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She asked how you feel about that and about her. You told her how you feel about her. You did good.

>>17687522
That calmed my nerves so much thank you

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>tfw new love
I'm jelly, OP.

Mental illness. Next question!

>>17687488
Because whatever they did seemed like a good idea at the time

>>17687488
>>17687500

This basically is the root cause of it all.

Drinking, drugs, etc.

you fucked up, familia.
don't really see a way out of it, or how you're going to explain to your gf what happened.
in the mean time, just suck up ass big time.

Should have gotten your lady in on it, mate.

If you have chat logs talking about your plan you should probably show them to her. maybe show her your kik account that was made just to troll the cam whore.

You need to come clean as fuck for this to not backfire anymore than it already has.

How should I apologize, she doesn't know I sent her $. I feel like if she knows I sent money it looks like I was serious about fucking her.

Shameless self-bump because im really concerned about this

There's plenty of advice online about curing phimosis. It basically amounts to steroid cream + stretching your foreskin a little at a time in the shower. Don't get circumcised.

You need to fix your medical problem before you can move forward in relationships.

I also have/had phimosis and lost my virginity at 22

If you stretch it vigorously every day (use steroid cream), It might take a month or two to stretch your foreskin to the point where you can completely expose the glans, and then roll the skin back up again. when you first reach that milestone rolling it back up will be tricky. if you wait too long while the foreskin's rolled back part of the shaft will swell due to circulation cut off. so don't attempt this if you think it's still too tight. if the foreskin's loose enough it will roll back during sex. swelling happened to me the first few times I had sex with phimosis. both with condom and without. one time I fell asleep while having drunk sex and when I woke up my dick was swollen--that was really dumb, but was still able to roll the skin back up.

to get the foreskin back over I had to do this motion where I alternate hands to roll the skin of the entire shaft upwards, like I'm climbing down a pole. trying to grab the foreskin near the glans with my fingers didn't work.

Is it wrong that the parallel universe hypothesis sounds more rational than any of the other ones OP posted?

>>17687376

Did you watch the newest AVGN or something?

I have the original books in my garage. It's Berenstain, you're just too into a meme.

>>17687383
I'm actually thinking there may be something to the third one he posted except it doesn't explain why there aren't any copies with "Berenstein" left.

>>17687349
man, if you put up with bad behavior all you're gonna get is more bad behavior

>>17687349
>Make moves to stabilize long term future
>Bitch, start fight, escalate like crazy
She may not even really know what she is doing, but you do, don't you?

>>17687349
Did you ever ask her if that's what SHE wanted?
What gives you the right to change the way she lives without asking first?

Is this continuing or what exactly is your question?

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>>17687343
So nine years pass, and you think to yourself "this isn't too bad, right?

I wish, /adv/. She was quiet for a purpose. She was sick. Sick in ways I never knew. Everything we would talk about, her mind accepted as fact, not fiction. She invented a husband, whose name I never thought to ask her mother of, only the constant dread that I was the catalyst cause. She would speak about the aliens, about the world falling to pieces, the climate, everything. She wanted me with her. She wanted me to move to be with her.

About, say five months ago, I learned of her fate, and it's haunted me for the hours since. Every day I learn a bit more, another piece of the puzzle falls into play. And I ask myself the why, like every griefer does.

I want to blame the social networks she was on, communities like Tumblr, for example, for her gender identity questioning. I want to think they led her to believe she was autistic, that she was so broken beyond what she really was. But I know they were just the same as me. A catalyst.

I know that she became a junkie, a synthetic junkie, and her abusive behavior of OTC medication in '08/09 may have been an indicator that she needed help. Before she departed, she was taking spice, and hallucinogenic drugs, vanilla weed off and on. She had medication, yes, but she never took it, as her mother would later tell me.

I know I can't fix it, /adv/, and I certainly can't bring her back. I can't replace the hole in my heart. But something there is still aching me. Guilt.

Was I the reason? Did I cause it? Should I speak to her family about her delusional behavior? They already confided in me so much, and trusted me in grieving. I can't be the one who led to all this, can I?

There was in fact one other person she talked to, for a short while. And a church she had messaged. The former I could never get word back from, but I know now she was hearing an "angel" urging her to join the "stars".

Am I overthinking it?

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>>17687361
So my question is a question, and a set of questions.

Was most of this my fault?
Was there something else at hand?
Did I feed into all of it or am I just paranoid?
Do I tell her mother, who will celebrate her dead daughter's birthday real soon?

None of this can be the grieving process, can it?

>>17687337
What's what?
It's just a healing wound.

? Looks like a burn.

>>17687337
Late onset harlequin syndrome which will have a highly accelerated peeling very shortly

>rip

>>17687325
You man up and move.

>>17687326
It's expensive as fuck

>>17687325
You feel like being in Atlanta is valuable because you don't have it.

Big city life has its perks but also its faibles.

Recognize what you have now then balance against what you could.
The bottom line is a career.
Can you manage that in your town?

Money and specifically the generation of money is the ultimate decider.

How many litres of hard liqour do you drink per week?

Also, FourLoko is shit. If you're going to be a drunk, do it right.

Your friends can probably tell you that. Ask them flatly, do you think I drink too much? Also, in my opinion, if you think you drink too much. Yes, you are most likely drinking way too much.

>>17687322
He/She stated it was shitty.

>>17687329
>He/She stated it was shitty.
I can't imagine being dry enough to want fucking FourLoco.
Unless someone gives it to me for free.

Just let time flow by.
That's all there is to it.

Time heals all wounds.
It goes faster if you chase someone else, though.

