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Tell her she's a dirty nigger.

yeah, because you have embarrassed yourself by ruining the conversation

It depends on how interested you are in her

Tinder and similar apps are fairly low-stakes, you can just keep pushing until people outright block or ignore you because no one is taking it seriously anyway

Eventually you will luck out with someone

Move to a monastery in Tibet.

>>17759513

I'm in the same boat. Cept I finished school and still have that debt. I have credit cards that are in collections, medical bills that I'm harassed about.

Truthfully I'd say just end it. But I was weak and decided to get help. It ended up being a waste of time but at least I tried it.

So go get help for your depression if you can, I've seen meds and therapy work for some. Maybe it will work for you? And in the end if that doesn't work then you can end it knowing you tried. I've got one more thing I'm going to try and if that doesn't work I'll finally be able to give up. In the end it doesn't matter if you wait a little bit more to off yourself.

Go into the woods alone and naked, if you don't survive you don't deserve to live.

bump of loneliness

You're living in a really racially polarized country right now. I'd suggest therapy.

>>17759497

From what I understand this is pretty common. People always feel some level of uncomfort towards/among things they don't know and are unfamiliar with. If you haven't talked much with white women then they're a mystery to you. Similarly, there are plenty of white women who don't know a single black guy and feel the same way towards them. The only ay to really get over this is to talk and to get to know some. It's okay and nothing really to worry about, because it's an issue anyone can work on. The base line, as cliché as it is, is that all people are pretty similar once you get to know them. Some ate cool and some are shitty.

Yeah sort of. It's a low-effort activity that lets you do other idle things at the same time, so it's perfect for procrastination.

In this case the music isn't the problem though, it's us.

me right now, unconsciously avoiding studying for tomorrows exam
im burying my own grave

ive just bought some new speakers, the drop of this song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBwdpzIBBaw is blowing out my brain

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I'm kinda the same way, cept i use large speakers and the volume knob to escape

>>17759235

speak for yourself, I spent over 150 bucks on paintings this week, I'm spending another 165 bucks on two more paintings next week, and this January im paying 250 for a commissioned painting .

probably gonna comission another one in the spring.


all that being said, you should consider getting a second part time job, drive for uber, etc.

>>17759252
Thanks anon! I might get more hours

Invest in stocks

>>17759222

How you feel about fatties, women feel the same way about you. Honestly, I would date a fatty or an ugly girl is she had a good personality but it would feel weird being with them because I'm wayyy out of their league

>>17759238
Good for you anon.

Cunt.

find something to live for other than romance? you're already admittedly shallow so what does romance really matter if its only about how they look?

ergo, you can look beyond romance and find all the other stuff life has to offer.

I need answers now

I'm thinking about going straight to where she lives and trying to talk to her in person

I really like her and I really wanna keep being around her
And since its mid day on a sunday I'd think she would be there

You have to be 18 to post on this site.

>>17758965
(cont.)
When I confronted him, he said I had nothing to worry about, but I told him I didn't believe him, and we spent the next 3 days fighting. Finally, I was able to read some messages, and I confirmed my fear that he was cheating on me... with his barely 19 year old coworker. In her messages she sounded very needy and complained about her home life with her alcoholic parents, her terrible bouts of depression, and her trust issues*. They've only been talking for a week and in his messages he told her that he "felt a spark" between them. I called him to come get his shit out of my apartment. When I handed him his bag, he started crying and said he was sorry. I told him he was going to be late for his date, and he expressed that he didn't think it was going to work out anyways and that our breakup was inevitable. We cried for like a hundred years because we were both exhausted at that point, I told him we couldn't be friends, and he went on his way...

What I'm wondering is, is this a case of "the grass is greener on the other side" with this chick? Do you think he's actually going to be able to maintain a healthy relationship with her? One of the main reasons we had problem in the beginning was because we coudn't spend enough time together. He lives in his mom's basement, she still lives with her parents working full time, and I eventually got my own place. I just tried so hard to keep him happy, and it angers me to think that this bitch (who knew about me, and got her friend to encourage him to leave me) will get a "new and improved" version of him and get all the happiness he owed to me. Do guys like this ever change? Does anyone have any experiences like this? I don't want him back, I'm just still going through the hurt of the breakup, I know he's shit and I'll get over it.

People like that don't change, and the people who stay with them become damaged beyond repair I a way. He will do the same thing to this new girl. He may even come back to you pleading for you to take him back. Do not do that. Find someone who is just as emotionally available as you.

>>17759055
I know he's going to destroy her if he does continue to pursue her. He was completely in love with this one girl who told him she didn't want him, and I was his rebound. It lasted about a month before he left me because he missed her too much... and they never even had a relationship. I wished I realized how toxic he was at that point, but I've learned a very important lesson, and I'll be much more careful next time.

I think you should

>>17758870

Life is meaningless and full of suffering.

I'm considering it.

lool life really isnt miserable when you consider the fact that there's always a much more worse situation bro.


why do you feel like this?

>>17758700
met a qt Brazilian chick on pof. and she stole my phone.

>>17758709
Around Brazilians, never relax...!

If you have good experience, please pick any of these questions (or all of them) to answer:

>Do you find these sites efficient or a waste of time?
>How many messages (on average) do you send to obtain a rendezvous?
>After how many rendezvous do you have sex?
>What's your daily schedule on these sites, and how many girls do you contact at once?
>How do you manage it if too many girls answer simultaneously?
>Do you prefer to send "canned openers" or custom messages? Short or long?
>Do you find them better for one-night-stands, or longer relationships?
>Do you target just everyone, or are you very selective?
>What's your take on Tinder vs. more classic dating sites?
>How much time (and how many messages) between the first message and a lay?
>Free sites or paying sites?
>Condoms or not?

Impart your wisdom to me, /adv/.

Same. I'm 23 now and have 17k in the bank and an extra 200k from investing and not being retarded with my deployment money. I came to the realization that my dreams are more important than anyone's problems. Women come along with money, and being sure of yourself and your place in the world

>>17758688

>Women come along with money, and being sure of yourself and your place in the world

Lel
Keep telling yourself that kid.

>>17758697
I mean he's right. He just forgot to mention she will take yours as well.

If you put on loud music (classical music works great, but big band jazz also works) you won't mind the noise.

move out shitter

>>17759560
i can't i'm too poor to buy a new house

One thing that makes me anxious is anxiety about being anxious. I've found that it helps to do everything very slowly, even if it's something urgent. Living in slow motion will change your life, as it changed the life of most Japanese people.

>>17759563
this very much- i actually would like to possibly move to japan when i can afford it :-)

>>17758616
I guess my job is the biggest source of anxiety, not doing much to change that at the moment though, also my fear of failling

>>17758546
How much time does it take for an accurate diagnosis?

>>17758546
Why are psychs so blue pilled?

I had a lot of issues and spent a few years in therapy. I got good advice but I also got a lot of shitty dangerous advice. Typically being, share your feeling with women. I got burned way too many times and can't believe I was gullible enough to fall for it. I feel like they betrayed me.

>>17758557
Depends, some symptoms are so clear that it takes hours or days. Sometimes it takes weeks or months depending on the patient and the problem.

Breath meditation

>>17758531
Any specific kind in mind like has this helped you
Also it's not a relaxation thing for me it's more like I can be calm but have some really absurd thoughts

honestly you could try distracting your self with other shit, i think a lot too and the most random life bull shit ever too i either listen to music read shit or just hang out with my hilariously argumentative family.