I like this girl. But she has periods where she tells herself that she is pathetic because all she does every day is play video games and never leave the house. (Which is probably true)
What can I say to her to make her feel better about herself?
Oh and she also says she doesn't want to date anyone because she wants to focus on herself and love herself first. I've known her since July, but I told her I am willing to wait for her.
Should I wait for her?
>>17763143
Want to help someone? Do it. Talk to her and be there for her.
Now, want to help her so that she rides your cock? Don't be a piece of shit and leave her alone. She said she wants to work on herself, respect that.
>>17763143
>what can insay to her to make her feel better?
get a job
>willing to wait for her
This is going to end bad
>tfw kissless, handholdless 23 year old virgin.
>tfw the loneliness is killing me.
>tfw just want someone to hug and hold.
It's isn't going to get any better, isn't it?
>>17763101
>It's isn't going to get any better, isn't it?
By itself? No, it's not.
If you put on your big boy pants and work on it, maybe it will improve. At least give it a shot.
Not with that attitude it won't.
You are a self fulfilling prophecy mate. If you've already given up and resigned yourself to be forever alone, then you will be. Because that was your choice and you can't piss and moan about it.
If you decide to keep optimistic and trying, realizing you're still basically a fucking infant in the real adult world and have many, many fucking years to make this happen, then something will come along eventually.
>>17763124
>>17763128
There is no catching up in the social development with people who have been socializing with their peers since they were in primary school while I spent all my time alone playing vidya and browsing the net.
I am a socially awkward freak around my peers, and cannot relate to them. Even less if they are girls.
Hey /adv/
So recently I had my girl over at my place. All we ever do is kiss and cuddle/hug while watching GOT or playing Mario Kart. Well last night we were cuddling (we run our hands along each other except for our intimate regions) well she said it was ok if I put my hand over her ass... I was hesitant because I'm in it for the long run with her and I didn't want to come across as some perv who's just in it to grope her and use her... Eventually I did grab her ass, while we maked out... I know she said it was okay, but I feel wrong for doing it... Am I?
No, you shouldn't feel wrong. If anything, it sounds like your girlfriend might be giving you the hint to get more intimate with her.
>>17763098
I'm sorry, OP, but this isn't one we can answer for you. It's between you and your girl. Also any higher power you might worship, I guess. But that's it.
She, at least, sounds okay with it. If you aren't, that's fine; just dial it back for now. As for the rest, if higher powers are an issue then I'm afraid you need to talk to the clergy; we can't really help you there.
>men are supposed to initiate the next step
>shes literally asking you to take the next step
>youre still a pussy about it
Get it together, you wanna marry her before touching her boobs?
where can i find a good woman? it seems like there are none left.
Even the ones who meet me half way are whores
If you can't find a good woman, either your standards are astronomical, or you're not the sort of guy a good woman would want anyway
>>17763065
>attractive
>not a whore
>either does the housework or makes more money than me
im a decent guy, im certainly not mega rich but last time i checked there arent enough mega rich guys to go around
>>17763065
h-hello?
Hi guys. First time poster, been lurking a little while.
I've been having trouble getting up in the mornings; I usually find myself rolling over and going back to sleep when my alarm goes off. It's starting to have quite a negative impact on me. Were any of you in a similar situation and found some semblance of a solution? I would very much like to hear about how you did so. Any help is appreciated.
>>17763034
same, but i don't have anything right now so i can't really give advice
No problemo.
>>17763034
I am still having this issue. Being late to work. Only solution is exercising and going to sleep earlier than 11 PM
Is weed worth smoking? Is there any long term effects?
>>17762979
I enjoy it in my recreation time, where others would prefer alcohol.
There are no long term effects.
>>17762981
>there are no long term effects
this post just gave me cancer. that can be definitely proven, unlike pretty much anything "long-term" marijuana related. anyone who tells you conclusively that there are no long-term effects is either drinking the kool-aid, lying, or some combination of the two. while there are safer methods of ingesting than smoking, if you smoke it (like most people do) you are still putting massive amounts of tar into your lungs -- moreso than tobacco. COPD, emphysema, and yes, potentially lung cancer are issues.
beside that, there is a definite causal connection between marijuana use and activation of potentially latent mental disorders. it's also strongly linked to mental and emotional development delays in those under 25.
>>17762979
It's relaxing and makes mundane things more entertaining. I smoke once every week or two, if I'm just wanting to chill with some friends or something. I just don't get how people can smoke all the time and maintain responsibilities. To be fair, I feel the same way about alcohol
So my little sister is 16, I've always taken care of her (family issues etc). Anyway about a year ago, she was never really popular with guys (still isn't), and I'm guessing she might be a little insecure and/or having low self esteem. She really is a nice girl though, but she's only ever had very short relationships (like barely a week).
