I was a virgin but my gf was not

>>17528985
Holy shit what a retarded post. Get over yourself, faggot.

There's no way you can change what happened so you can either accept it or end it.

As you said, this is an emotional and not a logical response, so it's up to you to figure out if this is something you can live with.

Tbh, the feeling is truly awful in the beginning, but fades away with time. But, it boils down to crying over spilt milk.

OP, you're not marrying her right?

If you're not getting married, who gives a fuck

>>17529003
For me it's the opposite though. The more I like her and care for her, the more her past affects me, if that makes sense.

But you're right. It's not like were getting married, were both 20 and in school. But I don't think I can love someone who can so easily give up their pride for just a few moments of pleasure

If you do break up, how are you going to view yourself with the next girl you sleep with?

>>17529007
Kind of like how you did?

>> I was kinda desperate to lose it
???????

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>>17529007
It's been five years for me and I was 19 when it started, so I guess I had more time to get over it.

>iktf bro

>>17528985
bruh.

your gf has only taken two dicks (right?). that's pretty low for the times desu.

she got pounded by those two other guys but that shouldn't detract from your relationship. so what if she took a load or three in her mouth? even if she got creampied by one of those guys, it doesn't mean she loves you any less.

those guys are random hook ups but she chooses to be with you. believe me anon, she doesn't miss getting fucked by their bigger dicks. you may not be as big or last as long but you're perfect for her.

>>17529012
but when we did it we both cared for each other a lot, its not like I just pump and dumped her

>>17529020
This guy

>>17529012
virginity is not a source of pride for a man.

>>17529001
>says the cuck who's gf has probably had 20 dicks

>>17528985
You need to change your thinking. You're being weighed down buy societal and religious views, watched to many fairy tale movies. You're putting sex on a pedastel.

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>>17528985

Oh great. Its THIS thread again.

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>>17529007

>But I don't think I can love someone who can so easily give up their pride for just a few moments of pleasure

You're getting it all wrong. It wasn't her stupid pride she damaged, it was yours.

Not to mention you're spending all this time getting pissed and upset about a situation she's not even aware of because you lied to her.

>It makes me sad that it wasn't me who took her virginity

Grow up, dude. You're all bent out of shape because your girlfriend didn't save herself for the gracious gift of your penis? She was somehow supposed to know in the cosmic plan of things that she was going to meet you and that she should save her virginity especially for you so your tender feelings didn't get hurt?

Sex is fun. Sex feels good. Its not the 1950's anymore. People get together, they like each other, they fuck and they move on. It happens. If we were all judged for the decisions we made when we were teenagers none of us would be worthy of love or commitment.

Its all about the person she is now. Thats what you don't realize and what you probably won't realize until you get a few more years under your belt and get rid of some of that baby fat you've been hauling around.

You only feel this way because you're a dumb kid. When you grow up you'll chill the fuck out and realize you're being a garbage person right now.

>>17529035
How so? Sex is literally the most intimate thing you can do with someone. I'm not religious at all, and what does society have to do with the fact that I simply wanted to be my gfs first?

>>17529043
>hurr durr you should accept any girl whether she had 1 dick or 1000 they're all good

>>17529031
>t. /r9k/

>>17529055
How was she not damaged? She told me herself she wished she lost her virginity to someone who cared.

>You're all bent out of shape because your girlfriend didn't save herself for the gracious gift of your penis?
Like I said, this is something that upsets me on an emotional level. My thinking is, if she so easily gave it up to a guy that didn't even care for her, then the fact that she gave it to me means its not as special.

You need to man up and stop being a little bitch. I actually enjoy women with sexual experience. All But One of my previous girlfriends had already gotten fucked before i met them. This isnt about her not being a virgin, this is all about your own massive insecurities. Stop being such a pansy and instead try to implant the idea that noone is ever going to fuck her like you do. That is What you should be doing.

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>>17529055
>Sex is fun. Sex feels good. Its not the 1950's anymore. People get together, they like each other, they fuck and they move on. It happens

[CURRENT YEAR] defense

OP's gf got played by two guys and treated like a slut. they didn't even have the decency to make her a whore and pay her after the fact.

>>17529066
Not that anon, but are you sure that's the case? Was she aware of how these guys felt, or did they lead her to believe they cared when they really didn't?

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>>17529057

>hurr durr you should accept any girl whether she had 1 dick or 1000 they're all good

This thread is a reoccurring cancer and we're all destined to suffer it for eternity.

And its literally 2 dicks, anon. Two.

Also, I pray for the soul of any girl who finds herself in a position needing the acceptance of a basement dwelling, red-pilled 4channer with back boobs and cheeto fingers.

>>17528985

Might as well break it off, if this bothers you so much. Go find someone who lost their virginity already too so you can feel equal in terms of the relationship.

Or stop being stupid, whichever comes first.

