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General Relationship Thread 2016-09-01 05:40:46 Post No.17521002
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General Relationship Thread
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2016-09-01 05:40:46
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Tell me about yourself and the one you love.
>Are you dating?
>Why/why not?
>How did it start?
>What's your favourite memory with them?
>What's your worst memory of them?
>If you could go back, what would you change?
>In all honesty, how do they make you feel?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We're 23 and 20. I met him through a mutual friend while we were gaming. He showed up with pizza, and all 3 of us gamed all night. We started dating months later on valentine's day. My favourite memory with him is our first date. After driving his grandma to the airport, we drove around the city. I met his family who I adored, we saw deadpool in theaters, and then drove back to my apartment where we shared our first kiss and talked all night in bed.
My worst memory is when he left me. He said he had feelings for some girl at work. I felt like everything up to that point had been a lie. How can you tell someone you're in love with them and then leave them 2 weeks later? This was soon after we first had sex (which was his first time).
Even after all this time has passed, I still don't trust him. I can't bring myself to fully lend my heart to him after what happened the first time. Honestly, he makes me feel lonely. He doesn't know how to handle serious emotions without turning them into a joke, so whenever I try to kiss him or hug him, he "playfully" tells me to get off him, or pushes me away. When I'm with him, I'm happy. After he's gone home, there's this emptiness. I need to be able to fix this on my own, but the more I see him, the more empty I feel. I have no idea how to solve this problem, if there is even a solution.
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>>17521002
Why are you even in this relationship? Do you lack self respect or something? I just don't get people who stay in relationships where they're clearly unhappy.
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I moved 5 hours away from home for school. He's really the only person I have out here. I've been kind of depressed/homesick since I moved. He struggles with expressing his emotions sometimes for various reasons of his own. There's nothing "wrong" with the relationship itself, I just need him to make me feel secure in the relationship.
What he's doing, he considers playful, and it really is. I just can't take being pushed away right now. It's my problem.
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Stories where you asked a girl out in a really smooth way?
I just texted this girl after not seeing her for about 2 years and asked her if she used to do modelling in HS (knowing the answer was yes). Asked her if she would model for me cause I'm interested in amateur photography. She said yes. Now, I need to have a clever way to ask her out in a date for when we are hanging out. If you have any stories or idea just let me know cause I'm pretty sure I've only got this one chance.
I think asking her to model for me is a good start though. I can either spin it to a flirty direction or a more professional direction or some combination of both. Anyway, thanks in advance for your help.
Pic semi related. She doesn't look like this but she's on the same level as this girl.
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>>17520964
dude if she has an IG she's probably been asked to model for photos by dozens of scrubs, actually modeled for half, got nude for half of that, and fucked a couple of them. so you've got a chance at fucking her of course but it's slim. If you wanna date her just ask her out. There's no perfect way to segue into dating you just have to put yourself out there and do it. It's actually kind of beta if you ask her now after the fact, but it could work, but honestly you have a better chance at just fucking her. I'm projecting a whole bunch though but not just on my situation, I have a lotta horn dog IG "photographer" and "model" friends (IRL, not just on IG). It's a super gross scene bro.
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>>17520964
You're fucking dumb. It's not like the movies where if you say the right thing she'll fall for you then and there.
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>match with girl on Tinder
>ask her out on a date
>she says yes
Can't get smoother than that.
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I tried to talk to a cute guy on campus today and he became angry at me
I just tried asking what he was reading and flirting for conversation
He was pissed and told me to fuck off, and that I'm a grown ass woman who shouldn't be playing stupid high school pranks anymore
What did I do wrong?
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>>17520958
Fake
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>>17520968
This.
Or his self-image is so hateful that he believes you, most likely the same for any girl, would talk to him.
I actually did the same thing to a girl except I wasn't angry; I was sure she was just talking to me for a school social experiment thing.
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>>17521243
*...would never talk to him.
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My digestion is completely fucked.
Please hear me out because I'm being completely serious and it's a major issue for me.
Whenever I take a dump I never feel completely emptied, it's an incomplete evacuation I think it's called.
Usually later on I have to go to the bathroom again feeling like I have to take another shit, but it doesn't come out, I'm just sitting there doing some massive farts and sometimes a bit of fluid comes out of there.
Sometimes there's light blood on the toilet paper, probably because of the strain all this causes.
This has gotten to the point where I even had a colonoscopy because I was worried there was something seriously wrong and to maybe find a solution. The good news is they didn't find anything, the bad news is that also means no solution.
I'm a celiac, meaning I'm allergic to gluten, so it might be related to that.