She met one guy about 8 months ago, he was pretty cool and I never seen her so happy when she was with him. I trusted him and they did everything together. But they broke up recently, not sure why, and suddenly my sister is just acting crazy. She is jumping from one guy to the next (not in a slut way, she doesn't do that, she barely talks or even hugs these guys).
It's been about a month since she broke up with her first decent boyfriend, and since then she got with a guy 2 weeks later, but that lasted 3 days. Then another a week after but that lasted 2 days. And the very next day, she's asked someone else out. What's she doing? And what can I say to snap her out of it?
Your sister is a slut
Nothing you can do but poke holes in her condoms or switch her birth control pills. That's the only way op.
>>17763186
Be serious, as I said the only time she see's those guys is in school. Outside she's either at work or at home with me.
>>17763197
Ok fine here's a serious answer
Your sister is a popular girl at school demanding social attention so she constantly hops around different guys, possibly (definitely) sexually. Although people call her a slut she doesn't care because she loves the attention or she has serious daddy issues
Poke holes in condom no ballz
how to talk to a long-term oneitis with who we don't talk regularly?
got long-term oneitis, we meet every tuesdays during 10mins
she comes at me, smiles, starts with "how are you?", then nothing
she did everytime since september, that's maybe not only politeness, i do think she is still interested in me but we both are shy
give advice to start a comfy conversation please
>>17762929
Stop. Even if she is into you, doesn't mean she wants to have sex as much as you do.
You are in a hurry to stop wizardry? Get a hooker or find a skank in a club.
Don't rush this other girl to your timetable. You'll only drive her away.
>>17762939
what? i don't want to have sex with her, definitely not i even want to preserve myself
i mean we are childhood lovers and i still love her and i dont see any other woman attractive and i just don't want to live and die alone (so becoming a wizard)
don't be wrong
>>17762952
>(so becoming a wizard)
Either you missed how the wizard joke works or you are troll.
The wizard thing is about being a virgin in his 30s.
I have dated this girl couple of times (we were long term online friends before we met). Things didn't go out and we didn't start a relationship basically because I was too clingy and jelly. She grew tired of me. We didn't have much chemistry.
I continued to chat with her (idk why)... and one time said some pretty mean things about her being not a good friend (that even after she friendzoned me she behaved too cold). She blocked me on whatsapp. She is a calm personality and she tries to avoid conflicts and drama. I was the drama queen.
Later I continued sending her random texts on Messenger. I did that for at least 2 months on a daily basis. The texts were basically one word expressions of emotions, sometimes emojis, pictures, links to video . I was having a ruse. She asked me why did I do this? I told her because I like her. I just liked that. Later I started to write longer messages, cute texts, funny ones. She didn't respond. After a couple of weeks she unblocked me on whatsapp. We exchanged some messages and she went silent again.
I continued my lonely road with messaging random cute and serious texts for at least 2 months. Then I was on a drinking binge and I broke - I wrote her that I am sorry that I am such a loser and wasting her time. She didn't respond. All this time she was in a different country as an exchange student. I stopped texting her after that pathetic lament.
After a month of silence she DM'ed me with a simple question : "Did you give up? "
> what did she mean by this?
She is still ignoring the texts but hasn't blocked me nor silenced me. She even comes in more frequently to read them. Previously she wouldn't even read them for hours or days though being online all the time.
Part of me wishes to have something to do with her. Other part doesn't take this too seriously so just waste my brief moments to DM her something random
Is she playing a twisted game like me? or is she just blatantly pissing on me?
I don't know if pic related
>>17762914
>Things didn't go out and we didn't start a relationship basically because I was too clingy and jelly
>jelly
I'm not even going to bother reading the rest
>"Did you give up? "
it's precisely what it means. she wants to know if you're going to continue being a thirsty, clingy creep or if you've slowed down and matured enough to provide her with a friendship she obviously values or valued at one point. she's saying there is zero chance you will ever be romantically involved but that she still wants to be your friend if you can get a handle on your sperging out.
although from what it sounds like, at this point you've poisoned the well and are better off just cutting your losses. the time for a neutral, platonic relationship as equals has long passed and in some corner of her mind she will always remember and think of you as the pathetic, snivelling little weakling who couldn't gracefully take no for an answer. it's likely she'll never respect you again as a friend, much less as a romantic partner.
There is one but. She never ever initiated conversations. After our dates there was nothing to remind of old "friendship" because she wouldn't see me and would rarely respond to my DM's or if she did in such cases then with a blunt sentence or a word. That was the reason I sperged out in the first place telling her that her friendship theory wouldn't hold up. Why would she even waste time?
