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>>17688714
Develop other interests and visit other boards

Or just visit boards you already like instead of those two

>>17688714
Go outside, talk with actual human beings and experience reality.

>>17688714
learn how to masturbate the right way

No nigga, don't do what I did. I've been feeling like shit for 8 months along with being pretty bloated. Go to a doctor as soon as possible, but be a stubborn bitch like me

>>17688700
Just drink a fuck ton of OJ Until your shit turns orange

Sounds like you either have a hernia or some kind of heart condition. Better see a doc, stat.

just ask again a few weeks later, chances are one of them isn't lying, or wait even a few months, she could have other shit in her way

>>17688665

i like to try
>im getting sushi this thursday. make time. join me.

about 1/3 of the time i get a
>hahahaha okay ill see what i can do

and then they do show up.

>>17688697
Good thinking chad thank you

>>17688585
uh, its not a relationship so resist acting like it is and fucking relax and go on the date with no expectations

>>17688601
i haven't acted like it is, and I've let her message me first. i have other dates lined up either way, so i havent behaved in a thirsty manner.

uh kys

>>17688612
good for you so don't sweat this on then. you don't care, right?

>>17688580
My first time, the girl didn't know I was a virgin until I told her. Literally just chill out and b urself. Wash yourself. Doing something like lightly biting the lip, playing with her ear might make it seem like you've done it before.

>traveling for online sex

u do u m8

>>17688642
I know her personally and I'm not that far away so its not quite that haha, also I have the hookup mechanics down pretty well, the only problem is the actual intercourse that im inexperienced with.

>>17688649
Oh, it's no problem, that knowledge is tucked away deep in your reptilian brain. Just put it in once she's lubricated and hump away. Alternate tempo, but if she likes a rhythm stay with it. If you want to last, either drink some alcohol(not too much!) or take short breaks from humping to kiss her or something, and don't forget to breathe. Switch positions every hour or so, if only for your experience. I'm kidding btw, maybe every five/ten minutes or so. Don't stare at her eyes, or at anything actually.

>>17688576

try putting up a front to pretend like you care.

>>17688584

Easier said. I'm very upfront with people and i hate beating around the bush or faking interest. At the same time, if there is someone im interested in ,whether romantically or not, im all in.

I just wish i could be like that with everyone. Is this sounding like a non-issue?

>>17688600

Also, one reason i feel like i broke up with my ex is that i wasn't close to her friends.

I tried to like them but they didn't interest me.

You will need far more than that.

While I can't see your GPU, both your CPU and RAM is severely outdated for anything except light browsing. If you want to do stuff like edit at some level or play somewhat demanding games save up at least 500$.

>>17688536
get a new windows

Probably going to want minimally 4 gigs of RAM, 8 is pretty standard now but 4 will probably let you run on low/mid settings. If you get a better cpu (i3 or i5 tier) you can probably forego an independent gpu if you're running on lower settings

Mind you, I have no idea if your current hardware will support those upgrades, so you might want to save up for an overhaul or replacement

>>17688532
I should mention I'm a guy (with zero female friends by the way).

>>17688532
there are a few reasons guys have female friends. 1) They are gay. 2) They like one of the girls and orbiting and praying the girl will like them one day and have no time for any other female or male competition.

>>17688532
they relate to females, if they are betas.
if its an alpha, its because he might see you as competition or inferior

Personally, unless it's a LDR, I try to use text messaging/facebook messenger/whatever for almost the sole purpose of setting up when and where we'll next meet.

If you've arranged your date, you don't need to talk about anything else. You'll do that in person.

>>17688525
What is a LDR?

>>17688529

Long distance relationship. Obviously, I should expand that to include initially getting to know people I meet online such as via Tinder.

Shameful bump

Fuck it, another self bump

https://youtu.be/hj85QIw2c0U?t=52s

>>17688504
I've never had this sort of online drama, but only 2 of 3 friends that went away/were flaky were ever dependable. He might have some issue with someone you are friends with, or he is having some personal changes. Do you advocate strongly for or against any positions? I would forget him t b h. He's not worth the stress.

>>17688422
Have you purchased her a vibrating clitoral wand? F here and personally I cannot cum without a vibrator on my clit
My first vibrator changed my life. I could do stuff for hours and not cum.

Get a quality one (not off Amazon) with at least 3 power level settings (not including patterns)
Trojan Pulse is good for a first wand and it's at CVS.
Eva is good for hands free, but regardless you need to get a wand.

>>17688422
have you encouraged her to masturbate in front of you to get off either before or after you whip the dick out? Mine now doesn't cum right away from intercourse so I put my dick part way in and she masturbates and gets off, then I resume and drop my load

Huh

>>17688411
Shameful self-bump

>>17688411

there is very rarely a 'too soon'. there's just skipped steps.

a guy who goes straight for making out gets told they're moving too fast.

but if you just start by kissing her on the cheek and working your way up to it, you can still get laid in that same night. you just dont skip the steps.

if you tried the little steps like a kiss on the cheek, a playful touch, and made it to making out and its still 'too soon' she probably jsut isn't into you at all.

but in my experience 99% of the time, if you start off with light stuff, it makes them crave more.

its the same reason a back massage leads to a good fuck. they go in thinking its just relaxation, but it works them up. a kiss on the cheek, an innocent holding of their hand, etc. gives them the excitement they need to want to do more.

>>17688425
Will keep little things in mind.

