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Sorry if it's sideways and for the sloppy handwriting. Hard writing on bus.

No, don't use rehearsed lines. Engage her in a conversation about anything starting with something like "hey do you..."

Once you get talking for about ten to fifteen minutes you can mention how you wanted to talk to her, but don't burst about how she's amazing just from you looking at her.

There is really no need to start a relationship with someone by telling them how much you wanted to talk to them. Save that for later and enjoy the fact there's someone you like. Go get her, and don't be afraid of her

>>17562380
Thank you, i just don't want to make an ass of myself.

>>17562242
I just started college and I've managed to make friends simply by walking up to people at the dining hall and asking if it would be alright if I sat with them. Introductions and small talk to start, then start probing for interests. Ask what they like to do, if they have any hobbies, why they picked their major, etc. If you come across with energy and a friendly disposition people do respond. Then just work in a way to ask about meeting up again and find a way to message them.
the next step can be applied to any acquaintances you already have. Just keep going out of your way to say hi or chat. People love it when someone wants to talk to them, they really do. No relationship, romantic or platonic, casual or close, works without somebody putting in the effort to get it off the ground and into the air.

>>17562352
Btw, what anime is that image from?

Seconding this question. Been 3 years, I skipped out on all the freshman social building shit like a fucking moron my freshman year because I thought it'd be stupid and cringy (and it was, but apparently stupid and cringy works).
Literally only have this year and next until I graduate. At this point I'm almost wondering if I should just give up and finish out the hermit I started as.

>>17562182
Man I fucking wish I was good enough to be considered hot.

I hate Korean girls and I'm not attracted to white girls either, but that's just me.

>>17562187

I love monolid eyes..I think that is what gets me!

Ahh I see! Phew! I am not white..but light/yellow skinned..I thought they were obsessed with light skin?

How come a lot of Korean guys are so shy? I am afraid to approach them :(

>>17562202
I think that's mostly the homelanders or FOBs, most Koreans I've met here don't seem to particularly care.

If they're anything like me, it's because they hate themselves and have no confidence. You should try approaching!

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>>17562166
>I was just bluffing

10/10 i laughed

and basically do you think i helped or hurt the situation by saying "i don't take breaks"

She was probably going to break up with you either way. Stick to your word and find someone who wants you.

>>17562159
just do it. i got my self esteem completely crushed by this girl after she left me, a while ago i just said i was going to make her regret her choice and have a succesful life, now i workout harder, got a stricter diet, stopped smoking, studying hard for university and doing all kind of shit, but remeber you gotta do it for yourself, i just used her as a starting point to get better, you can do the same.

>>17562248
>>17562159
also, this vid may be a fucking meme, but i find it really motivational

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0

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>>17562159

Find something you love and dedicate yourself to it. Being happy with your progress in art, music, technology, sports, etc., will shine through in your social interactions.

People are a lot more transparent than you think and women, naturally, are extremely intuitive. They can smell self deprecation and misery a mile away. The vibe that you put off is very important.

Forget about what you can do to improve your relationships with other people and focus on improving yourself. Make a list of things you don't like about yourself and make CONCERTED efforts to address them.

If you don't like the way you dress, try a new style. If you don't like your body definition, try exercise. If you don't like your complexion, try out some skin products. One issue at a time, one flaw at a time.

Internalize the difference between not being compatible with people and people not liking you because you perceive yourself as boring or pathetic. Accept that even if you are 100% complete and successful in every area of your life there are some people who will still not like you.

If your self loathing is actually crippling your life beyond repair then there is no shame in going to a therapist. There is no downside to having an objective third party help you understand issues you're too close to.

Take all of this one day at a time. One issue at a time. Changing your perception of yourself is possible but it is difficult and requires an extreme amount of ego awareness.

Always maintain perspective. Don't let success go to your head and don't let failure cripple you. Keep your fucking head up.

Remember you're just human and that the rest of us are struggling to find ourselves too, no matter how cool or confident we may look.

IT.
Google it. Really.
Depends on staffing and enrollment. Also, if something breaks, and it will, you're going to have a busy day.
Don't touch the girls.