>>17528985
I dunno OP, I was in a similar situation. My ex had had sex with a few more people than me, and eventually the insecurity led me to cheat, which ruined the relationship, and turned into one of my biggest regrets. There are things in life that you can't change, and you either need to learn to accept them, or to move on to a situation that you can be happy in. I turned into a total manwhore, and I'm up to like 40-odd girls under my belt, but honestly it didn't really make me happy. I'm a little more secure when I meet women now, but that's about it

>>17529070
they lead her to believe they cared. they never wanted commitment, but they just said shit like "oh sex is very important to me" and so she gave in

>>17529067
I don't care about how good she is in bed. Fucking shit, I was the first man to make her orgasm. I don't need some other dude to teach her how to be fun in bed, I can do that myself ffs.

>>17529069
So what do you suggest?

>>17529071
Haha, too bad I have a social life and am a /fit/fag and dont eat junk food.

>>17529083
I know I'm being dumb. I still like her a lot and care for her. It's just that I feel like I can't love her. Should I stay with her anyways, or would that be wrong?

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>>17529066

>How was she not damaged? She told me herself she wished she lost her virginity to someone who cared.

Because making mistakes when you're a kid, learning from them and growing as a person isn't damage. Sex doesn't damage people. Anyone can make mistakes, anyone can learn.

Like I said, if everyone in this thread were judged for the things we did in our teenage years we'd all be "damaged". None of us would be worth of love or relationships.

>>17529069

>[CURRENT YEAR] defense

Its more like current society defense. People in this day and age are being encouraged to take their sexuality back from people like you and claim it as their own.

Its sad that we live in a time where you expect a woman expected to blow your mind in bed but if she's explored her sexuality she's a whore. She's supposed to do all the hardcore anal and deepthroating and kinky shit you see in porn but yet somehow remain pure and untouched in the process.

You prove me right with your immediate assumption that she was "played" by two guys. Like the only way a woman can have sex is if she's tricked into it; like there's no way that she used them for sex simply because the guys were hot and she felt like it.

You view her sexuality as something to be coveted; to be taken from her either by force, trickery or coercion.

If you ask me I think this whole knee jerk "slut" thing is just an excuse. You're not ready to deal with an adult woman who likes sex and knows what she wants so you're stuck in the dark ages hoarding virginity like gold coins because thats all your maturity level is capable of understanding.

I'm not saying anyone should date a girl who doesn't respect herself, I'm just saying if you're THIS bent out of shape because your GF had sex with 2 guys as a teenager there's more wrong with you than with her.

>>17529093

>Haha, too bad I have a social life and am a /fit/fag and dont eat junk food.

If you had a social life you wouldn't be here frequenting multiple boards on 4chan, kid.

>Fucking shit, I was the first man to make her orgasm.

So you don't actually care about this girl, you just need the ego boost of being her first and only everything to feel secure in a relationship.

I get that. I went to high school with a ton of guys like you.

>>17529097
>Its sad that we live in a time where you expect a woman expected to blow your mind in bed but if she's explored her sexuality she's a whore. She's supposed to do all the hardcore anal and deepthroating and kinky shit you see in porn but yet somehow remain pure and untouched in the process.

I dont think this at all you mother fucker. Only basic ass fuckboys care about shit like this. I'd rather be the one to teach her that, it would be more fulfilling and special to me.

And she said it herself that she was played. My gf says she can't really have sex with someone she's not in a relationship with. Those guys tricked her and said they';d be hers but they just wanted her for sex, and just told her what she wanted to hear. Hence the nature of Tinder.

>>17529107
No bro. I was responding to the guy that said "I prefer sexually experienced girls"

I do care about this girl, I would do a lot of things for her. But I can't say I love her.

>>17528985

Grow up and talk to her about it if it bothers you so much

If you really love her, it wouldn't matter. But i do know how you are feeling. I had this feeling when my bf at the time told me he wasn't a virgin but i was. I had a feeling in my stomach that i just couldn't dismiss. But i got over it because i really loved him.

You just need a new waifu, OP. I can't give you one to choose, but I know where you can go

>>>/a/
>>>/jp/

>>17529057
>Sex is literally the most intimate thing you can do with someone.

It can be. But it doesnt have to be. It also can just be a fun activity between people.

Religion and society have ingrained in you this view that a woman's value is in her 'purity'. It's bullshit. That's the thinking you need to change.

>>17529055
Just let Tyrone fuck your girl man. It's not the 50s anymore, just feels good. No harm done bro

The original issue was that you didn't like the idea of your gf giving away her virginity/sex to guys she didn't care about, but come to find out she did care about them and thought they felt the same; they just happened to be players.

So I'm failing to still see an issue. Your gf does value sex and only wants to have it with people she cares about. The people she had it with just happened to be liars. What's your problem, again? The fact she didn't lose her virginity to you? If you get a new gf, how will you reconcile the fact you didn't lose your virginity to her?

