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>>17561027

Also she was monitoring my facebook so closely that she asked a question " did you recently break up with someone? " when my gf and I went on a break we unfriended. Recently I've just disabled my facebook. She has a picture of my and my gf on her phone in a group photo too that she sent me.

I think shes still unsure if I actually had a gf or not.

So your gf doesn't know about this?

>>17561038

gf does not know

>>17561012

Clarify this to me:
>would it be fine to take a girl I'm already familiar with on a double date?

You are familiar with your date, or your friend's date?

Also, how tight is your group? Could someone feel left out in this group of 4?

>>17561012

Avoid at all costs you are not going on there to be with other people you want just her and that is fucking it. Problems that can arise are infinite since you don't have control over that date.

Do your self a favor and avoid it.

>>17561026
Sorry, I have never met my friend's date; I was referring to my date. We hang out pretty regularly. My friend and I are really great at keeping things lively together and getting everyone in the conversation, which is the reason I considered it in the first place. Naturally, I'd be more focused on my date and he on his, but I figured we could keep everyone having fun.

Once again though, I don't know his date yet so there is a chance she could be weird.

>>17561030
I just want to have fun with her. I'm not expecting to get to know her intimately right off the bat. You're right though, I wouldn't have full control so if I can't escape and things go wrong, I'd be fucked. It's something I'll consider.

Don't drop out and don't be a faggot.

>>17560984
I hardly showed up to class this term and I didn't even show up for the exams.

I could repeat the term and sit the exams but honestly I can't see myself working in iT for a living, I hate those guys

I feel stuck

>>17560979
Get ready for a ride

>>17560974
Think about why you want to be a filmmaker in the first place.

Don't give up. Maybe we can help - I have worked in film.

Do you already have examples of work? Scripts, illustrated scenes, low budget iPhone films?

Just do what you like, find a good camera and a good set, and post it on youtube

Oh , forgot to mention we fucked twice. Sex was great too.

LDR's usually don't work anon, just letting you know.

My guess is she was feeling you and had a lot of passion but then soon felt insecure because you didn't talk to her for a couple of days. She probably assumed you found someone else.

One last piece of context, she was talking about visiting me, which tells me her feeling are or were as strong as mine.

>>17560993
I know they dont work, but I like her too much to not try y'know?

Rub them, juggle them and then stroke his dick for a handjob. Pretty common sense shit that even an autist like yourself should be able to figure out.

>>17560968
If he out him there then it's probably his thing.

Personally not for me. The most I'll do is have her hold them while she sucks or something.

I don't know about anyone else's balls but mine are really ticklish

>>17560960

think about why you shouldnt be so mad, and then move on. ive been doing that a lot lately, realizing how childish i am

>>17560963
i do, i'm aware of how autistic i am.
it works to certain point, but can't just stop giving a fuck about all the irrelevant shit.

it's like when people tells you to stay calm in a speech but you feel trembling no matter what.

do people have a secret to be in peace?

>>17560989
Just remember that you won't change the things you hate, then remember that if it's really annoying, yes you can make a change, people like you are doing it, you just need to stay cool, laugh more, idiots always get rekt by kharma, don't be angry, then you will be an easy target for the bad kharma.

>>17560939
Stop underestimating yourself talk to you in the mirror, something like: "Shut up, is not that bad"

>>17560939
This video actually helped me...https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ow0lr63y4Mw

Sometimes I just remind myself to STOP IT. Put humor into it and you'll be fine. I know exactly where you're coming from OP.

>>17560939
why not tell yourself " relax man youre overthinking " than go take a dump

you allready know you are..

>>17560883

you want to be sad. you want to be miserable. to be anything else would strip you of any sense of self you have. you take pride in how you will be 'miserable' no matter what. you are chasing that feeling. there is a sense of righteousness in it.

its very common in teenagers. most people lose this in highschool or early college. but some people become addicted. you're the 4chan equivelent of a tumblrina.

they have 'im so oppressed' contests. we have 'im so depressed' contests.

you have decided to disregard any attempts at enjoying something because, in your own words' ill likely be miserable no matter what'.

you literally chose to be miserable mate.

its scary to re-define yourself once the saddness is gone. what makes you special?

but trust me when i say its worth exploring.