I'm still in the healing period myself, but I know that what I feel is transitory.

>>17687307
Sounds like you didn't give the relationship an actual chance. People have doubts about their relationships all the time, but that doesn't mean you should cut them off because of that. Doing that only makes you a lonely person.
Getting over him will take time, especially if you had true feelings for him. If you still want to be with this person then reach out to him. Who knows, maybe he'd give it another go. But you won't know unless you try. Better that than wondering what could have been.

>>17687610
I think I completely fucked everything up, he probably won't give me another chance, and if he does he'll never respect me for wasting so much of his time.

And even if I have feelings for him, the differences and problems we have are insurmountable, hence why I want to get over him rather than try to make it work.

I'm not much of a sleeper, never have been, never had the time either. But I sleep twice a day because I do feel tired and I just prefer it this way, so you could try it. I sleep 4–6 hours during the night, feeling rested for work so I can perform well. And then 1–2 hours in the evening, right after work so I can focus on what I really want to do without feeling like a zombie for the rest of the evening/night.

I definitely think how you are sleeping is not really good, because my brother used to sleep ridiculously long like that 10–17 hours a day and he was always tired. I think that sleeping schedule makes you even more tired. You should really get your sleeping pattern checked up, because you can be sleeping but not getting any rest, and then you might need pills to stop you from twisting/turning/worrying in your sleep so you can actually get proper rest.

Oh and keep in mind it's not going to happen over a night. You might have to try two or three weeks to establish a pattern.

>>17687298
Some people can function on like 5 hours of sleep. I think 5 is the minimum. I have workaholic friends that do this regularly. And on vacation to. A good friend of mine, when I was living in Europe, found a cheap flight out, and wanted to stay, like 3 days. She would be spending a grand total of 24 hours traveling, and then it was 4 hours to and from the airport. I was like, why are you going to spend like a grand, on functionally one day of travel? When we lived in Washington State she wanted us to drive into Vancouver for the day. I was down if we were going to spend the night, but her schedule didn't allow this. We would have spent more time in the car than exploring the city. I know military people who function like this too. You have to be very efficient, energy wise to do it, but some people are just like that. Not me. Even if I get 8 hours I still want a nap.

>>17687279
You need perspective.
And that can be achieved by talking to someone.

A therapist helps. In that regard.
Or a good friend.
I like to talk about my problems with my gym buddy when we're lifting.

Anyways, you're at the "Easy mode" part of your life.

You think "Ugh, I'm failing now so I may as well just die because I can't handle any more".
That's wrong.

You're surrounded by friends and you don't know it.

Next time you're in class, smile and talk to someone next to you.
That's it.

You're never again going to have someone who has something so important (i.e. that class) in common with you.

Go to all your stupid student events.
There's plenty of drinking events.

Talk to people.
Make friends.
Do your homework.
Go to events.

You just won college.
You feel sad because you're judging yourself against wild expectations of movies and shit.
Judge yourself against what you are right now.
What are you right now?
Jerking off at home on a Tuesday.
Fine.
What are you tomorrow?

>>17687290
I'll look for someone but I inherently hate people from the get go. I always find something wrong with them and it just grows every time I see them.

Education-wise I think I'm doing well but it isn't giving me any pleasure. My relationships with others doesn't either and social events make me feel very awkward. I always feel like leaving them.

I am studying film so I want to be a director but it feels too far away. I know it won't make me happy but it gives me something to have.

It's 7:18am here. I've been listening to muse and on 4chan all night. I will probably wind up doing the same thing tomorrow night because everyone in my flat has classes every day all week and leave at the weekends, not that I spend much time with them anyway.

Lastly, one of my biggest expectations is to have a relationship but every girl I meet seems to have the brain of a 15 year old and the guys have massive egos. I have two people I like and they are in Japan and Germany. Both people I have never met. One I have had no contact with at all. Though, I feel if I contact either too much I will find faults and it will turn to hate as it always seems to.

>>17687304
You sound conceited as hell.

1) You "hate" people from the get go.
If someone isn't liked by everyone, it isn't everyone that is the problem. It's the one.

2) You're studying film. You think you can make it in a business that accepts 1/100 000

3) You think all the women you meet are childish and inferior.

You sound like those teenagers who complain about how modern music sucks and how much they like the Beetles.
Realize now, when you're young and when it counts, that you are nothing. You are just like everyone else. What you see and think, everyone sees and thinks.
If you can do that, you can actually make it.

>>17687270
Kick his ass outa home

>>17687270
Next time he threatens you or tries to hurt you/your mom, pin him down and make him realize that you're older and bigger. Do it enough and eventually he'll be afraid of you and stop

>>17687714
This.
Manipulate the fuck out of him. He will hate it.

Lesbo to the rescue!

Okay, seriously, here's the secret. No BS. Say hello.

Does she look nervous? Just nodded back, didn't say anything? Leave her alone, she's not feeling it.

Did she smile, say hello back? Conversation is go. Keep it light, weather, make jokes, just a topic or two and then go back to minding your own. Repeat a few times. Mention you really enjoy talking to her. Did she balk? If not, wait a day and invite her for a coffee or to lunch. Somewhere public with lots of people. NOT DINNER which is dark and scary. You're trying to show her you're not some creepy stalker. If she accepts your lunch invite and it goes well, ask for her number and tell her you're interested in maybe seeing where things go.

Look them straight in the eyes for a bit. Once they notice and look back, smile. If they smile back, approach.

>>17687288
Probably the best advice youll get. My last gf spent a while figuring me out at first, she said she couldnt tell if i was a 'fuccboi' or not.

I was.