What are some things that make you anxious,

One thing that makes me anxious is anxiety about being anxious. I've found that it helps to do everything very slowly, even if it's something urgent. Living in slow motion will change your life, as it changed the life of most Japanese people.

>>17759563
this very much- i actually would like to possibly move to japan when i can afford it :-)

>>17758616
I guess my job is the biggest source of anxiety, not doing much to change that at the moment though, also my fear of failling

saying/doing the wrong thing to/around people i care about makes me anxious. i feel like if i mess up, i permanently damage that relationship and they just won't care about me as much as they used to.

related to this is being misunderstood. sometimes i do/say something with some intention (or no intention at all, just neutral), and it gets received the wrong way. i know this is my fault in how i'm delivering it, because it has happened with more than one person. so at the moment i have this annoying fucking habit of explaining fucking everything i do or say, in an attempt to make it as clear as possible. it doesn't work, it just makes me fumble over myself, and sometimes causes more confusion

my job makes me anxious, it is too much responsibility. if i mess up - i lose the company thousands of dollars, this can be up to hundreds of thousands of dollars. this makes me anxious because if i lose this job i don't have much of a safety net. i have one aunt in this country, who may take me in and let me live with her until i find another job, but i don't want to ask my family for help again. i'm alone in this country because i wanted to leave my family.

related again, my family makes me anxious. especially my mum.

how do i deal with all of this? i fucking don't know. i try to tell myself how a normal person would/wouldn't feel. a normal person wouldn't agonise over what they say to their friends. a normal person on the receiving end probably won't even notice when i mess up.

same for when i'm feeling self conscious in public. i just tell myself that it is extremely unlikely that anyone is going to notice me, what i'm wearing, or what i'm doing. most people are not very observant of the people around them.

tl;dr so many things make me anxious. it would be easier to say what doesn't make me anxious.

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>>17760061
Do you just not like what you do at work? I can definitely understand fear of failing..

>>17760126
i'm not done reading yet, but i want to say that it is a really good thing that you understand your feelings.... that way you know exactly where to make improvement, if you want to, in your life. A normal person this blah blah, you are feeling what you are feeling, just feel it and like I said if you want to change then you know where to start and sometimes we cannot make changes in life- but we have to try.

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I feel really anxious about any sort of confrontation, especially if it's me confronting somebody and I have no idea how they will react.

There's a trick that really helps anxiety, and it's controlled breathing. The fight-or-flight systems, (the sympathetic nervous system) is activated by fast breaths, short breaths, and a longer inhale than exhale. Breathing like this can worsen or even cause anxiety.

You can deliberately change your breathing to control your anxiety. The parasympathetic nervous system acts in counter to the sympathetic, and activating it calms you down. You can activate it with longer, slower breaths, deep breaths, and a longer exhale than an inhale. Think like a calming sigh.

This gif here is a good example, but you can take it even further by holding for a few beats and making the exhale longer.

>>17760261
i wouldn't say i understand the feelings necessarily.. especially not initially. i spend a lot of time thinking about this stuff. i go over situations i've been in over and over and try to figure out what exactly about the interaction made me anxious. but i still don't really "understand" in the sense that i don't know why i feel that way. i hate it, either way.

i would be significantly less anxious if i had 1 or 2 people in my life that i know care about me, and i have no doubts about that, so i don't have to agonise over every little thing i do or say and i can just enjoy being in their company. i've had about 3 people like that in my life. one was my ex, she broke up with me last year, and has since behaved as though she does not care about me at all. it hasn't helped with my insecurities.

i've always seen people say to just feel the feelings i'm having. but it makes me sweat, makes my hands shake, it makes my chest feel like it's going to explode. i feel like i am going to vomit. i feel like i would rather be dead than feel like this ever again.

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this always helps me with anxiety
http://www.inc.com/melanie-curtin/neuroscience-says-listening-to-this-one-song-reduces-anxiety-by-up-to-65-percent.html?cid=cp01002quartz