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Everything is working out for me, Stellar career. social life is fine, girlfriend in sight, got money but I just feel.. nothing, except this undefined something, that I would categorize as some kind of pain. When I was younger I always thought when you grow up this feeling will go away, but nothing changed. Therefore I see death as something beautiful. In my view it's some kind of salvation from the embarrassments of existence.
Is this normal or am I just depressed?
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How old are you?
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>>17650916
Channel this feeling into poetry or writing. Maybe it will give you a spark of interest.
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I am 28 years old.
I do not know what I want to do with my life.
Everybody in my family is a doctor or a lawyer or something. I liked science a lot at one point, and went to school for STEM. Now I am 50% done with my PhD.
However, I am depressed. I am not really motivated. I do not like the people in my field. I do not see myself working with them until the end of my life. The reason I am doing my PhD is that my parents pressured me to do it.
So, I am going to be 30, have a PhD, and no idea what I am going to do with my life. This is scaring the shit out of me, and making me very anxious. What do I do about this?
tl;dr: I had a very sheltered and easy upbringing. My parents pressured me to get a PhD in something I thought I liked many years ago. I now do not like it, do not like academia, and have no idea what I am going to do next.
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You should finish your PhD at least. Right now, you're not logical because you're depressed and you have no back up plan
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>>17650911
I am planning to finish the PhD. This is nonnegotiable!
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>>17650917
Then it looks like you'll be a scientist. Eventually you'll stop being depressed and you'll be happy you're a scientist
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Is there any reason I should be shaving my armpits?
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I'm 20 and never have.
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>>17650864
Mine smell worse with hair.
I don't know if it's a scientific thing or just me.
In general, trim it short enough that there is no bush in sight if you're wearing shorts sleeves.
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>>17650864
i do it because it makes putting on deodorant easier
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>ask out girl at College
>she seems very interested, says yes
>tells me shes free next week on the weekend
>tell her to meet me at place X, saturday, 3pm
>she agrees
>all next week don't talk to her, but she gives me a big smile and I smile back when I see her
>fast forward to saturday, 3pm, place X
>wait 15 mins
>no show
>call her, picks up, as soon as I start speaking she hangs up
>texts me back saying she cant call but asks me whats up
>tell her we had a date 15 mins ago
>says she thought it was tomorrow
>says shes sooo sorry
>tell her im busy tomorrow (even though im not)
>she says we should meet up next week then
>tell her im also busy
>says okay and that shes sorry again
Did I do the right thing? Why the fuck do women actually do this fucking shit? She could have just said no, or called me to cancel at ANY fucking time, but no, she has to waste my time like this
I can't get behind this thought process, any ideas guys?
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Why did you even call her? It was obvious she is not interested. Just move on.
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Mistake 1: you didn't text her the entire week. makes you look uninterested.
Mistake 2: You would think that by age 18, people would learn to "confirm a date 24 hours before meeting, especially if the date was set a long time beforehand." But no.
Mistake 3: she said she would meet you tomorrow and you lied and said you couldn't meet her tomorrow
Mistake 4: she asked to meet next week and you said no, even though you wanted to
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Women are only stinky fuck holes for reproduction.
Your mistake was treating her like a human being. Text her back with One word: Cunt
She'll be all over your beta ass .
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How do you meet women in a medium sized town with not much to do?
Recently moved here so not too many friends. There isn't a lot of activities in town. Talked to a few women, and a majority of them do two things. Bars and Beaches. At the same time, apparently approaching women at these locations is bad.
I tried online dating without much luck. Tinder just annoys me. Most of the women have these "parameters" that I need to meet as a guy. There are these guides online on how to maximize my profile. Yet a majority of women don't follow anything like this. They say what they want, do a few selfie pics, and a sexy pic; boom done. The whole online dating scene seems horribly one sided.
I work 9 hours a day (with no one my age). So I don't meet many people during the week.
So what do? Is cold approaching women at the supermarket my only chance?
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>>17650821
>tinder
fucking degenerate. Find a wholesome girl
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>>17650825
But how?
I mean not a lot of choices.
Week of tinder, only ~50 women showed up on it.
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Do you have hobbies, OP?
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Hi /adv/. Here's my problem. But first you need to know a few thing. I'm a freshman in college and I'm 18 yo. My university has to buildings in different cities let's call them city 1 and city 2. I live in city 1 and I have classes in city 2. And I get the bus on the university building in city 1 to city 2 almost everyday. Now the real problem begins: in my last high school year I fell in love with a girl. Never had the courage to tell her how I feel and when the year ended I thought my life was fucked. But in the beginning of this college year I saw her in university in city 1 while I was waiting for the bus. Even though she was far away and I thought she wouldn't bother with me but for my surprise she waved at me and approached me and greeted me and we talked about school and learned that her degree was in university 1. It's been like this every Monday. No girls has been like this to me. There are lots of other exemples of her sympathy towards me. But I feel I need to make a decision to tell her how I feel. But I'm afraid as fuck to ruin our relationship. Don't know what do. Should I go Allahu Akbar and tell her?