I still have a varied diet though and I've been stepping up my fibre intake more and more these past few months in order to fix this, but it doesn't seem to have made a difference.
The doctor said my health seems fine according to the tests and he hasn't given me any solution to this, so I'm at a loss.
Being stuck feeling this bloated is seriously awful, so I come here for advice.
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Don't know what to tell you anon, aside from cardio, fiber and vegetables
I used to have constipation in my 20s, and it stopped when I started doing cardio 3x/wk and changed my diet up
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>>17520954
Do you have any other symptoms besides bloating? I'm talking about like fatigue and that kind of general stuff
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Since your a celiac I believe that is what is contributing to your incomplete bowel evacuation problem. You have to sray away from barley, rye, oats, and wheat. It will still take a couple of weeks to fix your problem regardless if you start to diet now.
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She loves me, she loves me not 2016-09-01 05:10:30 Post No.17520953
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She loves me, she loves me not
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19 m sophomore in college. I met this gorgeous chick in class last semester and she seemed really interested me after me giving her a ride to a class function we both had to go to. She would always call shotgun and smile really big at me whenever she looked at me (other classmates were sitting in the back, it was a carpool). She seemed like she wanted to get to know me but me being the cold career driven fat autist I was I wanted to but just didn't know how without making it weird. I can easily talk to people I don't care about really easily about bullshit for hours, but not this gal cause I was developing a crush. I didn't even bother trying as we entered finals. I figured we'd never see each other again and that was that.
Fast foward 5 months, lost 30lbs, look better but still have quite a ways to go. Back to school looking fresh (fixed my appearance while I was at it with the weight loss) barely have classes with people I know but I like it like that.
Fast forward to late night PE class. Kung fu, I'm pretty pumped to learn some weeb shit. First to show up, then she walks into the room.
She comes over and hugs me, asking about my summer and all that jazz. Felt great cause no one ever really hugs me due to my seemingly cold and distant demeanor. She was really excited to have class with me for some reason despite is not even talking all summer. I think she likes me.
Just got out of class tonight, thinking the opposite since she wasn't as bubbly as the previous day. What should I do? I'm not sure how I feel about her emotionally, I know I'd definitely bang her for sure. But how do I get to know her without being friendzoned or whatever?
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I should probably also mention that I saw her in passing this afternoon, she said hi but I just waved and kept walking as if I was in a rush to get somewhere
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>>17520953
Ima tell you the secret about dating anon. If you're interested in a girl, your job is to give her the option of escalating the relationship at each point, but of letting her decide and respecting her decision. You don't need to worry about the minutiae of her behavior at any given moment. Just ask her out somewhere friendly and casual - "hey, you wanna get coffee after practice?" or something like that. Just something casual and super light. It doesn't really matter how you do it, if a girl is interested in you she'll accept, and if not she won't. It's not a big deal. If she doesn't like you, it's not a reflection of you as a person or anything, it doesn't mean you fucked up, she's just not interested. Big deal, move onto the next one.
If she is interested, just have fun, and then if you think things went well you say "hey, that was fun, let's do it again sometime". and see what she says. The thing about women is they want to be able to decide, and you don't want to back them into a corner. You want to give them an exit. If she's interested and says yes, then you decide on some concrete plan, maybe something a little more intimate, or a movie, or whatever, and go from there.
Do you kinda see how this works? There's a back-and-forth involved. There's other stuff too, but that's the gist of it. Yeah I know you just wanna bang her, but you don't go from point friendly to point bang like that. You gotta take it slow and go through each intermediate step first, and if she's interested she'll be right there with ya.
It's about enjoying the dance, not getting to the goal. Just have a good time! The whole dating / attraction / chemistry thing is completely silly, but hey, that's how people work, so you may as well enjoy it while it's happening!
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>>17521007
>you don't go from point friendly to point bang like that.
a chad type does..
>Just ask her out somewhere friendly and casual
Can i even do this if we don't talk outside of class? Any preliminary steps?
>You don't need to worry about the minutiae of her behavior at any given moment
This is what always gets me to completely drop my crushes on people. fear of things going poorly after the first sign of no interest.
Tl;dr
Am depressed (clinical depression so it's not exactly gonna go away) and suicidal
I THINK a change of environment will help me a lot but I'm broke as fuck and don't know what to do
Help?
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Is roommating an option? Can you save you a lot of money from just paying rent all by yourself. Although I get if you want to be left entirely alone and move into your own place.
Getting a temporary hotel room or something of that sort an option?
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>>17520952
I'm open to having a roommate. I'd rather be alone but having a roommate is fine. I need to have a pet though
>Getting a temporary hotel room or something of that sort an option?
