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Can't you retake the SAT as many times as you want? I know I took it twice.

>>17566859
>marines
Have you considered blue collar? You need to use your body, not your jarhead.
Don't worry senpai it pays better than white collars.

>>17566866
I'll probably do that. My issue is cramming for this shit within a month. I haven't opened up a book in so long. Probably gonna higher a tutor or some shit.
>>17566871
I was an info tech in the marines. Sounds fucking retarded but yea it was a job available for me at the time since one of my few interests were computers. I also am planning on going to school for it but it's pretty fucking problematic when my dumbass left all these shitstains while I was gorwing up.

>>17566820
There's hope for you, 5 thousand dollars really isn't a lot of debt. There are other pathways for you, other ways to be happy. You're in a bit of a bad place right now, but life is full of mountains and valleys and eventually, I don't know when but eventually, you will be in a better place

I will bite

You failed so fucking what?5k easy yo pay off. You seem to think that that is some kind of bad situation when in reality you are fucking fine.

Snap out from that shit dillusion you seem to be having and enjoy this thing we call life because we all have experation date anyway.

>>17566820
OMG you're 24 year olds you need to consider retirement at that old age because there is nothing you can do because you are just so fucking ancient.

Oh no you are 5k in debt, you are like the sole contributor to the national debt.

>>17566818
2 months in and you are having these thoughts? Seems like a red flag to me...

But it's hard to say without knowing all the details. 21 is still pretty young and as long as he is trying to be more independent then there is still hope for him. At least he has a job right.

If you keep having thoughts about leaving him, you probably should do it sooner rather than later though

He is 21 ffs what do you fucking expect. Holy shit you are one dumb fuck. Do you think he wouldnt like to be exactly what you want.

Dont be selfish prick and think about him. He has whole fucking life in front of him and you are bullshiting here.

My guess is that none of those reasons are why you feel thatvway and has more to with you not lived enogh to settle right now and want change which is more fucking understandable thent that load of crap.

>>17566818
You should be concerned but you should have gotten to know him better before agreeing. Two months in, get out now with no apologies.

No where have you stated this guy is on the way up or even has a clue where he is going. He is just wasting space and time and makes enough money to keep himself in smokes. Why would any woman want to be the other half of that? Bet even his parents are stunned any woman would let him fuck her and are praying you will take him off their hands. Run, it's not like he could get in a car and drive over

tfw i have a close female friend too who i feel like shes about to cut me out of her life. granted she likes or "liked" me at some point, i doubt she still does, but i still clearly do :(

but honestly i think most people would want an answer. No one likes the feeling of someone leaving their lives with no explaination/closure.
how long were you close for? did you guys get into an argument?

There's no such thing as a female "friend". Now you know.

>>17566788
My memory's foggy, but I think it was about a year and a half. We had no argument of any description, hell I only actually met her irl once (we kind of got talking through mutual friends on Facebook). She's all sorts of crazy and depressed, and one thing I noticed when I met her that one time was that she gave off a really aggressive, defensive vibe.

>>17566760

Just ask yourself if you can imagine yourself with this girl in five years. If yes, then don't break up. If no, then dump her. 6 years is a long time to be together in your 20s, it dragging on a dead, futureless relationship isn't worth it.

>>17566769
thanks. I can imagine her being a great mother to my kids but I don't feel the same spark I felt with my ex and there's not really any passion in terms of ripping each others clothes off at any opportunity which I feel that I need in life. she's definitely a great partner for someone but Im not sure its me...

>>17566779

Only millenial faggots think passion and looove and "happiness" is important.

You have a good woman, as you say. Just ask yourself: do you want a family? If yes, will she be a good wife and mother for your children? If this is also yes, then talk to her about your longterm plans and if she agrees, stay with her.

You know her, there is no drama and if she's willing, you can have a family with her.

What the fuck do you want more?

You just dont see the benefits it has beeing with her, but fantasies about the grass being greener somwhere else.

Stop being a faggot.

>>17566755
leave your neighbour a note asking for her to deal with it, then make a complaint to your landlord if nothing changes, then contact RSPCA or whatever your equivalent is to report an animal being neglected if still nothing changes.

>>17566755
In my city if a dog is barking for more than 30 minutes unprovoked it's a misdemeanor. Call the cops. They'll get a warning the first time. That should convince them to fix the problem. They might not even know the dog is doing it if they're at work or something.

>>17566755
I had a neighbour with a howling dog.
I taped notes on their door, polite ones just informing them that the dog is barking and howling almost non-stop whenever they're not home, I put in times and such. They did something about it and within a couple of weeks managed to train the dog out of the howling and it was silent ever since.

The thing is that the owner might not know. They might be under the impression that their widdle furball is happy at home, because apparently they've left for work whenever the dog is howling. For max efficiency, you should frame it so that their darling pet is SUFFERING, it's alone all day and howling because it's so lonely and unhappy and anxious, suffering every moment. It prompts the pet owner to do something about it more than a neighbour insulting them.

So, leave a note like this at first. If there's no effect, complain to authorities.

>>17566744
>struggling to hold down a job
why?