>>17529132

She wasn't your girl when Tyrone fucked her, is the point.

How are you supposed to let or not let your girlfriend do something when she's not your girlfriend and she doesn't need your permission?

Your view of the world and women are a bit distorted and you should do some soul searching, dude.

>>17529066

>She told me herself she wished she lost her virginity to someone who cared.

Yeah maybe... or maybe she sensed your anger and just told you what she thought you wanted to hear. Girls aren't stupid.

>>17528985
>Should I just break it off?
dont,
try degrading & rough sex with her first

>>17529174
Um no she told me this al on her own volition and i was on angry with her. Its only now that these feelings are catching up to me

>>17529134
I dont know man, if im a virgin id want my first to be a virgin too. Now im not, so i wont judge my next gf obviously

But is it wrong that i wanted to be her first?

>>17529178
Why what would that do? I do have sex on the rough side

>>17529020
/thread

So if the other guys just fuck her and didnt cara then you are the First man to Really make love to her

We have this thread at least once a day. It honestly needs to be in the sticky or something.


Before reading any posts other than OP I'm going to make a prediction: people are giving OP advice and he responds to every post explaining why he can't do that.

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>>17529151
Bro it's not the 1950s anymore, girls are fucking guys even if they're in relationships, get with the times man. If you're not letting your girlfriend explore every aspect of her sexuality you're just brainwashed by society.

>>17528985

Why is who you lose your virginity such a linchpin?

What if a girl had been sexually assaulted, but otherwise never had sex? Could you never love her either?


>For this reason I feel like I can never truly love her, because while I had not even experienced sex she had already been experienced and felt all those new feelings with other people

Unless you are devoutly religious or willing to date someone incredibly religious you are pretty SOL. Everyone has loved another or been intimate at one point. A persons love will never be pure, fresh or perfect like you have an expectation for it to be.

>>17529317
No not everyone

>>17528985
If you break up with her, how are you supposed to find somebody else that lives up to your standard while also being worthy of that standard yourself now that you've lost your v-card? If you hook up with a virgin now, then you're just going to be the tainted slut of that relationship instead.

>>17528985
feels bad anon, i can understand why you feel that the value of your relationship has turned to shit, but in fact it has not. She was supposed to appreciate you and did not. You were cucked point blank and you must be one hell of a fucking guy to still put up with a girl like her, meaning you must like her alot. Only you can man up and save your situation anon and stop acting beta which was probably why she fucked those two over you to begin with

>>17528985
>it's starting to get to me. It makes me sad that it wasn't me who took her virginity

Man...you're such an idiot

>>17528985

Yeah you should break it off so you can go find another girl who is a virgin and restart the cycle you stupid chimpanzee.

>>17529431
I wont. I just wish i took her virginity and she took mine, because i feel like thats a pivotal moment in someones life even if its not enjoyable

>>17529447
Why

>>17529439
Wdym she cucked me?

>>17529451
Theres no point now, im not a virgin, so i obviously cant expect my next gf to be. If she is i mean i would tell her

>>17529620
>Wdym she cucked me?
He didn't read your post and is baiting you with /r9k/ trash.

>>17529111
Then dont date her mang, what makes you different from these other homies if you're banging her but you just said you don't love her. Same deal as the other guys they probably liked her found her sexually attractive but nooot enough to date or grow into a relationship

I've been in love with the same girl since I was 14 her parents were super psycho strict catholics and I went to an all boys school so I would only see her sometimes in the neighbourhood, I befriended her and tried to get with her for years but was too shy to tell her my feelings (that regret) l, anyway one night she clmes to my place crying when we're about 16 and she tells me she was raped and bam that shattered my whole qt virgin gf ideal, its what got me into lifting cuz I wanted to kill that motherfucker, im 19 and still with that girl nothing is bad it was a traumatic past but shes not actually like "damaged". As far as I can tell. I don't get how you could not love someone if they've had sex before

>>17529254
Not wrong, but a weird ideal, I mean if you got another gf and shes amazing 10/10 super hot and you get along so well never met a girl like her and she wants to fuck finally shes a virgin its going well, but she finds out you're not a virgin and just goes "I can't do this" or gets upset "I don't love you like I used too" I would probably think shes crazy

>>17529669
Ive been her boyfriend for 10 months

>>17529676
I couldn accept it if she couldnt love me for that. That doesnt mean she cant care about me and want a relationship

Op get cuckd

>>17529702
could*

So then you've made up your mind. You can't love her because she didnt lose her virginity to you.

So then the question is should you stay in a relationship if you cant see yourself loving her. I think it could work but I think most people would tell you not to

>>17529035
Its not her "purity" that I care ablut its sharing the experience I want