I have a problem with wanting to flirt and get pictures from

>>17690367
>am I cheating?
Maybe, probably, but you are absolutely an asshole.

>I feel like we have a strong bond
Must be one hell of a bond when you can't even talk to her about the sex you both have.

You know, that basic stuff you ought to know being "experienced in relationships".

Hey op
Care to explain how you find woman online and flirt with them ?

Different people have different definitions of what constitutes "cheating". The fact you have to ask whether it's cheating suggests that you know it's wrong - you're just looking to validate your choices by not defining it under the term "cheating".

How would you feel if the tables were turned? Say she felt you were rubbish in bed and went online, flirting with men and asking them for dick pics? I'm assuming you wouldn't stand for it, as many people wouldn't.

In my opinion, you should speak to your girlfriend about the issues you're finding in your sex life. You run the risk of using these pictures/chats as a replacement for real life intimacy, meaning the physical relationship with your partner will never recover or be any good.

I would stop your chatting/pic requests for a while and really focus on what it is that isn't working in your relationship. If it's her confidence, then this is definitely not going to help her. If it's that you just don't have chemistry, that's a bigger issue. If you don't find her attractive and you're waiting for her to get to "a healthier weight" then that doesn't sound promising either.

The first year of a relationship should be nothing but passionate fucking, trying new things and loving physical contact with your partner - sounds like you have much bigger issues at hand that you need to identify.

You are being a total dick by the way.

Yes it's cheating. Especially because you're going behind her back about it and not being honest about the underlying cause.
You're a dick.

>>17690425
>>17690451

Both pretty much nailed it. There's nothing left to say. /thread

>>17690367
it's cheating and you knew that before you asked. you question should have been, how do I justify cheating behavior so I don't feel as guilty. You are already part of the way there. 1. Your gf is fat 2. Lackluster sex life I assume you blame your gf for

I am a guy and I'd say it's cheating, all you really have to is ask yourself how you'd feel if she was getting nudes from guys, or even worse talking to a single guy for a long time.

There is emotional unfaithfulness as well.

>>17690367

Fucking communicatiiiooooooooooooon. So many threads here are fucking retarded because the relationships involved has no communication.

Talk to her about your lackluster sex life, her weight, your dissatisfaction, maybe not all at once, maybe not in a mean way, but bring it up, somehow.

Pisses me off to see people resort to cheating because their "needs arent being met" but they refuse to address the issues and pretend everything is a-okay and "we have a strong bond".

>>17690747
>because the relationships involved has no communication
that is because most of the interaction is via a text and they have no idea how to have a live conversation

>>17690367
porn is diff than looking at ppl u know online via nudes. one is a social norm and the other is not. imo neither should be the norm. if u tell ur girl she will leave. good luck

OP here. I would like to mention that she has sexted with a guy before. And when I told her about what I did she said she didn't consider it cheating.

The reason I feel bad about it still if because I told her we both should consider it cheating and we both blocked the people we talked to. She was hesitant.

And I have talked to her about the sex issues. She's a virgin. We haven't fucked yet and blowjobs are extremely rare. When I tell her she blames her body image.

>>17690855
And the first thing which came into your mind was chasing other skirts? Wew lad.

>>17690887
>>>17690855 (You)
>And the first thing which came into your mind was chasing other skirts? Wew lad.

I haven't chased after anybody. I block the girls once I get what I want.

I don't send them anything of me, and I don't shit talk my gf to them.

If the roles were reversed I would really care, as long as she wasn't doing it over spending time with me.

>>17690419
>Hey op
>Care to explain how you find woman online and flirt with them ?

I just use whisper. Most girls in the bdsm groups are super easy. Just talk to them for 5 minutes then ask to see what they look like.

>>17690855
Dump her. Find a chick who statisfies your needs.

>>17690899
>>>17690855 (You)
>Dump her. Find a chick who statisfies your needs.

I'm not dumping her. Like I said I'd never cross that line of actually doing anything and while I know I'm immature right now, I can grow up and be better later.

There's a lot of her anxiety and stuff that I help her through. While I am an asshole over the internet I try to actually treat her much better.

I just have an issue connecting what I do on my phone to actual cheating. I would tell her I started again, but now I'm afraid of her dumping me. I think my issues are deeper than she's just not satisfying my needs. I'd most likely so this with anybody im with. And since she has done it once before I hope she can maybe understand whenever I do decide to tell her.