact exercises without knowing how your posture is bad normally, but going for a one-off session with a PT or kinesiologist and asking for some exercises will help if you have the money. There isn't really a magic bullet shortcut for it.

Count ten sidewalk blocks in front of you when you're walking, look at that level. If you go on a lot of walks it'll help you fix your posture. Aside from that, make sure your computer is eye level so that you don't look down at it.

>>17518994
On 4chan or in real world?

>>17518997
Outside

I'd go with the clinical definition to be honest

>>17518946
Been there (MA in film studies).

What's your masters in? What kind of jobs are looking for?

>>17519191
You got your ma in film? What are you doing with it

>>17519191
Not using it. Stayed at my alma mater to work in admissions.

is there a county hospital where you can check yourself in? I don't know what the laws are exactly, but if you checked yourself into another hospital and refused to go to holly hill, I don't know that they could transfer you there by force.

however - do you have a next of kin or other close relative that can speak up on your behalf? a parent would be best, but a sibling or grandparent might work too.

is 10 days the minimum stay?

I don't want to see you go to a hospital that has a reputation for abuse, and at the same time I also want to see you get help.

>>17518980


I have my husband but from what I gather 10 is the min. Where I'm from 3 was the Min.

Suicide helpline sent me to a facility that I could talk to someone. That facility was the place where they processed mentally ill people and send them to the psychiatric hospital. Once I saw them pull out the arm ban I started having a break down explaining I couldn't afford to lose my job and I just needed advice on where to go to get some help and talk to someone. luckily the very confused nurse (Well she was confused because the Sucide hotline sent me there and not the proper clinic) got me the help I needed and a appointment with a Walk in clinic for people with no insurance.

I have an appointment at 8am and I'm beyond terrified at this point but I know I need the help.

two ideas

1. intensive outpatient
2. an inpatient other than holly hill

oh and if you're sane, you won't be abused in hospitals. you just won't be helped, because hospitals where people are being abused are pissing worthless.

>>17518886
I mean if she makes you feel bad for some reason you can dump her if you want. Date whoever you feel best with. Someone that you can be comfortable around. Maybe talk to her and tell her you feel like she is fetishizing you or something.

>>17518886
...yeah that sounds dehumanising as fuck. I wouldn't continue anything with her. I'm surprised you're even asking.

>>17518886
Kill the race traitor whore first and then kill yourself, fucking ape.

>>17518881
Claming it.

Other than those in the FAQ, what information would I even need about the opposite gender? Dating them is their only possitive, so by removing that topic from the discussion you're practically killing the discussion

Girls

A female friend just flipped out on me and literally did nothing wrong. We've talked about meeting up this week to hang out. Haven't talked in a few days and I just asked her and she said "have some fucking patience, I have no fucking time to think or do anything. If you come by, I'll try to make some fucking time. Be fucking patient"

I'm literally speechless. I mean, this is something we talked about a few weeks ago. we haven't even talked in about a week. So when I just asked her I got that response. I don't understand..

>>17518812
it feels like such a horribly stupid thing to do - leaving a person who I feel like I could imagine spending the rest of my life with if I was only more attracted to her sexually. It's hard to describe in words how much I care for how she is and the way she thinks, I've never felt this way for anyone before and especially not another girl that I've been involved with. Never have I ever felt understood before and she just does - and likes what she sees.

I have no idea of how to cope with the thought of leaving that behind.

TLDR - Leaving someone I'm insanely attracted to mentally but who I have pretty much no sexual cravings for - am I stupid for doing so? Gimme your thoughts

>>17518812
>>17518812

Thats gross bro just bail

>>17518812
>>17518816
It's kind of sad, reading the way you described her, but it's probably because I've been through the same situation.

I had a 5 year relationship with a girl who loved me with all of her soul, and I left her because I lost attraction to her.

What you will realize is that attraction isn't everything. I've slept with a fair share of women since my break-up with the girl, and I've realized that I would take my ex over these women any day.

Yes, some of the sex I've had has been mind blowing.

Yes, the bodies on some of these women are phenomenal and put my ex to shame.

But, in the end, my ex's personality trumps it all. I love her very much, and I miss her.

This is a lesson that you have to learn for yourself. You need to satisfy that desire to be with someone else so that you can understand how trivial such a desire really is.

>>17518810
either stop giving value to dates or step up your game, idk

Remember that your self-worth is determined by you, not by other people.

>>17518810
If you get rejected many times, then you're the problem. Change yourself for the better, obviously!

>>17518796
First off you need an income.
>oh just I'll live off the land.
You still will need an income.

Majority of these little wilderness getaways are built by the trust fund generation.

>>17518898
i know i need an income. I'm starting web dev career / programming

i don't intend to live off the land, though i will grow food.

No. This will not make you feel any better. I'm sorry you have to suffer like this anon, I hope you don't deserve it. But vengeance will not ease your suffering. It will pass, but any actions you take you will have to live with. Let him ruin his own life with lies, anger, and selfishness.

Time will pass, your suffering will pass. I advise you do not add to the suffering of the world, just observe its nature.

>>17518823
Ok but if he has another outburst like that without having a good reason then I think its fair game. Only reason why I haven't yet is because my mom loves her grandkids

I don't want you to live with that on your conscience. They are his actions, let him bear the weight, you shouldn't have to bear anything involved with his life. The less involved you get with his sinful life the happier you will be. If he makes you suffer too, then cut him out your life as soon as you can. He might make you suffer physically, but be strong. You don't have to suffer mentally as well.