>>17560902
I dont know. Ive tried 2 years of therapy with 3 different therapists, (their decision i find a new one, not mine), self help groups, tons of friends, a few relationships. Nothing worked. Fear of the actual act of suicide and the guilt of my loved ones mourning are really all that kept me going. There are a lot of things i like about myself but i just feel so heavily outweighed by the bad. Ive struggled against it my whole life and now i dont know what else i can do that i havent tried. Ive even tried new age spirituality but i just cant bring myself to believe something because i want to. If im believing it because i want to im not believing it because its true. The one thing i havent tried is medication and it honestly doesnt seem worth it. I dont believe taking drugs 24 7 will help me think more clearly, only delude my thinking. Also if i want to be miserable that isnt a choice. You cant choose what you want. Seriously think of how ridiculous it is to suggest you choose what you want. Lets say you like reading twilight on the bus, if you decide that youre embarrassed to do that and read something else at no point did you excercise choice. Your embarrasement merely was a greater emotion than the joy you got from your daily 15 minute bus ride twilight

>>17560950
Not the other anon that replied, but anon you need an outlet to channel your feelings. You have not found it yet, and that is okay you just have to believe you will. You need Hope anon, hope for your life, and belief things can and will get better. You can choose to have hope even when you are going through really hard times. The metaphorical light at the end of the tunnel is what you have to keep looking for.

Spirituality does help, and as for believing in what you cannot see think about microbes. We cannot see them, but only after the microscope was developed did we know they existed. However, we knew illness existed before the discovery of microbes, and we knew something was contributing to it. Basically, we believe in things we cannot see through much of our lives so how is belief in God any different? It is not ultimately. You just need faith, and that is difficult to have especially when you are down and out, but if you have faith it helps you through.

Work on you, make some goals and see them through, and maybe watch or read something comical, surround yourself with positivity each chance you get, and just live.

Whatever is mentally holding you back let it go. When negative thoughts arise start thinking about something positive. Also, if you do not want to try medication yet, perhaps you should try multi-vitamins, sitting in the sunlight, good nutrition, and maybe looking into noo-tropics. I wish you the best of luck anon.

>>17560878
Holy shit, aren't you able to turn your girlfriend on?
She lost her mood. You tease her and flirt with her and compliment her till she gets all horny and then you fuck her.
Then you fuck her brains out and have angry sex.
Fuck, sometimes me and my boyfriend argue on purpose just to have angry sex.

>>17560878
:D what the fuck

What was the argument about? You probably do something earlier or she had a bad day.

Any help?

>>17560867check your contact.

>>17560867
Sure, but send him an email today as well so it's in writing.

>>17560864

the thing you see in Alphas is them doing what they want and disregarding what others say, think, or do. they go not on the path that will make them most alpha but on the path that will make them most happy.

so do what would actually make you happy. approach girls anyway.

>>17560864
You need to talk to and befriend multiple girls. After having a bad loser time in college, i swore to myself to only befriend and talk to girls. I caught up on social skills, but befriend other guys at some point too, especiallly ones that likes to approach and mack on girls. Awesome wingman potential, but dont introduce your special girl to him

>>17560882
Bad loser time in HIGHSCHOOL. sorry

Well that's because you are.

Let her get on top of you
Let her put the dick on her
Let her ride you

Remember that sensation and then apply it to when you are on top.

If you can't do that, eat her out and finger her.

>>17560783
Honestly admit that you have no idea how the hell this work, and go along with the embarrassment.

Nothing wrong with being led the first time around.

>>17560741

people come here not really knowing what 'dealing' is. i suppose there is two senses.

the first sense is how do you simply exist with it. and if you are existing, you are dealing with it. time heals all wounds, and this is no different. you get a week to just sit around and do nothing.

then you get a week of being the kind of person no one wants to be arond but they feel obligated to.

then you go back to your real life. you're still sad, but you try to find the beauty in life, the things she would have liked. you get to go watch a sunset because you know she liked those. you go to the beach and just stare at the ocean.

you invest in platonic male friendships so you don't feel alone but you don't feel like ur moving on from her.

good luck man,

Ya I lost my best friend. It was incredibly hard for days and weeks. I would cry, feel depressed that I couldn't even shitpost on 4chan and worst of all I felt like life wasn't as bright as it used to be.

Eventually I came to realization that he would be pissed if I continued this pissy existence. He was the kind of guy who all about making other people happy and bringing positive energy.

Went to his funeral, cried some more but I had closure. Said some things to him and thanked him for coming into my life.

From there everything was back to normal but it took a while to get over it.

>>17560741
Go see her mom for fucks sake.

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No you don't contact her you idiot, you move on with your life and smarten up big time because jobless fuckwads like yourself shouldn't be fucking a girl raw. Dipshits like you make me sick.

>>17560918
It really scared me so i wont fugg without condoms again. But still i need certainty.