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>>17520029
>she barely spoke to me all day and then went on a night out without even telling me

Shes (probably) cheating on you.

Eat more oatmeal.

Dump her. Why would you want to spend any time on someone who doesn't give a fuck what you think?

>>17520041
I would prefer to find a way to resolve this

We never normally fight like this it's not a recurring thing I don't see it as something worth ending things over, this is the first proper time she's genuinely pissed me off to this scale

Start saying hi to fat girls, they're desperate.

>>17520030
that might work, do you know how I might go about not dieing from appendicitis too

>>17520048
Maybe find a fat single girl who is a surgeon.

But for real, go to the ER.

The fact that this is repeatedly happening to you should give you a good chance to examine what you say to these people that would make them feel open enough to talk to you about this stuff. If that's not the case, it's probably the type of person you attract. Either way, if you don't like it, just tell them that you don't know how to help them and leave them with that. Sure you'll be a dick but not much of a way around that.

Sometimes helping others is the best way to get through your own shit. Maybe you come off as a chill guy and people relax around you or maybe you've just been having bad luck with people.

Either way, it's okay to say "hey I'm going through a rough time and have a lot on my plate right now. Maybe you should get some help." You're not being a dick just being honest.

>>17520044
>>17520045
Thanks for the reply, i am a very caring person, and I've been told I'm "to nice". Usually I wouldn't mind helping other people with there stuff at the expense of my own but recently it's started to seem so one sided. Like it's all about them and how there feeling but when I need a friend they don't bother, they don't acknowledge how down I really am. I resent them for it.

>>17519959
Tell him that the United States can decrease its national debt by reducing military spending, and adopting a non interventionist foreign policy.

We should also raise income taxes on the top 1% from 39.6% to 55%

>>17519959
Why would you not?

Forgot to say that opening the windows doesn't seem to make a difference either.

Do you live somewhere near fracking?

>>17520195
are you serious

>>17519949
Not what you asked but have you tried calling the car payment people, tell them your situation, and ask to make a smaller partial payment

>>17519987
Yes. I just got off the phone with them about 30 mins ago, they told me I need to make one payment tonight for them to even try and work things out. I have no one really to depend on in life or to ask. I've never been in this situation, I honestly feel like I'm going to lose everything I've worked so hard for over the years. My house is about to go up for foreclosure.

>>17520033
;___; gl anon...
are you a religious person? My grandfather would say, God will provide.. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+6%3A25-34&version=KJV

>>17519933
Forgot to mention, I wanna hear the consensus

>>17519933
Someone who lets their emotions dictate their thoughts and opinions. Atleast for me.

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>>17519933
Qualities of a likeable person imho:

Independent yet actively engaging in conversations.
Converses about ideas and goals rather than gossiping.
Presents him/herself cute and does certain things in a way that is is original or not average or usual.
Stays reasonable and honest, comes off as a person who has a great sense of what justifies as right or wrong.
Takes the lead.
Doesn't show obvious intentions to get closer to a specific person but rather befriends everyone equally.
Stays in touch with people but doesn't get in the way of them.

Unlikeable people are people who don't really have a moral in what they do, act selfish or seem hostile. If someone doesn't blend in it can make this person unlikeable probably since it feels like he or she lacks any interest in integrating. Any abnormality can be the reason too.
The most common thing is how people are just average, there is nothing special about them, nothing to like really.

How do i survive in an enviroment that doesn't want me there?

>>17519914

Piss off the criminal elements, then get protective services to move you to somewhere with people you can get along with.


Ps eat more oats.

The US's black population are a fucked up bunch, more specifically the BLM and Black Panthers. They're set on blaming every single problem they have on someone else and refuse to admit guilt when they're doing something morally or legally wrong. They're fools being lead by even greater fools and are fueled by media that mentions blacks at all. America in general feels like it's becoming a backwards country of hate in general, you may want to just bail out and go to Canada of Australia.

None. I waited for the right moment.

once

next week i'm either getting a date or making it twice

Four. I survived.

If you didn't get an answer the day after the interview you shouldn't hope for anything anymore...

>>17519920
Well I wish I knew that earlier. I thought the interview went well so I've been stressing this whole time

>>17519944
They also said I was the first applicant they interviewed and would wait a while before contacting me, but whatever I can relax now

>>17519872
Simple. Just show them that you can achieve so much this year, just start signing up for 4 year colleges and shit, but make sure to show your parents that you can make it in life

>>17519872
Why do they want you to go to CC?

Maybe it family is poor

>>17519830

Offer to let her stay with you for a few days until this blows over. That's literally the only thing that would help her - a safe place to sleep where those two can't get at her. You're her friend and you live nearby. We're a bunch of strangers. You're the one that needs to step up

>>17519830
Take her to a womens' shelter, you dope. There are like 10 in your town. Google it.

>>17519855
I don't know England's laws, but in America if OP is an adult this would be considered kidnapping/ aiding an runaway and can get you jailed pretty quickly.

Honestly OP, again since idk your laws on this shit, all you can and should do is keep calling whatever authorities you think would help. I'm about 100% sure abuse is not tolerated in britland, so surely you can call the queens guards on them or whatever.

If it is perfectly legal to harbor her for a while, then do it. Tell her to come stay with you until you figure something else out. Don't bother packing a bunch of shit, get the bare necessities of clothing in a backpack and get out while nobody's around.

>>17519825

>and I've really been with 9s, but she's maybe a 7.5

there's just something monstrously depressing about this whole outlook

Looks are important, I don't think it's superficial to care about looks and physical attraction. But it's just the fact that you're completely blindsided by feelings more complicated than "a number between 1 and 10." She's a person, right? You have conversations and spend time together and shit?

The number-rating system makes sense for places like 4chan, it makes sense when you're just looking at a still photo of a person you don't know. It's just weird to see people applying that system to their actual relationships

>>17519870
numbers only for effect

I've had a similar experience, nothing came out of it though. This girl was like moderately attractive (butterface) and my dick would get rock hard every time we I was just near her. I'd get uncomfortable around her for that reason, not like a feeling of nervousness though.

>>17519870
In real life there's only two numbers: 1 and 0 - would or would not.

>>17519760
Not really, it's expected that girls will ghost you, he just connected the dots.

>>17519760

>Like I received the text, but my phone never notified me.

We all know how phones work, anon, why are you still bullshitting?

In all seriousness though, if this was a first date, it's fine. See if he still wants to go out next week. This is just a little misunderstanding.

It's pretty common for girls to "ghost" like that even if a date seems to go well, so I don't blame him for jumping to conclusions. It's probably happened to him a few times.

>>17519792
I'm not, my phone literally only notifies me of about half the texts I get, not kidding.

But okay. I'm just worried his first date with this girl will go better, and he'll just make plans with her again.

I don't have any preconceived notion that I am in control of anyone else, so I just say something when I am bothered. If the girl has any intelligence, she'll get the message that enough carefully filed complaints is going to result in a breakup. I don't like to be domineering, but I also don't like to be disrespected. However, you can't strongarm people into respecting you, not unless you are the president of some evil dictatorship.

>>17519753
We have a social contract. Do you not have that? If someone knowingly breaks the stipulations of the contract then the contract is void.

>>17519773
>>17519773
some of the contract is voided, not all of it

it's not always okay to cheat on them as a result, nor is it okay to piss in their cereal

but yeah talk shit get dumped