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My girlfriend broke up with me after 5 years. I lost my virginity to her and she was everything to me. I'm in desperate need of help. My friends have never been in a long term relationship. I feel like I'm losing my mind
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Hello, Anon. I understand how you feel. There's been shitton of people in a similar situation. You are not alone.
When my boyfriend of 2 years dumped me I thought I was gonna die. I was so sad I was in physical pain. I would lie down in bed for a week or just walk around home weeping. I was like a ghost. We had so many plans! I didn't believe I would ever fins anyone better.
It's been 4 years ago. I'm with someone new now. It passes Anon. It took me about half a year, maybe 9 months. There will come a day when you wake up and realise she wasn't the first thought of the day. There will come a day when you realise you haven't thought of her at all. And finally, she'll become a thing you remember just every once in a while.
It'll always hurt a bit, it's like a scar, it will never disappear completely. But it's an experience that will shape you into a new being. A bit different one. So embrace the pain, let it hurt and when the time comes - let it go.
It'll be alright even though right now it seems impossible. You'll be fine Anon. Good luck.
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This just happened to me today too. 6 year relationship. I moved to a different state to make more money to help her self publish her book and I caught her in a lie about where she was last night. She spent the night with a dude she was supposed to be studying with and this morning she told me that she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore.
I feel like my chest was hit with a hammer. She's never been like this, Ive only been away for 3 months. I thought we would make it to the end. I'm losing my mind over it
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Thanks anon. I just feel completely lost. She was my first real relationship. We were highschool sweet hearts. I can't even fathom the thought of trying to find someone else
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Ok so I know I should probably go somewhere else for information on this, but what the hell. Basically last Wednesday my gf and I were having sex. I came in her a little but pulled out and most of the cum went everywhere but inside her pussy. She is on the pill, but has been very hit and miss when she has taken it. The day we had sex was the day she was supposed to start her period, she usually is 1 or 2 days late but now it has been 5 days late. I am just wondering when we should be worried about her being pregnant, and if it is a possibility since she is on the pill even though she has not been consistent taking it. She hasn't been acting to worried about it, but she said If she doesn't start it by tomorrow evening she will start getting concerned. Also she has been having cramps and has been really hungry, but she says that is because she is about to start her period. But I dont think that is it, I am starting to think she is actually pregnant. Any input is greatly appreciated.
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>She has not been consistent taking it
It's over, you're FUCKED
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>>17654808
Really? I mean I dont know if I really came in her, I just felt like I did and then I pulled out and I fully came.
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>>17654816
I kinda messing around, but it puts you at a very high stake if you did end up getting cum in her.
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I honestly don't know how to handle guys. This guy I know has been getting really sexual lately and I don't know what the fuck? I originally only see him as a friend, and when he first touched my shoulders / kiss my forehead I felt slightly grossed out. But I can't help but enjoy when he presses my head against his shoulders or hugs me from behind?
He has been using all-known shitty excuses to touch me (like see if my hands are cold, lemme give you a massage, omg how much you weight) and I really don't know how to react. Whenever he does this I just freeze up generally.
Also he is just like this when we're alone - he'd close the door purposefully to make sure we're not disturbed. I need to know if he's just using me for sexual favours or whatever. I don't know how I feel about being a casual slut.
I know I have pretty fucking low self-esteem but regardless, I'd rate myself a 6 in good lighting. I tried to ask if why he likes me but he just didn't answer. I just don't want to be that impressionable sex-doll.
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>>17654798
he's taking advantage of you. i can totally understand freezing up and not knowing what to do, and it's definitely not your fault.
but the only way he is going to get the message is if you pull away, stop him, or tell him to stop.
honestly, he sounds like the kind of guy that will just keep pushing your limits until you wake up one morning only to realise you were raped the night before.
my advice is to avoid this guy.
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I'm so fucking depressed and anxious. But I think living a single day in the mind of the average woman would be enough to make me kill myself. Literally alp they care about is
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He's molesting you. Seriously, girl. He thinks it's okay because you don't react. You have to tell him it's not okay.
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So, /adv/, I need you guys to please show me some good ways to relax and escape my anxiety, but nothing drug or alcohol related.
Pic completely unrelated, lost my old hard drive.
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shameless self bump
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Walking or cycling
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Meditation, can be done anywhere at no cost!
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I am really confident, everybody thinks im funny and nice guy, all the girls love me, but i always get instantly friendzoned. Its like idk how to flirt or something.What am i doing wrong?
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>>17654688
The number one thing that men and women hate is being needy. There's a spectrum, and you want to be in the middle . On one end , you have needy beta who wants female attention so bad he will do anything for it . On the other hand ,, you have the fake "alpha" narcissist , who will get some pussy from women , but is ultimately a performance and his relationships will be shallow at best.