>>17566752
its not so simple
I worked hard, but felt that the work I was putting in wasn't rewarded, and that I wasn't respected at work

same story in the last two restaurants I worked in

also I was being under-payed, and my bosses both told me "that's just the way it is"
I found that to be a conveniently self serving view

I have a very high cognitive ability, but I haven't channeled that into anything rewarding or useful, and because I didn't do well in school I'm stuck in unskilled work

It's not easy to be happy carrying plates when you are in my possition
some bitter people would just tell me to suck it up, but that's just them channeling their own dissatisfaction

You're overvaluing yourself.

You see yourself as an intelligent, capable person.

Others see you as a lazy failure who never applied themself.

Perception is the reality that matters. You can control perception to a point, but you actually have to put the work in.

Also, you need to have more realistic expectations about the working world and the consequences of your actions. You're an adult now, the safety nets of childhood are gone.

nah just ask her out again familia

>one-night stand
>"i love you"

Stop talking to her you fool

Okay, so what do i do? Ask her out again or just leave it all behind?

P-Pls respond

no one replies because you dont ask anything
you're just sharing a story

>that's cool bro
there, now go to bed Jimmy.

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>>17566742
Sorry for that, just realized it myself.

The main question is: WAT DO?

Do I talk about it, do I bring it up under the right circumstance, is it worth it, won't it have too much of an impact, etc. what would you do?

run

dont stop running

hope the cops dont catch you when she wakes up, regrets doing it and sicks the cop on you for rape

Realize that lesbians don't exist and you can't have sex without a penis being involved. Go have more fun with her if you want though.
Unless you're a dude, then pound the shit out of that "lesbian teehee" friend and lol at how fake lesbians are.

insert one of your friendzoned pal in the loop. You will make a guy happy... And he'll have a 300℅ self confidence boost for the rest of his life.

Otherwise, what's wrong ? If you liked it do it again... Right ?

I've never tried weed but I was suicidal before so I can understand your pain. My only advice is that should accept the realities of your life more. Yes your life sucks. Yes you panicing isn't helping things. And yes you will need to work at it slowly for it to improve. But wanting it to be better right now just increases your worrying more. Accept things as they are and work slowly from there.

>>17566658

Exercise. Works wonders.

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>>17566774
>>17566784

>work

Careful there.

>>17566647
Bruh just talk to the girl like you actually give a fuck about her regardless of her tits. Trust me, the rest will come. Girls notice if you genuinely express interest in their lives.

just bee polite

An insane asylum. That's not even a joke, girls in the real world don't dress like that.

>>17566654
Meh, i know people that dress like that irl

>>17566646
fuck yea

I should've mentioned, this website is highly addictive. Maybe not for everyone, but it certainly is for me.

The hostility, argumentative, cynical nature of this website is doing my mental health no good either.

Sure that might be laugh worthy, even pathetic, but I'm just being honest, this website is fucking me up, yet I continue to come here.

>>17566616
if you have nothing better to do than browsing this shithole for 12 hours; I'd say their are bigger in your live that need to be fixed and this site isn't the sole source of your misfortunes.

I haven't quit 4chan, but I have stopped using some boards (relatively non-toxic though) and quit other websites where I felt like it wasn't good for my mental health.

>inb4 tweak this website to your liking
Honestly, this has a lot to do with why I'm still here. Hiding threads and posts that you just don't want to see can do wonders, I don't know how I kept sane before I started using them.

Btw, for what it's worth, I'd consider myself a 'normie' even though I've been here for about 6 years. I just haven't let it affect me much.

Anyways, to the point. My smoking has increased to about a pack and a half every day now and the habit is a huge ball and chain on my life. All the money i spend, how bad i make everything reek, my body being unfit and easily fatigued. It needs to stop.

So i realized that i never put much focus into a quitting plan until now. If i try cold turkey again i'll just run across for another pack when my cravings start boiling. I have to limit how many i smoke within a set amount of hours, say, 1 every hour. But that's no good, i stay up late, so that would be like 13 or 14 and that's nearly a pack.

Has anyone done this? If so, what's a good plan?

>>17566613
youd want to limit how much you smoke per day, not how much per hour since you sometimes sleep more or less.

i used to smoke about 5-6 grams of tobacco a day, switched to vaping (the highest nicotine dose), and found that even doing this has helped a lot. without even trying ive gone from smoking every 30 minutes or so, to vaping every 30 minutes, to vaping every 1-3 hours, and generally have no cravings.

when i cared about how much i smoked, i did try what you want, but sooner or later you'll find that youll do it 5 minutes early-- maybe youve got a class to go to, and the alternative means going an extra hour without. maybe you figure its just 5 minutes, and sooner or later youre doing it twice as often. the point is, its just an arbitrary rule, and requires no less willpower than any other.

1) Realize that you actually want to not smoke anymore.
2) Realize you only have to not smoke one cigarette: The next one.
3) Realize that you aren't "giving up" smoking, but you are replacing it with something else. A hobby, activities, anything to keep your junkie-head busy during the withdrawal symptoms
4) Realize there's going to be a lot of physical and psychological pain.
5) Realize again that you REALLY REALLY REALLY want to not smoke anymore.

Your welcome.