Pic related my country if it helps.
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>>17650818
>No girls has been like this to me.
You don't love her. That's called a "crush" in English. It basically mean you like her even though you don't really know her.
Don't say anything about "love" and try to be friendly.
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>>17650824
It's not because of that that I love her. I'm sorry if I misunderstood you. I interpreted her behaviour towards be as if she liked me too. That's why I'm haven't decided if I should tell her or not. I want to be certain.
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>>17650844
Ps: I'm afraid of rejection.
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Am I clinically depressed?
>no interest in anything
>ignoring friends' phone calls
>addicted to porn
>stopped all hobbies
>don't leave the house
>low to no appetite
>sleeping over 12 hours
>can't concentrate on anything
Can someone help? I've tried Zoloft and Lexapro, but has bad reactions to them.
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>>17650792
>addicted to porn
abandon that first
>don't leave the house
>sleeping over 12 hours
>can't concentrate on anything
>stopped all hobbies
go out and run, increase the time every day
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>>17650792
>I've been prescribed Lexapro
>Lexapro is mainly prescribed for Depression and Anxiety
>Do I have depression
Unless that Lexapro was given to you for anxiety only then yes. You've already been diagnosed with depression if they were giving you Lexapro
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>>17650792
this is good advice: >>17650804
And mine:
>addicted to porn
Get rid of this first. Important.
>stopped all hobbies
Force yourself to do some sport. Martial art/sport if you can, as it helped me tremendously.
>don't leave the house
As anon said, go running. No faggy special clothes and measuring times, just run until you can't and then run a bit more.
>low to no appetite
Fixed via running and sport.
>sleeping over 12 hours
Fixed via running and sport.
>can't concentrate on anything
That I can't help with.
what did I do wrong? Had a friend who wanted me to fly over and hang out with her. She planned so much for us to do. Yet when I got there she flakes the first day. Then the second day we hang for like 2 hours then she said her friend needed her and she left. So I was sick of it told her I was there to see her and she apologized for not spending much time with me but she would make it up to me the last night.
So we go out, hang out at my room for a bit. We fuck and it all seemed so nice. Then all of a sudden after staying another hour she said she had to go so I walk her out. I was upset but I didn't show it then. Well she was handsy when saying goodbye to me and then left. An hour later she said I should have came with her to go out some more. I said I didn't know that's what she was going out to do. And she said she dropped hints. So I asked where they were to go met her and didn't hear anything. Then about 4 in the morning called saying I should have came to meet them cause she had fun with me and wished I was with them. The fuck?
So I got pissed and said the whole reason I came was to hang out with her and she then got defensive and blocked me. What the fuck did I do wrong?
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I guess no one can help? Or just no one really cares...
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>>17651027
I just wouldn't bother with this girl, save yourself the time and just move on. We have no fucking way to determine if what you did caused her to act the way she did, but she seems pretty immature.
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>>17650787
What are you trying to get from this girl?
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How to stop being edgy and egocentric teenager? I make stupid and retarded assumptions like "all girls are sluts" etc. and wholeheartedly believe in them; I think that all must be handed to me on a silver platter: golden medal at school, university grade, job, even love; I can't imagine myself being happy not just from some expensive toy, but from trivial and simple things; I don't have any willpower.
I'm 16, after a year I have to choose a university, after 5 more years will be an adult. I'm not ready for this.
Please, help me.
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The thing is you are already an adult at 16 years so stop bitching.
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>>17650784
you're not happy, because you achieve nothing by sitting and waiting
you have to learn that a reward for good work has much more worth than sitting around and getting everything shoved in your ass
why don't you take a break before going to university and do some parttime job to get a feel of the real world
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All girls are sluts. Jesus, take a walk out on the town and they'll be offering to suck your dick
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Hello Guys,
So basically I broke up with my girlfriend again (this is a second time). We have relation through distance which probably have a big impact on all that. First two years were perfect, however during thet hrid year she became more cold then ever and all that (I was always the one that was showing a feelings). At some moments she was more like my care taker, that was telling me what I can or cannot. However I still love her, I also have complains, that she behives that way or another.
And right now when I move to new city in UK for my studies and she is back in our home country to continue her studies, she just gave up. She said that the magic is gone and all that, but simillar situation was during the first time. At the beginning I was angry, but then I messaged her that I understand and I want her to be happy. And she was all like "You are such an inteligent guy and all that, I am so pround of you" and she also said that I am amazing and she still loves me, but we need to give each other some time to think over and find those things that we loved each other for.
Do you think it is still worth to fight for, love that we have, cause when I think about here I anly see the positives in her.
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Guys, cmon, please,
I will also add up that she is not a pearson that would cheat on me, I know it sounds naive, but that is true.
Also during my stay in UK, I had many mood swings that I dont want to be here, because of the, like whole mentality of ppl here, and the atmosphere. Even though I know many ppl, I am having most fun when I am coming back to my country when there is a break in academic year.