You want to not be needy. When you meet a girl , instead of thinking "I wonder if I will impress her " think instead "I wonder if she will impress ME,". If it's in your hands , you can't be the needy one . If she doesn't want to hang out , just shrug it off and pretend that it doesn't matter anyway (but not in the fuck you naracisstic way) because there are tons of women and if she isn't into you then she just saved you both a lot of time .
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The only person that can put you in the friendzone is you. No one is forcing you to be friends with a girl if you ask her out and she says no. Thats a super beta thing to do. Its also not called friend zoning, its called rejection.
Also, if you're pretending to be friends with a girl in the hopes that she'll one day wake up and realize that she wants to be with you you're an idiot.
If you like a girl, ask her out, if she says no, she rejected you. If you ask a bunch of girls out and they all say no either you're asking the wrong girls out or you're a piece of shit and girls don't like you.
Thats it.
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>>17654729
This too.
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Help motivate me /adv to stop masturbating for about three months before I go to Navy basic training.
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>>17654686
They'll put stuff in your food to keep you from getting erections. Don't worry about it.
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When you get the urge, force yourself to do something else to distract you. A lot of people like to go for a run, which you should be doing anyways. It all comes down to discipline, which will also help you in basic training.
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>>17654705
I used to believe it was all bullshit, but a few of my friends went through basic and said they had a limp dick the whole way through
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20 year old loser wants to move to boston
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How do, 4chan? I have $1000 to my name and a decent job here but with my dads company. I wanna leave this place my family is so negative and unhappy and my girlfriend stresses me out nothing i ever do is good enough.
Just wanna get out and go, but obviously i'm not at the pinnicle of maturity here, but I want to give life a real shot while I can. I just wanna say fuck it and go
What books should I read, how much money should I save up? How do I tell my family and gf?
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Bump, i need this advice too
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>>17654619
Go and live on an organic farm.
You work , they feed and house you.
http://www.wwoof.net/
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>>17654646
Sounds pretty cool. Have you done this?
My coworkers roast me on a daily basis and I never have any comebacks.
What do I do, /adv/? I hate working at my job because of this.
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What kind of job is it?
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>>17654601
a kitchen
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I know what you're going through. When I worked at Safeway a guy much younger than me would constantly harass me. I ended up talking to the manager about this and ended up getting fired. Being told to "suck a bag of dicks" for no reason is just out of bounds. I also worked a construction job and was physically threatened by an ex-con. He warned that when I least suspect it, he would "slit my throat". Give me a specific insult that they've hurled at you. Maybe we can work towards a peaceful resolution.
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Why do women like pain? I'm not complaining. My gf is an outlet for my sadistic pleasure which is inflicting pain onto another being. kek, of it wasn't for her I would probably be killing puppies.
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THICK!
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>>17654563
The woman you are dating is mentally ill as are you. You could both use some counseling.
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Cucking her dog like that.
>High five.
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>be virgin
>somehow have a genital wart on the shaft of my cock
How does this even happen? did I really give myself a STD from masturbation?
What the heck can I do? I don't want to go to a doctor and have them burn my dick
pls help /adv/. This shatters my existence and whatever confidence I had left, knowing that even if a lucky scenario happens, I'm going to have this on my dick. Do normies just go ahead anyway? Will a condom hide it?
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>>17654550
Are you certain it is a genital wart? I mean that's why you need to go to the doctor man. Have them check that shit out.
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You should go to the doctor ASAP
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You cannot get a sexually transmitted disease from masturbation. It is probably a fordyce spot or a regular skin wart. I wouldn't worry about it, unless it begins to spread, at which point you should see an MD.
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What's a cheap/painless way to suicide?
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bump for interest
also even if not cheap. i guess if i was gonna do it i'd have about 3k to spend.
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>>17654534
Yeah, or a way I can just steal my method of suicide.
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if you want someone to talk you out of suicide at least have the decency to be honest about it. We have this thread like 5 times a day.
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Mental health help where I am takes over a month to actually have an appointment, so if you're in distress or maybe need a medication adjustment its either ER inpatient psych ward (can't do this, can't afford to lose this semester at school) or you're fucked.
Right now lets say I'm fucked, I can't focus on my studies, I'm off my meds and no one is helping me they keep on repeating their policies verbatim instead of offering a solution or giving me a lead. I literally do all the work for communicating between doctors and pharmacies. I have to call and hound them to process things. I'm not just sick of it, I can't keep up anymore. I have an appointment on the 12th for "drug counseling" because a year ago I used to smoke pot (been clean for 1+ years) I told them I needed new scripts because I was in a different state and they wont transfer, instead of a psychiatrist they give me a drug counselor and say its mandatory before psychiatrist.
So psychiatrist comes at least one month from now.
What do I do? I was on Lexapro, Abilify, Wellbutrin, and I take Trazodone to sleep. I've been off it for some weeks now, my head has been fuzzy, I lost all motivation second week in, and I can't focus/don't have energy to speak.
