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>>17757722
You're sad because you loved her and she pushed you away. I'm going through something like that too, and even though those words are what's happening, it doesn't help.

>>17757764
Right but her 'love' for me couldn't have been genuine right? She told me she loved me very early into the relationship, like week 2. I told her I didn't feel comfortable saying it, not because I didn't love her per se, but because I didn't know what love is/was (pretty sure I still don't know). But I told her anyway because she wanted to hear it. Maybe it's like when you hear something so much you start to believe it? Maybe her telling me she loved me multiple times a day eventually broke me down? I always felt like she was trying to convince herself rather than me. I also felt like she had an "agenda", I even told her this within the first week we were together, and periodically throughout the relationship. She would send me big ass text messages saying you have my heart forever, I will never stop loving you, I want to have a family and get married and go on spontaneous dates even when we're in our 60s, etc etc. Do normal people do or say this shit within like 3 months of a relationship?
Sorry for the wall of text this turned into a vent post.

>>17757783
I knew a girl for 4 years before we dated. We weren't too explicit all the time, but we essentially planned our lives together. Things change, shit happens. Life happens.

Maybe neither of you knew what love was. You were clearly friends, and losing a friend hurts. You clearly liked her to some degree, so getting pushed away hurts.

All I can do is shed light on the situation. I can't take away the pain before it's time. If that was possible, I wouldn't hurt anymore either.

>>17757706
Stop caring. Simplest best way I can put it.

Will you understand?

Probably not.

There’s no point because there’s always someone else, everyone is always hung up on some ex or past relationship, or she's got a sugar daddy, and she's banging these three other guys on the side. srsly tho
>>17757723
This 100%.

>>17757723
ITS hard not to care when she is constantly mentioning the theme

>>17757687
you can't lose all of them, if you never had any of them.

>>17757687
Whore.

>>17757690
You can loser their interest if you give more attention to one specifically

>>17757668
How about just not be a fucking faggot to begin with

>>17757683
Not the words I would use but yeah.
Why even be in a relationship if you plan on fucking other people behind he back. You'll be back here in a few weeks posting threads about her cheating on you or why it didn't work out. It's called karma, asshole.

>>17757684
I like being in one sided relationships

If she doesn't like it, she can move out. She's 20 and an adult
>inb4 she can't move out because XYZ
Then tough shit. She has to deal with it

>>17757651
I just think it's fucked up since she has to go to bed hungry sometimes because there's literally nothing in the house to eat cause her parents are food jews or are being passive aggressive or some shit

>>17757661
Is it fucked up? Yes, I agree with that. Is this something she is incapable of doing something about? Nope. Like I said, she can move out.

>>17757621

You don't.

>>17757624
Ok

>>17757621
stripping or porn

Women who do that are socially inept. Fuck, anyone who says one thing, but expects others to conclude that you meant something else by it, are altogether incompetent a-holes who are so autistic at social communications, I'm surprised they can talk.

I never understood this about white people.

>>17757612

Slava Hohlyandie.

>>17757627
Пo-киpиллицa, пoжaлyйcтa.

>>17757611
Girls are naturally gonna break eye contact. Its just a nuance of their gender. Rarely will a woman hold your gaze as long as you are willing to give it. The fact that she looked repeatedly is her clue to you.

I'd say leave class so you end up walking out the door together and try talking to her, offer to walk her to her car and get to know her. Do this a few classes, or based on the response you get from her less time, and then ask her for her phone number or to hangout outside of school.

>>17757611
>looked away over the span of ~3 seconds with a kind of panic look

I look at ugly people this way. I can't help myself it's like OCD

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>>17757620
Yeah I already know she thinks I'm attractive, I plan on talking to her tuesday when I have class

I'm asking if you can base this triple look off any insecurities she might have before talking with her, rather not waste my time

>>17757625
I'm not ugly so it doesn't matter

>>17757610

Ideally, you would count calories and know exactly what you need to take in. This will give you confidence that this "I am hungry" feeling is a 100% fabrication of your mind.