I guess I can, I have a credit card I can use but I've already run up a $1000 debt this summer using the card just to exist basically
I can't figure out why getting a job is so hard though.
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Bump....
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>Be autistic
>I have a disorder where I think of numbers in reverse
>Black out when under stress so I can't drive
>Math is nearly impossible for me
>Doing college, becomes clear my math scores aren't good
>I study all the time to the point it's unhealthy.
>Get paranoid
>Practice daily. My Autism is kicking in.
>Work out daily. I've become obsessed with working out. It's the only thing that feels certain in my life. When I feel the blood rushing through my arms I know nobody can take that away from me.
>Do charity work on weekends.
>My Dad is spineless and I scare him. My Mom wants me to find God and pray daily.
>I mean well, pretty extroverted and confident.
>Everyday when I eat alone I think back to childhood and how I was always alone...
>I think visually, can't get the girl of my dreams out of my mind. Shame I never met someone like her.
Should I just end it all? My parents side if I fail college I have no hope for the future and that this is my last chance at life.
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If u like working out, look into becoming a personal trainer or maybe major in nutrition.
> Also, I just because you have a learning disability, doesn't make u autistic. Baser on your personal description, I don't think u even know what it even remotely means to have autism.
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>My parents side if I fail college I have no hope for the future and that this is my last chance at life.
Why do people always undermine blue collar labor?
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>>17520932
wow umm have you just tried beeing yourself? I heard that works well. As people always say on here if you are honest with yourself and outgoing eventually you will find a girl who is compatible with you. No doubt this goes for jobs and everything else in life too!
I need advice. I'm from the UK, and I really want a relationship with someone from the USA or Canada. Surely there must be a way (not forums or Facebook) to get in contact with women from there. I'm 19, and do not want to live here anymore so moving would be an option. Any suggestions?
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Why not try to move first and then try to find someone to start a relationship with, instead of trying to hook a long distance partner first?
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you should first come here to study in university and then decide if you want to live here long term
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Help finding classmate 2016-09-01 04:53:26 Post No.17520894
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How do I find the names of my classmates online?
I know this girls first name but just searching it on Facebook doesn't help, is there a way I can get her email or full name through some directory since we take the same class? Just wanted to check her social medias before making a move
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You know what'd be easier? Walking up to her and asking her in person.
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>>17520899
that requires confidence and good look
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>>17520899
That would actually be 100x more difficult
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I'm moving out of my parents' place tomorrow and I feel like the emotions I've been suppressing about moving out have caught up and bitchslapped me in the face tonight.
My parents are really great people and I love them to death. They raised me well and even fully paid for my time at college. I'm extremely grateful for that.
At the same time though, I'm worried about them. Mainly my dad. He lost his job recently and he's always talking about his job search, and it always turns up depressingly dry. My mom is extremely carefree and has been coasting off my dad's annual six figures for decades, engaging in many different hobbies and spending his money wherever she likes. The well is running dry now though, and I'm worried about what my mom will do when my dad finally has to say "no" to her requests - not because of finally putting his foot down, but because of the well running dry and simply not having the money to spend on random hobbies.
If he doesn't get a job by the end of the year, then he might lose the house.
There's nothing I can contribute in terms of money. But I feel like going away like this is going to be really hard on my dad. He's always bouncing ideas off me and having talks about politics and his job, things he can't do with my mom since she avoids those things like the plague and lives in ignorant leisure.
tl;dr I feel like I've been the chain link keeping the family together, and I'm scared of what will happen when I move away tomorrow. What's the best way to offer emotional support from an hour away?
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>>17520861
you have a phone/internet
call them once every day or two, keep in contact and shoot the shit, if theres something seeming weird, ask about it and offer your support
its out of your hands, and even though you feel responsible, its nothing you can really affect
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I talk with my parents on skype a lot. You can also visit on weekends.
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I had an affair with a married woman for 4 years. I loved her to death, we planned to get married and spend our lives together some day. She "couldn't live without me". But in reality she had been cheating on me too for years and ended up leaving me
I hate her, I can barely control the hate I feel towards her after what she has done to me, all of my time wasted with her getting my hopes up so fucking high, my hopes were so high and she fed them constantly but it was just a game because she liked attention and she liked sex and to feel wanted. She never intended to spend her life with me
I want to tell her husband, I'm so mad, it's my last resort, my last bit of fucking revenge I can muster. Should I do it or should I not? In return she'd talk shit about me to my family on Facebook but I don't fucking care, I HATE HER and I'm sick of her getting away with this shit, she is just going to keep cheating and doing this to other people. I hate her. I'm so mad
What do I do.
