How to not get demoralized when applying for jobs?
>graduated, no internships, no job in advance
>not much job experience, didn't work during school
>supposed to be a good degree with easy access to decent jobs
>moved to new city with good economy
>3 months, no job
>depression kicking back in hard
>applying to fucking barista positions
>working with two recruiting agencies, no word back yet
>applying to tons of positions, rarely even get an interview
>when I do have an interview I have zero energy, probably look like crap, can't even fake it well
>have an issue of voice getting rough and painful if I speak too long
>no car, transit user, limited in range of where I can apply, city is more sprawled than I anticipated
>money slowly running out
Problem 1: temp job: even if I apply to barista/restaurant/cuntomer service positions, I have no experience. If I include the degree I'm overqualified, if I exclude it there's a huge gap
Problem 2: How can I amp myself up for interviews when I can barely make it through the day without thinking of suicide? Should I try one of those stupid energy drinks or something? I'm not a bright and perky person, how do I fake it?
Problem 3: They keep asking about things I've done or accomplished or times I showed leadership or other bullshit, and I have zero work xp so I never have. The fuck do I answer? I try to fluff up stuff I've done or lie a bit but it sounds pathetic and lackluster. I'm also a horrible liar. i'm a recent grad for fucksake, what do they want?
>>17560719
I dropped out and had a bunch of jobs anyway; here is how I did it: the same way you'd seduce somebody. Explain to them not why you want A job, but why you want THAT job. Why THAT job makes your heart pound. Etc. You have to do background research on the job and all, and figure out the reasons why it actually makes you excited, which you don't say but which pep you up (hey, I like free coffee, and I like making creative drinks), but it... well, it works. Also don't cover up your degree; it's something you should be proud of. And finally remember that for every 100 applications in a lousy economy you get one callback, and for every 10 interviews you may get one job offer. This is what my dad said, and he has a Ph.D in astrophysics and around 15 years teaching experience.
>>17560719
OP don't lie. You have accomplished graduating college. That is one heck of a qualification. Also please only apply to jobs where you won't mind working there or at least enjoy the work some of the time. Believe me when I tell you foodservice is hell. What was your degree in anyway?
Just lie.
Worked for me. No seriously it.
>Got a ba in economics but dropped out in year 3.
>Had no debt because of scholariships and I was working while going to school
>Just hated the atmosphere and knew economics wasn't for me.
>Worked construction for a full year and was being paid okay
>Lied about finishing my ba in economics
>Lied about volunteering at a revenue agency
>Lied about being part of the university economic department
>Lied about internship
>Got 3 interviews
>Nail 2 of them by making sure my story had no holes but the last one bombed
>Got a great job with full benefits
>Worked there for 5 years with salary increases almost each year
>New management comes in asking for background of all employee
>Quit and get another job doing the same thing
What does it mean when you keep craving dark beer and raw meat?
>>17560707
nothing.
>>17560711
How do I make it stop?
>>17560718
you dont. dark beer is a preference. just eat rare steaks.
>tfw started neet life just in the worst moment for my family.
>tfw poor af.
>tfw in front of ps3 everyday.
>tfw mom decided that family shouldn't come to our house cuz too depressing.
>tfw 15 yo cousin must come to cook my breakfast.
>tfw "what happened to university anon?"
>tfw no money for drinks or stuff like pringles.
>tfw not even shitposting or vydia make me feel good.
>tfw i have a cold.
>tfw mom and dad have a cold now.
>tfw i only have 2 videogames.
>tfw everything is just senseless now, even killin' myself.
What should i do?
Everything is welcome, even suggestions for hobbies and things like that.
>>17560698
get a job
>>17560716
Thanks, i'm really trying even when that's hard af where i live.
>>17560737
boo hoo
I've noticed that 99% of guys who approach me sexually are already in relationships. I never go for them, they just come to me and then I later find out they have girlfriends. What does this mean?
Men who have girlfriends or are in relationships can approach other women easier then single guys.
It means nothing.
That their girlfriends don't satisfy them.
They probably don't like their girlfriends all too much. I hate to sound like a white night or something but ever since I got my girlfriend, I can't imagine cheating on her in any circumstance
Just accepted my first real job offer. I have interviews lined up for the rest of the week and need to cancel them. I haven't got the offer in writing yet but I'm not very interested in the next few interviews anyway.
How do I cancel by email? I want to sound decently regretful and not burn bridges.
The bridge will be burned because you are going to cancel. Move on. Let them know you want to cancel it and thank them for the opportunity.
You won't be getting another phone call from them ever again.
Don't cancel. Go to the interview and give it your best shot. It's good practice if nothing else. If they offer you the job, politely decline on the grounds that they can suck your dick.
>>17560635
"I am scheduled for an interview on Friday Noctember 42nd at 13:00. Since making that appointment I have taken a job elsewhere, so you can free that slot for someone else. I appreciate your considering me for that position."