Easier said than done, I am too lazy to do it. Basically, eat well, and don't have any shitty snacks around. If you are hungry, Go eat fucking carrots.

If carrots aren't appealing, you aren't actually hungry and just want something tasty to fill the time.

Can you eat too many carrots? Sure. Better than eating shit food though.

>>17757616
I was about to make hot pockets but stopped myself lol, its hard going from eating like shit and whatever I want and changing my lifestyle, its not like i hate good food like veggies and fruit and whatever, I just like bad food more, its easier to get.

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>>17757610
Sometimes your body mistakes the feeling of thirst for hunger. Actively try to drink a glass of water when you feel hungry instead of eating something for the next couple of days and see how you feel.

Water, mind. Not soda or gatorade or shit like that.

>>17757586
well I know one important aspect from the one night I managed to pull this off with an old ex of mine.

Make the girls fuck each other first or the whole thing will be so fucking awkward. Basically you have to get them comfortable with each other sexually before it will work. So get wine or beer or w.e and put on music and everybody get loose.

Then do like tandem massages where two of you massage another and then switch to the other girl etc. Nudge on the other girl and your gf to touch each other inappropriately during the massages, to kiss each other, etc.

If they aren't turned on by each other it will go like the other experience I had when I was younger and they will basically fight over you and your girlfriend will be a total bitch about the entire thing, trying to beat her at pleasing you.

I hope this makes sense, make them into each other and want to fuck each other... then you get fucked by both of them since you have the proper apparatus to get in there buddy.

>>17757605
During the "interesting talk", I suggested that they should fuck each other first. I don't want to make my girlfriend jealous by joining in too soon.

Tequila is probably going to be the preferred drink.

The tendem messages could work, both girls should be into that. Im going to try that for sure.

Both girls are very loving and caring. I dont think they will fight over me, but I catch your drift.

>>17757660
Its more of a competition sense of fighting, where your girlfriend, during the sex, realizes that she is now letting another girl fuck you and if that girl fucks you better then her, you might leave her for the better fucking girl. Just avoid that. Use things like "baby show her how you do it" and "why don't you put it in her mouth for her honey" etc etc.. catch my drift?

Let your girlfriend be in charge of helping this woman explore your body with her, instead of both of them competing against each other.

>>17757553
>I think it unwise for people to make lifelong commitments without knowing what they are getting into or out of.
But you did it anyway when you got married. This doesn't excuse your cheating.

>>17757571
Well he kinda is excused if she doesn't find out

>>17757553
DO NOT TELL HER. JUST BURY THIS DEEP INSIDE AND DIE WITH THIS HORRIBLE SECRET. THINK ABOUT HER, SHE WILL BE CRUSHED AND HAVE TO START OVER. HER WHOLE WORLD WILL COLLAPSE AROUND HER AS THE MAN SHE THOUGHT YOU WERE DISAPPEARS IN ONE STATEMENT.

BURY IT.

FOR YOUR KIDS.

It seems he's just scared of opening up to you, for fear of seeming like less of a man.

>>17757536

if you're having this issue and hes already your husband, then you've made a very terrible mistake.

>>17757536
Sounds like he's simply comfortable just being in your presence. Why should you have to blather on about shit that doesnt matter to fill the space of silence?

>>17757535
Plot twist: she was the minor from years back.
What they had was true love. You should stay out of this.

No she wasn't. But she knows who it happened to and it was when they first started going out

Victim broke silence which is how everything surfaced. That's when this girl found out.

>that means now that she'll have to pay me for her ticket... which I find highly uncomfortable.
What in the world is wrong with this? Also are you going to see Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them?

Just ask her if she wants you to cover her ticket or not. Tell her what you told us.

>>17757481

Buy the ticket, don't ask her for the money. If she pays you for it and you want to be a white knight, you can say "You don't have to" ONCE. If she asks why, just say "Why not, I want to pay for it." If she insists on paying, let her pay.

>>17757476
On 4chan

Have you tried a mirror?

>>17757476
Anime clubs

Why though?