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>>17520843
Don't like the taste of comeuppance soup, huh, OP?
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>>17520843
Your story gave me delight. I'm happy you got what you deserved. I hope if you ruin her life, she ruins yours, too, and you are forever alone for being a human garbage bag.
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>>17520853
Yep I'm a human garbage bag for falling in love with someone, okay. For believing someone's lies. For being forgiving when she started giving me her slow trickle of truths regarding her life and history. I thought they were nearly over, I thought their future divorce when the financial situation allowed it was inevitable, and it would just become a formality anyway because they already mutually agreed it would happen. But it didn't exist and she was just a cheater from the start
Fuck you guys.
What are the pros and cons of having a mental breakdown and going to a mental ward? I've been there before but I'm supposed to start in a new school and quit my job soon and shit is starting to become overwhelming again and I'm not sure how much I can afford to prioritise not showing symptoms.
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>>17520835
A mental breakthrough
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>>17520884
I was thinking of cutting my arms up and having mom call an ambulance.
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Every time you lose it, it gets harder and harder to come back. You need to find some more ways of coping with stress than just letting everything blow up and getting put into a ward. But it does sound like you should get help and therapy
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Erectile Dysfunction or anxiety? 2016-09-01 04:34:07 Post No.17520832
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Erectile Dysfunction or anxiety?
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>Be 18, virgin
>Gf is a 7/10 qt, has fucked many guys before
>Tells me to come over to lose my v-card
>I come over but I am nervous to lose my v-card and only half hard when making out/2nd base
>We go to the nearby woods to fuck instead
>2 faggot kids on dirtbikes circling around, making me more stressed
>Gf starts off by jerking me off through my jeans secretively due to the kids
>After a while they leave, gf starts blowing me
>Get somewhat hard after a few minutes
>Try to put on a condom, but do it so awkwardly that I lose my erection
>Take it off, gf says i can go bareback as long as i pull out
>She starts blowing me to get back the erection, no avail
>I desperately jerk off in front of her to regain erection, only get to half mast
>She's on her phone while i jerk off, making me feel like shit
>Try to put half hard dick in her tight pussy, total failure
>Give up and awkwardly walk back to her house together
>I'm apologizing every step and she says its not a big deal, but she's palpably hiding that she's disappointed so that I dont feel as bad
Anons help, please. I jerk off only 2 times a week with lube and without porn, used to jerk off every day to porn until I started above routine 3 weeks ago. Was I just too nervous and anxious to lose virginity? Or do i have some form of erectile dysfunction? Help me, /adv/.
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Dude your just psyching yourself out. It's supposed to be fun man. Next time call someone and have her blow u to get your mind off shit. Then just fuck her right in the pussy.
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No lie tho, happened to me during a threesum. Honestly just bite it and tell her this.
Man I was kinda nervous cause you are too fine aha, next time you'll see me.
Don't fucking apologize anymore bro, seriously. Set high expectations and when you go in bring an earbud and play your favorite song and just fuck her. First time I did I was half hard, time after that I railed it and she cried lol.
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>>17520832
just gotta try again, doing it somewhere private would probably help, as would making out beforehand
its 99.999% likely to just be nerves, just go at a pace you're comfortable with
Hey I just started talking to a long time crush of mine and finally had the balls to ask her out and she said yes
Problem is we don't know where to go? Any ideas? She's not keen on movies.
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By that I mean we need first date ideas. Sorry I didn't make it clear first.
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>>17520823
keep first dates (and most dates in general) light and fun - it's a great way to short circuit any awkwardness
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The park or zoo. Some place to walk and talk. Or the bar if you're those kinda people
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/adv/ I literally can't stop seeing my boyfriend as a disgusting pig
I like men, but you guys are all the same. The only things you guys do when you're alone is jack off
How is this okay?
How am I suppose to just accept this?
Every time my boyfriend spends a day alone and he want to fuck me the next day, I'm so disgusted by the fact he probably spent hours jerking it to the thought of other women, I don't even want to be near him
The fact he spends so much time fantasizing about other women just makes me feel like garbage
How do you guys justify this?
How are you okay with yourselves?
If you girlfriend spent hours masturbating to the thought of other dudes fucking her, you'd be turned off too
inb4 cucks
I just need to get this bullshit out of my head, but I don't understand how men justify this behavior
You're all just so disgusting to me
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Not all men watch porn. You probably just mingle with a shitty class of people.
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>>17520777
like, 90% of dudes do
it's depressing statistics
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the problem is you
just dump him
you obviously find men disgusting and honestly he's better off with a girl who likes men than somebody who's going to emasculate him