What are some good hobbies to pick up?
I'm trying to learn new things to get out of my personal slump.
When I'm not working (full time), I play video games, surf the net, and lift weights during my free time.
I will admit that going to the gym is feels good and I enjoy playing video games; however, I feel empty in life...
Context, I'm 27 years old and live with my parents.
>>17757812
Paintball
Snowboarding
Fishing
Hunting
Etc.
Etc.
Find the one you have the money and willingness to do. Paintball was awesome for me because its basically IRL vidya but its very expensive
>>17757812
THE MASS CONSUMPTION OF MECHA SHOWS
>>>/m/
>>17757812
> motorcycle riding
> guitar playing
> sports
> rock climbing
> martial arts
> etc
Manly attractive hobbies
I'm too upset to even deal with your lies and treachery.
>>17755132
In real life, I am a 25 year old man with a full time job and almost perfect grammar.
On 4chan, I pretend to be a freshly-turned 18 year old who is nostalgic for media and products that my generation did not like. This includes watching Camp Lazlo, Ben 10, or My Gym Partner's a Monkey for television. For video games, I say that I played Pokemon Pearl when I was eight, and how I have fond memories of playing Skyrim after a trying week of middle school.
>>17755175
Forgot to mention, I do this to make other people, especially those on the more childish boards where everyone screams "REDDIT" feel old after they compare the release date of said thing with the current year and realize, to their horror, that I am in fact a legal adult.
I make sure to use shitty grammar, not TOO bad, mind, but poor enough to make it sound like I'm an obnoxious kid.
I love weekends, especially at home.
Less people to deal with.
I keep going on dates from Tinder and they're all failing horribly. I haven't been on a successful one since 2014.
When I meet the girls I don't know if it's in my head, but they don't look happy, like they don't smile when they see me, it's always just a stone faced greeting.
I met a girl a couple nights ago I had amazing chemistry with over 2 months of text, then when I greeted her in person she was like "hug", gave me a quick passive embrace, then kinda just stared forward and didn't really look at me or even smile until the drinks started flowing.
She was chatting, asking questions and stuff, I felt I had a really nice time with her and really fell for her (I'd been immediately infatuated with her pics already). But then at the end she was just like "it was nice meeting you" and didn't say she wanted to see me again, didn't say anything about talking again. And since then she's completely blanked me.
Another girl immediately was saying she can't stay out long. Another greeted me stone faced but then after some drinks did kiss me, did talk the next day, but then when I spoke about meeting again she stopped replying.
I don't understand what's happening, it's been ages since I had a girl smile and greet me.
>>17752581
Well seems strange. What pictures do you have on tinder?
>>17752581
Try to change on your next date,on how you are, make yourself looking more confident,don't be nervous, be funny, show interest, and be the one who says it was great,I hope we will meet again. Also,don't talk about other girls(I guess you already didn't,but I just say)
>>17752581
Maybe the pics are more flattering than you are irl? Maybe it's the image that you emit? Girls can be materialistic and shallow as fuck (unsurprisingly) and they won't even hide it when they're disappointed.
Not too important, but just out of curiosity. I have a 2015 Jetta and i live in the south so everybody has a truck so i cant really ask this question here. What do you guys think of my car? Just looks wise. I like it myself, it is just that i dont hear any feedback from anyone else. Im not just looking for satisfaction so be honest. Pic is the same as my car
>>17760273
Something a middle aged dad would drive. Would barely notice it. (From Germany, so perception in the South of Murica is probably somewhat different)
Why the fuck would you ever care?
It's a generic 4 door sedan. It is "a car"
It is my first car, that is why i care. And yeah i live in southern US
Goddamn, I just fucked my ex. We broke about about 3 weeks ago, and I don't know how to feel. I feel depressed, empty, and sad......why.
that's why they say break contact completely. you just reset the feelings.
plus, you let her feel good again for a short while. it's easier for her to wing herself off you if you let her do it.
It's ok but not best to keep doing long term. Break ups suck and that helps ease the pain. Take it from a guy that stayed close with almost all exes, it doesn't end up well.
>>17760255
It started as just hanging out, but before we parted ways we had a looong hug that turned into fucking. I ate her, she sacked me, did a cool down before I came and then fucked her. Goddamn I think that's exactly what happened before we broke up.
Just had sex for the first time. 2 weeks ago, maybe 3. didnt use a condom because she didnt want to. Pretty sure i pulled out in time but the thought is still there. She just finished ovulating today and she has had mild cramps but she said her period usually doesnt start for another few weeks. If she ovulated does that mean she is not pregnant? Nervous a little about this... Btw this is my first time posting. Pic not related, just the first picture i saw
>>17760202
pro tip: after nutting inside a girl and there's a risk of pregnancy if you bite her clit (hard, but not hard enough to draw blood) it will drastically reduce the chance of fertilization
Thanks for the tip, but you didnt answer my question...