I'm tempted to buy adderall to get through all of this. Now what do I do. Family can't help. Too much tension regarding this, they'll blow up or preach to me (literally preach, they're Christian) if they find out I'm having mental problems again.
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And if I can't stay in college its back to living in a one bedroom apartment with five other people. I need to work my way out of poverty, any advice would be appreciated.
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Anyone? Any ideas?
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>>17654510
Does your college's counseling services have a psychiatrist? I'm asking because mine did and I "only" waited 2.5 weeks or so between getting a referral from my therapist and seeing the center's psychiatrist.
Not much of an improvement over a month, but every little bit helps when it comes to getting needed meds sooner.
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I can't cum when I have sex. I've had sex with 6 women and have only been able to cum with one of them. Recently I started dating a girl and wasn't able to finish the first time we had sex. I refrained from jacking off for a week thinking I couldn't cum because I masturbate every day. We had sex again and I still wasn't able to cum. I use condoms, but my current girlfriend is on the pill so I didn't use protection and I still couldn't cum.
I have a fear of getting someone pregnant, so I think that might have something to do with it, but what can I do to fix this? When I use condoms I can't feel anything, and when I don't use one I psych myself out because I think I'll get her pregnant. Two of the girls I've previously had sex with have told me they felt self conscious about themselves because I couldn't finish when I was with them.
Suggestions?
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I usually don't bust the first couple of times I'm with a girl. Just can't relax or it might be because I don't have any muh feels with them yet. Pretty normal. I think it took like a month of sex for me to be able to cum with my current girlfriend, so I think it's pretty normal.
Not watching porn will help too.
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>>17654444
I had the same problem. Edging for a few hours before, combined with weed (or your anti anxiety substance of choice) did the trick. I even tried Cialis but it didn't work since there wasn't anything medically wrong with my cock, it was just a brain thing
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>>17655256
Edging?
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Long story shot, gf of two years has a dad who is a psychopath. He beat his dog for eating food off the table. And hit my girlfriend's sister in the face for cussing at him. He does a lot of other shit that makes me think he has ASPD, but these are the biggest two.
He is dangerous when he loses his temper. I told my girlfriend if we have kids they're not going near him. Obviously this was a problem. It's weird though, because she is so critical toward her mother. Her mom is obviously not the greatest mom in the world seeing that she married a psychopath, but every time her mom messes up my girlfriend holds her accountable. But remarkably she has an excuse for everything that her dad does. She literally thinks he is perfect and a great father, even though she didn't see him for 8 years of her childhood. She's 18 now. It really blows my mind. He used to always start shit with me, talking bad about me to her even though in the two years we've dated I've seen him twice and he has refused to talk to me both times.
When I introduced myself and stuck my hand out to shake he just said "hi." and looked away.
He is a literal mental case, and it seems like a fucked thing to do to dump my girlfriend who is my only loved one in my life because of how her dad acts. But if we have kids I know I can't let them be around him.
I don't want to leave her for any reason other than this. But it seems like such a big fucking reason and even though I've known about it for two years, it's been on my mind a lot more lately.
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>>17654443
Stay with her, since you're young, don't push it. But if the relationship gets more serious in a few years, make sure she can have a rational discussion about this or you may have to drop her. Girls with daddy issues are bad news. Just don't knock her up, whatever you do.
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>>17654565
She is completely irrational about her dad. She thinks he is some kind of Saint, I've never seen anything like it.
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>>17654443
If he touches you or your gf, call the cops. If you witness him hit someone, call the cops.
Don't let him kill someone one day.
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>got with really cute girl from my uni on friday
>making out, feeling each other up
>wanted me to come to her place after the party
>got my hopes up, never had a ONS before
>didnt happen because two of her girlfriends had to stay at her room to wait for a train at 5
>she knew that but decided to tell me just after we left
>disappointed like never before
>dont know why it hit me that hard
>she promised we'd make up for it the next day
>wanted to meet up at a party the next day
>seemed cold and distant on facebook when I messaged her
>at the party she ignored me until she finally told me she wasnt down anymore
>said she was just drunk the day before
>walked off while i was still trying to talk to her
>got really drunk
>went home
>messaged her today to ask why she walked away
>bad idea, I know
>she ignored it
I've been feeling like shit ever since even though I feel like it shouldn't be that big of a deal. She's out of my league and I wont get with her again. I'm just not used to being rejected like that. Feels fucking bad man.
How do I cope with that? Am I just a huge pussy?
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>>17654392
Her friends probably just saved her from making a drunken mistake and she gave you an excuse about the train just move on
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>>17654412
Fuck, this sounds so reasonable. We kept making out after she told me though...
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girls like to feel like things are happening in the moment, and they are just going with the flow/getting carried away in the passion.
once you lose the momentum, and you haven't already hit a benchmark (like already having fucked) it can be hard to get it back.