What should I do...
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>>17650775
If she does not feel the same anymore trying because she pities you is a dead end situation where neither of you will be happy.
I know that it is hard in the situation in which you are in, but try to accept that it is over. Focus on other things in life than your girlfriend, develop yourself as person.
Good luck, brah
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Well this is a thing, cause as she said "we need time" and "I still love you" and the things like "I think somewhere deep there, that we will be back together". She is making a piss out of my brain, I am pretty romantic guy, so I cannot just give up, I mean I can but I need to hear opinions and consider everything 1000 times. Well I offered coffe once I will be back to think it over, but she said "lets wait now". I know she has an exams right now and a paper to write cause it is her last year in the Uni, maybe that freaked her out.
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How can I be more dominant?
I was thinking of dirty dominant things to say or do if I ever get laid but it all sounds forced.
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>>17650735
You can't be more dominant. You either are dominant or you are not. Or if you are that small minority, you can switch.
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>>17650743
So I'm stuck as a submissive fuck?
Why couldn't I be born gay/female then, fuck.
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>>17650754
You are purely sub? If so, that's some shit luck, mate. Not because it is something bad inherently, but because dominant girls are rare as fuck. If you are something in between, you are alright, most of the people are there, that's vanilla.
I'm switch personally, the rarity of dominant girls is killing me as well and I'm bored out of my head being dominant 24/7.
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last days I change my seat color, so I was hoping for some color advice. What color should I paint the fuel tank for a better vintage color combination ? I'm also asking about the side panels
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halp please guys!
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>>17650667
What do you mean by vintage? That could mean anything from 1920-1980
Is there a particular decade you want your colorscheme from?
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>>17650826
like a vintage cafe racer.
I like chrome but what about the sides panels?
What does /adv/ consider a "good" salary for someone in their late 20s?
Helpful if you say where you live, as I know a salary in a smaller city isn't going to be the same as NYC.
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If you're in your late 20's and not making at least 50k a year then you chose a poor career.
t. Idaho
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in no consideration of any country or currency, one that covers your expenses is more than enough.
find time, make extra cash on the side and bust a nut doing it if you have to.
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Small town in the UK. I'd say £35k was doing "good".
That would be something like $50-60k (tacked on some extra for the benefits you don't get).
I made some beer battered chicken breasts, and one of them looked pink although the outside was brown, I've had a couple of bites of this one (they were on 4.5 out of 5 on the skillet with veggie oil for 5-7 minutes)
Should I throw it back on?
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I'm trying to into cooking for /fit/ reasons so it'd be good to know. I'm mean, I'm not retarded, Ive had chicken, hell I've made it before, but never beer battered.
You can see in the picture some of them came out alright and some didn't cook the same way. I figured the wetness of the batter would be enough to cook them if the veggie oil dried up in between rounds of cooking the chicken
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That is clearly undercooked, low temperature wait for oil to get hot enough and leave in it for longer and you should cut the chicken im smaller width . Now all you can do is wrap in foil and leave it in the oven for maybe 20 minutes
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>>17650664
That is cut in half from a big piece already
So should I check them all and put them in the toaster oven?
And should I be worried, I had a few bites
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>Parents used to abuse me as a child
>Dad beat the shit out of me (fist, belt, cloths hanger to the eyes, remote control, etc..)
>Mom called me a loser, told me not to make my dad angry
>Younger siblings (I'm the oldest) never got hit, but this continued until I was in college
>Always compared to my younger sister
>Dad was always upset that I was always quiet, and never stood out in school (no friends) while my sister was the total opposite
Anyway suddenly they have a change of heart. They're being extremely kind to me. They're offering to pay the rest of my college tuition and they even gave me the biggest room in the house. They also got me a car.
I think this is because my sister turned out to be a total brat. She does drugs in the house and is completely rebellious. The cops were called twice on her for threatening my parents and she dropped out of college after a year.
I don't trust them at all. How am I supposed to react to all this. I was kicked out a couple times and I lived with my grandma. She's always been there for me and offered to let me live with her, but I feel like I'm just being a burden. I hate my parents and my sister, but I'm poor. I don't believe they'll actually pay for the rest of my tuition and I'll eventually get kicked out again. I can already tell my dads getting pissed because I don't really talk to him or my mom when I'm home. I just lock myself in my room.
I know they want a relationship with me, but I don't want one with them. However, I really need a place to stay and they are offering to pay my tuition. What would you do?
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You are gonna get quartered and disposed of.
Better live elsewhere.
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>>17650635
Move in with your grandma and get a part time job.
Your parents sound like fucking psychos. Get away from them. Your health and sanity is more valuable than money and a car.
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>>17650635
Well, you have two options. move out or slip into a role. Act like you were interested in a relationship with them and exploit them as much as you can until you can stand on your own. Imagine this satisfaction you will have, when they gave you everything and you just leave and ignore them. How pissed they'd be.
To play that role won't be easy especially because of your past, but I promise you, dat feel you'll have will enhance you.