>>17760235
you're good, don't worry about it, she's not pregnant. i've been in this exact situation several times myself.
How do you adjust to living in a place with little sunlight?
I grew up in the deserts of the southwestern US where it's sunny all the time, nothing but sun and no clouds.
Now I've moved to the Pacific Northwest and at first I thought "Yay finally clouds" but I hate it, I hate the clouds, I hate how it gets dark at fucking 4:30 at night, I never see the sun, I feel trapped and claustrophobic like I want to go to fucking Mexico or something to escape this dark miserable hole
What do you do to cope with a lack of sunlight?
Winter depression is a thing. Take vitamins, go visit a sunnier place whenever you can, and just... get used to it.
>>17760185
isn't the early nights just because it's winter or coming up to it now? i mean, it's not going to be dark at 4:30 during summer, surely. not in USA?
>>17760193
Thanks for the advice. I guess I'll go get some vitamins
I mean more about the psychological effects of never seeing the sun - I feel like I live in perpetual night since I literally only see the sun about 1 hour a day (I work inside in an office) and only see outside if I pass a window or at lunch
My long term boyfriend has depression.
When we first got together he was fine, and then eventually he started being depressed, and went to counselling and on antidepressants (which he really didnt like).
He eventually just stopped going and he's not suicidal or anything, but is really negative and unsatisfied with life and work and everything. This makes him quite draining to be around, and he's nothing like the funny, happy guy he used to be, but he denies it's depression.
How can I make him get help? I love him so much and if he doesn't, I'm not sure I want to be with him anymore because it's really emotionally draining for me, but I also don't want to be an ultimatum bitch. I want to support him but also still be a girlfriend he doesn't feel a ton of pressure around.
>denies it's depression
unfortunately you can't make people do anything. it has to start with him admitting and accepting that he is depressed. then he needs to want to help himself.
don't give him an ultimatum, just let it be clear that it is difficult to be with someone with depression, especially if it isn't temporary (i.e. they aren't even looking for help, therefore they can't get better), and you need to take care of yourself as well.
how long has it been? if it's only been a few weeks or a few months, i think maybe try and stick it out a few more months, supporting him as best you can. if he still won't admit it or seek help, you need to protect yourself and leave him.
this is coming from someone that spent 3 years with a woman with depression. she broke up with me, in the end.
Have him find a different therapist or someone he can talk to. You can help but sometimes you cannot truly be their everything. I can't tell if this is just something recent or long ongoing, but you can say how it makes you feel without giving an ultimatum.
What happened recently to him?
>>17760052
Because he has been to counselling before, I think he does really realise that's what it is, but because he can't remember what he was like before all this, he denies the seriousness of it being a problem, he just thinks his personality is that.
It's been about 2 years since he gave up on the antidepressants etc.
>>17760073
He really liked his old therapist but because of work he had to stop going. It's definitely long ongoing. Nothing specifically happened recently, but he works really hard and I know that makes him tired and angry but he has no ambition to study (even though he is next year).
Do you ever get over the need to "sow your wild oats" or whatever it's called?
I'm 25 and I've broken off two serious relationships so far because I got anxious about staying with that person forever. I enjoy meeting new people and flirting and the occasional one-night stand. I don't particularly like this part of me which is why I want to get it out of my system.
Do you eventually get tired of fucking people with no feelings involved and partying and shit and get ready to settle down? Has anyone here experienced that?
>>17759959
I personally can't help you since I've been in one relationship so far and recently broke up and am 28. I never had that "play around phase" and don't care to I guess. I have a married friend though who I think... without a relationship he felt empty. He found a woman and they don't have very much drama between them and so he settled for her. He's pretty much what women want though (tall, olive skin, plays guitar like a madman) no homo. I know he banged a lot of women before her and maybe he went through what you did. If you aren't ready don't do it.
>>17759959
Femanon perspective, but oh totally. I fucked everything I could up until about 27. Even leaving major relationships because I was afraid of settling down. Now, almost 2 years later, I know what I want; sex isn't as attractive to me as personality and intellectual/humor compatibility.
But, let me tell you, all that "practice" I got made me an awesome lover, so I'm glad I got it out of my system then so I can please my man to the fullest.
I've had friends who settled down after many years of being party animals and fucking everything in front of them. Some of them are happily married, and some of them are not. Some of them are cheaters.
As I get older I've realized that maybe not everyone is built for the monogamy lifestyle. The most important thing is to follow your desires and not commit to something based on expectations or social pressure. If that means you'll never settle down, that's not necessarily a bad thing.
I had a dream aboutmy neighbor and I was bludgeoning him with a shovel while he was asleep. Some days ago I told him about it while I met him out in the garden. I find out now he is going to court to get a restraining order put against me. What can I do to fight this?
Why in the fuck would you tell him about that? Some shit you just keep to yourself, but that's weird he got a restraining order. Seems like you weren't that close with him and also why you shouldn't have told him lol. Makes no sense.
