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>>17686955
What

get your school words outta here and talk regular

Oops

I conjecture that "no less" is used like as "as" in these sentences.

>>17686944
She's into kpop and finds Koreans very attractive

>>17686944
Yes, your girlfriend is a Koreaboo.

They're known for being human forms of idiots who type, "xD" a lot and crave attention.

Say no, tell her no. If she fights you over it, you've lost. Koreans are complete assholes with no morals when it comes to girls, so unless she randomly gets a brain, you're fucked anon.

>>17686953
This Anon is right. One of my friends from High School dated a Korean guy, long story short nobody knew he'd beat her on a regular basis for 2 years. She took to drinking heavily to deal with it... But regardless of ethnicity I'd be worried Anon.

Get a better job
Save up
Move out

Self-pity is going to get you nowhere. Grow some balls and get your shit together

invest what little extra income you do have in either trade school or community college. go from there.

sell drugs , save up for a pound of weed and go from there

I'm guessing you cheated on him?

>>17686895
He is hurt and needs space. He even recognizes that. He is upset with and disappointed by you, but not vilifying you. That's very mature, and you should respect him and his needs. Let him know that you understand and didn't intend to hurt him, but will give him all the space and time he needs-- even if that is indefinite.
However, let him know that he can always come to you as a friend if he needs for help, and that while your feelings are no longer romantic, you do care about his wellbeing.


How's that?

>>17686895
>but I feel kind of bad.
You should.

Anyone?
...
Please?

>>17686882
i'm going through something similar. to me it sounds like fear of failing is your biggest problem. what's your endgame if you do fail and drop out? is it really the end of the world or is it something that you'd rather not do? not saying that you should accept it, but to look at how it may impact your life realistically and work to prevent it if it crosses the threshold of mattering to you that much.

i'm just in undergrad so maybe it's a more lauded approach but relative to me to an employer--you have a degree and you've been accepted to get paid to work/research/study at a university. maybe for a more senior level position you'd need more experience to override the shortcoming of dropping out but i'd say you're more accomplished and stronger than you may realize as least to me.

also i am terrible at advice i should not be on this board.

Are you an undergraduate?

I was in the same situation 3 years ago.
>in school for pharmacy
>Stressed, full time, 3.2gpa, 3 jobs
>dropped out because I realized I didn't love the program

>currently in Business Admin program for MBA
>full time student, studying everyday, all A's, get passive income from baby business I slapped together, 3-7 hours of sleep not including 2 hr midday nap, As or Bs on tests
>I regularly meet with my professors, future professors and a few who aren't my professors but help mentor me
Regular meetings with professors says "hey, I'm serious and I want to know wtf we're going over next week.

I'm obsessed with economics, international business, and marketing. I get an average of 150 textbook pages to read each week but I get it done.
I also have a calendar with appointments and due dates to get things done.
I also have all my classes planned out for the next 2 years, projected savings planned out, but then again I'm real analytical

You don't like what you do
It shows
What do you want to become?
What's your plan with your degree?

embrace your inner degenerate anon, it's the only way

>a man complaining his gf is a pervert

Maybe you should come out of the closet.

Enjoy and let her teach you! You will love it.

Bump please I need help

>>17686868
straight answer him, ur 19 be a fuckig man

>>17686971
I shit you not I'm afraid of opening a can of worms

I dunno man, I'm also a sad as fuck Canadian and I don't know what the fuck to do with my life. But working out does make you feel like you've accomplished something and could give you a confidence boost. Going downtown could be fun or at the very least a distraction.

As for dating I wouldn't really know, I always get embarrassed and run away from romantic situations.

im the same way man, my job is very solitary as well, delivery driver.

i come home and workout, play guitar and fuck around on the internet. its actually pretty damn awesome most of the time but yes it does get lonely. in a relationship though i wouldnt be able to do that stuff as much so idk if its worth the compromise

>>17686864
I'd really love to go downtown to church and meet some pretty ladies. Although I've never been in a relationship with another woman before..

Working does make me fill fulfilled, the only thing im looking towards is building a new computer in december so I am saving...

>>17686821
That read as if it came from the heart and while there may be a thousand "better" letters this one is yours and seems to be your sincere thoughts and plea for forgiveness. I say send it as is.

>>17686843
Thanks bro

>>17686821
What a fag

I've always rolled with the idea that if you look for a partner, you'll (almost) never find somebody worthwhile. The people that you'd truly want to be with are just going to come into your life at the most unexpected moments, and you can't really count on or plan around that happening at certain points in time or when it's most convenient/desired. If you see somebody you fancy, try going for it, but don't force something to happen because you're either lonely or you're trying to conform to what society says you must have already done with the opposite sex to be "normal" or whatever.

