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>>17563479
Your thoughts are probably snowballing. You started thinking about it a little bit because fuck it why not then you started ruminating. It's a natural process but you have to find something that keeps your mind off of it. A new hobby or love interest maybe?

>>17563495
You're probably right, or maybe I didn't quite realize that she won't come back until now. But dating other girls is out of question for the moment, I'd probably end up to compare the old relationship with the new one, and I'm afraid it will bring more suffering to me and my new partner. Maybe I should start something different as you said, but how can I choose?

>>17563479
For me, whenever I start having those thoughts I just take my mind off of it by forcing myself to think or do something else. You can resist it. Just rationalize it when you feel yourself starting, think about whether thinking about her is going to do anything productive or just set you back and ruin your mood. Then just pick the better option and avoid it.

>>17563468
Talking to her. No but seriously don't even try to save it. Not only were you friendzoned but she's dating someone else. Either she just didn't like you in the first place or you came on too strong. Either way the more you talk to this girl, the more you're gonna get hurt.

Old fag here. She doesn't like you that way. Find another girl for romance. Keep her as a friend if she is good to you. If she plays with your emotions, drop her as a friend.

Probably don't even keep her as a friend until you find another girl to obsess over.

Otherwise, you'll just fall into old patterns again.

I would consider it cheating, or at least on the border of it. You can get the same kind of thrill from porn or camwhores, why not do that instead?

>>17563455
>I would consider it cheating, or at least on the border of it. You can get the same kind of thrill from porn or camwhores, why not do that instead?

I've tried, it's not near the same to me. I like the feeling of convincing a seemingly non slut to send pics to me. It feels miles better.

It may be more of an ego thing than a sex thing, idk.

>>17563457
Yeah shes making you feel undervalued by neglecting your needs.

If she's sending other people pics, then her reasoning for not sleeping with you is diminished as well. She's just not attracted to you.

You're both liars and untrustworthy.

Break it off.

qualify 'easy'

>>17563426
Become a youtuber and report 'news' to faggot kids
And by 'news'
i mean talk about what a dozen autists shilling for youtube money every week
enjoy thousands a dollars a day and pretend it's no big deal
'hey guys its just money xd i just do it for the videos'
'Cmo guys vcut it out haha its just money'
have fun

>>17563426

Apply for a job and then work that job.

Not that much effort, unless you were looking more for "sit around in my home all day screwing around and somehow make >$1000 a week.

>>17563398
No, you'll either get rejected or cheated on probably to be brutally honest. Besides, you need to learn something from an old relationship not try to fix it when you're lonely. You can't just rent girls...Well not the average girl anyway.

>>17563398

Couldn't hurt.

>>17563407

What ARE you on about?

>>17563412
What are YOU on about sir?

This is the coming of age where you become a man.

You stand up to your parents, and without being disrepsectful, tell them you are an adult, and have different beliefs than them, and do not wish to do a mission.

You are your own person. However kind your parents are, do not let them tell you how you will live your life. You only get one shot bro, you live it your way, or you didn't live it at all.

>>17563417
/thread

>>17563417
The problem with just telling them is I'm fairly certain they'll kick me out and I just don't have the means to live on my own yet

>Or am I being an idiot and need to face the fact that he doesn't feel as strongly about me as I do about him?

That one. Cut him off.

>>17563389
This. Or you can just speak with him about it.

>>17563377

You are far too invested in a very casual relationship.

So either you have to push to make the relationship more real (like one of you moves to where the other lives and you carry on an actual relationship) or you need to stop caring so much about your fucking penpal with benefits (up to breaking things off entirely if necessary).

>>17563350
change your diet
brush your teeth
shower

>>17563350
Could be a medical problem. See a doctor.

>defies logic
When the terrain doesn't fit the map, the map is wrong.

Go back in time and handle the situation better. Don't just fucking block someone, that's fucking rude.

>>17563347
Haha, agree to give him the blow job. Meet up but get the cops to arrest the bastard. Tell your parents there is a sicko stalking you and he'll go as far as posting private messages just in case. They'll understand and keep it discreet.

>>17563347
Contact the police, blackmail is illegal

Should also mention I haven't gotten laid in half a year.

>>17563321
I wouldn't go for girls like that either but I mean if she wants to talk to you and not the others then go for it. I mean, she was drunk after all, so she wasn't thinking properly.

>>17563325
I'm worried about STD's. One of my friend just got herpes a year ago

>>17563297

Terrorism

>>17563306
She tries to strike you in your arteries using a method only barely mastered, thus the female population relies purely on chance alone. Should this strike be pulled off successfully, the man will have an artery crushed shut, thus lowering his lifespan by about 1/4 of what it was meant to be.

But don't worry, since this is an extremely hard maneuver to pull off and I've never managed to get it to work myself.

>>17563297
So she can later sniff the hand and masturbate to the memory of it connecting with your muscles.

>>17563293

Your being very hard on yourself.

>>17563298
Yeah I've been told that before. Idk how to fix it...It's my damned mind. I've been depressed for so long it's just what I do now.

>>17563293
Stop blaming yourself for the past and stop blaming one cunt for you being a huge bitch. Take responsibility for all of the shit you did and realize that it's not gonna fucking change. I spent a good portion of my life like you. I was always angry, always thinking about how things could have been different if I did this or that.

You'll never change the past. That's an obvious truth. You know, I know it. We both know it. But let me reiterate. You'll never change the past. Go look in the mirror and tell yourself this for 10 minutes. Burn it into your head. It's over. There's nothing you can do and it's time to move on.

Right now you're young, you're healthy, or healthy enough at least. You've got time, plenty of it. Go do something constructive. Don't feel up to it? Do it anyway? Feel distracted? Get away from distractions. disconnect your computer and do something constructive. If the house is too distracting, go outside and do something constructive.

You have to move on from this funk, it's not going to go away on it's own and nobody is gonna help you. I was like you for so long. I get so pissed off thinking off the years I wasted. But I'm better now and getting better. You've got a head start on me, so why wait? You'll be fucking golden. Just find your muse, take your time and explore different hobbies and skills. You'll find someone you'll want to get good at and it'll make the world of difference when your mind is on that.

>>17563182
Service station? They usually have pies and shit.

>>17563182

During the siege of Stalingrad they boiled their shoes for food, and ate wallpaper paste.

Wallpaper isn't very common anymore, but surely you have shoes?

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>>17563192
This. If in doubt, default to Stalingrad.

>>17563145
No, you have a date. Go on said date, and then if it goes well, go on another date. Try and do something different on the second date to the first. When the time feels right kiss her, and then on another date kiss her again. After a few more dates like these, try having casual at home dates, where you just hang out and watch movies and the like. If, after about a month of this, she still wants to be around you and you still want to be around her, then you probably have a girlfriend. A short discussion about 'where this is going' can be used to alleviate any tension around this question, but you need to have this talk after many dates, preferably after sex and while still naked.

>>17563163
Do I talk to her everyday? I was only texting her when we were setting up times to hangout

>>17563172
There isn't a one-size-fits-all model for this. Do whatever feels natural, and when you're unsure, err on the side of stand-offishness.

Try volunteering. Normal society is cold but nonprofits will be happy to see you and want to talk to you about their work. Your time is valuable so don't give up too much, but a little time spent doing stuff other people don't want to do will make plenty of friends.

>>17563118
Thanks, any book recommendations to help me in social situations? I know next to nothing about people or basically anything about the modern world

Dale carnegies book how to win friends and influence people also listen to npr or similar radio news to get a feel for how journalists make conversations with strangers and how people talk casually about serious ideas/issues besides small talk.