>>17759994
I didnt think it was a big deal. If I was going to actually kill him I wouldnt tell him.
op pic <3 dk <3
Hey /adv/
Haven't talked to anyone in about 3 months. I use barbs quite often but I am trying to find a hobby. I went on tinder just to talk to someone.
A girl I knew had it. I spazed out a bit and messaged her on facebook.( I've done stuff like that before) I thought I could talk to her about stuff in HS and I'm sure she just laughing behind my back though.
I want to make friends so I don't so stuff like that. I tried moving to Perth for like more people higher chance of finding a group I like.
My problem is I'm too sad to start making friends?
I don't like weed, smoking is gross, but it's something I could substitute for harder stuff. It might help with my social skills?
I want to be normal person
Go to school, get a job. That's what normal people do.
>>17759888
I dropped out of university when my dad died, I kept taking stuff more frequently until I was too afraid to leave the house.
Should I try again?
>>17759882
Don't overthink it. Don't expect an instant connection. Don't think rejection is the worst thing ever.
Talk to people at work. Join a gym. Do something, anything, outside of your house. And just talk. Don't expect anything, just talk.
Eventually you'll make friends.
>Kissless virgin (held hands once (1))
>boyish face
>chubby body
>boring personality
>gave up appealing to women long ago
>been prepositioned for gay sex on the internet
>I don't think i'm gay but I want to feel someone play with my dick before I get too old
Go for it right?
>>17759873
sure senpai
>>17759873
You are just desperate, because you feel hopeless.
To appeal to women, you have to love yourself. To appeal to men too. So if a guy is looking for you like this, he is probably bad news. Don't do it.
>>17759879
>To appeal to men too
not really if you just want gay casual sex. guys are easy as fuck when it comes to just sex.
>>17759873
you problem is probably your boring personality. read books and actually do shit so you have stuff to talk about.
>be with BF for ~2 months
>everything is good
>he forgets his phone in my car
>I look through his messages
>discover he's been flirting with multiple girls he met on Tinder, and meeting up with one in particular
>the last time they saw each other was Friday (I didn't see him that day)
>confront him about this
>says he gets a self-esteem boost from flirting with girls, but he hasn't done anything with them, and these "meetups" with the girl were just for smoking weed together
>I have trouble believe him, and break up with him
>he's been begging me to take him back but admits to no wrongdoing, says I have the situation all wrong, and that he loves me
I know it was wrong to look through his phone. My question is: would you believe him?
Drop him
He's being childish
>>17759834
Be happy you caught this early. Run from someone like this, OP
hes just sorry he got caught. trying to get self esteem by going out with random women when he has a gf? kick him in the balls please. no wrongdoing? wrong idea? honestly youd be stupid if you stay
I have a gf and I promised her to not masturbate while I'm away from her.
And now I basically did it.
How can I stop feeling so guilty after it and should I apologize to her to feel a little bit better?
How much of a cuckold do you have to be? Jesus Christ man, grow some self-respect.
>>17759773
>And now I basically did it.
So.. did you do it?
Man, it's your dick. You can use it in any way you like (as long as it doesn't affect her negatively, so don't put it in dirty whores, for example).
>>17759773
Tell me you see each other every day and she sucks your dick insanely good.
Or she has a fetish for cum.
Or something.
How do I know if my relationship is good? How happy do you have to be in a relationship for it to be worth staying in it? How high can expectations be?
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and it's my most serious relationship (same for him). He has lots of good points (really loyal, similar morals to me, very generous, says he wants to commit to me forever etc) and some bad ones (spends too much time staring at his phone, smokes too much weed, and is kinda boring/unambitious).
My question really is, how do I know if this is worth being in? I love him a lot and know he loves me, but how am I meant to feel at this point of a relationship to know it's right?
OP here, I thought of a better way to explain my question.
Essentially, I have no comparison. Most people can compare their relationship to past relationships and be like wow this is unhealthy or wow this is so nice. I have none of that, and when I compare it to other relationships I see (like on social media, or in movies) that's such a biased view, and always leaves me less happy with my boyfriend because of course romance movies and people on fb are going to make the relationship look as good as they can.
So what are other ways to test the worth of a relationship, other than comparison?
>>17759715
There is no objective standard to value your relationship.
If you're unhappy, leave. If you have doubts, what worked for me was thinking about what kind of person me and my partner wanted to become, and see if our ideas were compatible.
Think about yourself in 10 years, about what kind of person you're trying to be, and see if that person is compatible with your partner right now and what kind of person your partner wants to be.
If that's not the case, reconsider the relationship.
>>17759757
If you're having doubts you should really talk to your boyfriend. If I were him I'd rather know how you truly feel and discuss if anything can actually be done, maybe he just needs a wake up call, maybe he's happy the way he is. Either way you two need to talk.