>>17686853
Thanks for the advice, Yeah, I'll probably just go with the flow and see what happens, I was just doing that anyway, We'll see I'm just a bit confused because this is a first for me,

>>17686853
Wrong. You have to actively make an effort at the right times, otherwise you'll end up like /r9k/.

>>17686788
Send him a text, email, or other form of written message outright telling him that you're a hair away from revoking his invitation. Explain to him that you were trying to be kind and inclusive by inviting him, but his behavior since the invitation has been completely unacceptable and if he does or says anything else inappropriate before the party, he better not expect to still be welcome.

Basically you put the ball in his court, making it very clear that you can and will ban him if he fucks up, but he has to knowingly make the decision to fuck up; it's not you being an arbitrary dick bag. Having it in writing just makes the whole ordeal verifiable in case for whatever reason this extends to other people at work.

>>17686809
That's a good explanation.

Go with this OP.

>>17686788
Why not ask him nicely to keep it a bit to himself because you don't want to deal with those bitches complaining all night?

>>17686774
you have to be yourself amigo

>>17686774
Self improvement. If there's something you don't like about yourself, work hard to change it. What makes you have low self esteem?

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Read this.

https://raouldify.files.wordpress.com/2011/12/2011_1203-the-flinch.pdf

Hey man. I can't answer your question but can I ask you one?

What are the effects of psych drugs like? Mood/cognitive behaviour, etc.

I'm considering asking for a diagnosis and treatment but don't know if it's worth it.

Personally, none of them ever really did anything for me except Wellbutrin and ADHD. I was on many drugs over the years starting in college and generally speaking they made me a zombie that could mentally feel emotions, but not physically emote them, if that makes sense or in the case if the bipolar medications drove me mad and I gained a crap ton of weight I had to shed or in the case of benzodiapines they did absolutely nothing for vast amount of dosage sizes then adding one tiny size more to the dose and I lost weeks of my life due to memory loss, but in the time I didn't lose I was still anxious. They never fixed anything just tried to cover it up then hit me with tons of temporary and permanent issues. My experiences are only mine though they may treat you differently, like for some benzodiapines completely dissolve their anxiety or antidepressants cured their depression. But, some of the most important questions I didn't ask before it was to late were ones such as "can I fix this myself", "is this a nurture or nature situation", "am I in an environment that's causing these". I'm hoping my issues are coming from mostly ADHD and the other that aren't can be changed without meds. I was also adopted and have between 10-20 biological half sibling because my biological parents were literally rabbits with each other and divorced and found multiple other rabbits. to reproduce with. As impossible as it sounds some of us found each other over time and we all turned out so differently especially the ones that also got abandoned and got adopted. My mother admit to doing drugs when she was pregnant with me and the first two years of my life I slept 22 hours of the day then woke up cried drank formula and went back to sleep till I was finally adopted by my family. So, I'm probably also screwed up from being a drug baby. Each persons case has so many factors, but be careful.

>>17686929
Thanks for sharing that heavy stuff.

It's the questioning myself that hurts. Looking at my childhood, family, environment and the people I am with just gets me down. I can't stop my brain perfect-recalling traumatic events out of the blue and so I go through life constantly warn out emotionally.

But thanks for the info. I'll see a counselor before I look at drugs.

bump pls

>>17686713
First play around with it. Try and get a feel for the notes that correspond with each fret. Try and turn those simple notes into familiar melodies. Then move your way into taking on a song. It can be easy. But learn it from start to finish. It will feel rewarding.

>>17686713
Read music theory (tldr edition)
Learn scales by memory
Learn the chords to each scale

Congratulations, you can now play epic solos using scales.

>>17686700
Bump. Please help. I don't want to lose another job.

>>17686700
I had a friend who lives kind of far away not got a job nearby so he crashed here if he didn't feel like taking an hour long bus ride at 2 am
He crashed for three days without clean clothes and didn't shower until the last day, I actually told him to go fucking home and change and he left. Got into a bus, got off after two stations and came back because he didn't feel like it, at least he showered because he smelled like shit
He crashed again on Saturday and had to be there at 11, I woke him up five times and at the end he left 12:30
I wasn't surprised at all when the next work day he got the boot, you are allowed to fuck up from time to time if you understand that after a fuck up you work twice as hard for a while until nobody is mad at you anymore not give up and sink deeper into apathy
He had all the help he could ask for from everyone, I would have kicked his ass until he woke up but he lied and told me he got told to come later, I can't honestly feel sorry for him after that

>>17686719
>you are allowed to fuck up from time to time if you understand that after a fuck up you work twice as hard for a while until nobody is mad at you anymore not give up and sink deeper into apathy

Thank you for the advice. My start at this location has been rough, but I'm committed to being a good employee from now on. I got the job because of my stellar hard work at another location. My job duties are different at the new place. I'm hoping they'll be lenient and realize it was an error.

Do you think they'll buy that I didn't know the envelopes were unsealed?