I'm a woman btw.
Would you advocate me getting a belly piercing , yes or no!
I like the way it looks and been thinking about it a long time but don't know if my belly is flat enough for it!
Entirely up to you. Can honestly say I've never heard a single dude espouse positive views on belly button piercings though, only negative or indifferent ones.
>>17560628
Piercings are for dumb slags. What's the point of them?
>>17560628
if you are a slut, sure go for it.
If you are in anyway a decent and respectable human being, you shouldn't do it.
Since you post semi-naked pics of yourself on t he internet, I can easily assert you are a stupid slut. So why even bother asking?
Hey guys I'm pretty sick of having nasty big zits. I'd really appreciate some recommendations for ance cream or whatever that I can buy over the counter. Something to put on direct problem areas, not just to apply to my entire face.
I really hate having to wash my face then have to wait 15 minutes or whatever just to put some shit on my face before bed but if I'm going to have to go that route then whatever.
>>17560593
Acne is a medical issue. Go see a doctor about it.
My two cents on how I treated my zits. I got from having my face basically covered in them to having one/two of them at most.
>Face wash
I wash my face with a pretty delicate detergent. I cannot remember the brand.
>Tea tree toner
I use one from the body shop.
>Moisturiser
I use a very light moisturiser, something specific for impure skin.
I do this every morning and evening. At night, I put tea tree oil on the areas where I get the zits more.
>Exfoliating
I exfoliate three times a week. I use vitamin C exfoliant by the body shop.
>>17560593
>over the counter
over the counter is shit. if you already tried stuff and its not working than only prescription strength stuff will help.
this is me, before and after tretinoin.
>>17560593
I've heard of three remedies: ground nutmeg in honey, tea tree oil cut with castor oil, and toothpaste. Right now I am using toothpaste and will let you know how it goes.
My girlfriend is constantly glancing around when we go out in public. She isn't staring, she's just making quick glances. I've brought it up to her and she tells me that she is looking at a person of the same sex, or some inanimate object, but never says she is looking at a guy. I feel like she is lying, but every time I mention it to her, she calls me out on being insecure. She isn't the type of person to lie, she's very direct about fixing issues whenever they exist, but is this insecurity on my behalf? Or is she lying to me to avoid a problem?
I know many will say to stop being an insecure fuck, but I've dealt with a lot of insecurity in my past, I've become a completely different person, but this one bothers me because it feels like she is not interested in being with me when she's doing things like that. She is a very observant person, but I want to know if she is really just observing or checking people out. I find it impolite to be checking people out, that's just the way I am.
Any sincere advice on how to deal with this?
>>17560567
this is a basic defense mechanism. maintaining awareness of ones surroundings increases odds of survival. even if she is checking out dudes, dont be a faggot. shes with you. dont pretend like you dont look at grills, anon. you need to get it together before this chick leaves you.
Dipshit will scare his girlfriend away for being a pussy faggot. See a therapist if your girlfriend looking around at the world while she walks is causing you this much strife.
>>17560613
This.
Plenty of people have this tick, it's fairly common. Your insecurity is fucking up your relationship, OP, chill out.
How do I stop focusing on women?
I've admittedly never really had success with women. The longest I've dated someone was less than 3 months, and I've never had a girlfriend. I've had unsuccessful sex a couple times, but that's about it.
I'm sure that is part of the reason why I'm so focused on them, but I want it to stop altogether. In the past, I've done all sorts of bullshit to try and get their attention, read and gone through PUA shit (though not really going out and applying it since I'm not a fan of clubs/bars) and it's not worked for me simply because I can't keep up with it.
These days I'm trying to do the opposite by focusing on myself and what I want in terms of getting fit, doing hobbies, and all my shit for my schooling. But I'm still finding myself doing it for the reason of getting girls' attention/affections. What's worse, I've been wanting to go full stop focusing on nothing but myself and completely ignoring them in person in order to prove to them that I don't need them with the ass-backwards idea that it'll draw them more toward me.
I know I don't want a relationship now, or for the foreseeable future, and frankly can deal with a lack of sex due to my poor experiences with it, but I'm still compelled to think in terms of how to get them to want me. How can I shift the focus away from them and towards me where it belongs?
Watch movies like 500 days with her, listen to break-up stories of your friends or family.
Then relas and remember: You are single, and still have time to chill.
Then watch a good tv show.
>>17560546
in the physical sense you just dont interact with them. if you catch yourself interacting with them, stop. if you dont realize it til after the fact, it just makes it easier to remember next time.
if you mean in the psychological sense, you dont. unless you find something meaningful to occupy your time, your mind will wander where it wants to wander, which is often girls.
>>17560610
Again, it's not about being single. I want to be single. I don't want a relationship at all. I guess it's me wanting the potential of relationships by winning affections and attention. Even if I did have someone's desire, I wouldn't act on it simply because I don't want to. But I know that external locus for doing shit in life isn't healthy.