I'm thinking it's got to be at least some interest, because we stopped talking on not the best terms, but was after I apologized for how I acted when she turned me down later on. Like, I'd think after 2.5 years, there must still be something there.

>>17688390

Maybe a compromise? Either a trim or a partial shave might work for both of you. Talk to her about it.

>>17688390
That's crazy, right up there with feet in my opinion. I hate it when my girl gets slightly long hair down there, I end up spitting out hairs if I eat her out.

Maybe try to start her out with a landing strip and work up from there? That's a good compromising start. She'll still get to be OCD about trimming and grooming it, and you'll get your tuft of hair.

>>17688390
What do you like on bushes? You could put your mouth down there??

>>17688376
continued

I didn't get it at first. I thought they meant "I don't want to be held responsible if you're upset", then that evening when we spoke again I realized it was more like "I don't want to have any responsibility to console you or be there for you if you're upset."

Then my SO told me that I was lucky to have them, and I asked if they were lucky, and

>"I thought I was at first, but things aren't the way I thought they'd be."

That really struck me. I couldn't believe it. I felt like I didn't have value to them.

They said that we could be together if I got better, and they just can't give me that kind of attention, and I'm too destructive. How it's my fault the relationship is going sour because I make something out of nothing and start fights.

So then I realized that it was over. I can't be a monogamous FWB to my SO. I need love and support and affection, not someone who will run away because I'm at a bad point in my life right now.

I'll admit I'm depressed, but I just wanted my SO to be there for me during my time of need and give me that support I craved so badly. Not run away and not want me when I'm depressed, then ask for me when I'm happy. I think I deserve better than that. I said this, said goodbye, deleted every trace.
So here's where /adv/ comes in.

Really, am I in the wrong? All day I've been thinking about this. I can't help but wonder if the relationship failed because of my insecurities and how I just couldn't make due.

Is this for the best? Am I better off finding someone who can be there emotionally for me?

I just want my SO back who treated me good when I was happy. It's like a constant war in my head of "It's your fault, it's not your fault."

I know it'll get better in time, but I just want to go running back and apologize and beg for forgiveness. Please tell me what you guys think of this. What should I do?

Sounds like you and your SO aren't right for each other. It isn't inherently wrong for someone to not want to handle what they consider an emotional burden, but neither is it wrong for someone to seek support from the person they're with..

It just sounds like you got frustrated. Apologising immensely wasn't really necessary as far as I'm seeing.

It looks like you have a few options:

- Break up with SO and find someone that suits you better
- Try to learn not to need to vent and speak emotionally (would not reccomend for you, it's difficult and could make you apathetic to people who are like you)
- Find a friend you can talk to in this way

Convincing your SO to meet you halfway clearly isn't working.

>>17688392
>>17688398

You added more. My advice now is to break up.

From what you've said, it's not your fault. You need something and your SO isn't going to provide it and has no interest in providing it. It's not even personal at that point. Clearly your needs are clashing with each other.

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>>17688360

try not to over think things. some people like to be 'stylish'. for guys there arent that many options without looking gay or like a try hard.

I work in an office, so i wear a suit. i like a unique look, so my shirt has a few extra lines sewn into it (pic related).

and if / when i post this pic, several people will come out and call me a faggot for it. they'll call me a faggot because my belt is slightly off center. my tie is too bright blah blah blah.

if you wear anything that isnt T shirt, jeans, jacket, or basic suit, men and even women will think of you as edgy or try hard.

so dont over think it with style. find what looks good on you. if you find something a little 'different' that you like, go for it but try not to go overboard.

but leaving the house with black jeans and a black shirt isn't a bad thing. especially if you have the body to pull it off.

whatever you do dont try experimenting with too much 'unique' stuff while fat though. it will only make people realize you are trying hard and distract from the fact that you are losing weight.

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>>17688388
idk man i think i really need to change how i dress. i unironically used to dress like this. and apparently everyone laughs or makes fun of how these guys wear their clothes. i thought normal all blacks were okay

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>>17688360
http://putthison.com/

Read this. Ignore the really fancy shit, and focus on the basics that this site presents on colors, making sure clothing actually fits, and appropriate styles for appropriate situations.
>Anon, there's a lot of really expensive shit on their, I can't afford this!
That's for jerks with loadsa money. Ignore that stuff, and just search for stuff like jeans, dress shirts. and college to find articles that will the most immediately usable without dropping too much on good clothes.

If you don't want to read that stuff, here's the basics
>Whatever you buy, be it a jacket, shirt, pants, shoes, socks, belt, hat. scarf. underwear, sweater GOD DAMN ANYTHING make sure it fits you nicely without being tight or loose. Unless you want to go with some weird fashion style but you don't seem like you want that
>Dress shirts/button down shirts are a good way to look nicer without going full suit and tie
>Jeans are okay if you're dressing casually, but always make sure they fit. Certain types of jeans drape your body in different ways. Look them up to see what you like
>Sneakers are okay when you're dressing casually, but try and get something nicer if you ever need to dress semi-casual (like for a date) or formal (like for a date). Good shoes can be justfied in being much more expensive than shirts and pants because of how much longer they can last, and how much price can actually fetch better quality

Remember, in order to dress well you need to find what you like, and then find out what looks good on you. And that doesn't always mean overly expensive, or overly unique and hipster, or overly bland but nice. You really need to find out what you like to see people wearing, and then try it yourself.

>>17688427


You say you're going to the gym and losing weight, so as long as you build up a good physique you shouldn't have to feel to worried about looking like those guys so long as you have less /fa/ style of dressing