>>17562121

I am going to need you to terminate that Cat6 cable, anon...you learned how in school, right?

>>17562177
Funny story, I asked someone for a crimp one day and they thought it was a dance move

She should cut him out..if she doesn't she is putting him over you

If she keeps doing it..being that other girl back in your life to make your point

also how old is she? she seems immature

also why is your dream girl? i am being nosy here..you don't have to say

Long distance relationships rarely work out, and it sounds like you're not in that small percentage where it all works out.

Break it off, find someone you can actually talk to on a daily basis.

>>17562132
She's my dream girl because she's into all the same things as me, she makes me incredibly happy without trying and she's a solid 11/10. It's really hard for me to fall in love and I did with her and it was amazing. She is rather young, around 16 and I'm 19. I just don't want this guy to tear us apart, everything is so good and he's just being a huge annoyance.a

Tldr; I bought a puppy, broke my family, and might be homeless

You can't fix something that's been building for the duration of a marriage. Your mom and dad have to take the initiative on that one.

Right now, your first priority has to be getting a roof over your head. That may require surrendering the dog.

For future reference, it's kinda rude to just randomly bring a pet home when you're living in someone else's house, but the end result isn't usually a potential divorce.

Ask permission, not forgiveness.

This is obviously a fundamental component of this human's personality which is not going to change unless he is struck by lightning or something.

The sooner you realise you can't change people the better it will be for both of you.

>>17561996
>>17562017

This is unfortunately the case.

Either make it or break it OP. I'd think long and hard about this one.

Maybe buy a hat that wasn't given to you by a homeless man.
Also, try shorter facial hair. Yours is too mediocre to be that long, in my opinion. Mine sucks too but I get away with stubble.

>>17561956
Baseball caps look strange on me so I have a hard time finding something that is okay with my head shape. I do agree with the shorter facial hair though, I'm going to trim it when I get home from work. Thanks for being the only one to criticize my mug dude.

>>17561956
I agree. I think the beard is a little too long. The mustache kind of gives off a creepy vibe..but if he connected to the beard it might work out pretty well. I forgot what that style is called..

Learning is something he has to accomplish on his own as he grows older. Sure when he's young he'll follow you, but he's going to reach an age where he's absorbed enough information to form his own decisions on religion and where he'll want to take his life.

>have a son
>still on the Marx train

Please raise your son on better philosophers

>>17561849
Don't force anything on him, but feel free to show him stuff on theology at age 7 onwards. He should know that is there, should he need it, but it's his decision.
Theology is mainly history, and if you instill a love of history, then he should end up a smart cookie.

I get conpliments on my messenger bag almost once a week. If you're stylish girls will love it.

>>17561832
Go to a military surplus store. You can't beat the quality or the price.

>>17561846
Badass. What kind do you have?

>>17561822
go to AA

Better off staying sober.

Most alcoholics will say that they can control having a few drinks. More often than not, a couple ends up being many.

>>17561822
Stay sober.

Go to the bar, don't drink and talk to people who are drinking. Talking to people or picking up girls who are drinking while you are sober is like fishing with dynamite... it's not even fair.

I'd do it just to see what she says

>>17561827
That's what I'm thinking. I'm curious just to see her reaction. She's a hot slutty woman.

Is there any foreseeable way this can backfire?

>>17561915
Having sex with women usually backfires in some way or another, but, i dont see anything life ending coming from this unless you swerve into oncoming traffic

Time for what? Also, he's a bit awkward for asking you out in a school kid fashion (it's not bad just FYI, you aspie).

>>17561803
I meant time to get to know him a bit more before deliberately giving him my digits.
He really does seem nice but I think I feel a little insecure about this situation brewing..I've been single for as long as I can remember and I have wished to gain some experience but I'm not sure if I want to give myself up too easily.
I have a feeling that he's going to want to know immediately if we can be together right after our first get together.

Obviously it's not going to happen right away. I know I have to let myself get to know him. It just feels weird thinking about a guy wanting to get to know me.
How did you guys do when someone asked you out for the first time or vice versa?