>>17560744
Physically that's unfortunately kind of impossible. One of my majors in school is theatre which is filled with a fair number of girls that I have to work with most days.
But do I just keep stumbling through different things until I find that meaningful whatever it is to distract me?
I'm stressed up to my eyeballs with work, money issues and my girlfriend at the moment.
How do I deal with stress effectively? I'm losing sleep and I'm constantly on edge. I even cried when I was trying to finish an article for my freelance job today, which I haven't done in years. It's taking a toll on me.
>>17560536
I'd take a few days off, drink beer with friends, have a BBQ and smoke some weed. Sing dirty songs, etc.
>>17560545
I can't afford to take days off at the moment. I partied with friends on Saturday and that's the only break I can have for a while.
I know no one ever tries this but meditation helps.
In a relationship with gf for about 2 years now
weve had our ups and downs but for the most part things are mostly good
Shes p smart, very attractive, and as far as i can tell shes a good person.
I do love her and dont have a problem being with her but Im always wondering if I should search for and try to find my "dream girl" instead.
I think I'd be happier this way but I dont even know if such a person exists, I mean they must through sheer odds but theres no guarantee I'll meet them or if I do, that they'd even want to be in a romantic relationship w me. What do you think adv?
rn Im thinking, stick with my girl till I possibly meet this "dream girl" and see how things turn out then
your dream girl doesn't exist in 3d, anon. Sorry.
>>17560528
First off, that's gotta be a shop. Not an asian girl in the world built like that.
Second, I think you really want to abandon the idea of a "dream" anything. Don't hold unrealistic or idealized expectations of anything. Better to devise a list of at most 5 traits a woman must have, 5 you absolutely will not tolerate, and just stick to that.
Maybe she is your dream girl
I am 18 years old but I have a huge obsession with older women (40-60). I only want to have sex with milfs and gilfs. I know this is unrealistic but does anyone have any advice on meeting older women? One problem that I have is that I look really young for my age so I doubt they'd take me seriously.
>inb4 go to a nursing home
You can always fuck a whore.
Try Craigslist lotsa older women even if you do look young keep trying till one says yes
>>17560523
Eh...
>>17560525
Didn't consider that, sounds kind of sketchy but I am really horny desu.
>girl and I start talking on dating site, hitting it off
>she has no image of herself on her profile
>when I ask her about posting one to see she says she doesnt want her image plastered all over the internet and if I want to know what she looks like it will have to be in person
what should i do about this? she could be a dude for all I know
>>17560508
Skype.
It's probably a catfish. Tell her to send you a picture personally and ask her to do something specific, like touch her nose with her ring finger (to make sure its her own picture). If she refuses to do that then abort mission
>>17560508
where does she live? if she's close go meet at a public place, if she doesn't show tell her you're going to perma delete her before hand and if she doesn't perma delete her.
you could get her on skype look up her ip and if it isn't some what close to where she says she lives she's definitely lying.
Ever since my mom was introduced to the internet, she's taken a pretty large leap towards paranoia. She's always been a believer in holistic medicine and things like that, but nobody ever told her that ANYONE can put ANYTHING on the internet, and so she's gotten into the habit of watching youtube conspiracy theories.
Normally what she does with her free time wouldn't bother me, but she's 51 and I'm starting to worry that it might be signs of mental illness. We don't have any real family medical history, so I can't be sure. But recently she told me she's practicing an ancient Mayan sun ritual that will purge her of the need to eat, and she genuinely believes the earth is flat, now. And for fucks sake, don't get her started on vaccinations or the illuminati. She also made some slightly antisemitic comments a few weeks ago, which I'm sure won't shock anyone here, but that's certainly not her.
Is there anything I can do besides spend more time with her? I just moved back to help with rent and stuff, but it's grueling being around her because she either talks about insane shit that I cannot possibly have any opinion about, or about incredibly benign shit that I don't give a shit about. She doesn't seem to enjoy listening about my life, I think she just likes talking and having the company, so I let her dominate the conversation often.
>>17560493
She needs a hobby.
Show her mom/son incest porn. She'll never get on a computer again.
>>17560493
Well, wow, i've never had to deal with things like that. my aunt just watch youtube videos about aliens or angels, she eventually realize that's not always true. So hmmm i agree with you, what you are doing is good, maybe, introduce her to a tv show.
Good luck
My gf has a lot of cats and they don't stop peeing around the house. She lives with her parents, they have a big house, 3 floors. The toilets are all on the ground floor.
She is super confused ... cats didn't go and pee everywhere for one year, but now they do ...
She has 5 female cats and 1 male cat. All sterilized.
Those are indoor cats. Any suggestions?
When I said toilets, I meant litter boxes for the cats.
Get a better girlfriend, and leave the cat lady alone.
>> 17560443
Wow ... that was deep ... fuck ...