Well it happened again /adv/
>Be me
>Interested in girl at work, she seemingly is interested back
>This goes on for a while, until we get enough balls to ask each other out
>Go on a couple dates
>This morning get a text along the lines of "my ex and I decided to get back together, I wanted to let you know so I don't lead you on"
I get the whole loved and lost thing but fuck I keep getting relationships cut off from some circumstantial bullshit and it's objectively not my fault. How do I prevent this shit /adv/, every time I let someone in this happens
Also what's my best course of action, she wants to be friends but fuck idk if I can
>>17762858
>it's objectively not my fault. How do I prevent this shit /adv/
If the first part of the idea is true (not your fault) then there's nothing you can do. You had a bad string of luck, just keep trying.
If it's always the same thing (she goes back to her ex) then you are doing something wrong: Picking girls that only need comfort because they had a fight with their ex. Stop doing that.
>>17762858
Don't be friends with someone you cant get along with. If you think you can't get along with her because of her actions then so be it.
As far as the first thing. There isn't anything you can do except keep looking. You can't change anything except yourself and sometimes shit is just or if your control and yeah it's bullshit but there isn't anything you can do about very it so just suck it up swallow the pain and move on.
>>17762858
what? dude most relationships end for something that isnt your fault.
relationships are not tit for tat. people actl ike it here, you even see autist post screencaps demanding women explain why they wont date them since their single.
emotion is king. thats all that matters. and emotions never make sense.
My life is boring as shit. I'm 19 now and I'm having trouble reconciling the fact I spent my high school years watching tv and browsing this site. Never been to a party, never hung out with friends, idk man. Never drank never smoked nothing.
What's some fun shit a guy like me can do? Just wait for a free night and get smashed?
>>17762777
most people who did those things think their life is boring too.
if osmething interests you just go experiment with it. dont do something because others find it fun. do it because you find it fun.
Be yourself to people. Make them talk.
>>17762777
>>17762789
I partied a lot in highschool and when I graduated I felt like my life was boring as fuck too.
Parties aren't even that great, in highschool it was mostly just learning to drink, no one flirted with eachother, the only sex was had by people who were already having sex with each other, and that was like 2 couples.
I spent most of the time puking on the back porch from taking way too many shots of everclear.
Regardless. Once I found a job I didn't mind I didn't feel that way, went and found a gf on okcupid and got a nice pickemup truck and got a hobby (shooting guns). life is fun when you grow up, I'm 21 now and at 19 I was completely lost. You're just turned loose in the world after Highschool and it's a real culture shock. At least no one makes fun of you because they don't know if you're going to meet them at their house with a pair of brass knuckles and a cinderblock so no one bullies each other like they do in school.
I'm 25, currently employed (not a great job), and stuck in a fuck of a predicament. I need to come up with about 100$ in the next 12 hours. I have no credit, no credit cards, no assets. I've thought of doing everything possible. borrowing from friends or family just isn't an option.
Is there any option I'm not seeing?
>>17762769
donate plasma for half of it.
hit your dealer up for a front until friday, and then flip that for the other 50.
If you're 25, presumably employed for some time, and you don't even have $100 that you can whip up in an emergency, you're doing something wrong.
>>17762773
No where to donate plasma nearby.
And lol yeah right.
Is it worth waiting for someone you care about a lot even if they are emotionally unavailable or in a relationship?
>waiting for someone
Don't. Move the fuck on.
no.
Wait? No
Try do seduce? Sure. But don't hold your breath, it will most likely fail.
>have sex with a condom on
>never even get close to cumming
>erection slowly degrades because there's not enough stimulation going on
shit, how do people do it? condoms literally turn sex into work instead of play. I use Skyn and yes they are the right size
You're just a pleb... The only task of a man and you aren't capable of doing it.
>>17762702
same, usually by the time i got the condom on im already down to just a semi. i dont understand how people do it. thankfully im gay and guys take truvada now.
i can't get off with condoms either, ever. sex is already boring, tiring, and messy enough to make me think twice about just using my hand instead. when you toss a condom into the mix, it becomes just unenjoyable.
Trying to choose a suicide gun. A shop near me sells the Winchester model 50 12 gage shotgun. Is this a good choice?
>>17762677
Should do the job.
Yep
Oh also I should put this to paper as well, I'm not going to tell you to stop, frankly I think suicide should be legal and available in an easy painless way. But just be absolutely sure this is what you really want, because once you pull that trigger there's no coming back, you're gone for good.
Don't miss.